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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #252 – It’s Bitter and I Don’t Like It

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    Suffering is not an elective; it is a core course in the University of Life.

    ~ Steven J. Lawson
    Founder, OnePassion Ministries

    We do not seek meaning, serenity, or answers when our life is stable and peaceful. We accept our good fortune and don’t question our beliefs. But when life blesses us with afflictions, diseases, death, or loss, the search begins.

    At workshops, I ask if any participants wish they could be free of all pain—emotional or physical. If any answer yes, I give them my phone number should they decide to cancel their wish. Why would they do that? Pain is the unwanted gift that defines and protects us. You would literally lose parts of your body and ultimately your life if you were numb to all experiences. Yet our society promotes numbness in so many ways.

    The bitter pill of grief and pain is what starts the search for your road to serenity. Taste the bitterness of life and feel the discomfort. Accept and learn from your pain, and it will lead you to a place of meaning and wisdom.

    Soulution of the Day

    Our afflictions are not imposed by the Divine.
    Rather, they lead us to the Divine more often than our joys do.
    Do not resist the bitter pills in your life;
    know that they will lead you to a greater awareness.

    - Bernie

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  • Q & A with Bernie – May 2, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I am chaplain pastoring a woman with brain cancer.  The cancer was arrested after three “awake” surgeries and chemo, but now it has recurred as an aggressive malignancy. My patient feels forced by the doctors to go through radiation therapy. She is trying through fantasy trips, etc., to get in touch with her inner self to make the right decision for herself!

    The problem is that so far no clear message has been given. Her dream is to go on a Jacob´s Way pilgrimage in Spain. She is afraid that if she does the therapy, afterwards she will be too weak to go on this journey. However, she is also afraid of not doing what the medicine world tells her she should do. She drew a picture of her cancer shown as a side slice of her brain—a rainbow was on the rim outside—the cancer cells were being attacked by small yellow arrows.

    The rainbow continued underneath the brain sweeping up as a curve to the right upper corner of the paper. Could this drawing hold a message that would help her make her decision? We are living in Germany–if you have contacts here to doctors with your insights, let me know.

    Many thanks for you and your work. Blessings to you and your family!

    Bernie Answer:

    Yellow is energy, so whatever the arrows represent will help her. The rainbow is harmony of all the emotions and feelings.

    These are good signs. Tell her to work on finding harmony and rhythm in her life, and then change what needs to be changed.

    Tell her that what she visualizes her body believes. Tell her to see her treatment as successful, with few or no side effects, so she can do what makes her happy in her life. You can scan and e-mail me the drawing, too, for more comments.

    Peace & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    Thank you for you inspiration and humor. I have a friend who has been ‘surviving’ cancer now for 7+ years. She beat stage 4 colon cancer, and then went on to have lung cancer (in both), urethra (removal), then 4 hot spots, and now 8, with her numbers at 163. She is positive, and starts every day with a upbeat quote on Facebook. She also posts pictures of her on FB from her cancer treatments at the University of Miami in bed with a big smile. She is amazing, traveling 190 miles each way every other week.

    Her 69th birthday is the 23rd and she is so grateful to know she is going to celebrate it. I bought her How to Live between Office Visits, and am sending her a copy of your outstanding interview done with Joan Borysenko for Hay House.

    She has accepted the fact she will not be cured, nor go into remission now, but plans to live her life to the max a long as she can, taking full advantage of days she feels good.  She was determined to make it to our 50th high school reunion last September and did, being radiant and ‘full of life.’  It makes me sad to know that if she had been your patient, and with her optimism, she would have healed!

    Maybe there is something in your book or CD I’m sending that will give her added hope, and there will be a healing.  You are amazing, and I wish all doctors thought and worked as you do. The world would not only be healthier in body, but in spirit as well, which we all so greatly need at this time!  Thank you dear man!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Tell her the potential to be cured is always there and through healing her life, rather than fighting a war.  She should love her life and her body unconditionally, sending the body the unmistakable message that she wants to LIVE.

    When we find harmony and rhythm through transformation and change, amazing things happen.

    Peace & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    First off, I want to say great blog!

    I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was interested to know how you center yourself and clear your thoughts prior to writing.

    I’ve had a tough time clearing my thoughts in getting my ideas out there. I do enjoy writing but it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are usually wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or tips? Thanks!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Quiet your mind by envisioning a still pond, and then close your eyes and take a deep breath in, imagining energy and creativity filling your mind and body.  As you blow that deep breath all the way out, imagine any distractions going with it.

    As you begin, think about it as if you were writing a letter, and then let it flow.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 25, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I received a copy of your book 365 Prescriptions for the Soul from a staff member who I had cared for during her sick leave when going through breast cancer.  I work as an occupational health nurse. My work has become more toxic the last number of years with bullying and horizontal violence.

