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  • New from Bernie Siegel – Love, Animals & Miracles

    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
  • Amelia’s Ark Angel Society

    Please support my friend Amelia Kinkade with her new charity, ARK ANGEL, which enables her to go into schools in rural Africa and educate children about wildlife conservation so that they don’t grow up to be poachers.

    Amelia Kinkade has written a book called Whispers from the Wild: Listening to Voices from the Animal Kingdom. In this book, she takes us all over the world, revealing the inner thoughts and feelings of a huge variety of animals, including dangerous ones. She shares the advice she has gleaned from working with such a diverse group of animals — words about tenderness, reconnection with nature, life after death, and the possibilities of magical awakenings inside the brains of an ever-evolving human race. Learn More

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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #122 – Getting to Know You

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.

    ~ Thomas Carlyle, 1795-1881, Scottish Historian and Essayist

    Getting to know yourself better takes courage. It is far easier to hide behind a mask than to see yourself as you really are. There are many who think they are perfect and need not change, who think they’re the center of the universe, and they have a problem.

    If you wish to know yourself and change for the better, you need to accept your inadequacies, fears, weaknesses, mistakes, and more. If you need others present constantly to entertain and distract you, then you are afraid to be still and know yourself.

    So spend some time being totally alone and see how you feel. If you are comfortable, then I would say you are in the process of knowing yourself. Knowing yourself means being willing to be with yourself. Once you can do that, the frantic search for distraction and escape will stop ruling your life and you can choose to fill your life with the things that bring you joy.

    Soulution of the Day

    Even if it feels uncomfortable, go away with yourself
    and spend some time together getting to know yourself.
    You may find that you are great company.

    - Bernie

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  • Good Friends

    Friendship improves happiness and abates misery, by the                                                   doubling of our joy and the dividing of our grief.
    ~ Cicero

    Dear Everybody,

    What is a friend?  To me it is someone who knows our faults and still sees the divine in you.  A friend will love you despite your imperfections.  A friend is someone who is there for you when you have the courage to ask for help.  A friend is also someone who can say no to you and still remain a friend.

    A friend points out your imperfections, not to blame you for them but to help you become better at what you are doing, just as a coach would talk to an athlete.  A friend always answers your calls even when you are driving them crazy.

    A friend never talks about who is right but rather listens to how you are feeling.  A friend will not judge without taking the time to understand and can forgive, let go of the past, and continue to love.  Probably the most important thing a friend does is never to abandon you, no matter what you do. Do something to acknowledge a good friend today, and remember to be one as well.

    Since the Thanksgiving holiday is traditionally about sharing a meal and time with family and friends, remember that for many people, friends ARE the family in their lives.  So remember to be thankful for your friends, too, this coming holiday week, and all year long.  I wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving, and hope you make it a time of real reflection on everything in your life that you are grateful for, your friends among them.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Praise

    Xenophon, a Greek historian, once said “The sweetest of all sounds is praise.” Praise is seen in your eyes when you look at your beloved. Praise is felt in your touch when you embrace. Praise is heard in your voice when you speak to the one you adore. Praise is about your loved one’s potential and the hope you can have  for that person. Praise is like helium; it lifts us up above the troubles and obstacles of life.

    Praise does not say you are perfect. It says I admire you and what you have accomplished and what I know you will go on to do. Praise is the food of the soul. No one survives without it.

    Remember: Praise is like fertilizer. Sprinkle it freely and those you love will grow, bloom and blossom.

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    Mirror, Mirror

    I use a mirror to see myself, but the mirror reflects only the image I can see with all its imperfections.  I’m sure that somewhere God is laughing at me.  She laughs because she sees more than I do.  She can see through me.  As I turn away from the mirror, for the first time I see my self, my essence, and my beauty reflected in God’s eyes.

