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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing. This long-awaited follow-up to his bestseller Love, Medicine & Miracles updates Dr. Siegel’s insights into the healing power of drawing, dreams, and intuition. The use of drawing in Bernie’s practice has helped patients discover the physical, psychological, and emotional aspects of healing and guided them toward the best choices and options for their particular situation. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #223 – Love Blindness

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.

    Love isn’t blind; it just only sees what matters.

    - William Curry

    What makes a lover blind? What is it a lover can’t see? Is blindness always a bad thing?

    What do you see when you start the day and step into your living room? Is the first thing you see the mess from the night before and what has to be done, or the potential for the day ahead?

    Wake up to life and start looking at what is before you. You can select what you are blind to. Loving life and being blind to its faults and problems does not mean you are not aware of them. It does not prohibit you from trying to change things for the better. But it does mean you are not controlled by them and made bitter and resentful by them.

    When you are in the slowest line at the checkout counter and the clerk stops to page the manager after you have already emptied your cart onto the belt, and you are ready to scream, use your love blindness. See through loving eyes and watch what happens to your sight.

    Soulution of the Day

    Spread the affliction of love blindness
    and hope that people don’t find a cure.

    - Bernie

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  • Q & A with Bernie – May 25, 2015

    Question for Bernie

    I was recently diagnosed with Stage 1A multiple myeloma.  I suspect that there is a strong existential component to this death threat in my body.  After my husband died nearly 4 years ago, I pretty much gave up on wanting to live and progressed well through the challenges of healing.

    I have someone in my life to love now, but have been sensing how I hold back.  I seem afraid to grab life wholeheartedly.  This seems similar to how the myeloma threatens me at the core of my being (in my blood and bone marrow). Can you suggest any thoughts that can help me regain my relationship with life?

    Bernie’s Answer

    Yes, I can suggest that you embrace the belief that you, along with the rest of us, need to create a life you can love and a body you can love.  Don’t make your body the enemy. If you love your body unconditionally, it will respond as a whole system that is much more than just the sum of its parts.

    That response of acceptance for your body just as it is right now will strengthen your immune system.  This part of the healing picture must be there in order to make other things you are doing to heal more effective. Quiet your mind with meditation or visualization or your preferred way to give your mind a break from chaotic thinking, worrying, and projecting.  When you do this each day, the truth will appear.

    I would also suggest reading my books which are listed here on the website—look under Quick Links at the top of the home page.  For help with cancer, start with Love, Medicine & Miracles and The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing.

    For help with life, get 365 Prescriptions for the Soul and A Book of Miracles. Life is a spiritual journey, and it is also a school, so get your degree as a Love Warrior.  Let your life coaches help you with your studies.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie

    Good afternoon Bernie, I am reading your book, Love, Medicine & Miracles. First I discovered Peace, Love and Healing two months ago in a library, and I started to read it, then I put it back on the shelf. I went back to the library for a second day and continued to read it. On the third day, more and less, I decided to borrow it, but there was a problem, so I couldn’t borrow it that day. As soon as I could, I went back to the library to borrow it, but it wasn’t on the shelf.  I could see someone reading it, so I decided to borrow the other title, Love, Medicine & Miracles.

    I finally have them both, but I am going to finish reading Love, Medicine & Miracles right now. I want to thank you because it is helping me through my change in my life. In January 2015, I started to have some problems with my belly, and I have been visiting doctors. I was very worried about my health.

    Since October 2014, I’ve been anxious because I was 27 years old, I didn’t have a job in my degree field (I was studying Business and Actuarial Science, for a Master’s degree so I could be an Economics Teacher), and I thought I had to get a job before 2015. Also, I knew I needed to change, but I didn’t know how to start my change. Now, through reading your book and understanding your words very well, I am feeling once again that hope is always alive—if you think you can you are right, at the same time if you think you can´t you are right, too. It is your choice.

    When I felt anxious and sad, and thought that I was useless person, and I began to ask myself “why am I living?” I felt so bad. Now I feel ashamed of that feeling, I love life, and always have. But during those months when I was very worried, fearful, and had no confidence, I really needed to find some help.  I found your books. And your book and my little illness helped me to see that I do love life and intend to LIVE!