    I was recently diagnosed with smoldering multiple myeloma (consistent plasma cells in blood and with positive bone marrow testing).  I have listened to the documentary series from Ty Bollinger on “The truth about cancer: a Global Quest.”  This past weekend, I attended a maximized living seminar presented by Dr. B.J. Hardick in London, Ontario.  I purchased the book Cancer Killers by Drs. Ben Lerner and Charles Majors (who overcame secondary glioblastoma resulting from multiple myeloma and has now been cancer-free for 5 years).  The authors made reference to your work.

    I started seeing a naturopath specializing in oncology in Toronto. She is working on supporting me as best as she can, but said that all of her MM patients undergo conventional chemo.  Fortunately, my oncologist has recommended a “wait and watch” approach for now, so I am exploring all of my options.

    It is documented medically that there is no cure to multiple myeloma.  My long-standing faith in Jesus has been my strength, in knowing that he will lead me through this journey towards a miracle, so that He will be glorified and then help others as you have.  Please advise on any other direction you may have to my beating this cancer, and any contacts as close to Toronto, Ontario as possible.  Sincere thanks.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Dr. Mel Borins in Toronto knows me, and I am sending him a copy of this to him.

    We have worked together and he can be of help.  Nurses have a lot of trouble caring for themselves while caring for others. If you were asked by friends or family to do something you did not want to do, what would you say to them?

    Read Love, Medicine & Miracles and The Art of Healing and any others that appeal to you in the lists on my website. Read what defines an Immune Competent Personality on my website.

    There is always the potential for self-induced healing when you love your life and body.  What you believe manifests itself through your body’s response.

    Peace and Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    Today was the day. I drove myself to the hospital, full of anxiety.  On the way, I passed a country road where two dear friends, now deceased, used to live.  I thought of them, and began to feel their presence in the car with me.  I was no longer alone!  At the hospital, gowned, hooked up to an IV, and in the MRI, the procedure began with a buzzing thumping rhythm.  Suddenly, I was no longer in the hospital, but on a cliff overlooking a beautiful Scottish castle.  There was a lake in the distance, and the trees were in full glorious leaf.  The sound of the MRI was now BAGPIPES, and I relaxed and enjoyed the time there.

    When the technician came in to start the contrast IV, the sound of the MRI changed for the second part of the session, I was transported to Polynesia, to a sparkling white sandy beach.  Drummers were beating out a rhythm as they faced the calm blue of the ocean waters.  That lasted until the end of the MRI.

    Apparently, the shift had changed because there was another technician to remove the IV and help me out of the MRI machine.  I opened my eyes to see a man that looked just like Bernie Siegel!!!!!!  So, I said,” Did anyone ever tell you that you look like Bernie Siegel?”  He said, “Who’s that?”  So, I told him about you, Bernie, and how you have helped me and so many others.  He is going on vacation, and before he goes he will buy one of your books to read while he is away.

    What an experience for me, thanks to YOU.  I will share my story with others, grateful to give the help and hope you have inspired in me to them.  I am grateful beyond words….

    Bernie’s Answer:

    My wife was having an MRI of her brain, she dreaded confined, noisy space—well, you know it all.  So, when they told us that their music system was not working, I said I would go into the room with her and sing to her.

    I sang the whole time, and when we came out, staff and patients thanked me for singing. They said they opened the PA system up so that the entire radiology suite could enjoy my singing.  They told me I sang so badly that nobody had any problems with their tests.

    Peace, Love, and Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    I was diagnosed w/ stage IV metastatic BC in 1995. I am celebrating 21 years April 19, also the anniversary of the Oklahoma bombings. I underwent all treatments including a BMT. I’ve had two recurrences, a painful broken hip and femur, broken ribs, and most recently bones in my feet keep breaking. I certainly commend the medical community for my initial treatment in keeping me alive, but I knew it was my job to find what could keep me healthy. I found that person in  a master practitioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine. With her expertise in herbs and acupuncture, she’s been able to keep me going.

    I do the real deal of boiling down the prescribed herbs twice a day, three days a week for the last 20 years. The last cup is as bad as the first, but it is my medicine to keep me alive.

    It takes much time, effort, dedication, and money to go the route of alternative treatments. This is in tandem with my oncologist, who thinks this miracle is all his doing, but that’s OK. Whatever the case, it has worked for me, and I couldn’t be more fortunate.

    As you know, insurance companies do not cover this cost, and after twenty years I have used all of my resources. I can survive for about 2 ½ more years. I am single, no relatives, and one unmarried son. I am an MFT, now a CASA volunteer, was a starting partner for, “Spa for the Spirit,” which was a three day alternative mountain retreat for women with stage IV BC.

    Recently, a college professor with BC told me I was every woman’s nightmare. Probably, but I have the thickest skin possible, and I couldn’t admire my own fortitude more. Cancer was the best worst thing to happen to me, and I have a PhD in spirituality.

    However, I need help. I am down to the wire and am looking for an herb sponsor. I have this gift of living for almost 21 years. I am as rare as a unicorn, and I know the right people will appreciate this and support it if I had a way to just connect with them.

    PS: You and Dr. Wayne Dyer were the first books I began to read in my spiritual quest.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You are an inspiration. You could tell your story on the internet and ask for donations.  I forget what they call the site(s) where people do that.

