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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing. This long-awaited follow-up to his bestseller Love, Medicine & Miracles updates Dr. Siegel’s insights into the healing power of drawing, dreams, and intuition. The use of drawing in Bernie’s practice has helped patients discover the physical, psychological, and emotional aspects of healing and guided them toward the best choices and options for their particular situation. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #149 – Stir the Pot

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.

    The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones
    is the way one uses them.

    - Anonymous

    When you experience uncomfortable feelings such as growing unrest, sadness, irritation, or depression, do not label them as bad feelings. Your feelings are signs that something is stirring inside of you and seeking a response.

    Our feelings aid and protect us. They help us to know what is going on inside of us and warn us to respond when there is danger. They are our directors and teachers.

    Feelings that bubble to the surface have a purpose. When you remove your judgment of them and follow their directions, they will reveal the underlying issue so that it can be resolved.

    Soulution of the Day

    When you stop resisting your feelings, you will see that they offer you a source of wisdom and an opportunity for nourishment and growth.

    - Bernie

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    Most medical school applications of today state that the candidate for admission is interested in and fascinated by the human body. The problem with seeking medical help in the U.S. is that people come in with their mind, body, and spiritual beliefs, but this complete human package is immediately divided and categorized leaving patients feeling frustrated and often like they have not been heard or examined properly. This sense of estrangement disturbs physicians who have been given a great deal of medical information, but not a medical education. An education teaches you how to deal with and care for the human experience of illness and not just determine and treat a diagnosis. There is little more demoralizing for a patient in the exam room than to have the doctor staring at the computer screen while asking questions—no eye contact, no reassuring facial expression, and ultimately no understanding at all of how that individual patient might not fit perfectly into the information category the physician learned in medical school.

    A medical education should not just teach the skill of communication, but emphasize it because doctors are communicating with people in distress or who are coping with a major disease or disorder, and being indifferent to the emotional state of the patient or using outright uncaring words have the very real risk of a seriously negative outcome of care. When we choose the vocabulary we use as doctors to talk with patients about their concerns, our words should help heal and not harm patients, just as we heal and do not wound when using a scalpel. One of our sons showed me how wordswordswords become swordswordswords when the words we choose exclude the feelings of the patient who is listening.  Whether the patient has come in for a routine check-up, or with a devastating diagnosis, the words a doctor (or other healthcare provider) uses in conversation with those patients directly impact the outcome of care.  Patients are individuals, and individuals are not statistics.  They are unique unto themselves.

    What I have found is that information does not change people. The obese, alcoholics, smokers, and non-compliant patients all know their behavior is not good for them. So why do they do it? It gets back to a lack of messages from parents, teachers, clergy, and other authority figures of love for the individual. Ugly ducklings rarely find out on their own that they are swans. In one study a loved child had one fourth the illness rate of an unloved child by middle age. I see pet owners who have lung cancer or asthma smoke outdoors to save their beloved pets. Killing yourself is not questioned. Nine hundred years ago Maimonides stated, “People would suffer fewer illnesses if they took as good care of themselves as they do their animals.” Times haven’t changed.

    I have found that approximately 20% of patients are what I call “respants” which is word I created meaning Responsible Participants who are interested in learning survival behavior. What I do for the other 80% is love them and ask them to make return appointments which they can either keep or not.  For those who do keep their appointments, I find that with time, and my love, some begin to realize that they are worth loving and caring for and so begin to care for, and about, themselves. In a sense they realize they are swans too, and are divine children. Then the information I present to them, in the context of their uniqueness as a person, and choosing words that heal and do not harm, can be accessed and used by patients to improve their health and survival outcomes.

    As I said, I can’t sell them on the idea of being a respant, or cite better statistical outcomes if they follow my treatment plan because some patients simply aren’t interested in working at living. They have grown up hearing there is something wrong with them. So guilt, shame, and blame are what they are dealing with, and if you ask them to fight for their lives, in their minds, it is just one more thing they won’t get right—sad but true. I often ask people to answer questions, join support groups, and draw pictures of themselves, their treatment, and the disease. That eliminates many patients because they do not see themselves as artists and so again, in their minds, all they see is that “they could do it wrong.”  And there are some patients who simply don’t want to work at surviving for reasons that do not come forth in talking with the doctor.

    If I can inspire them and breathe life into them, then changes will occur. If my attempts to inspire them work, they wake up to life and are able to articulate what makes them happy. This is not about self-interest, but about paying attention to their bodies and what feels good for them to do. Studies show that on Monday mornings there are more heart attacks, suicides, and illnesses because of how we feel about our meaningless lives, often including the work we don’t want to do but feel we must do in order to make a living. I help people reclaim their lives and be reborn so that every cell in their body is given a message about the joys of life each day. Have I seen people expected to die in months cured of their disease by living in this new, positive way? Yes. Do I recommend it as the sole treatment? No, because I know how hard it is to “live in your heart and have magic happen” and to “leave all your troubles to God.”

    I do, however, point out the benefits of love to patients and those around them.  If patients are unwilling let me help them try a new perspective that could improve their health and outcome of their disease or disorder, I still let their families know that they, as observers of their loved one’s illness, must not let their own natural worry and despair deepen, but instead start practicing loving themselves, staying strong, and prioritize taking care of themselves. Why? Because there is something called Siegel’s sign in physical diagnosis. When a family walks into the doctor’s office and everyone looks sick except one person, you can be sure the one who looks well is the one with the illness, and he/she is using it to manipulate everyone else in the family. In these cases, I always guarantee the patient a cure on their next visit. They never come back to my office again, instead arranging future meetings with physicians in the ER or other safe places where a cure is not available.  Take a good look at how you were parented—did you get the attention you craved from your mother and/or father only when you were sick?  Often this is the root of developing into a patient who will not get better because that attention remains a priority for the rest of his/her life.