    I want to tell you about a book that I was reading in a hospital when my father was being operated on 8 years ago.  The title of the book was “Two old Women” by Velma Wallis. It is one of the best books I´ve ever read in my life. If you don’t know it, maybe you can read it, and advise ECAP group to read it.

    Sorry if I have some mistakes, I am not an English speaker. I am from Valencia, Spain, but I am learning English, and it is good to practice writing.  I think I have said to you everything for today. I hope you have a very nice day, and I send you a big hug.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Bless you.  Remember, you can and must create a life you can love. And love your body, too.

    Fear comes from what was said to you as a child and as you grew up.  Free yourself from fear by abandoning the past and give yourself the gift of “rebirth” as a new self.  See all of these past problems as the labor pains you had to experience to give birth to a new self.365 Prescriptions for the Soul and A Book of Miracles will both help you with inspiration.

    Let your heart make up your mind and everything will work out.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Enlightenment

    Most people I know only find enlightenment through their emotional or physical difficulties. That is a sad statement. Wouldn’t it be far better to be educated about life and prepared for its difficulties by the wisdom of others, rather than to need your own break down in order to become strong at the broken places or expand through them. Many painful events become our blessings because of what they teach us and the voids they fill in our lives. I believe it is better to be blessed by wise parents, teachers and spiritual leaders than adversity.

    Others learn the hard way that the darkness leads them to the light just as charcoal under pressure becomes a diamond. Again a painful journey through the tunnel of darkness seeking the enlightenment.

    My writing and today’s books have nothing new to say. We may have new stories but they are only repeating ancient wisdom. So read the wisdom of the sages and learn from those who have gone before us. Which path you take makes little difference. The themes of all the great spiritual leaders of the past have much in common So if you seek enlightenment get started by paying attention to what has been said and don’t wait for a personal disaster to bring you the gift of enlightenment. You may know the saying, “If you seek enlightenment, seek it as a man whose hair is on fire, seeks water.” It takes that kind of desire to truly face the light.

    What has helped me most was my search for the answer to why we have a world filled with pain and difficulties. As a physician I saw much suffering that seemed to make no sense. Ultimately I realized it was to give our acts of compassion meaning and that what was evil was to not respond to the person with the affliction. We have free will and when we choose to love it is a choice which makes our love meaningful. The free will allows us the opportunity to become co-creators and, hopefully, some day we will create a family of man and our own Garden of Eden. As a surgeon I know we are one family, despite our actions, because we are all the same color inside.

    A veterinarian friend of mine listed five points necessary to train animals properly. As I listened to her list I realize it is what the enlightened give to each other. They are Love, Trust, Respect, Consistency and Commitment. So the enlightened treat people as well as they do their pets.

    The questions I would ask you to consider to help yourself awaken and see the light are:

    1. What is evil?
    2. Who can you hate?
    3. Who can you love?
    4. Who is the enemy?
    5. Who is the Lord you work for?
    6. What do you need to say that you haven’t said?

    I won’t answer for you but as you seek enlightenment the correct answers will make themselves apparent.

    The last point I will share with you is that when you are enlightened you will understand the power of love. So ask yourself why we say kill with kindness, torment with tenderness, love is blind, love thine enemies and love thy neighbor as thyself. Therein lies the answer to life and enlightenment.

    Several years ago I fell from our roof, hit my head and developed amnesia, which improved my marriage and family life dramatically, I learned a great deal from the benefits of amnesia. When my memory came back I had a difficult time with my wife and children because now I remembered all their faults. A therapist friend said she could save me from years of therapy. I asked her how. She handed me something and said go home and read this and live what it says. What she handed me was Corinthians 1:13 which describes all the benefits of amnesia and more through love.

    I tell you this so that until you are enlightened and capable of loving try amnesia in your relationships and daily life. It will help. Or if that doesn’t appeal to you the next time you don’t know what to do and seek to make the enlightened choice ask yourself, “What would Lassie do now?” If you prefer denominational or religious figures as choices there are a few I can recommend but choose wisely because animals are complete and man is not. Or so the Bible tells us.