    I hope people reading this on my website will respond to your needs. You can send your story to the herbal companies asking for sponsorship. You can’t lose by asking.  It is a survivor personality quality.

    Send us your address and I will send something myself, and hope others will, too.  Bless you – and buy a lottery ticket.  I do, and if I win, you win with me,

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Response: Thank you so much, Bernie.  I took your advice and contacted www.gofundme.com

    Could you please pass this link to my GoFundMe page so donors can find it?

    www.gofundme.com/5tzukxek
    Help Survivor Make it to the Finish

    Question for Bernie:

    How can I find my authentic self?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Quiet your mind, like the still pond and you will see the truth. Meditate (you can choose from many kinds). Stop thinking and start seeing.

    Like the ugly duckling realizing she is a swan, or a tiger cub raised by goats, who only realizes he is a tiger when his mother goat dies, you must look at yourself as unique.  You are—we all are, but there is some “core” of our identity (like being a duckling before you become the swan) that we must get in touch with, appreciate, and love.

    The major influences in most developed societies include something about NOT valuing yourself, but the key to being a fully realized person is to find that core and learning to value and love it as early in life as possible.  It is never too late, though, to be enlightened about our inner knowledge and power—and to know that compassion and understanding never demands that anyone abandon their “truth,” which is your core, authentic self.

    Peace & Blessings,
    Bernie

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    Special Post – Help a Survivor Make it to the Finish Line

    Dear Everybody,

    I recently got a question from a remarkable 21-year survivor of stage IV metastatic breast cancer, diagnosed on April 19, 1995 at age 38.  Her inspirational story will appear in detail on April 25, 2016, in my Q&A column on this website, but in the meantime, I want to get this information to those who may wish to help her right away.  I suggested she use the internet to reach people who may wish to help her, and here is her response:

    “Thank you so much, Bernie.  I took your advice and contacted www.gofundme.com.  Could you please pass along this link to my GoFundMe page so donors can find it? The page is called Help Survivor Make it to the Finish and the link is:  www.gofundme.com/5tzukxek.”

    Here is an excerpt about her: “I am at a crossroad where I will not be able to continue treatment. My insurance does not pay for my treatments which run between $10,000-14,000 per year. After 20 years, I have gone through all my options and have enough money to live another 2 ½ years. I don’t own any property, am single for 20 years, and have no relatives to help.  I’m appealing for help to be the longest survivor of stage IV metastatic Breast Cancer!”

    I hope some of my readers can help this brave young woman, but in any case, you will be inspired by her story.  Read all of the details on my website, Monday, April 25, 2016, in the Q&A column.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 18, 2016

    Question for Bernie: (Part 1 of 3)

    I am terminally ill, even though I have tried everything I could to Live. I know we have never met, and it took a lot of courage to contact you, knowing you might or might not even respond to me.

    I don’t care what religion you are, but would like to share something about life from my experience with you and hope to make friends with you before my final day.  Thank you for reading this, and I hope to hear from you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Here I am.  Tell me about yourself.

    Bernie

    Question for Bernie: (Part 2 of 3)

    I contacted you because I want a friend and no one cares about me. My family shows no concern or love towards me, knowing my present situation.

    Would you like to be my friend? You might think what I am doing with a friend I barely know.  Life is more than that. I have never particularly lived my live so well, as I have never really cared for anyone, not even myself, but just business. Though I amassed a lot as a former businesswoman, I was not generous. I was always hostile to people and only focused on my business, as that was the only thing I cared for.

    But now I regret all this, as I now know that there is more to life than just wanting to have or make all the money in the world. I believe when God gives me a second chance to come to this world, I will live my life in a different way from how I have lived. Now that my life has gone down this path, I want to do what is right with this very short period so I can be happy after.

    If you would like to be my friend, then write back to me so we can talk more. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I will be your CD = “Chosen Dad” and help you to abandon your past and learn to love yourself and your life and heal. So let me know if you would like for me to be your “CD.”  Tell me where you live.

    Bernie

    Her answer to Bernie: “In Germany and where do you live? Do you have a family?”

    Bernie’s answer to her: “I am in the state of Connecticut, USA; we have a good size family and lots of pets.”

    Question for Bernie: (Part 3 of 3)

    You must be a very good person, and I respect you for what do you in your work. Let me have you’re your number and I will try to call you. I was praying for you, and I pray we continue to be friends. I have just had lunch and a cuppa and I feel great today, and hope you feel the same, too.  How is your day going? Hope you are doing great.

    Thank you from your friend.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I can’t handle phone calls now.  Just email me the things you’d like to talk about.

    Bless you,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I am from Serbia, Balkans. I just read your book, Love, Medicine and Miracles, and I am very happy. Ten days ago, I found out that I have a tumor, and I knew that I was responsible for my tumor. After reading your book, I know that I am every person in that book, and every person in your book is me.