    Remember this: The medical system in the U.S. is disease-oriented.  There are some efforts to promote wellness and prevention of illness, but our system remains overwhelmingly disease-oriented.  Many patients express guilt for wasting the doctor’s time if they come in and don’t have anything wrong with them.  Instead, they should be congratulated by the doctor for staying well.  The doctor should ask what they are doing to stay in good health and continue to emphasize that all through the time a patient comes to that doctor’s practice.  This also makes it much more likely that if a disease or disorder does begin to develop, it can be caught early.

    What do respants do that represents survival behavior? They take action, seek wisdom, perform meditation and visual imagery—and have spiritual support. Spiritual support may come from a religion, but some religions are based on tenets that create guilt and lead to feelings that one deserves God’s punishment. Disease is no different than when one loses one’s car keys. You don’t say “God wants me to walk home.” You look for your keys. When you are ill, it is not a punishment from God.  I believe that spiritual beliefs give you the tools to be a respant if you have lost your health, and support you on your healing journey to restore wellness.

    Respants live a life with meaning, express their feelings including appropriate anger, ask for help when it is needed, learn to say no to things they do not want to do, make their own decisions about treatment that is offered, bring play and humor into their lives, deal with feelings of depression and learn from them, and do not live a “role,” but instead, by looking deep within live as their authentic self for the rest of their lives. In essence, life becomes a labor pain in which we give birth to our authentic self, and because we are respants, fully participating in making the choices as mentioned above, the delivery is less painful and comes with fewer complications and side effects, if any.

    About 20 years ago, I met Susan Duffy who had developed scleroderma and was not given much time to live. She was an enraged lady over her illness and her difficult life. Her parents and sister were alcoholics who committed suicide and were angry at her for not following their destructive path. When I met her, all I could do was listen, and her story brought to my mind a quote from the inspirational Helen Keller who said, “Deafness is darker by far than blindness.” When Susan emptied out her rage in 1987, she wrote me a letter telling me that she had let love into her prison and it had touched every negative item in it, transforming them all into something meaningful. She is alive today and, as member of our support group, was one of my teachers. Susan’s love extends outward with her desire to share the comprehensive and wonderful List for Survivors that she created from experience and knowledge which you will find at the end of this article.

    Eight years ago my phone rang and the caller asked me for Jack Kevorkian’s home number. I learned from the caller, Becky, why she wanted to die. First, I told Becky that she is a child of God, and then I asked her to send me some drawings. I don’t tell people “don’t smoke or commit suicide.” I say, “I love you and God loves you,” then I ask, “Why hurt a child of God?” Becky and I have worked on her pain, and she is alive today. I volunteered to be her CD or Chosen Dad, and she allowed me that privilege. What is my role as her CD? It is to love her no matter what she does. I don’t have to like her behavior while I continue to love her. Telling someone that you don’t like their behavior or actions is very different than saying that there is something wrong the person him/or herself…and withdrawing your love.

    Becky has helped me with others who are considering suicide.  Her help motivates me all the more to call for medical students today to be comprehensively educated about the issue of suicide.  They need to be taught that being severe and judgmental is cruel and certainly not the path to saving a life. They need to learn how to say to patients in a suicidal crisis that they, as a physician, may not like the action contemplated by the patient, but that doesn’t change the fact that they care deeply about the patient as a fellow human being and that they, as a physician, will do all in their power to assemble the resources to support the patient as that patient learns to understand and love themselves.

    When I ask medical students to draw themselves as doctors, the majority of the drawings are totally depersonalizing. Some show no human beings—only computers, instruments, diplomas, and books. But one drawing from a medical student that is in my collection shows a young man kneeling and handing the patient a tissue.  When Becky saw that one, her comment was that when someone responds to her needs, she regains the will to live. And that response may be as simple as finding a tissue for someone who needs one.

    I do not criticize people for their choices, but try and help them find what is right for them. In doing so, I help them find new options and paths to healing their lives, and hopefully their illnesses as well. Death is not a failure and it is inevitable. I remind people to change the focus from one of trying to avoid death to one of enjoying life to the fullest. I believe this perspective leads to happiness whether you are ill or not.  If you are ill and spend all of your time trying to avoid dying to the exclusion of loving yourself and your life just as it is, you will end up being very angry when you do fully realize that life has a 100% mortality rate.  But whether you are in good health or coping with a debilitating disorder or disease, when you enjoy life and love your body just as it is, the bonus is a longer healthier life.

    We each need to find our path and way to heal. The messages are age-old and can be found in the literature of great spiritual leaders, the U.S. Marines training manual, the writings of children with cancer, the incredible and inspirational stories patients have related to me and permitted me to share in my books, and other resources from Laughter Workshops to Meditation Classes and support groups.

    Two things are key elements on a healing journey. One is being inspired by the knowledge of your genuine self and being surrounded by positive people in your life who love and believe in you. The second is one’s behavior in which you disassociate your newly discovered genuine self from the “old self” and begin to behave as if you are the person you want to be. You rehearse, practice, and find coaches to help guide you. That is the role I see myself in today—as a coach for the inspired respant who wants to learn and practice survival behavior.

    How will you know a good coach(s) for you when you meet them?

    Ask these questions:

    1. “I am taking you to dinner—what do you want?”
    2. “How would you introduce yourself to God?”
    3. “What should I hang in the lobby of public buildings with a sign above it that says,

    Come and See How Beautiful and Meaningful Life Is?”

    The correct answers are:

    1. The response should be within 5-10 seconds demonstrating they are in touch with their     feelings and not thinking about fat content, cost, or what you want.
    2. The introduction is that you and God don’t need an introduction you are a child of God.
    3. You don’t hang a picture of a baby, rainbow, or flower—but a mirror.

    As promised, here is Susan’s invaluable list for survivors—those who practice survival behaviors.  You might want to post it someplace you can see it many times every day.


