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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new audio download, Daily Meditations for Optimal Health. Selected for Dr. Bernie Siegel’s Prescriptions for Living best-selling series, these recordings are a combination of guided imagery, auto-hypnosis and meditations that relieve stress, open the heart, and deeply heal your mind, body and spirit. Learn more.     Available now. Order your copy online today at:  Hay House.
    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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    The group meets on the first Friday of every month from 2:00 PM - 3:30 PM Eastern Time. You may access the teleconference by dialing into the conferencing service at: 1-857-232-0158. Then enter Conference code 379552 and you will be connected to the group.

    This free phone support group will bring people together who are experiencing health challenges and create a community devoted to emotional, physical and spiritual wellness. With the help of Dr. Bernie Siegel’s sage wisdom, patients can find hope and healing as they embark on their path forward. By participating in this group, you may learn to embrace each and every challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.

    HOST: Dr. Bernie Siegel is a writer and retired pediatric and general surgeon who writes and teaches about mind-body medicine and the relationship between the patient and the healing process. He is internationally known for his best-selling book, “Love, Medicine and Miracles”. In 1978 he founded Exceptional Cancer Patients, a specific form of individual and group therapy utilizing patient’s drawings, dreams, images and feelings. ECaP helped to facilitate personal lifestyle changes and personal empowerment of the individual’s life. He has been a global pioneer in improving and humanizing medical education and medical care.

    CO HOST: Dr. Tobi Mansfield is a medical psychologist specializing in helping patients with chronic illness and is the author of “When God Talks Back: Madness or Mysticism?”. She is the director of the Miami Wellness Center in Miami, Florida and a member of the Royal Society of Medicine in London, England.

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    If you had 15 minutes to live what would you do?

    Making phone calls doesn't make my list.
    Eating a quart of chocolate ice cream does.
    So find your chocolate ice cream whatever that may be.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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  • Pet Therapy

    Were it only to learn benevolence to humankind, we should be merciful to other creatures.
    ~ Plutarch

    I take our dog, Furphy, everywhere I go.  He is a little Lhasa apso and gets all the hellos and greetings when we are out.

    In my therapy groups, he always knows when the sessions are over and lets me now it’s time to take him for a walk.  I point this out to the group members, hoping they will follow his example and learn to speak up when they have needs.

    In one group, a man was sharing a tragic story about his cancer when the room was filled with the sound of someone snoring.  The speaker was very upset that someone would be so uncaring as to fall asleep while he was speaking about his anguish.  When the listeners pointed to Furphy, the snoring culprit, the speaker and everyone in the room burst into laughter.

    Furphy is an excellent therapist and knows when a good laugh is needed or when a little attention is necessary.  God grant that some day we will be as kind to animals as they are to us.

    Adopt a pet or two and experience pet therapy every day.

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    The Greatest Love of All – Why the Relationship with Yourself is the Most Important

    To love one’s self is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
    ~ Oscar Wilde

    Good morning, Lovely You!

    I mentioned last week that I have recently had work done in my house. I finally built my upstairs sanctuary. It is a project I have been dreaming about for years and now I finally get to live inside my dream. It is an amazing feeling.

    I bring up this remodeling project because I was reminded of something very important during the build. You see, even though I was constructing something upstairs in my attic space, what determined what we could and couldn’t do upstairs was how well the foundation had been built downstairs.

    To me, this is so incredibly symbolic of how we build the relationships in our lives. Unless the relationship you have with yourself is strong, your other relationships may crumble.

    The reality is, how you treat yourself is how you will treat others. Looking at it this way, the most selfless thing you can do is be self-centered. Which, by the way, has NOTHING to do with being selfish!

    Only until you can truly love yourself can you truly love others.

    What Does Self-Love Really Mean?

    If you were to do a search for self-love, chances are Google would return a bunch of articles that include self-care tips. While many of the suggestions, such as taking a hot bath, getting a massage, or relaxing with your favorite tea and music mean well, self-love goes far beyond pampering yourself every once in a while.

    So then what is self-love really about?

    Loving yourself is about showing yourself true kindness, respect and compassion. Imagine how you would treat a small child in need or a stray dog who came to you for help. Most people would instantly melt and treat these beings with great care, love and gentleness.

    But how do you treat yourself when you are in need? Do you chastise yourself for even having needs? Do you constantly put everyone else’s needs first and neglect your own?

    How do you talk to yourself on a daily basis? Do you give yourself praise for your accomplishments? Or do you only pay attention to your mistakes and shortcomings?

    Are you constantly comparing yourself to others and, on most occasions (if not all), finding that you just don’t measure up?