    My father and mother both died of cancer.  But you are the only person in my life who could tell me what is really wrong with my mind. I will have an operation in two weeks, and I am in peace because I found out that someone knows what I feel, and how to heal. Every word you’ve said is true. Sorry for my English, but I hope that you will understand what I am saying. I love you and thank you, Dr. Siegel.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You are a survivor, and I send you my blessings and love. I am your new father, and I want you to picture the operation as being very successful, and that you heal quickly. What you envision will happen.

    If you get my book, THE ART OF HEALING, you will learn more about being a survivor.

    Bless you again,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I just wanted to write to say that I love you for the courage you have had.  Thank you for taking a stand for the truth in medicine at a time when it must have been particularly difficult.  I send my best to you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, but I knew the truth from my experience, and then I learned to tell stories so that doctors didn’t feel threatened.

    Thanks.
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I have been reading your book and I can’t stop. Love it! I think now I know why the recovery from surgery has been so good. Because of the drawings you made me do with your observations. I think this is what made me decide to do it instead of continuing with my passion for natural healing.

    I feel at peace after doing the surgery and I just realized it is because not doing it had separated me from my sons. I have given my life to creating a wonderful family life, contrary to what I had growing up, but all of a sudden there was a high distance between my sons and I. They didn’t agree with my natural approach; my older one, who’s a lawyer in DC, wasn’t answering my calls, until the pain of not talking to him was so great that I wrote and asked him why. He simply replied (in Spanish): “…because it hurts me to see that you are dying and not doing anything about it.”

    The pain of having my family separated was stronger than the pain from the surgery. They were impressed at the hospital at my prompt recovery. I was only one hour at the recovery room, and then I just took Tylenol. I did not want the heavy drugs. I don’t like them. Three days later I went to the park, visited with friends, and have been very well. My sons are at peace and this gives me peace, too. Thank you for all your help.

    I have been writing my dreams down as your book recommends, and the question about what treatment to follow, Vitamin B17 or Chemo, kept coming up.  Then, one night this insight woke me up—Bernie Siegel is the symbol, and having found him means that I will be well no matter what I choose. This is because I don’t know how I found you in Internet. I had been thinking of you and your books and missing them, because they stayed in my house in Mexico when we moved here less than a year ago (without knowing I had cancer). So out of the blue I found you, you responded immediately and we established communication. This has been invaluable. Thanks again. Now I think I am going to draw my portrait and my family and maybe the 2 options. And, I am really truly sorry about your wife. I didn’t know. I am sending my love.

    I forgot to mention that your book made me feel compassion towards my surgeon. I was feeling resentful because she removed all of my lymph nodes, and she knew how important it was for me to keep them. But when I read what you said about how surgeons feel when they fail to save someone’s life, my feelings turned to compassion and an understanding that we were in this together. Right before I went to sleep I looked at her straight in the eyes and told her how much I trusted her. So I guess she did what she thought it was best for me, and now I am thankful to her.

    Thanks again for your book. Love it!  Have a good and blessed good night!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Bless you, my dear—you are on the path to healing.

    It is happening within you, so have faith and your troubles will be eliminated.

    Peace & Healing,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 11, 2016

    Question for Bernie (with drawings):

    They have your book ready for me at the bookstore. I will pick it up later on.  I have the appointment for the surgery, and I am about to cancel it. I am confused. I still believe in miracles and/or that the body can heal itself if we help it. The surgeon is pushing towards mastectomy, but she also said that if I really wanted, we could do a lumpectomy. That is why I drew it. I think the new drawings are key to my decision. Thanks for your help.

    I am attaching two new drawings. If you could please let me know what you think, I would greatly appreciate it.

    I counted the figures in the other pictures and some of them are amazing: in the alternative one there 11 sun rays: my birthday is October 11, same day that my Dad passed away couple of years ago. And October 1st (10+1) is the day they told me for the first time that I had cancer. Of course I didn’t believe it, and waited for the confirmation with the biopsy of November 9th last year.

    Three triangles—it has been three months since I started the natural treatment.

    Mastectomy: 6 tentacles, since I am a La Leche League Leader (its birthday is also October 11, 1956, just like mine). I thought that might symbolize all the women I’ve helped breastfeed over the years, and of course my two sons whom I breasted for years; 3 big lumps (I don’t know why because there are only 2) and 3 small lumps, which I think coincides with the calcifications; 7 yellow strips and 6 blue x’s.  Chemo: 8 river lines—I don’t know what to make of this?

    Spontaneous remission: 22 yellow lines, 11+11, 22 is Tuesday, the day of the surgery; 11 yellow dots; 26 blue healthy cells = pounds I have lost through detoxing and eating mostly vegetables; 13 black, cancer cells (bad luck?).

    I really, really appreciate your input.

    Thanks a lot.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Drawings are hard to look at when they are bigger than my screen and I have to look at them in sections…but here are my impressions:

    I like the purple as it is a spiritual color and very good to illustrate loving yourself.

    Eight is a new beginning number.

    Count the new circles, too.

    I like the black circles dropping away.  Let them go.  Cut the string.