    1. Trust yourself enough to become your own teacher.
    2. Cultivate your own sense of being and spirituality.
    3. Trust in your own instincts, intuitions and leadings.
    4. Learn to flow with your own ideas concerning searching and seeking answers.
    5. Choose to have faith in yourself and your place in life.
    6. Discipline yourself to love the positive more than the negative.
    7. Let go of everything that you can’t change.
    8. Change yourself through self-acceptance and love then what happens around you won’t matter.
    9. Learn to forgive the unforgivable and you will become free.
    10. Forgive God, others and yourself.
    11. Allow yourself to feel anger, pain, joy and sadness.
    12. Express your feelings and don’t feel so alone.
    13. Everything changes.
    14. Look to other people for guidance and inspiration but not answers.
    15. Other people don’t have all the answers they are learning too.
    16. Nothing so bad ever happened to you that didn’t happen to someone else.
    17. No one is unique we all suffer the same joys and pains of life.
    18. Our problems may come in different shapes and sizes but the solutions are the same.
    19. Embrace life it will hug you back.
    20. Don’t have a need to control.
    21. Allow the order of things to take place. God knows what He is doing.
    22. Enjoy the peace knowing someone bigger and stronger is in charge.
    23. Don’t make too many schedules you will go crazy.
    24. You can’t fix everything; you are not the creator.
    25. Have faith and trust in the things you don’t understand. Life will become easier.
    26. Nothing ever happens to you that is not for your good in the bigness of things.
    27. Deal with grief, pain and loss when they happen and you won’t have to relive them.
    28. Don’t make too many plans for the future life may step in.
    29. Love is the greatest healer there is.
    30. The less you need someone the more you can love them.
    31. Rest when you need to no one else can do it for you.
    32. Never stop learning you will become bored.
    33. Behind every cloud of adversity is a silver lining. Have the courage and faith to find it.
    34. Good and bad events are the pieces of the puzzle that make life complete.
    35. God heals. Doctors get paid for it.
    36. Letting go of those we love is the greatest gift of love we can give them.
    37. Live each day as if it were your last. You will have a lot of great days.
    38. Don’t live a life of confusion you will get lost.
    39. Love unconditionally those unable to love back and you will be set free.
    40. Pray, meditate, sit quietly, take walks.
    41. Look up to something bigger than you are, life, love, God.
    42. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Then move on life is too short.
    43. Live a life of prayer and you can get through anything.
    44. Learn to laugh at yourself and you will make friends with yourself.
    45. Know you are a child of God.
    46. God loves you even when you think no one else does.
    47. Be your own person in all things.
    48. When you know yourself other people will know you too.
    49. Learn to accept criticism, advice and suggestions. They can help you.
    50. Be humble when you receive praise.
    51. Don’t get stuck following one religion, group or person move forward.
    52. Life holds the wisdom, answers and solutions that any person could ever need their life.
    53. Have the courage to explore.
    54. Open to life. Feel it, experience it, live it and you will learn to fly (transcend).

    I know you join me in sending many thanks to Susan.  And let me end with a very positive action each and every one of you can take to turn your life around and commit to being mostly positive. Learn to live in the moment as children and animals do. You don’t have to have children and animals to do this—just go to a park, a good friend’s house, or out with a sibling who has kids or grandkids and/or pets and observe the joy these little humans and pets have playing right in the moment without thoughts about the past or the future.  Your immune system will thank you for the respite from negativity and respond by getting stronger.

    To put it in the words of one of my patients, “I want to be dying forever.” If we live with a sense of time that allows for healthy humor, observing the beauty all around us and within us, and giving and receiving love, we learn how to spend our time wisely—and that it is everything, because ultimately what is immortal is not our body, but our love.

    Blessings to all,

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    Living Up to Loving your Partners “in Sickness and in Health…”

    The quality of the rest of your life and your partner’s life will be what you want it to be—the decisions are yours and your partner’s to make. If you both agree that you want  is “to let the sun shine in” on a shared positive perspective, you will each strengthen your immune systems;  when Life’s inevitable pop quizzes come up, you will both be ready to get an “A.”

    If you are a married couple, at some point along the way, you will hear everyone from your mother-in-law (usually on the eve of your wedding day), to a therapist who is helping you through Couple’s Therapy sometime later in your marriage, say, “…good marriages take a lot of work.” I prefer to say that “…along the way, spouses have chances to grow even closer as they create positive solutions to the challenges that come to us all.”  I don’t want to make being married sound like a 9-to-5 job by describing it as work.

    Here are some suggestions for keeping the romance and heartfelt understanding in your marriage instead of likening marriage to the workplace.

    • Get at least one guided imagery CD and use it together. Focus on what each of you loves      about life—and then do those things.
    • Help him love his body—it will respond favorably through the strengthening of his immune system. Tell him not to think of his body or any part of it as “the enemy.” Self-induced healing does occur when your body knows you love it and you love your life.
    • Get at least one meditation CD (if neither of you have learned meditation techniques, get a “beginner’s” CD and then move on to a more advanced CD if you wish).
    • Learn the art of massage using healing aromas; you can also talk about beautiful visions of life that you both share like the waves on an ocean beach, the towering trees of the forest, etc., while you are massaging neck, shoulders, legs, and feet.
    • I believe we sleep to rest and communicate with that part of our brain that is responsible for this intuitive wisdom and our survival behavior so make sure your husband’s sleep (and you own) is restorative—before sleep (nap or before bedtime) have a ritual of saying some affirmations about gratitude and loving your life together as it is; you can also say affirmations that any dreams that come during sleep will be beautiful, positive, and/or answers to your questions and concerns.
    • When we get tired of our bodies, we turn the switch off and “fall up.” But for now, you can create a quality of life that is loving, positive, and beautiful.
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    Q & A with Bernie – October 6, 2014

    Question for Bernie

    Twenty-four years ago you saved my life through your book Love, Medicine and Miracles. I was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer which had spread to my lymph nodes. I had a one-year-old baby and four other daughters to live for. Your book gave me the hope and the tools to survive. You also helped my best friend and soul mate fight off her leukemia for six years longer than the six months she was given to live. That was in the mid-1990s.