    At the end of the day, self-love is about loving ALL of you, even the darkest, ugliest parts that only YOU know exist. It’s not about thinking you’re the greatest thing since sliced bread; it’s recognizing that you aren’t and being 100% okay with that.

    Why is Self Love the Most Important Love There Is?

    Simply put, how you view yourself is how you view your external world. People who think poorly of themselves often judge others harshly.

    Also, we are responsible for teaching others how we should be treated. If you want to surround yourself with people who treat you with kindness, compassion and respect, then you’ll need to know you are worthy of kindness, compassion and respect.

    I think so much of the cruelty, greed and corruption in this world stems from the fact that most human beings have a very low self-worth. We are all born as perfect, beautiful creatures, but then the world gets to us and we become corrupt and forget that we have been created in the image of the creator, who is PURE love and ONLY love.

    Steps to Building a Loving Relationship with Yourself

    As we approach Valentine’s Day and take the time to celebrate the love we feel for others, I invite you to begin the journey toward loving yourself more.

    Here are some ways you can get started.

    Much love,
    Prue

    https://www.prueplace.com

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    Q & A with Bernie – February 10, 2020

    Dear Everybody,

    I have corresponded with someone for over a year now about dreams and what they may mean.  I’ve included my latest question from your fellow reader here, and added more information from a post on my website about interpreting dreams.

    Question for Bernie:

    I dreamed that my friend said to me that, besides other things, he loves triangles—a pretty strange dream and I am not sure what it really means.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    All shapes mean something.  I don’t know about triangles, but the sharp changes in directions and lines, unlike a circle where going around is smooth, may mean that you are experiencing change which often brings a sense of going in different directions with it, with or without a sense of confusion.  It can be exhilarating and does not mean necessarily that the movement in your life is negative—it could be very positive.

    For more on how to interpret dreams, click this link: “Making the Invisible Visiblehow dreams and drawings reveal the unknown and invisible.”
    http://berniesiegelmd.com/2011/06/making-the-invisible-visible-how-dreams-and-drawings-reveal-the-unknown-and-invisible/

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    LOVE Really is the Best Medicine

    Good morning, lovely you!

    I can’t believe it is February already! I can see spring from where I stand and am happy to report that so far, this winter has been pretty mild and tolerable. Knock on wood.

    Have you been noticing all the little hearts going up on store windows and new candy displays being set up? Love and chocolate are definitely in the air. While I’ve never been a diehard fan of Valentine’s Day, I have always been a fan of love. And I’ve become more of a fan with age, and the more I’ve realized the health ramifications of love.

    You see, love not only makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside, there are actual science-backed health benefits of feeling love.

    Here are just some of them:

    Love Boosts Your Over Health

    A report by the Health and Human Services Department suggests that couples who have a loving, healthy relationship tend to be healthier and have less illnesses. While the researchers haven’t pinpointed exactly what causes this phenomena, they speculate that partners in love, real love, tend to encourage each other to take care of themselves, eat right, exercise, meditate, etc.

    Love Lowers Your Blood Pressure

    According to a study published in the Annals of Behavioural Medicine, couples who were in a happy and loving relationship had lower blood pressure than those who were single. However, couples in an unhappy relationship tended to have higher blood pressure levels, just like their single counterparts. So the key here really is LOVE.

    Love Beats Stress

    Do you know why it feels so good to be in love with someone? Because when we are, our bodies release feel-good hormones that have the ability to kick our stress to the curb. In addition, these good hormones can lower the levels of bad hormones released in our bodies when we are stressed – hormones like cortisol, that can absolutely wreak havoc on our health.

    Love Fights Depression and Anxiety

    Those feel good hormones are also a great natural remedy against depression and anxiety. In fact, in a study published in the Journal of Neuroscience, scientists took brain scans of people in love as well as those in long-term committed relationships. What they found was that being in love lit up a person’s dopamine-reward area in the brain. This is the same area that lights up when consuming addictive substances like cocaine or even winning the lottery. So being in love makes us feel REALLY good, and that can go along way if we’ve been feeling sad, depressed or anxious.

    Love Promotes Healing

    It has been scientifically proven that love can heal. In a study published in the Archives of General Psychiatry, scientists found that wounds heal faster in couples who are in a stable and loving relationship. The reverse was also found to be true. Those individuals in a hostile relationship had slower wound healing capacity.

    Scientists believe this phenomenon is due to the pro-inflammatory cytokinens released when a person was sad, lonely or the subject of abuse. But the presence of this compound was found to be much lower in people who were in love.

