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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #122 – Getting to Know You

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.

    ~ Thomas Carlyle, 1795-1881, Scottish Historian and Essayist

    Getting to know yourself better takes courage. It is far easier to hide behind a mask than to see yourself as you really are. There are many who think they are perfect and need not change, who think they’re the center of the universe, and they have a problem.

    If you wish to know yourself and change for the better, you need to accept your inadequacies, fears, weaknesses, mistakes, and more. If you need others present constantly to entertain and distract you, then you are afraid to be still and know yourself.

    So spend some time being totally alone and see how you feel. If you are comfortable, then I would say you are in the process of knowing yourself. Knowing yourself means being willing to be with yourself. Once you can do that, the frantic search for distraction and escape will stop ruling your life and you can choose to fill your life with the things that bring you joy.

    Soulution of the Day

    Even if it feels uncomfortable, go away with yourself
    and spend some time together getting to know yourself.
    You may find that you are great company.

    - Bernie

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  • Effort

    “It’s the constant and determined effort that breaks down resistance, sweeps away all obstacles.”
    ~ Claude M. Bristol (1891-1951)

    Why do you extend yourself and put extra effort into certain tasks? Is it the desire for personal gain or reward that keeps you working overtime?  What motivates you to really perform work of the highest quality and put in the effort needed to achieve your desired results?

    I hope the answers to those questions are not related only to extrinsic and material things, but to an effort to do what is right as well.  We are all here to work for what is right.  Through our efforts we can create a better world.  When we start doing the right things for the right reasons, we will create the right world.

    What are you willing to put out the effort for? Do as the marines say in their training motto and “Choose the difficult right over the easy wrong.”

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Attitude

    I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it.  And so it is with you.
    ~ Charles Swindoll

    Studies show that optimists live longer, healthier lives than pessimists, even with the pessimist’s view of life is more accurate.  We could go on with endless quotes of famous people talking about all the things they worried about that never happened.

    My friend, Dr. Karl Menninger said, “Attitudes are more important than facts.”  That is why what we tell ourselves is extremely significant and helps to shape our destiny.  If our self-talk gives us hope and a positive outlook, we will live very different lives than if we await trouble and think that bad things always follow the good.

    You know the old saying “What you see is what you get.”  Your attitude determines what you see, so always look on the bright side.  The choice is yours.

    Remember to see through the eyes of an optimist today and observe what direction your life takes.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    The Extremes

    It is easy to sit up and take notice; what is difficult is getting up and taking action.”
    ~ Al Batt, American Writer and Humorist

    No, “The Extremes” are not a singing group.  They are the choices we have to make.  Now, you may say you want everything in moderation and don’t like to be extreme in anything you choose.  But without extremes, there is no depth or challenge in your life.

    What do you believe in?  What are you here to do?  You have to make some choices when you see life and nature being destroyed.  The truth is we all have to take extreme measures at times.  It is not a question of whether you will be extreme, but a question of what you will be extreme about.

    What is important to you?  Or is nothing important to you, so you take the extreme position of never speaking up for a worthy cause or person?

    I find that extremely upsetting.

    Be willing to take a stand for something you believe in, even if it means going to extremes.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Order

    “We must learn to let go, to give up, to make room for the things we have prayed for and desired.”
    ~ Charles Fillmore (1854-1948)

    Every day I am out of control.  No, I do not mean I have no control over my behavior, but I do mean I am not in control of the events that present themselves to me, my family, and my life.  What can I control?  Only my thoughts and my response to events beyond my control.

    I have learned to create order amid the uncontrollable chaos called life.  By becoming one with life and the process of living, I can stop judging, fighting, and struggling with what is.  I can stop denying and wishing and start living.

    Let go of the need to control, and put everything in the hands of a higher authority. It will restore order and peace of mind.  When you do, you will ultimately control your life and find peace on earth.  You cannot change other people, and you cannot alter the past.  All you can do is surrender to divine order.

    You  can restore order in your life by letting go of the need to control.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Perfection

    “The bottom line is that (a) people are never perfect, but love can be, (b) that is the one and only way that the mediocre and vile can be transformed, and (c) doing that makes it that.  We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”
    ~ Tom Robbins, American Novelist (1932-    )

    I spent my life looking for the perfect woman, and when I found her I proposed marriage to her.  She looked at me and said, “Thank you for the compliment but I cannot accept your proposal because I am looking for the perfect man.”

    What every woman wants isn’t really the perfect man, though she does want someone reasonable. What she truly wants is a life of her own that is respected.  The man who is willing to give her that gift is in essence the perfect man, even with all his imperfections.

    Most of us give up our lives to please our parents, teachers, spouses, families, bosses, and more.  Instead I say, “Stop losing your life and find it where you know it exists—within your heart’s desire.”  You can’t ever be a perfect man or woman if you do not become yourself.  Perfection is about self-identity and not the absence of faults.