    In 2006, I was re-diagnosed, this time with liver and lung mets. I refused chemo and surgery and started visualizing fervently while looking for my cure, which, by now, I knew would present itself. It did appear in the form of a brilliant nutritionist and an oncologist prepared to work with a “crazy woman” who arrived for every appointment dressed to kill, no matter what my mood was.

    I was put on Faslodex, a hormone-blocking injection which, with diet, lifestyle changes, and visualizations, have rendered me cancer-free for five years. I stopped having the injection after I out-lived their longest surviving patient, and I’m still cancer-free after three years without the injection.

    Three months ago a young colleague of mine was diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer with mets in all organs and bones. I sent her your book and your CD of visualizations, and I told her to search for her cure. She fired the team who told her to get into Hospice care and that she would not make it through this summer.  Last week she “passed” her PET/CT scan with flying colors with no mets in any organs and bone. Healing was detected where the bone mets had been. She ascribes her cure to your powerful words and healing voice, as well as to your advice that I passed on about taking charge of her cure.

    Thank you again for uncovering the secret for so many cancer patients. If only the rest of the medical profession would listen more closely to your words about empowering patients with hope and choices rather than just reading off result after bone-chilling result, condemning them to a man-made death sentence, which is what my personal trainer, Nick, has had to endure this week. He has been diagnosed with stage III colon cancer and has been given nothing but bad news. Enter Dr. Bernie Siegel (via your servant, me) and Nick just text messaged me that he has been visualizing 10x a day for the past two days and feels far more positive about his outcomes.

    I love you with all my heart and will continue to give your book to those around me who need it.  My motto is L′ Chaim which translates perfectly from the Hebrew to “To Life,” and I live that motto thanks to you.  L′ Chaim, my remote healer.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Thank you for writing.  As I have said many times, I feel like the fortunate one—I get to be the Coach for motivated people like you, which is a great gift to me.


    Question for Bernie

    I am from Israel and I have AML leukemia that is not responding to treatment. I am eating only fruits and vegetables, exercising, and meditating. What can I be missing? I am at the moment in the City of Hope in California for the treatment.

    I have a seven-year-old girl and three-month-old baby boy. I know I can get better but don’t seem to find the way to do so. I read your book, and I am writing a book also.
    Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Love your life and body and live for yourself, not just because you are a mother.  Be your own child and take care of yourself lovingly just as you would do for your children. Don’t fight a war against the disease.  You must care for yourself with love so that your body gets the message that you want to LIVE.

    Another thing to do is add visual imagery to your day.  Visualize your body healing and getting healthier every day.  Keep meditating, too, as you have been.  Some people find it easier to meditate for shorter periods of time two or three times a day instead of for one long session.

    Make a list of negative words that describe how you experience having this disease.  Include words about the physical experience but also how the disease may be limiting your life.  Then think about any people or situations in your life that could be described using any of the same negative words.  To eliminate the disease, you also must eliminate the things from your life (people, situations, etc.) that cause stress because that takes away from your immune system’s ability to concentrate all of its efforts on eliminating the leukemia from your body.


    Question for Bernie

    In 1988, when I was 40, both of parents came to live with me. The same year my only son joined the army at the age of 18. So, as an untreated, self-centered alcoholic, my drinking went out of control.

    My mother had Wegener’s granulomatosis, and father had congestive heart failure after having open heart surgery in 1970 and 1972. Birdcage valves replaced his aorta and mitral valve. I tried a support group for Wegener’s and went to bookstores to find a book on how to help my parents. Love, Medicine and Miracles was a tape I found.  I felt hope when I heard it.

    I was trying to get my mother to stop smoking because of her disease, to no avail. In your tape, I remembered you talked about the woman who drove up to your office wearing no seat belt and smoking asking you to help her, but she was not helping herself.

    Dad died at 65 and mom at 66, two months apart, in 1989.  I then began my spiral as an alcoholic and hit my bottom six months later.  I will celebrate 25 years of sobriety in November of this year.  Five years after sobriety I was able to give up my cigarettes, so it has been 20 years of being nicotine free.  My younger sister died at age 41 of lung cancer 20 years ago, and my father had small cell lung cancer when he died of heart failure.

    I developed small cell lung cancer and did radiation and chemo, ending up on a feeding tube. I remembered the boy you talked about on the Love, Medicine and Miracles tape who had the brain tumor, and how he “blew it up” and it went away. Eleven years ago, I tried that visual image of blowing up my tumor and was cured, much to my doctor’s amazement.

    I asked God for at least 20 more years of life to make sure my three granddaughters were all grown up.  I know He was probably laughing, but I asked.

    I just wanted to thank you for being you and touching my life.  God Bless you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    You showed up for practice and rehearsed until it got done.  I am happy to be your coach.

    Bless you,

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    Q & A with Bernie – September 29, 2014

    Question for Bernie

    I have been dealing with ulcerative colitis since 1998 which was diagnosed when I was four months pregnant with my son. I’ve tried conventional medicine without success and am now being treated alternatively, but still not seeing a lot of improvement.

    This is making it difficult to have hope that the cause will be found and treated successfully.  Any insight you can give me is greatly appreciated.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Medication-wise, take the herb boswellia. It can do the trick.  To get help with the dosage and other support, go to Life Extension’s website at www.lef.org.  I also recommend taking curcumin which is an excellent and powerful natural anti-inflammatory.  You need to get it in capsule form and Life Extension can help you with that if you have trouble finding it.

    As we know from the Mind-Body-Spirit Connection, expressing internalized anger is very important.  Think about the words you would use to express what you are experiencing due to the colitis.  Then eliminate all other things (people, situations, etc.) in your life that you would use any of those same negative words to describe.

    Instead of asking why you got the disease, ask yourself “What am I supposed to learn from this challenge?”

    Make a serious effort to learn to meditate.  Even if you meditate for only a few minutes at a time two or three times a day, it will do wonders by giving your body the message that you love it even with the colitis.  Your immune system will respond positively to that message and get stronger to help you control the colitis.

    Think of a positive mantra (affirmation) you like and say it throughout the day.  An example would be something like “Every day I am getting healthier and stronger.”  If you need help getting ideas just google keywords like “positive affirmations” or “positive mantras.”