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    The Immune Competent Personality Test

    Dear Everyone,

    As many of you know, I often recommend taking the short Immune Competent Personality Test.  The set of just 12 questions (including three I added), is based on research by Dr. George Solomon.  It is a great way to take an honest look at just how much you are asking of your Immune System.  These few questions help you gain insight into simple ways you can support the all-important Immune System instead of wearing it out.  The Immune System is there to help us overcome real threats to our health and well-being, and one such threat is stress.

    Who was George Solomon, maybe you are asking?  Dr. Solomon spearheaded the groundbreaking research focusing on the role stress plays in making us more vulnerable to disease. Dr. Solomon realized the importance of understanding that the mind is an integral part of health. His work also demonstrated the acceptance of the science of Psychology and Psychiatry as equals in research efforts to the science of Neurology— a necessary partnership to help imbed proven research within all other accepted significant research in medicine, showing the importance of the influence of the Mind in human illness and dysfunction.

    This is just our familiar Mind-Body-Spirit Connection, and it’s vital to keep it in top condition for effective prevention, as well as effective treatment of all kinds, and successful healing.  In 1983 Dr. Solomon said, “Mind and body are inseparable. The brain influences all sorts of physiological processes that were once thought not to be centrally regulated.”

    The field in which Dr. Solomon was a prominent pioneer is called psychoneuroimmunology. That’s one of those famous medical terms most people believe they can’t really understand.  It’s easy. If we take this medical term apart, it’s very clear.  (The “o” is used as the usual connector of word parts, if needed.)

    Psych-             the word root meaning “Mind”
    neur-                the word root meaning “Nerve”
    immun-            the word root meaning “Protection; immune <from>; safe
    -logy                the familiar suffix meaning “the study of”

    Definition of psych/o/neur/o/immun/o/logy:
    The study of the influences on the behaviors of the Mind and nerves (Nervous System) with the effectiveness of the Immune System (which protects us and keeps us safe from diseases and infections and more)

    Dr. Solomon recognized the damage the power of a mind filled with negative thoughts could inflict on the immune system of a patient.  But he also reasoned that by using that same power of the mind to replace negative messages with positive ones, patients gain an advantage in healing—sometimes a very significant—even pivotal—advantage.

    Whether or not you already have a disease or disorder linked to getting worse with stress and out-of-control emotions and overall neglect of your mind and body, or you just worry about getting a disease—you both need to heal. If you feel helpless to control a mind overwhelmed with negativity, start with taking Dr. Solomon’s Immune Competent Personality Test here, and then start accepting your ability to remap your mind to deliver the ultimate healing power.

    Go to my homepage http://berniesiegelmd.com/ and you’ll see QUICK LINKS right at the top of the page.  Find Immune Competent Personality Test in the Quick Links list and click on it—and do it now!

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 4, 2015

    Question for Bernie

    Your book, Love, Magic & Mudpies: Raising Your Kids to Feel Loved, Be Kind, and Make a Difference, is the most wonderful book. I can only do so much for myself and my kids. I would like some ideas about single parenting, and how to make sure my children get what they need to be okay with just one parent.

    I have two boys and two girls with a lot of serious issues. I would like to talk to Bernie, if possible.

    Bernie’s Answer

    What your children need is to know that they are loved, and given mottoes to live by.  Remember, as a parent you do not need to like what they are doing, but you need to love them and you must let them know that you do love them at every opportunity.

    Ask each of your children to draw a picture of your home and family, and when each one shows you her/his drawing, see how that makes you feel.  Be interested in each drawing, talking with each child about what he or she wanted to say about home and family life.  Make sure you stress that this is a way to open up communication not only between the children and you, but also among the siblings themselves.

    Do what makes you happy.  Just because you have the responsibility of parenting four children alone does not mean that you must give up doing things that give you joy.  In fact, it is very important that you model for your children the importance of prioritizing our need for experiencing joy every day.  This is a powerful way to stay healthy and keep our immune systems strong.