    What you choose as treatment is up to you.

    Yes, you have the potential, but most important is that you don’t ever see yourself as a failure if you don’t induce self-healing.

    This is not about failing, but about doing what is right for you.

    There is color and life, and if you bloom and blossom like the flower you drew, all will be well.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Comment from Writer of the First Question in Today’s Q&A:

    THANK you very much for your input.  I didn’t realize that I was feeling like a failure, but you are right. The minute I read that, I started to cry. Thanks.

    Here are the new drawings.  Thank you, again.

    Bernie’s Answer to Drawings and Reply:

    Chemo has nothing to do with you in the drawing, so how can it help you unless you let it in?

    The lumpectomy can help.

    The heart is open at the bottom, so keep an open heart to all the possibilities.

    I love the flower. I think your healthy immune system cells (blue 24 cells) are cleaning out the cancer and sending it away from your body (13 or 14 cells).

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I would like to ask you a question after watching your video on INN with Joshua Rosenthal. I have a history of kidney stones, and in fact I was said to be a famous case at one point by both doctors here in the Cayman Islands and in the USA. I have had more operations than I can remember due to kidney stones.

    I lost my left kidney, as they said if I had the kidney removed, I would stop getting stones. That did not work, but at the time, I was backed into a corner—either the kidney or go home to the UK. I had a child whom I love dearly and made the sacrifice, as he is from here.

    I do believe the cause is having lived in my family home, which was not the best. How do you think I can leave the past behind? I am now 51 years old, married, and have three children. I ask because I feel it is high time I removed the past. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, the past is over.  Now you must abandon it and start using your energy to love your life and your body.

    Put up pictures of yourself as a child and every time you see that picture, tell that kid that you love her.  Parenting, with or without love, determines our future life and health.  So re-parent yourself—become your own child and love that little child with all your energy.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 4, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I was in a relationship for 44 years. I discovered that my husband is a sex addict. I had to leave the relationship for my own survival and healing. It has been almost five years since I left and I still feel such pain, anger, and betrayal.

    I have done a lot of personal work, but I’m feeling that I still have not released these negative emotions completely, no matter how hard I try. I would appreciate your guidance in suggesting how I might go about treating the cause, which is now manifesting in some physical symptoms.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Your thoughts are created by you.  You may have heard this wonderful advice somewhere before, but I’ll offer it again because when I found it, I realized its great healing potential:

    “Let go, and let God.”

    If you are able to care for a pet, adopt one and learn about living in the moment.  The best examples of how to live in the moment are little kids and beloved pets.  If you can make the time required to take care and commune with a pet, by all means, adopt a dog or cat and enjoy the happiness he/she will give you. If you can’t have one of your own, go to a park nearby where people do walk their dogs and let them play off-leash.  Observe the delight these pets experience moment-by-moment as they romp around with each other, and then envision yourself just enjoying the moment you are in—wherever you are and whatever you are doing.

    Quiet your mind and the truth will then be reflected back to you. In that reflection, you will see that you are a swan and not an ugly duckling.  Before you can truly give love or assistance to anyone else, you must first love yourself and your life and your body.  Strength comes from finding your authentic self. Valuing that self by healing mind, body, and spirit, gives you open arms to accept what life brings.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    Serendipity—I have just discovered Love, Medicine and Miracles, and I am almost done with book #3.  I have two others waiting in the wings.  I also have one meditation CD.

    It just occurred to me to send my copy of Love, Medicine and Miracles to my GP. He is a Physician’s Assistant and seems receptive.  Looking for a bio on you, Bernie, I went to my computer and found much, much, more.  Where to start? I am so pleased to see you are still doing the same thing that you began in 1986. Love to you from a 96-year-young fan!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Actually, I started speaking and developing my approach to living a genuine, healthy life in 1978, but Love, Medicine & Miracles wasn’t published until 1987.  And I’m still at it.

    You are a survivor and lover of life.  It is always great to hear from someone who is very actively engaged in life and learning.

    I hope to write an autobiography to share all my life experiences.  Keep loving your life, your body, your mind, and your spirit.  The world needs people like you.

    Bless you,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – March 28, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I just finished reading your article in the January issue of Natural Nutmeg. I have read others from time to time.  Each time they bring me closer to your philosophy along with fond memories on how you touched my life.

    We go way back to when my daughter was 9 and my son was 14. You performed a lumpectomy while another surgeon removed a Bartholin cyst. I felt privileged to be your patient and grateful for your time and inspiration. I lost my precious Greg at age 21.  I remember him sharing that his roommate in college was concerned about his mom facing a lumpectomy.  Greg shared my experience, telling him that his mom would be OK, too, and she was. It is one thing to lose one child in the flesh and another to lose a child in spirit, thanks to her father who must punish us both. I continue to reach out, sharing memories, etc.

    About 15 years ago I started to be plagued with migraine headaches which would come four to five days a week.  The doctor at the time would not give me medication to suppress them, and I really resented not having quality of life. A new doctor was at a conference where a peer reported having a patient with a similar case to mine, and the new doctor is enabling me to live life!