    Question for Bernie

    I have a small cancerous breast tumor.  My lymph nodes are clear yet the surgeon wants to remove some them.  My question is: Why does the surgeon want to remove them if they are cancer free?

    Bernie’s Answer

    I need more information to answer your question.  How did they determine they are cancer free?

    On the other hand, it is your life and body and your decision.  Decide on the basis of what feels right for you versus trying not to die. When I use the phrase trying not to die, I am describing a decision based on doing everything in the way of treatment available in mainstream medicine.

    Have a dream tonight and see what it tells you.  Tell me the answer to this question:  what color would your lymph nodes be if you had to draw them?


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    Q & A with Bernie – September 22, 2014

    Question for Bernie:

    I just had my first R-CHOP today for aggressive diffuse B cell non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma, and was hoping to find ways to enhance the effectiveness of the chemo. I am not finding info easily. I have been advised to take L-glutamine, do ozone ear insufflation and steam, colloidal and gold /silver homeopathy.

    I want to see if there are any ways to increase the absorption of my chemo by the lymphoma. I don’t want to counteract the chemo, so I know for instance that large doses of Vitamin C will actually reduce the amount of chemo that will hit the cancer.

    Thanks for any advice.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Cancer cells thrive on sugar, so reduce the sugar content in your diet.  Read labels carefully as often there is “hidden” sugar in products.  Learn the different chemical names for sugar so you recognize them when you see them on a label or list of ingredients.

    Ask your doctor to prescribe the medication metformin for you and take two a day.

    Reduce your calorie intake by ½, and fast three days before the day of chemo, and one day after you get chemo. By doing this, your body will revise its metabolic rate while cancer cells can’t, and so the cancer cells will absorb more of the chemo.

    Also, an herb like curcumin helps, too, as it is a very effective, safe anti-inflammatory.

    See a naturopathic physician to help you with nutrition and supplements.


    Question for Bernie

    I was diagnosed with Stage 3b lung cancer (lung tumor plus lymph node damage). Both of these findings are on the right side of chest.

    I was made aware of the book entitled Getting Well Again, by O. Carl Simonton M.D., and reading his books introduced me to your work. Since then, I have read several of your books and have committed myself to follow your philosophy. That is, I’ve resolved to be positive and practice imagery and visualization to have my mind/body help me to fight against this diagnosis.

    I felt I was doing quite well with this approach, however last week, after I had completed six days of both chemo and radiation, my radiation oncologist met with me.  She immediately asked me how I was doing, and I immediately said, in a very upbeat manner, that I was “doing fine.” Unfortunately her immediate response was, “Well it is early yet,” then went on to tell me how difficult it was to design the radiation pattern because of the tumor position and lymph node position.

    She also went on to tell me that when we complete the remaining 24 radiation treatments plus six chemo sessions, we will be re-doing the CAT scan, MRI, etc. to see if the cancer has gone to my brain. My point is that I came into the meeting with her in a positive manner feeling that I was handling the situation well, and I was optimistic that the results would be good after the treatment. However within a span of about 10 minutes, she had me go from being very optimistic to visualizing that the cancer is in my brain. I left that meeting feeling very discouraged and disheartened.

    I meet again with her next week, and I strongly feel I need to tell her how she made me feel. Can you give me some advice on how I can approach the subject with her?  I would like to have my meeting with her end with a HUG; however I sense she is very technically competent but not so sensitive to feelings.

    Thanking you in advance for your advice.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Yes, it is important for you to tell her how her words made you feel, but don’t do it in a criticizing style, implying that it was wrong for her to tell you about the plan and the potential for brain metastasis. Just tell her how you felt because of her words.  If she apologizes, it is okay to stick with her.  But, if she makes excuses or blames you, get another doctor to replace her.

    The best doctors are criticized by patients, nurses, and families; these doctors accept that criticism because they want to improve and learn from their mistakes.  Those who don’t listen or make excuses choose to not hear criticism because they don’t accept it.  They don’t understand that the criticism is like a coach who tries to help you be a better person and perform better at what you do.  You can mention that, too, or show her my email.


    Question for Bernie

    Thank you so much for providing me a real answer to my specific question.

    Are you suggesting a water-only fast three days before and one day after? I have to take prednisone the day after chemo so fasting that day would be difficult. Any suggestions?

    Is there a specific diet you recommend? I was looking for a way to use glucose to throw the cancer off balance. This sounds brilliant.

    I am fortunate to be under the care of a doctor who has prescribed a homeopathic and Ayurveda program for me. I believe my doctor and Dr. Weil have collaborated in the past. I will return to my doctor after my treatments for a full Panchakarma and rejuvenation program.

    Thank you again for your generosity.

    Bernie’s Answer

    I’m not recommending a water-only fast, but cut calories to around 900 for the day.  A

    Vegetarian diet good one to follow.

    Remember, do not do it to avoid dying.  Do it to enjoy the journey of life.  In heaven the bitterest people are the vegetarians, the meditating, and the joggers who wish they had spent more time having fun and trying a few different foods.

    And speaking of humor, be sure to add a lot of that to your healing journey—every day give your immune system a big boost with several good laughs.


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    Q & A with Bernie – September 15, 2014

    Question for Bernie

    Thank YOU so very much for your exceptional words of wisdom that I heard today on Talk #1 of the 2nd Annual International Cure to Cancer Summit.  I agree 1,000% with what you say.

    In 2011 I was diagnosed with a mass in my R breast and chose to go the entire holistic route from diagnosis onward which did not include surgery, chemo, or radiation.  Long story short, sonograms confirm I ungrew one of the tumors and the other shrank to what may be scar tissue, but I will not have a scan to prove that.  I don’t want or need the radiation.

    I’ve been a researcher and writer in holistic health, and at 73 years of age, I wrote the book, A Cancer Answer, Holistic BREAST Cancer Management, which is available on Amazon.com.  Chapter 13 is titled Empowering Yourself to Wellness, which I think you would enjoy immensely.  I thought perhaps you would like to know about it.