    As my own wonderful mother told me when I ran up against difficulties growing up, “God is redirecting you, and something good will come of your situation. Material things are here to make it a better world for everyone.  Troubles like hunger, however, should lead us to find nourishment.  When we find ourselves in situations which seem very difficult to bear, we usually discover that going through that “fire” pushes us out of our comfort zone for a reason—life is about learning, and when we go through difficult times, we tend to learn the most.  Have faith—believe and really know that you have the ability to survive and thrive, with joy and purpose in your heart.

    Many people say that when they became a grandparent, they really found joy and happiness with their grandchildren, so act like you are their grandmother.  The tension between children and parents gets in the way of happiness. Grandparents are happy with their grandchildren because the stress we put on ourselves as parents is gone.  Try to capture that sense of freedom that grandparents have—it comes from the absence of stress.

    If you have any questions, or want to share some of your children’s issues, let me know.

    Remember, the troublemaker gets attention, but the attention a troublemaker wants is to feel loved.  When he or she has that from a parent, the troublemaking will stop.  Discipline should be wrapped in a loving message, not a judgmental one.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 27, 2015

    Question for Bernie

    I’ve recently had the privilege of being introduced to your book Love, Medicine and Miracles. I have also been informed that I have pancreatic cancer.

    I’m an extremely positive person in life as a whole, and as a thinker. I’m determined that my mind will help me through whatever will come next, and that I’ll have an impact on my own outcome.

    What else could you suggest I do, and would you comment on the role my positivity will play in what lays ahead for me.

    Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Yes, your attitude helps you become a survivor.  The Mind-Body-Spirit connection is powerful, so continue to read my books and let them serve as your “coach.” You will be inspired to do the things that tell your body of your intention to LIVE.

    Work on loving your life and body. Have faith in your mind’s potential to support the survival behavior you are learning.  Self-induced healing does occur.  Create a harmonious atmosphere as you integrate survivor behaviors into your daily life.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie

    I am writing to express my deep gratitude to you for the peace you have brought to me.
    I initially found your tapes in the library at the cancer center where I was cured of breast cancer 11 years ago. Throughout the years, I listen to them whenever I need to calm down and just trust and know I am okay.

    Your voice has become so comforting to me, like listening to an old friend who just knows what to say. I am happy to have the opportunity to tell you how much you have done for me. I hope you are well, and just know that I am very grateful for your help.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Bless you, my dear.  Yes, the voice can become hypnotic, and when it is used toward a positive outcome, the voice is a marvelous tool.

    By listening as you do you are continuing to let your body know you love it, and you intend to LIVE your life to the fullest.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 20, 2015

    Question for Bernie:

    I have been diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia and told I have 8 years to live (I presume maximum). Being told that and then being put on “watch and wait” is a very stressful way to live. If this happened to you, what would you do to improve your overall health status?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I would bet the doctor £10,000 pounds that I will live at least ten years.

    Learn survival behavior by reading my books.  Read my articles on my website—find the link under Quick Links on the top menu.

    Look into supplements with anti-cancer properties including drug metformin.  A Naturopath could help guide you.  For supplements of all kinds, see www.lef.org.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Special not for everyone:

    Those seeking more information on customized cancer care and research programs can go to www.is-canceralliance.com or call international strategic cancer alliance at 610 628 3419 or email info@is-canceralliance.com

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 13, 2015

    Question for Bernie

    I have a question about forgiveness.

    I know that it is important to be able to forgive yourself and others in order to help your body heal, but I have a really hard time forgiving my brother and my mother. When I was a child my mother would always tell me that I was bad and would call me a witch. Later in life, this name calling continued and my brother, who is five years older, also started calling me bad names.

    In my thirties, I met my husband and moved away from Europe to the U.S. I was finally far away from both of them, but I was not very nice to myself, as I continued viewing myself as stupid and bad. Not surprisingly, two years ago I was diagnosed with colon cancer at the age of 44. I had emergency surgery to remove a blockage and six months later the cancer was back and spread.

    I went back home to Europe to stay with my brother and mother. I know this is crazy, but somehow I thought they would understand and it would repair our relationship. I was there for four months and it was the most horrible experience I have had—more horrible than being diagnosed with cancer! I tried several natural treatments while I was there and nothing worked. As soon as scans showed further spreading of my cancer, my brother and mother could not wait to put me on the next plane back home. I remember not feeling anything, I did not cry on my flight back home. I was all alone and I felt numb.