    There is a good part.  I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who happens to be my ex’s uncle!!!  As Chet would say, we have been together six years, two months, and one week now. We have gone to Italy and Poland (where his parents and my grandparents were born).  We kid each other that his mother and my grandmother are doing a joyous Polka in the heavens.  Chet has driven to NC and Camden, Maine more recently.  We take a lot of two day trips. This is my heaven.  By the way, Chet will soon be 93, but looks more my age of 71.  Has a full head of white hair which no one can believe, has been active all his life, and is widowed.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Thank you for bringing me up-to-date.  My suggestion for the migraine attacks is that you ask yourself what the pain feels like.  Write down the words you come up with, and then think about everything in your life that you could use any of those words to describe—and eliminate them.

    Keep living and loving your life and body.  In spite of your painful losses, you have embraced life fully and by doing that, you are sending your immune system very positive messages that you intend to LIVE with joy.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I was diagnosed in November 2016 with breast cancer Her 2. I tried alternative treatment but the tumor grew. I have read your books since they first began to be published, and I always mention you in my metaphysical classes and lectures.

    I am stuck. I have panic about chemotherapy which is what the doctors are recommending. Should I undergo surgery first or begin chemotherapy first? What do I do? I completely changed my diet and lost 25 pounds. I have been working on detoxing my body. I was not afraid at first, but after seeing that it grew, fear came over me.

    Anything you can tell me will help me a lot. I am 59, have two sons that I breastfed for years, and a wonderful husband. I am not ready to die. Thanks a lot for all you do!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Draw your vision of the possible treatments with crayons, and then you will see what your intuition knows is right for you.  If you would like for me to look at them, I would be happy to help. Also, my book, The Art of Healing, can guide you.

    What you believe and see does happen.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – March 21, 2016

    Question/Comment for Bernie:

    I met you at Quinnipiac College when you spoke at an OT conference years ago, and asked you about my niece, who has since died from an unusual form of a cancer (she died in 1995 at just 18). Then, I saw you again at your son’s store in Simsbury.  I was so looking forward to meeting you and listening, but it was a ‘group’ sharing many intimate details of their cancers, their families’ cancers, and other illnesses.

    I was in awe of your kind responses to people until you asked others to share. I then expressed my heartfelt sympathy and empathy for a woman who shared that she had lost someone to lung cancer, and she could not understand why it happened since the person had never smoked. I then took my turn, very aware of what she was going through and feeling. I shared my sorrow for her, and then shared a part of myself.

    Without recalling the exact words, I said something to the effect, “I am so sorry for your pain and loss. I had a niece, who was like my own child, die from cancer. I have had friends who have died from lung cancer and never smoked. I smoke. I feel guilty sometimes that I’m still here and those other souls are not.”  You interrupted me to ask me why I hate myself. I told you I did not hate myself. You wouldn’t listen and insisted that you were right and I was wrong.

    Guess what, Bernie—you are still wrong. I am still here and who knows why I haven’t succumbed yet.  Only God or the Goddess or the Great Spirit in the sky knows (or whatever you may call the creator).  And so far, I’m doing just fine.  I will grant you that when I began to smoke as a teenager, I must have had lots of self-loathing—who is really self-aware as a teenager?  But that was learned behavior, and the addiction is real. I have tried everything humanly available and nothing has worked to date.

    And I broke the cycle—-my biggest accomplishment is that I have two incredible grown kids that hate tobacco and will never become addicted. I don’t hate myself any longer and neither do many others who have not succeeded in quitting.  I actually have been very blessed in more ways than you will ever understand.  Just thought you should know. Best wishes to you and your family.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Thank you for bringing me up-to-date. I doubt I used the word hate, but you heard it that way.

    Why don’t you love yourself as you do your kids? How your parents treated you is the issue.

    The opposite of love is indifference, rejection, and abuse. Love yourself and your life and smoking ceases.

    Here’s a quote and question for you—after their cat died of lung cancer and others were having breathing problems, what do you think the couple did?  Here’s their quote from Cat Fancy magazine:

    “Doug and I now smoke in the yard.  We’re not killing our cats anymore.
    We hope you are not killing yours.”

    So it’s okay to kill yourself, but not the cats you love.

    May peace, love, and healing be with you.
    Bernie

    Comment on Bernie’s Answer from Message Above:

    Bernie, I will never forget it…you said it and it was one of those lifetime moments that stay with one forever. I’m sure it was not intentional—you wanted to make a point maybe?  I left that evening shaken, and never went back to your son’s store. Although I had previously been a frequent customer, I was afraid to return.  I have many of those “moments” in my life—some nice, some not so.

    Yes, I was abused by more than one person when I was a little girl, not just a parent.  Yes I got therapy, many kinds throughout the years. I am learning to love myself again…lost the ability for a while for a variety of reasons and my own personal history.

    I love my children, husband, and close family and friends with all my heart. I am just now trying to find the way to give my heart back to myself first and foremost.   I had it when I was young, innocent…just lost it along the way.