    So become your perfect self, problems and all.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Your Nature

    For in the true nature of things, if we rightly consider, every green tree is far more glorious than if it were made of gold and sliver.”
    ~ Martin Luther

    The next time your family complains about your behavior, just tell them “That’s my nature.” That ought to get them off your back, and if you keep acting up long enough, they will eventually stop complaining. Of course, what they say behind your back won’t be very nice!

    Why are we so resistant to having a second nature? Why not learn from others and change our behavior? Qualities that are useful in the business world lead to a high rate of divorce and employee turnover. Why can”t our nature be one of kindness and willingness to change?

    Nature is kind, though it has its stormy moments and its seasons. If we imitate nature, we can still be our true selves rather than protecting our artificial nature with statements that are excuses, explain nothing, and display our rigidity and unwillingness to come out from behind the wall and expose our real nature.

    Remember to let nature take its true course with you.

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    Q & A with Bernie – March 12, 2018

    Here is the follow-up to earlier 2016 correspondence from the sister of a patient suffering from metastatic melanoma.


    Original Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie:

    This is  in regards to my sister’s diagnosis

    She is starting whole brain radiation next week  I have contacted a doctor  regarding support through nutrition and I know you  help  turn the mind.  What would you recommend for her to start with this process.  I am encouraging her  and all of us to  not feel hopeless….  Thank you for your consideration.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Get her my book Love, Medicine & Miracles to start and The Art of Healing.

    Also have her listen to some of my CDs.  One I suggest is Getting Ready to help her with therapies and to love her body and life

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Followup from her Original Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie:

    I just wanted to thank you for the support.  We lost my sister and we lost this battle a few months ago.

    I continue to promote the strength of inner healing.  Sometimes it is very hard.

    Kind regards to you.

    Bernie’s Reply:

    Your sister wasn’t a loser. She died as we all will.

    Look for signs around home to let you know she is okay.  Observe coincidences that connect you with her, and finding pennies from heaven, too.

    Peace & Love,
    Bernie

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    Knowledge

    “The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it usually goes around wearing overalls and looking like hard work.”
    ~ Thomas Edison

    A great deal of knowledge is available to all of us.  With the advent of the computer, one can access knowledge of all sorts without leaving home.  Does that change anything for us as individuals?  Some say yes and some no.

    What I see is the need for more than knowledge and access to it.  We need desire, intention, determination, and the energy to do what is needed.  Whether one is confronting a disease, looking for a job, or learning to play the piano, success depends on those elements.  No one else can “turn on” the needed elements.  Others can give you the knowledge and outline the skills necessary, but you have to put on the overalls.

    In any field knowledge is important.  But how the knowledge is used and how persistent one is in moving toward a goal goes way beyond what knowledge alone can do.  You may have to pass a test to show you are capable, but after the test it is what you do with your knowledge that really counts.

    Mix knowledge, determination, desire, intention, and energy and come up with a nourishing life force.

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    Q & A with Bernie – February 26, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    Hello Bernie,

    It has been a long time to go without writing you.

    I want to say to you that I am very sad these last 2 months. I am remembering a lot about my ex-boyfriend who died 2 years and 4 months ago. I feel very bad because I said to him that “I preferred not to see him,” and 25 days later he died.

    I need to forgive myself. I need it so much, because I am sad at work I don’t do things as well as I need to do them. I am a teacher living in Barcelona, and I am from Valencia, so I miss my family a lot, too. The last 4 weekends I was going to Valencia because I needed to be with them, but at the end of each week, I feel alone and I just keep remembering Walter a lot.

    What can I do to forgive myself and start to be happy again?

    Thanks Bernie, and A big hug to you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    First of all, please remember that you are not at fault.  As I always counsel people, love yourself and your body.  Always keep in mind that your boyfriend had choices and so do you—or would you prefer getting seriously ill as “punishment” for something that was not in any way your fault.

    Live your life and accept this very important truth—only you decide how you feel, so get out and do something for someone else out of love.  And stop wasting your life!

    My wife died a month ago, and I live the way she wants me to live.  So, let your heart decide and live your life where and how you want to live it.

    Peace & love,
    Bernie

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    Second Wind

    “Only the very exceptional individuals push to their extremes.”
    - William James

    I have run several marathons, and know that at some point something happens in my body and I feel as if I were just starting the race. We all have this resource within us, but most of us never test ourselves for fear of failing. As a surgeon, when I am operating on someone,I have the energy to stand for hours without eating, drinking, or feeling tired.

    I’ve also watched our daughter care for one of her sons, who has many medical problems. It’s amazing how she maintains her strength and ability to be a loving mother through many crises.

    Our bodies will respond to our needs and desires. We were created to survive. When the will to live, to finish a race or project, or to care for someone is uppermost in our desires and minds, the message gets through to our body and we get a second wind. It is as though the meaningful desires and needs call up a store of energy from within.

    So, when you find yourself pushed to extremes and you think you have no more resources, be assured that your second wind is on the way.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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