    I accepted the fact that I just needed to go home and live the time I have left in piece. Surprisingly, I got better when I got home and started chemotherapy. But last fall, after nine months, I had to switch to another chemo as the first one stopped working. Now the second one seems to not work anymore and we might have to switch again.

    I have been working with a nutritionist and have cleaned up my diet, but I know that I am still stuck with psychological wounds. At first I had so much hatred for both of them, but slowly I am beginning to not care about them (I am working with a therapist). But, I don’t know how to forgive them? I just want them out of my life as they are the cancer in my life! I really feel that I will not be able to heal until I resolve this issue. I want to live, I really do!

    Bernie’s Answer

    Yes, the words from both your mother and brother hypnotized you at a very young age into thinking so poorly about yourself.  As one woman said, “My mother’s words were eating away at me and maybe gave me cancer.”

    But, the good news is that you can forgive, and then abandon your past so that you can give yourself the gift of a quiet mind. Quiet your mind by creating a still pond in which you will see your true reflection—who you really know yourself to be.

    It is this authentic self that opens itself to healing without questioning your desire to live. Your authentic self is interested only in giving your body the message that you intend to LIVE. The true you knows you are entitled to love from other people besides your family members who have not been supportive at all.  The fact that you left them again after realizing that their behavior was even worse toward you, shows clearly that you already love yourself and your body. You left to protect yourself.  That is survivor behavior, and it is from this position of strength within you that you can forgive them and let them go.

    You are loved, and I am your CD (chosen dad) here to help you.  As your CD, I want you to stop punishing yourself by going back to your mother and brother. They grew up without love also, but you have chosen to recognize that your focus must start with finding your authentic self, and putting that first.  None of us can really feel love or even give it completely if we don’t love ourselves first and foremost.  It is not being selfish, as many people might think—it is being selfless. When we love ourselves through knowing our authentic self, no one’s words can really harm us.

    Learn to express yourself as what I call a love warrior. Call, e-mail, or write a letter to your mother and brother telling each that you are just sending your love.  That’s all you have to say.   Be a love warrior for several months every day, then skip a day and see how they react.

    Put pictures up around the house showing you as a child or young adult, and each time you look at one, love that child in the picture.  Now, you are to be your own loving mother.

    See the resource below, too.

    Peace from your CD (chosen dad)
    Bernie

    Those seeking more information on customized cancer care and research programs can:

    ▪        Visit www.is-canceralliance.com

    ▪        Call international strategic cancer alliance at 610 628 3419
    ▪        E-mail info@is-canceralliance.com.

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    Thoughts for World Health Day – Treating the Cause, Not the Result

    As part of World Health Day, I have joined with the American Recall Center, a site devoted to providing up-to-date FDA news, to spread awareness about medication safety.

    Below are some thoughts I had about how each of us can improve our healthcare and encourage our doctors to listen and learn from us.


    Doctors are trained to treat the result and not the cause. Medical journals have more pages devoted to drug advertising than to therapeutic information. Several years ago an add in a major journal read: I was depressed, unable to cope. I went to see my physician. He prescribed (advertised drug). I feel better now.

    I wrote the company and journal and said they ought to put in a line about the doctor asking the patient about what was happening in their life and not just giving her a pill. The ad was cancelled.

    For personal and family reasons I have learned the importance of holistic and integrative care. I and my wife take many supplements to sustain our health and treat any illnesses we are living with. It is rare for a doctor to learn from patients who do well. They have to realize healing is self induced and not spontaneous. Years ago my wife was diagnosed with colitis which did not respond to antibiotic therapy. I started her on Boswellia, an anti-inflammatory herb, and in short order the disease was gone and never recurred.

    When you care about yourself and your health you keep an open mind and explore the therapeutic options available to you. We all have the potential built into us and when we choose supplements wisely we nourish our bodies. Again i have personally seen it with cardiac issues, Lyme disease, MS, cancer and more. keep an open mind and teach your doctor what natives know and tourists don’t understand. The best doctors are coached by their patients. They listen and learn and don’t make excuses or refuse to listen.