    I may eventually be successful at quitting the poison (tried literally everything out there)…now KNOW it really must come from me.  It has been a life long struggle. I wish it is easier—so far, I have been fortunate.  Thanks for your response and bless you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Find pictures of yourself as a child and put them up where you live and work.  And love that kid every time you see her face.  Meditate and let God and love in.

    What I ask people is “Why don’t you love yourself?” What they hear is related to what is within them. You are here for a limited time, so enjoy your time.  Create your graduation commencement—no excuses.

    Bless you,
    Bernie

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    Family and Humor

    Dear Everybody,

    Our phone always rings when I am trying to get some work done at the computer. Sure enough, it is one of our kids whom I have explained my schedule to and what times are best for phone calls. Well, the other night when the call was disruptive and using my precious and limited free time, our daughter let me know the call was for my sake. She said, “My calling you so often is so you have to get up, keep active and avoid blood clots from forming.” Once you smile or laugh, you can’t be upset or angry. I think our daughter learned from my wife and me; how do you handle an angry husband? “You’re so handsome when you are angry.” Or, “You’re upsetting the pets.” Neither resolves the problem, but they make me smile and away goes the anger.

    Our daughter was born with a hearing impairment, and was the one whose comment ended a sibling conflict when I entered the kitchen and said, “You may choose peace or you may choose conflict.” Her response, “I’ll have pizza.” The conflict immediately resolved.

    Our daughter recently had carpal tunnel release surgery and has learned from that, too. What an experience it’s been. Her message: “Let it be a lesson for us to be blessed with all limbs and faculties working. Her problems: My brain is moving faster than my only working hand—can’t type without the fingers hitting the wrong keys on the computer. After all, you need both hands to type. I’m using one hand. Amazing reading what was typed afterwards. Putting the password in, forget about it. It must have taken me four times before hitting the correct key. I know my vision is good.

    The hand is healing well. I can almost feel my nose when picking it! First day was completely numb, second day felt like sandpaper. Now it feels like fine sandpaper. I have to hold my hand up over my head to keep swelling down. People first react with the, “Oh my. What happened?” I want to tell them I won in a good fist fight but I’m too honest. Then you have people asking me if I have a question because my hand’s up in the air!!! Talk about eating, I must be wearing most of the food on me—lots of love. It’s been a fun, challenging experience. I’d do it again and again to help my hands function better.”

    I would say her attitude is something for all of us to acquire. As a surgeon, I can tell you the body experiences what the mind visualizes. It amazed the nurses when some of my patients woke up after major abdominal surgery and refused pain medications because they were sore, but not in pain. I can tell you when they saw the procedure as the right thing for them to do, and as a way to be healed, not mutilated or cut up, their body lived the message. I even had one of my patients attend a lecture I gave, the night of her surgery at Yale in Madison. I have never forgotten her response to my asking her, “What are you doing here?” She said, “Don’t worry, the nurses put all the tubes under my dress.” Studies show that placebo surgery also cures problems in patients who thought the surgery, which was simply a skin incision, had been performed to correct their affliction.

    Please remember, anger puts you into a place of danger. And a major part of danger is related to your anger in the world and in your life. Instead of bringing the anger with you wherever you go, bring a sense of humor and empowerment and do what is right for you, based upon your feelings and not your thoughts and fears. The Monday morning increase in all afflictions is related to the internal chemistry created by our feelings when we get up on Monday—and staying in bed cures nothing. A change of attitude, a sense of humor, a little love of life, and of the other residents of our planet, can help enormously.

    One of the reasons I became a surgeon was because I loved fixing things. It was painful for me to realize that, as a surgeon, I couldn’t fix everything. And it took a lot of personal work for me to adjust to the nature of life, and suffering I couldn’t resolve. But I have also realized there are a lot of things I can fix, and which make me feel good. They can be things as simple as clearing broken branches from the road, or repairing a neighbor’s mailbox as I walk our dog Rags. I just feel good doing something for someone else, and I may add that I love to do it anonymously when the residents are away. So it is my thing and does not in any way seek a reward, or even a thank you. I enjoy it when they wonder who did that. I mentioned a while back how I repaired a mailbox only to see a new one replace it a week later. Then I discussed with the neighbor and her family that I was the miracle worker, and we all had a good laugh as they had ordered the new mailbox before I did the repair job.

    In closing, the mailbox theme makes me want to share a word of gratitude for our mailman, Jim Franco. One of his acts of kindness is putting rubber bands around our large volume of mail. It makes it much easier to take out of the box and carry home. At times he brings the mail to our door, so I don’t have to go to the post office to pick things up which don’t fit in a mailbox. I can tell when he has a day off. I also return the rubber bands as my act of kindness to make it easier for him. And my newspaper man, Bob Vendrone, offered to leave me another newspaper, as a gift, on days when USA Today isn’t printed. So remember folks, there are a lot of ways to help fix the world. A theme that is a significant part of Judaism, and I hope will become a theme and an actuality for all religions, races, nationalities, and the readers of The Bulletin someday.