    There are Different Ways to Be in Love

    Though the studies I’ve cited looked at the health benefits of love in coupledom, you can reap these benefits in your life even if you are single. Because we don’t need a romantic partner to feel in love. We can feel “in love” with our friends, family, pets and even ourselves. We can, if we’re lucky, feel totally and completely in love with our life.

    So this month I want you not to focus on love so much in a romantic way, but find ways you can feel intense love every day of your life, no matter what your relationship status is.

    Every day look for the things in your life that you’re grateful for. Find ways you can show the people in your life how much you love and appreciate them.

    Being in love means being in a state of love – you can be a living state of love, which is a divine expression of the creator.

    Start with yourself. Find ways to love yourself more, because if you don’t truly love yourself, you can’t truly love another.

    The more filled with love you are for yourself, the more love you have to give. The more you have to give, the more love you receive. And the beautiful cycle repeats itself. This is really being in a state of constant love. Watch your health and life improve when this happens!

    This February, commit to becoming more loving in all that you do and see. You will be amazed how your life and health will transform.

    Much love,
    Prue

    Https://www.pruesplace.com

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    Too Late?

    You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.
    ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

    A famous painting portrays a dying child, his parents, and the doctor in a one-room cabin. When I’ve asked other doctors a multiple-choice question about what the painting should be named, many say “Too Late.”  Why? Because they see the doctor, chin in hand, thinking about what he could possibly do that might help the child, who is beyond help.  The parents are seen grieving in the background.

    But it isn’t too late, because the doctor could be helping the parents to survive their loss. Most of us are poorly prepared for loss. We deny it.  As children, we are often not allowed to attend funerals or discuss death.  Our pets die and are immediately replaced.

    We need to remember that it is never too late to help one another, and never too late to deal with our feelings.  Burying our losses in the ground or in our bodies doesn’t do the trick.  So help the living and don’t save the flowers for the grave.

    As long as there is someone who needs your help, it is never too late to reach out.

    Peace,
    - Bernie

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    Get Out of Your Own Way!

    Good morning lovely you.

    Get Out of Your Own Way!

    We may genuinely want to heal, but we subconsciously create drama and circumstances in our lives that keep us stuck in an unhealthy relationship with ourselves.

    When you find yourself facing obstacles that appear to be blocking you from healing it is important not to become cynical and discouraged.

    We can get stuck and it seems to happen for no reason so we worry and wonder why.

    There are circumstances in our subconscious preventing us from moving forward, and it can be so discouraging. I remember saying to myself sometimes when I was sick. “Why do I feel so out of control and stuck when I know better.” I knew I needed to eat well, meditate and work on forgiving and healing from within but sometimes I would get stuck and avoid doing the things I needed to do. What is that all about?

    Maybe you bought an amazing healing program that you know you must start and have never even looked at the first video. Are you making all the excuses under the sun?

    Why do we get stuck when we know we have to take better care of ourselves. If a cancer diagnosis won’t make us wake up and get our health back on track. What will?

    It is truly amazing how often we can get in our own way. Most of the time without even being aware that we are doing so. Also, even though you know you want to heal there seems to be reasons that pop up from nowhere and block us or stop us from our own efforts.

    It is because we don’t believe in ourselves that we have the power to heal?

    Is it because we are afraid to start and fail?

    Are we blocked because it seems overwhelming and too difficult to do?

    What is it that stops you from starting?

    If you know that you are standing in your own way of receiving true healing you had better wake up lovely you. Your time is now.

    This is what I do when I feel stuck and can’t move forward in a way I know will be the right way for me to heal something in my life or accomplish a goal:

    Take a piece of paper out and write down all the stuff that is in the way. All the thoughts in your head that stop you. Keep writing them down until you can’t think of another word. Recognize all of your thoughts and feelings. Read over everything on that piece of paper and then let it go. Set your intention to release the stuff holding you back and burn the pages (In a safe place, of course!) or cut them up into tiny pieces and throw them out. Now you are ready to start again with a new set of intentions. A clean slate. A new canvas.

    The fear is gone. The negative thoughts are gone. You are free to start again.

    You have instructed your subconscious mind to let it go. You are in charge now and on your way to true healing.

    No blame, No shame.

    At Prue’s Place we are healing our lives one day at a time!

    Love and light on your path today.
    Prue.

    https://www.pruesplace.com

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    Q & A with Bernie – January 27, 2020

    Question for Bernie

    Hi. I’m fighting with drug resistance. Does your explanation of mind control in your book also work for my case too?  I have had parasites (lice and scabies) but the current medications, Permethrin and Ivermectin do not work. I have tried many other drugs including Lindane and Malathion, but they do not kill 100%, and I still have some remaining.