    Thank you for what you do; you are blessing to humankind.

    Bernie’s Answer

    You are the blessing.  I just help you bring it forth.

    Thank you for your work in helping so many fortunate people, and yes, I am very happy to know about your book.  I’m sure some readers of this column on my website will be thrilled to know about your book, too.


    Question for Bernie

    Firstly, I just want to say I’m a huge fan of yours. Your books and videos have given me great focus, direction, and inspiration over the past six years of dealing with cancer.  I was diagnosed with breast cancer in July 2008 just as I felt my life was falling into place nicely with a move into my own flat, a new job, and a new relationship with a man who was open to having children.  At the age of 36 I was keen to fulfill this long held wish.

    I went through a process with Mistletoe therapy as I was completely distraught at the thought of chemo taking away my fertility.  This didn’t shrink the breast tumor and eventually went on to have the hospital treatment from our NHS (I’m from the UK).  I also had an IVF cycle and had five embryos frozen.  A few years later I got the go ahead to try and conceive as I was still desperate for a child.  One of the frozen embryos resulted in my daughter, Asha, who is now nearly 18 months and a complete miracle gift from God.

    However, I had to have a C-section at her birth, and at this time it was noted that my ovaries looked enlarged, so they did a biopsy and a few weeks later told me the cancer had spread to my ovaries. After further scans, some bones showed metastasis and later, another tumor was diagnosed in my left breast (the right was where the original tumor was removed with reconstruction).  I am taking hormone treatment as the cancer is hormone positive.

    I have been avoiding chemo as they say it’s not possible to cure the cancer and this would be difficult to deal with, along with caring for a small child.  I am also seeing a homeopath and energetic medicine healer, and have recently gone through a course of IV vitamin C.  I have done a lot of mind-body therapy, and am eating a good diet with low intake of sugar and dairy products and recommended supplements.

    I have just ordered your new book The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing. I am a trained art therapist and am interested in this approach.  I would also love to attend an ECaP group and wonder if you know of anything similar in the UK.  Any advice or insights for me would be very gratefully received.  Please accept my very best wishes.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Visualize what you desire and give your body a “I want to live!” message by loving your life and body.  Live for yourself and not your daughter so you are not living a role, but instead you are living an authentic life. Create harmony and rhythm through transforming yourself and your life, and by being authentic.

    Bristol Cancer Center did “stuff” similar to ECaP years ago, so contact them.  I haven’t been to the UK in a while so I don’t have anyone to recommend at this time.  Use energy healing and seek out a naturopathic physician to help with supplements. The curcumin herb has anti-cancer properties as does the medication metformin.  I’m glad you are staying away from sugar.

    Self-induced healing can occur—you can be cured.  It does happen which is why I keep doing what I am doing.


    Question for Bernie

    I am a 32-year-old BRCA2 carrier diagnosed 18 months ago with triple negative breast cancer (big tumor and 2 lymph nodes). All through the treatments I felt like a warrior. I asked too many questions, visited many doctors, as well as reading and researching my disease inside and out, all the time taking control and full responsibility of the decisions taken.

    My oncologist strongly recommended I do a lumpectomy (after chemo) “because there is a very likely chance of metastasis within the first three years, so it would be unnecessary at the moment. In three years when we will see that everything is OK then I recommend a double mastectomy.” I sought a more personal and hopeful opinion and found it with my surgeon. Finally, regardless of my oncologist’s recommendation, I decided I will not “sit around and wait” for the cancer to come back.

    I am continuing now with the rest of my life! I got a double mastectomy and during chemo I imagined the tumor slowly melting and it did! Today, a year after treatment I feel good, but still have anxiety episodes when I have different aches and pains. A two week back pain turns into sleepless nights and I start imagining my funeral; it completely devastates me to think that I won’t see my two-year-old grow up.

    I am a person who loves life, has a great sense of humor, and an ability to overcome trauma. But still, the fear of recurrence is strong and agonizing.  I am an art therapist and eager to buy your new book.  Your advice will be appreciated.

    Bernie’s Answer

    First, work on loving yourself, your body, and your life.  Do not live for someone else like your child.  Find your authentic self through meditation, visualization, or some type of therapy—like your own specialty of art therapy.

    Live your authentic life and not a role.  Be who you truly are.  That is the greatest gift you can give to your child.  Relationships keep us alive because of the chemistry they create within us.

    But life is about more than that.

    Only love is immortal.  Let that be your comfort when you think of your child who will never forget your love because it IS everlasting. Let your two-year-old be your therapist.  Learn from that little one how to live just in the moment with joy.  Children and pets—especially dogs—are the best examples of how to live in the moment and enjoy each day to the fullest.  Just watch them at play.

    When I thought one of our kids had a year or so to live due to a bone tumor, and apparently he noticed my less than composed behavior, my little seven-year-old said to me, “Dad, you are handling this poorly,” and he made it clear that all of our five kids were trying to have a nice day and I wanted them depressed in their rooms.

    He turned out to have a rare benign tumor, but he taught me a lot before his surgery.

    Imagine your desires and not your fears.


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    Q & A with Bernie – September 8, 2014

    Question for Bernie

    My 47-year-old husband was diagnosed with Stage V non-smokers lung cancer 26 months ago.

    As much as I believe in many of the things you talk about, I wonder how our family is supposed to continue looking at this cancer as a blessing when our medical options are running out and we are so scared of the future?

    Bernie’s Answer

    Ask yourselves what you are to learn individually and as a family from this experience, and it will help change it from curse into a blessing.  This is a wonderful chance for those in the family to develop a positive perspective together and then surround your husband with positivity which will strengthen his immune system.

    As a family, resolve to help your husband learn to love his life and his body as it is now—not think of his body as the enemy.  He can then begin to envision healing the body his loves.   Our bodies respond to things we say and do which reinforce reverence for our amazing bodies and minds.  Conversely, if everyone around your husband feels like a victim too, the atmosphere is anything but positive—which interferes with healing in a major way.