    Bernie Siegel, MD

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 6, 2015

    Question for Bernie

    Thank you very much for your response. The dark spot in my stomach is the new drug. I represented myself with a skeleton because I am very focused on this drug affecting my bone marrow. That is my pelvic bone not my fallopian tubes.

    I see how this scary skeleton person looks like she does not have a good self-image or self-love, but I was focusing more on the drug and my feelings about it entering my body, not really on drawing a picture of myself and who I feel I am. That picture would be very different.

    I hear what you are saying about not letting the Dr.’s words affect me. That is something I am trying to work on.

    I just don’t know if I should take this drug or not.

    Bernie’s Answer

    If you decide to take it then change your image of it. All you are focused on now are the negative aspects of it and that focus has taken over your life.

    Start picturing the drug in a positive way with many benefits to help you heal.  See yourself having NO side effects and visualize this at least four times a day. A week from now, draw a new picture and let’s see what has happened to your perspective.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie

    Can I interpret my own drawings? I’m 20 years old and it would be very helpful if I could just draw and understand my thoughts and feelings.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Yes, you can, but first get educated about what meanings your drawings may contain.  Anatomically and psychologically art therapists who do not know anatomy miss many things being portrayed in a given drawing.

    Look at what you draw the day after you finish each drawing so your consciousness allows you to see the truth portrayed.

    I recommend that you also read the following books:

    1.   The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing, which is my newest book, published in September of 2013.

    2.   Life Paints Its Own Span by Susan Bach

    3.   The Secret World of Drawings by Gregg Furth

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie

    My 22 year old grandson was recently operated on for Brain cancer (Northwestern-CHICAGO ) infection followed. He is so depressed – do you think your Healing Meditation CD will help him?

    Bernie’s Answer

    Yes my books and CD’s can help but he has to be willing to use them. Coaches can’t help those who don’t come to practice.

    Men have a tougher time than women because they want to do things rather than have relationships as the important part of their lives.

    Infection isn’t fun, but could help the body eliminate the cancer by stimulating the immune system.

    Offer him things which will help and above all, listen to him and don’t preach.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie

    Hello Bernie. My dad does not know that tomorrow his oncologist is going to tell him that no treatment is working and his bladder cancer has spread to his liver. I am in contact with his oncologist and he is open to what my sister and I suggest. Any tips on what he should and should not tell my dad?

    Bernie’s Answer

    The oncologist can tell him the traditional treatment is not working, and your Dad will have to look into alternative and integrative therapies.  Ask the doctor not to tell him when he will die and take hope away.  The doctor should not say anything that will make your Dad feel like he is a loser because the traditional treatment is not working.

    The oncologist can tell him they are working on a new therapy which will be available in a month for some patients, and then work out something to give your Dad so that he can remain hopeful. Amazing things do happen.

    Help your Dad find alternative therapies starting with seeing a naturopathic physician for therapies which are herbal.  The medication called Metformin (used for diabetics) also interferes with glucose uptake by cancer cells and can be prescribed.

    Finally, both you and your sister should read an article I wrote and posted on my website entitled Deceiving People into Health. Go to my website and at the top you will see Quick Links.  Under that you click on “Articles by Bernie.”  Once you get to the articles, just scroll until you find the one I am highly recommending that you and your sister read, Deceiving People into Health.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie

    One more question for now. Is it important for him or anyone to understand what about their lives or personalities caused the cancer—as a way to get over the shock and anger about getting it in the first place? After reading your books and learning more about his life (from my Mom not him), it is crystal clear to me. He doesn’t understand though.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Do not give your opinion or ask your Dad what he thinks in his life caused the cancer.  It creates guilt, which is something you want to help him NOT have on top of his condition.

    It is about what makes you vulnerable at a certain time, like Monday morning more heart attacks, suicides, etc.  Your feelings create your internal chemistry which can make you vulnerable or induce self-healing.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie

    Hi, Bernie—I hope all is well with you and your lovely family.