    Someone once said, “Just as we cannot see our own faces without looking into a mirror, we cannot know ourselves without looking into our soul.” You should reflect on the fact that you are much more than the physical being you see in the mirror.  Stop judging yourself and become a perfectly imperfect human being.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Breezes, Ripples and Seeds

    Chief Seattle (or Chief Sealth) once said, “We did not weave the web of life – we are merely a strand in it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.” In considering his statement, it occurs to me that what we do has the same effect as a butterfly flapping its wings. Now the small movement of butterfly wings may not seem impressive to you, but it actually alters the world’s air currents and affects us all.

    In the same way that dandelion seeds can move in the wind, when you plant your seeds in the earth, you are having an effect on what you will grow. Even a small pebble thrown into a pond causes change. The ripples caused by your actions will spread out and change the nature of all life.

    Remember that you are the one who casts seeds, creates breezes, and makes waves by your life, words and actions. So think about what you do; it affects us all and creates a future for the world’s children.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Being Right

    “Indeed, this need of individuals to be right is so great that they are willing to sacrifice themselves, their relationships, and even love for it.”

    ~ Reuel Howe, author of The Miracle of Dialogue

    Dear Everyone,

    As we continue to cope with a wave of natural disasters and other issues that have impacted the lives of so many fellow Americans in the most challenging ways, one simple change each of us can make might help transform struggle into recovery. Start supporting collaboration instead of confrontation by your own actions.  Keep lines of communication open by reaching out and welcoming people and their ideas into a joint effort to solve big and small problems through respectful compromise.

    Many people choose to be right rather than happy. They will argue to the bitter end about the “rightness” of their thoughts and actions.  They do not care about what they are doing to the people they are arguing with.

    Why do they behave this way?  Are they perfect?  No, few of us could claim to be that.  They are simply unwilling to view their fallibility and confess to the weaknesses that come along with being human.

    When you are willing to give up being right, you will find peace and happiness.  It is when you are ready to learn that you will be right.

    If you wish to be happy and free, give up having to be right all the time.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – October 9, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie,

    How are you? I was meaning to drop you a line for a while now – better late than never.

    I have recently been listening to a couple of your meditation talks on my phone when I am trying to relax and they do help – thank you.

    I have been seeing a therapist since July to help me resolve childhood issues that I discovered have been affecting my relationships with men.

    I met a nice man in March and I really liked him – but he epitomized my low self-worth that developed in childhood, and I became attached to him and afraid he would leave me/ not want me/ not notice me or love me.  It was sadly an unhealthy attachment to someone who was unable to meet any of my needs.  He did manage to fulfill my fears of being unlovable, invisible and unworthy.  I finally could take no more and let him go – but am finding it challenging and am amazed at how hard it seems to be for me to love myself?

    I am at least glad that I have awareness now that I have issues with my own worth.  It sounds so ridiculous to write this?  I just want to have a healthy regard for myself and a dignity to know my worth.  I am trying to heal the wounds of childhood -that I am not really sure what they are – but so be it.

    How are you?  I hope you are keeping well and enjoying the majestic colors of autumn…with love and best wishes from the UK.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    The wounds of childhood that can follow us through life come from not feeling loved and from trying to please one or both parents.  The best healing comes from actively reparenting yourself.

    Learn to love yourself by putting pictures of you as a child all around your living space.  Then, every time you look at that little person in the picture—that little you—tell her “I love you, kid!”

    You can begin to love yourself right away for your strength to persevere in your quest for a healthy sense of self-worth as well as your openness to healing. I commend you for making the choice to understand negative influences and then work on changing them. That takes courage.

    I care about you and am your CD = chosen dad.  Keep me updated on your progress—that is really important to me.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Which Way

    Let today’s post from my 365 Prescriptions for the Soul entitled “Which Way” be your guide through the gloriously beautiful month of October.  Open your mind to all possibilities when you are at a crossroads in life.  Only then can you take advantage of all the creativity within you.