    Peace, Love & Healing,
    Bernie

    Very little is needed to make a happy life. It is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.
    ~  Marcus Aurelius

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    Things and Words

    Dear Everybody,

    When the New Year arrives, we all talk and think about making resolutions and what we will be doing in the next year. What enlightened me was someone saying that they were not going to resolve to start doing things and exercising, but had decided to stop doing things. I liked that idea, so this year I am not going to do a lot of things that are not in my best interests. Here’s an example for you:

    Instead of saying, “I am going on a diet this year,” say, “There are some things I will not eat this year. I will stop eating unhealthy foods and treats, and I will not sit around all day and not exercise.” I find it is easier to say “no” to what is not good for me than to say “yes” to all the ideal activities and lifestyle changes which, when you can’t or don’t live up to all of your resolutions, end up making you feel guilty. Instead, I feel good every time I open the fridge for some reason and don’t grab a treat, which is sitting there right before my eyes.

    So, I recommend that you all sit down and make a list of things you are going to stop doing. Each time you stop doing what isn’t good for you, you will be rewarded for your actions. Denying yourself something does not give you that feeling of having made the right choice in the moment, and may even lead you to do the wrong things just to try to feel deserving of a reward (for a tough day, as an example).  But with my new method of following a list of what I am going to stop doing, I get the immediate, rewarding self-confidence that comes from truly caring for my body, and doing the best I can for it.

    The majority of addicts have self-destructive behaviors as a reaction to an abusive life, and so they inadvertently keep themselves unhealthy and in peril by choosing to reward themselves with substances and behaviors that damage the body like drugs, alcohol, food, and more. They have not learned to love themselves, but what if they said to themselves, “I deserve to feel loved and be loved by myself and others, and so I will stop doing things that are self-destructive.  I will not act like those who abused me—I am in control now, and I choose to do what will keep me healthy and help me be able to comfortably give and receive love, because I now see love as the best reward we can give to ourselves or to anyone else. I am going to love myself and my life, and give up the behavior which imitates the destructive nature of the life I grew up living.”

    Much of the abuse and damage is done by the words we hear from others, as they direct their destructive words at us. Constructive criticism and coaching represent how we can be positive about learning life’s lessons.  But being told that you are worthless, a failure, and unwanted does not accomplish anything helpful for you or your family. So, do not tell people what is wrong with them, but do tell them how to stop what is unhealthy and how to create a new self by changing from their own detractor to their own supporter. Spend more time complimenting those who are in your life and stop the negative statements.

    Yes, you can share what actions you know of, or use in your own life, that could be more helpful to do as they stop doing what is self-destructive. And it is important to be an example and live the sermon. Saying “no” to what doesn’t nourish your heart or life is the healthy thing to do. Being a submissive sufferer is self-destructive. One of the things I hope to stop is yelling and being noisy when I do not like what is happening. That does not mean that I can’t still feel anger when not treated with respect, but how I respond is now my key issue—and my response is not to act in a way I do not like and do not want to act.

    Now to wordswords which can become swordswords which kill or cure. The following insights are from someone I know, and whose complete story is in my latest book, LOVE, ANIMALS AND MIRACLES. By the way, she has arranged for me to speak in the Hartford area and has started a Happiness Club branch in her area.

    Aries is the dog whose story is shared. Audrey’s daughter Elizabeth was murdered. Prior to that happening she had desired to adopt a male puppy for her Dad, who was the only male in their house, but the one she wanted was already taken. A year or so after her death her parents went to adopt a dog from the same breeder. When they walked in a large number of dogs were loose in the room. The breeder gave them a command to be still but one ran over and jumped into the Dad’s lap, and the dog and dad began to cry. The breeder told them it was the dog their daughter Elizabeth had picked for them, and the people who adopted it had to return it. Of course they went home with Aries, and the following are the words of Audrey to me.

    Thank you for your words, they hold special meaning for me and are quite timely. We had to say goodbye to Aries, our standard poodle. He was that gift of love from our daughter Elizabeth through the spirit world.  He brought us undying love and taught us how to live and die.  He lived longer than any other we ever had. When he stopped eating he was telling us he was ready to go. He was a wonderful boy. Aries taught us how to wag our tails no matter what life throws at us, hold no judgement, live in the moment for none of us know tomorrow, and trust that yesterday is gone. He only knew love. That is our legacy, it lives on. Bernie, thank you for your words that also live on.  They hold meaning and resonate deep from within. Much love, Audrey Carlson

    Yes, words and actions which share love are immortal. If I had to combine my two topics I would say for us all to stop saying and doing what doesn’t come from a love for all things, and live in our hearts and be aware of the wisdom of consciousness which never ceases to be there for us. And if you have problems, just read the description of Aries and start imitating him every day.

    Stop acting and doing things that people do, and start doing things and acting like a dog, preferably one who is house broken.

    Peace, Love & Healing,
    Bernie Siegel, MD

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