    My son left home last September.  I had a Posterior vitreous detachment (PVD) in my right eye which led to a retinal tear.

    I was so frightened by the symptoms, etc., and the possibility of further complications; it has left me with nervous illness with just about everything scaring me at the moment.

    Any advice in a few words would be very helpful.  I crave relaxation and serenity…it’s all the “what if’s.”

    Peace and thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Picture what you desire, not what you fear.

    Develop a mantra of positive statements and repeat them throughout the day.  You have the potential to push fear out of your life permanently.  Keep reminding yourself that you can control your fear—it cannot control you unless you give in to feelings of weakness in the face of adversity, and just hand over the steering wheel to a person you can’t trust.

    Resolve that this is YOUR life.  It is okay to be scared by a diagnosis, so you want to find doctors who will allow you to be a full partner in your care.  You have every right to have a detailed description of any procedure you undergo.

    Look for a support group.  There is nothing at all to prevent you from settling down where you want to be.  A support group for each area of your concerns would be fine to do.  There may be one that will help you get past the “empty nest” feelings, and your fear regarding a sense most of us shamelessly take for granted—our eyesight.

    But you are taking care of yourself—you are reaching out and searching for acceptance.  You need to interact often with people who have experiences similar to yours, and so because you’ve traveled some of the same roads, you can be confident that they really DO understand.

    Last, but never least, is to put humor in your life every day.  Let yourself relax enough to think about funny things in your early life, or your life right now, so that you get the incredible healing power of laughter.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – March 30, 2015

    Question for Bernie

    My brother passed last Thursday. He had an incredible will to live, surpassing his doctor’s prediction by 25 years!

    Words cannot express my gratitude for your caring support.  Your lectures, books, emails, were a tremendous help during a difficult time.

    My brother’s and my incredible history with you~

    It was over 10 years ago that I attended your lecture in Naples Florida. Afterwards I came up to talk with you about my brother who had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 15 years previous.  You thanked me for sharing and I recall you saying, “I need to hear stories like this.” So I am once again sharing his story.

    At the time of his diagnosis I was reading Love, Medicine, and Miracles. My brother has never been a “take charge” kind of person but we incorporated your concepts into his recovery.  I was amazed at his assertiveness. He received chemo for 2 1/2 years and called me one day and said, “I can’t do this anymore.” I said, “Then stop.”

    So here we are over 25 years later with him back in the hospital with a dx of recurrence of his cancer. He weighs 84 lbs.  The doctors are planning to give him “two shots a day.” I am not in agreement with this treatment but not my decision. His quality of life the past two years has been less than ideal.

    The doctors told Bob that he is one in twenty million people to survive for over 25 years with his diagnosis.

    I am sure the information we gleaned from your book was instrumental in his survival, and I want to thank you for giving us the tools we needed. My brother credits me with his recovery, but I know that God gave me you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Thank you.  Your brother had the talent and the will to live, with such loving, strong support from you, his sister.  It makes a difference, to say the least.

    His consciousness is still with you, so look for signs of things that had meaning for you both, like the coincidences.  And choose life.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie

    I’ve drawn two pictures this morning and thought I’d send them to you.  If you have a chance to take a look, I’d be interested in your thoughts.

    If you want any explanation:

    Obviously, I’m in the middle, each corner represents an aspect of my life; upper left is my wife and me; below that, me and my kids; upper right is me at work; below right is my mom.

    I think the first picture is where I am stuck right now—in fear and unhappiness.  The second is where I want to be???

    I’ve had a better last few days on holding off the fear and feeling a little better.  I found an appointment card with my next follow up with the ENT and that upset me… I guess just thinking that I don’t know if I can be healed by then.  The appointment is right before Mother’s Day and I’m thinking of moving it to after because I don’t want bad news before that day.  Is that silly?

    Last week I was test driving a car with my two boys.  The salesman told me for some unknown reason that his father died when the salesman was 13.  I immediately asked him if his life was OK.

    I came home this past Friday feeling pretty good, and then saw a “feel good” short on the college basketball tournament about a player whose mother recently died of cancer.  So I took that moment to say to the boys, “See, he pressed on even through tragedy and that is what you would have to do if something ever happened to me.” (My Dad used to say things like that to me).