    Teach this lesson in life to others in your life—take the lead and help both yourself and others reach the goal of having the best interpersonal communication possible.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    How do we know which road to take?  Taking the easy path is not always the appropriate choice.  The key is to have an open mind and not judge the path you end up on as right or wrong, but to wait to see where it takes you.  Also, never admit defeat but look at other ways of getting to the point you hope to reach.  When you keep your mind open, things can happen that were not planned but that end up being to your benefit. You may find that what you thought was the wrong place introduces you to things and people that make it the right place.

    Do not fear deviating from the normal way and being open to unusual paths.  If you go a certain way because of what others recommend, you may find yourself on the wrong path.  Do not let others tell you where to go and how to get there.  Follow your own path.

    Remember, no matter which way you choose to go, ultimately it will always be the right way.

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    Q & A with Bernie – September 25, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Dr. Siegel,

    I wrote to you in June about my nephew who is battling Glioblastoma Multiforme Stage 4.  He finished a year at university and, during a routine MRI, the doctors found it had gone into his spine.  He had surgery and had 3 small tumors removed near the base of his spine.

    Three weeks later, they did an MRI to see if he had healed enough to start radiation and he had 4 small tumors, and one tumor almost an inch on his spine.  So he had radiation and then it moved up to his brain – 2 small tumors – so they did a drip every 2 weeks to try to hold that at bay. He also started using cannabis oil.

    Throughout the treatments, he maintained a great attitude and had many cheerleaders and prayers!

    The result is the last MRI showed no tumors on the spine and the brain tumors remained the same size.  So he has started chemo to take care of them.  He is a very positive, strong 20 year- old with a great deal of support.

    Thank you for all your help and encouraging words!!!!  You are such an inspiration to all!!  I hope all is well with you and your family.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Thank you for keeping me informed about your nephew’s journey. Help him stay surrounded by positive people and eliminate negative influences.

    Tell him to love his life and body so that his mind-body-and spirit gets the message that his intention is to heal and to live.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie,

    The Berlin Cancer Support Group meets once a month (see attached flyer). Last week the group met for the second time and I was asked to share how the 12 steps of AA are helping me to cope with cancer (see attached spreadsheet). Maybe the attachments are useful for your work for which I feel grateful.

    All the best from Berlin/Germany…

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, and the themes which help are in the Bible, too.  They are ages old and about survival.

    Thanks for sharing information about your program. Here is contact information from your flyer for any readers who may be interested in learning more about your adaptation of the AA 12-step approach to living with cancer.

    Cancer Support Group in English @Berliner Krebsgesellschaft e.V.Robert-Koch-Platz 7, 10115 Berlin

    Gruppenraum – 2nd floor, right side, Room #212

    Please register with Colleen Flowers at 0175-477 28 96 or at www.tinyurl.com/Berlin-Cancer-Meetup-English.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    You Are a Stradivarius

    Dear Everybody,

    If you were given a Rolls Royce, a Stradivarius, a precious jewel, or something lse of great value, how would you take care of it? i think the answer is obvious. You would guard it and care for it to maintain its value.

    You are given a life to care for – your own. How do you take care of it? I think the answer is that you do not care for it as well as you do your other treasures. Every life is a beautiful instrument and work of art. Learn to see it and play it with all your talent. But most of all, treat your life with the respect it deserves.

    You may not have been treated like a treasured instrument, but it is never too late to polish your finish and tune your strings. When you are in tune with the preciousness of life, teach others what you have learned

    You are a Stradivarius – play from your heartstrings!

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Focusing on Life and Truth

    My camera has an automatic focus. I point at something, and it focuses on it. It doesn’t argue with me, turn away, go out of focus, or refuse to see what is right before it.

    People, on the other hand, often refuse to focus on what matters. We become so intent on our own needs, and what we want that we can’t see what is right in front of us. Life becomes way out of focus. What makes us, as humans, begin truly to focus?  Sometimes it takes coming face-to-face with the reality that we will not live forever. Then we start to appreciate what is before us rather than what we want to see.

    Cameras see all that exists through one lens. People need to expand their view and see things clearly without first running through their various filters and colored lenses. My advice is to throw away your filters and stay focused on life and truth.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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