    I need help. I’m telling myself “I’m parasite free” every day, but I still have them. How much would the mind control be effective? If you were in my shoes, what would you do? I think the parasites developed resistance toward medications now, and I don’t have new medications to try anymore. Literally, I’m in misery.

    Bernie’s Answer

    I would visualize the treatment eliminating the parasites every few hours every day. When you believe the opposite, it does have a negative impact.

    Also, check with a Naturopathic physician, if you haven’t already, for other natural therapies that might be helpful to you. You need to believe in order to help yourself.  Look at other emotional issues in your life that might be suppressing your immune function.

    Think in terms of getting healthy and then focusing on prevention with the best diet you can have, less stress through meditation and other ways that work for you, and especially keeping your self-talk positive.  That is a big challenge for everybody, but it really is necessary to keep your immune system at its most effective.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Surprises

    Even if it is a garden you know by heart there are twelve months in the year
    and every month means a different garden, and the discovery of things unexpected all the rest of the year.

    ~ Margery Fish

    On my desk sits a calendar with the statement of the day. “No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.” We are all unique and full of surprises.  Life is not a bowl of cherries, but a basket of fruit.  Who knows what will come next and who you will be from one day to the next.  We need to live with a sense of surprise and be aware of the uniqueness of each day and not be surprised by that.

    I always call myself a multiple personality, but I am still surprised, at times, by who shows up.  Usually whoever shows up is fun, though there are times I have to make apologies for his behavior.  The problem is our minds and how they handle surprises.  Surprises and unexpected occurrences are all a part of life.  You are not in charge, so sit back and enjoy.

    If you are a multiple personality, like most of us, someone in there knows how to handle the next surprise you encounter.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Are YOU a Hateful Monster Sometimes?

    Good morning lovely you!

    I am sipping my steaming cup of tea, and little Zuzu is sound asleep next to me. It’s a grey morning here in New England, but hearing the birds chirping and little Zuzu purring makes the day that much brighter. All would seem well in my world.

    Last week we talked about how to release toxic people from your life by cutting the spiritual energy cord, which will free you and your toxic relationships. Today we are going to discuss how hating people and holding on to guilt and hate will only cause you more harm and sickness.

    Right outside my door is a world that I don’t control. It is a world that can be painful and scary at times. If I were to let myself take a peek at today’s news headlines, I’m sure the peaceful feeling in my home would slip away from me.

    Yes, indeed, life in the “real” world can be fraught with all kinds of unpleasantness. And when something unpleasant is done to us, it’s easy for us to hold hate in our heart for the people who “done us wrong.”

    Sure, we may eventually be able to forgive people for hurting us. At least, that’s what we tell ourselves. Good people forgive others, and since we are a good person, we do our best to let the pain and anger go.

    This sounds great on paper, but letting go of anger and pain is not that easy. We think we have forgiven our coworker for stabbing us in the back to get the promotion or our mother for constantly criticizing us and making us feel bad about ourselves. But then we see them or have an interaction with them, and that anger, resentment, and hatred begin to permeate our heart. It was there all along, and we just fooled ourselves into thinking it was gone.

    People hurt us; it’s just a fact of life. Some may mean to do it, and others may not, but the result is the same – the pain usually turns into hate.

    Why You Must Stop Hating Those Who Have Hurt You

    When we allow ourselves to feel hatred toward another, we can eventually become very dark. We all have darkness and the capacity to be negative, but we also have a choice to be of the dark or of the light.

    Choosing to roll around in your anger and resentment toward someone else, feeling totally justified in doing so, is a recipe for turning into something that you hate – a MONSTER.

    Have you ever got so angry and full of rage or hatred that you felt like a different person? Like your mild-mannered Dr. Jekyll turned into a shockingly evil Mr. Hyde?

    Hate begets more hate, and soon you become a thing created out of hate, and you begin to hate yourself. So you don’t just hate other people, the hatred is turned around on yourself for hating them.

    Holding onto hatred also causes us to impact the people we love negatively. We end up taking our anger and resentment out on the wrong people, and they can, in turn, begin to feel anger and resentment toward us. And the vicious cycle continues until the entire world is made up of outraged and resentful people, creating news headlines that are not very uplifting.

    When you let go of hate, you heal your life and the health of the planet. You become a Love Warrior, and that is the best Cancer Self-Help and Self-Care.

    Here are some ways you can begin to love the people you hate:

    Recognize Their Humanity

    Generally speaking, the people on this planet who do the most atrocious acts are the ones who are in the most pain themselves and need compassion. The truth is, we are all beautiful, damaged goods in our own way and we generally do the best we can do. Instead of hating people who have hurt you, try to recognize that they are in their own pain.