    Then today over a cup of coffee, I look on the front page of our local paper and see an article about a musician dying of cancer at hospice.

    IS SOMEONE TRYING TO TELL ME SOMETHING?  Or am I just bonkers.  Please tell me I’m bonkers, it’ll feel better.  LOL

    Bernie’s Answer

    The first drawing depicting you as unhappy will create the life you draw—showing everyone apart and not enjoying life.  You don’t know the future, so enjoy the day.

    If you don’t have one, get a pet and learn from it and your kids.  Children and pets live in the moment and they can teach us just how much more joyful life is when we do that same thing—live in the moment.

    Years ago, I thought one of our kids had cancer and had little time left. At age seven, he said to me, “Dad, you’re handling this poorly.”  My son is alive today. His tumor was a rare type and not the cancer I assumed from his x-ray.

    Does the number 3 mean anything to you?  I notice that you show three marks on your face in this sad drawing.

    Picture what you desire and begin to act as though you have it now.  Love your life and body as they are right now.  Being good to your body—nutritionally, with exercise as possible, and with happy relationships, strengthen your immune system and also, most importantly, lets your body know that your message to it is that you intend to LIVE.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie

    Well here it is. This drug is an oral medication I will take every day with my Tamoxifen, which I take before bed in the bathroom. So in the drawing I am standing in the bathroom taking it. The T bottle is my Tamoxifen which I feel very good about.

    The possible side effects of this new drug include neutropenia, which is very troubling to me since I am a Montessori Pre K-K teacher and so need a healthy immune system. The skeleton is showing that I am concerned what this drug is doing to my bone marrow, and also what it is doing to all of the healthy cells in my body. I care very much about my health and what I put into my body.

    Brown hair is coming out in my hands. My hair has finally come back. The last chemo I took after surgery thinned my hair, which my Dr. says this can also do, too. It is depressing to have hair come out in my hands.

    The window in the next room is the meditation room with a window to see sunlight, blue sky, and beautiful trees.

    If I were to draw a picture of myself NOT taking this medication, it would be outside on my bike with my partner doing our 100 mile Parkinson’s bike ride in the summer. Cancer free, healthy, and strong again.

    I am very clear that I do not want to take this medication. But when my Dr. says I recommend this because you are at “high risk” for recurrence, fear takes center stage and I think, “Is the universe giving me this trial because it is going to prevent a recurrence and I should do it?” Of course, there is no guarantee of that, and they don’t seem to be able to give me odds or statistics that can help me make a more informed decision.

    I am trying to weigh the cost/benefit and I am back and forth. One decision is based on fear, the other on hope, but I am also a very rational person and hope does not feel like solid ground.

    Any help you can offer would be much appreciated, and I would love to come down to CT and talk to you face to face. I realize that may be too much to ask, and I am grateful for whatever help you could give me.

    Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    My first question is what the black dot in your pelvic area where you drew uterus and fallopian tubes represent?

    The window with lovely scene is in your future and that is a good sign. The page has time areas in it, too, and your past is very empty.

    The six trees may be related to time of treatment or some other meaningful event in your life past or present.

    Tamoxifen is given a healthy blue color, but there is no color for new treatment.

    Your self-image is black and bones which show a not very nice statement about your self-esteem. I can see through you.

    Develop stronger hands with which to get a grip on things and reach out as you did to me.  Do you have ears to listen, or don’t you want to hear what others say?

    Develop self-love and self-worth.

    The new drug is in a neutral zone right now, and if you want to take it, then accept it free of fear and visualize yourself taking it every day and doing beautifully with no side effects.

    Don’t let the word of your doctors hypnotize you in a negative way.  Your body believes what your mind pictures is happening or going to happen.

    The medications are darker in color than anything except the window scene. Take care of the lady in the picture and be good to her—love yourself, your life, and your body.  By eliminating negative people and situations from your life, you are giving your Mind-Body-Spirit connection the loud and clear message that you want to LIVE.

    Let me know if you have any questions or feedback.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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