    One thing spouses and families learn from going on the cancer journey with their loved one is the ability to see how rich and wonderful every moment really is in our lives.  Just watch little children and dogs at play—they are our “Professors of Positivity.”  They teach us how to live in the moment.  So learn together how to avoid having regrets about life by opening to the wonder of what each moment gives us.

    My father’s dad died when he was only 12, and he said it was one of the best things that happened because it taught him what was important about life. My dad was a very special guy.

    So, seize each day and live it fully with hope—not in a fearful future created by our often overactive, worrying minds.  Heal your lives and find peace, and amazing things happen.

    Have faith,

    Question for Bernie

    Thank you for sharing your love with the world in so many forms! My loving mom first introduced me to you when your words helped my family through the loss of my brother and many other dear people in my youth.

    I again was blessed by meeting you at a workshop in Athens OH when I was in Osteopathic med school. I am now a family doc that tries to show love to all my patients, and I am grateful to say I love my job because of it!

    Since finishing residency I have been divorced, diagnosed with cervical cancer (truly believed I was cured), remarried to an amazing man, diagnosed with a recurrence in February, undergone chemotherapy, and continued to work, all while raising my beautiful now five-year-old son.

    My amazing oncologist has said my cancer was undetectable at my last PET scan (thank God!) but has told me it is very likely to recur. My faith tells me God is in control of my healing, but my medical side is doubtful. I am eating vegan, praying, trying to be positive, sharing and accepting the love of my amazing family and patients. Can you help me find peace in marrying doubt and faith? Thank you in advance!

    Bernie’s Answer

    First create a life you love and love your body—clearly you already have done much of this, but think carefully of ways in which you can show your body love so that it gets the unmistakable message from you of “I WANT TO LIVE.”

    Do some visualization in which you are acting as if you are the person you want to be. That changes your chemistry, too.  See yourself surrounded by the positive wonder of life.  I’m sure you see that in your little son because children and pets (especially dogs) live in the moment.

    Think of things from long ago or just yesterday that made you laugh out loud.  Let yourself relive that time and laugh out loud again several times every day. You may even want to find a Laughter Workshop in your area—or even start one.  Humor is a great healer, but it also can prevent health problems, keeping your immune system strong.  Some people like to use mantras, so you may want to try that, too.

    Become a love warrior where love is your weapon.  You are aware of our potential and you are capable of achieving it.  The great Russian author Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn discusses the term self-induced healing in his book CANCER WARD. He says this is not a spontaneous remission, and he is right.

    The symbol the author uses is a rainbow colored butterfly with the rainbow symbolizing your life in order and harmony, and the butterfly symbolizing transformation.  Change is transformation and most of us resist it to some degree, but we are wasting precious time and energy trying to change a fundamental part of the human design.

    What you need to do in your life now is to make the changes to accommodate maximum healing…changes that restore the sense of rhythm and harmony you have temporarily lost as you struggle to choose between doubt and faith.  You really need not make a choice since both doubt and faith are part of the potential we all have to live fully.

    Find your “chocolate ice cream” and do what makes you lose track of time.  Faith is easy—just look at life and believe.

    Survival is built into all living things.  That’s why bacteria alter their genes and become resistant to antibiotics.

    Last but not least, I want you to do a couple of things for me so I can help reinforce what I’ve told you here.

    1. Tell me the words which describe your cancer experience (examples can be from how you feel physically to how you feel emotionally).
    2. Using a box of crayons so that you have all the colors you may need available, draw a picture of yourself, your disease, treatment, and immune system eliminating the cancer and e-mail it to me for interpretation.
    3. Also draw an outdoor scene and e-mail that to me along with the picture in #2 above.

    Believe and it will happen.  Leave your troubles to God.  One woman I know did that and her cancer disappeared.


    Question for Bernie

    I listened to you on the Cancer Summit and was so intrigued. I have always believed in the power of thoughts and feelings and their connection to our body. A true test of that came seven months ago when my 7-year-old daughter was diagnosed with Stage 4 Wilm’s tumor kidney cancer. It was very hard at times to maintain a positive attitude, but with God’s help we did, and she did, and I know she benefited greatly from it. She would look to me for my reaction and then mirror it. We saw small miracles happen all along the way.

    She is a very strong little girl and has an amazing spirit, contagious spunk, and constant smile, even after going through so much pain with the biopsies and the blahs of six months of chemo treatments. But each day is a new day to her, as if nothing bad had ever happened. She is inspiring!

    She finished chemo last week, and had previous surgery to remove the kidney and tumor. The chemo removed the spot on her lung quickly, and she has no known remaining cancer. However, the doctor’s protocol is to do six days of full abdomen radiation because of the potential “spillage.”

    I have prayed, searched my soul, given the outcome to God, sought advice and treatment from a naturopathic oncologist, and I truly feel in MY heart that radiation is not for her. But it is not MY body. Can a mother have a connection to her child when it comes to this? I don’t know how to get the message from her as to what her body wants since she is so young. She draws a lot. It is her favorite thing to do, in fact. Her drawings are always happy with smiles and family or friends. Do I need to ask her to specifically draw about the situation of her radiation in order to see her specific answer on that?

    It is a heavy burden to make decisions for someone else’s life, especially someone so young. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

    Bernie’s Answer

    I have two things to tell you about that might help.  The first one is about when I thought our seven-year-old son had bone cancer and a short life ahead.  He said to me, “Dad, can I talk to you for a minute?”  Of course I responded, “Yes, what is it?”  Well, my seven-year-old proceeded to tell me—these are his words—“Dad, you’re handling this poorly.”

    He turned out to have a rare benign tumor, but he and your daughter are great teachers about enjoying the day.

    Yes, you can get a full box of crayons and ask your daughter to draw herself getting radiation treatment and email or mail it to me to evaluate.  You have to think clearly about your issue, too.  How will you feel if she does not have radiation therapy and is not cured; if she does have the radiation therapy but experiences side effects, how will you feel?