    Find the Lesson

    Imagine someone gives you a wrapped present. When you unwrap it, you see it is an old, crushed milk carton. “What the hell kind of a gift is this,” you’d think, pretty p*ssed. You might even feel resentful.

    But then suppose you decided to keep looking and saw they put a $100 bill in the old crushed milk carton as your real present. Well, you’d be pretty pleased.

    Life often gives us the most meaningful gifts inside the crappiest packaging. You have to look.

    Focus on Loving Yourself More Than Hating Others

    You only have so much energy and hours in the day. You can either spend that time and energy on hating other people or showing yourself kindness and love. When you focus on loving yourself, you begin to innately understand that hatred in all forms is damaging to your body, soul, and mind.

    Kill them with kindness

    My dear friend, Dr. Bernie Siegel, told me he went up to a violent young man in public and said this statement to him. “I want you to know I love you and I’m sorry your parents don’t.” The young man stopped screaming turned and walked away.

    What happens when you are kind and loving toward someone you have perceived as “doing you wrong?” You tell your subconscious mind through action that they haven’t done anything hateful toward you. Most of us tend to show generosity and kindness and love toward those we love and have positive feelings about. By showing loving actions toward those we “hate” – we rewire our hearts and brains into actually loving them.

    Life isn’t always easy, and there will always be times when other people hurt us. The key is not to take it so personally all of the time. Most people go through life completely unaware of how their actions affect other people.

    By following these tips and becoming a Love Warrior, you can begin to love those you hate and start healing your life. This is all part of preventing illness and cancer self-help and self-care.

    Sending you love and light this beautiful Thursday morning.

    Prue.

    https://www.pruesplace.com

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    Have Faith

    Know that what is impenetrable to us really exists, manifesting itself as the highest
    wisdom and the most radiant beauty.

    ~ Albert Einstein

    A few years ago I traveled by ship, as part of a tour, to see the Alaskan wilderness.  During one of the day trips to view a glacier, a sudden snowstorm limited my visibility.  I became separated from my guide and the group.  When the squall ceased, I could see no one, and there was no response to my calls.

    Alone on the cold barren mountainside I began to fear for my life.  Then I remembered what I tell everyone at workshops: “When you don’t know what to do, say a prayer.”  I prayed for God to save me, but nothing happened.

    As it grew dark I began to give up hope until I saw someone approaching.  I waved and attracted his attention.  It was an Eskimo returning from a seal hunt.  He tucked me into his sled and brought me back to civilization and my group.  I felt God had deserted me until I realized who had sent the Eskimo.

    You never know how God will answer your prayers. Have faith; the answer may even come in the form of an Eskimo.

    Peace,
    -Bernie

    Know that what is impenetrable to us
    really exists, manifesting itself as the highest
    wisdom and the most radiant beauty.

    ~ ALBERT EINSTEIN

    A few years ago I traveled by ship, as part of a tour, to see the Alaskan wilderness. During one of the day trips to view a glacier, a sudden snowstorm limited my visibility. I became separated from my guide and the group. When the squall ceased, I could see no one, and there was no response to my calls.

    Alone on the cold barren mountainside I began to fear for my life. Then I remembered what I tell everyone at workshops: “When you don’t know what to do, say a prayer.” I prayed for God to save me, but nothing happened.

    As it grew dark I began to give up hope until I saw someone approaching. I waved and attracted his attention. It was an Eskimo returning from a seal hunt. He tucked me into his sled and brought me back to civilization and my group. I felt God had deserted me until I realized who had sent the Eskimo.

    Soulution of the Day

    You never know how God will answer your prayers.
    Have faith; the answer may even come in the form of an Eskimo.

    Know that what is impenetrable to us
    really exists, manifesting itself as the highest
    wisdom and the most radiant beauty.

    ~ ALBERT EINSTEIN

    A few years ago I traveled by ship, as part of a tour, to see the Alaskan wilderness.  During one of the day trips to view a glacier, a sudden snowstorm limited my visibility.  I became separated from my guide and the group.  When the squall ceased, I could see no one, and there was no response to my calls.

    Alone on the cold barren mountainside I began to fear for my life.  Then I remembered what I tell everyone at workshops: “When you don’t know what to do, say a prayer.”  I prayed for God to save me, but nothing happened.

    As it grew dark I began to give up hope until I saw someone approaching.  I waved and attracted his attention.  It was an Eskimo returning from a seal hunt.  He tucked me into his sled and brought me back to civilization and my group.  I felt God had deserted me until I realized who had sent the Eskimo.

    Soulution of the Day

    You never know how God will answer your prayers.
    Have faith; the answer may even come in the form of an Eskimo.

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