    With children at her age, you can be “hypnotic” using relabeled vitamin pills or herbs like curcumin and boswellia which reduce inflammation.  The labels you put on the containers say anti-nausea, appetite pills, hair growing, skin protection, etc.  Whatever the doctor says can happen (like nausea for example), the pills treat.  If she does undergo radiation, help her imagine letting the radiation go inside to treat any cancer cells.  Help her decide what she wants to think about that is fun and happy while undergoing radiation.  Keep her positive and not afraid.

    As a pediatric surgeon, I “lied” to kids regularly for their benefit.  There is an article on my website titled “Deceiving People into Health.”  Here is the direct link to it:


    Finally, when she needs blood tests tell her new alcohol sponge numbs the skin so she will not feel the needle.  Again, keep her positive by showing her your love by being positive yourself.

    I hope this helps—and I look forward to her drawing.


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    Q & A with Bernie – August 25, 2014

    Question for Bernie

    I am so grateful I found your website.  You are truly heaven sent!    God bless you for all the people you are helping.  If I may, I would like to ask you some questions.  I would like to ask for some of your wisdom regarding my current diagnosis.  I live in Canada.

    The body was diagnosed in May 2014 with Stage 3, Grade 1 breast cancer in the left breast (with a few swollen lymph nodes under the left arm), that is fueled by the hormone estrogen, and is HER2 positive.  I wasn’t feeling well for many years, and this disease was brought on from loneliness, a broken heart, betrayal, lack of love, no friends, lack of oxygen, lack of fresh air & exercise, and chronic stress.

    Now the Lord is raising me up and I am happy! I have something to live for, and I am going to go through the treatments with love and light in my heart, as I see the treatments as a gift from God.  I will be finishing the 4th cycle of strong chemo drugs next week.  In September, I start a new series of 4 cycles with an aggressive drug to target the HER2 positive factor – Herceptin and Taxol. Herceptin can have an adverse effect on the heart. Once again, I have to trust all will be well and my heart is so strong that nothing will harm it.  I am feeling grateful and blessed that Herceptin is an aggressive drug that will specifically target the aggressive tumor quickly.

    The surgeon wants to shrink the tumor through chemo and radiation, and then go in and either do a lumpectomy or mastectomy. I don’t want any cancer returning.  Do you have any suggestions? She also wants to do a lymph node cleanout, but I don’t want this to hurt the underarm area.

    Would you suggest I envision God’s golden light covering my heart and also all organs, good cells, tissue and see that I have gold speckles in my blood so everything is protected – envision there is God’s healing gold in my blood?  Do you have any other additional suggestions on visualizing? I have been seeing the light of God surrounding and protecting all the good cells, organs, tissues, and blood. I also talk to the cells, and when all treatments are finished, I will visualize the memory of ever having cancer being completely removed from each cell, organ, tissue, and all blood cells.

    God is making changes in my life as I start to rebuild my entire life.  I am alive, happy, and doing well, and trust all organs will be okay and everything will turn out blessed, and I will be healed and restored in the most miraculous of ways.  I also trust my hair will grow back even more beautiful than it was before.

    The good thing is that since my diagnosis, my two sisters are now back in my life.  The diagnosis brought my siblings back together (we hadn’t spoken for years).  As you had suggested in one of your blogs, I am seeing the tumor (and affected lymph nodes) as blocks of ice melting like snow with God’s powerful heat and light.    Is there something I can visualize for the herpes virus disappearing?

    I was always into natural health, herbs, supplements, vitamins, good food and always took care of my body, but I was unaware, though, how the emotions affect the state of the body. I will add that my dear mum passed away at an early age (56) of breast cancer but she died of a broken heart, I believe.

    I see myself being restored in such a way that I am healthier than I’ve ever been before, happy and so blessed, and that I meet a good, genuine man and get married, and all my dreams do come true.  I see myself leading a prosperous abundant, healthy happy life and because I am blessed, I can go on to bless and serve others.  As you mentioned in your Blog, I am taking responsibility for my life and seeing what a gift it is – this diagnosis.  I was dead all those years, but now I can live again and God can raise me up.

    Bernie’s Answer

    I recommend that, to protect the heart and body, you take Coenzyme Q10 and d-ribose.   A company called Life Extension can help you.  Go to their website:  www.lef.org.

    You can even call them for help with supplements.  You can take colostrum for immune support.

    I believe you think too much giving power over yourself to others.  Please remember that no individual or group can have power over your life unless you give it to them.  I would suggest visualizing being entirely independent of others and completely capable of denying power over your life to anyone.

    Energy can heal you too, so find some energy healers and Reiki therapists who might guide you.  Research potential healers before you visit them and only see those who are licensed and have several years of documented experience.

    Visualization works because what you think your body manifests. Picture therapy having no side effects, and learn from your dogs about how to enjoy life in the moment. Also, it is important that you act and behave as if you are the person you want to become and love your life and body.  Finally, add humor to your life.  Just remember something that made you laugh out loud so you can once again laugh out loud.  Do this every few hours.  You can also look for a “laughter workshop” in your area.  Not only do you get the healing effects of humor, but you can meet new friends.


    Question for Bernie

    What is your insight about people suffering from Lupus, especially that affects the kidneys? Can kidneys be healed like the liver and other organs heal—just on their own.

    My daughter is strong and dealing with this condition currently. Kindly direct us to healing naturally and not through strong meds and other harsh procedures.  I really loved your approach after I read about you and followed you on YouTube from Inna Segal book that you forwarded.

    God bless you!
    Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Lupus is an auto immune disease and the people suffering from auto immune diseases often have internalized and unresolved anger.  The body strives for homeostasis which just means balance and normal function of cells, tissue, and organs.

    Ask your daughter about the unresolved anger she has internalized in her life, and then help her to speak out for herself and express the anger now and each time she finds herself holding anger inside in the future.  Also, tell her to stop trying to please everyone else, giving up her life to them.  Others cannot have power over us unless we give it to them.

    Anti-inflammatory herbs like curcumin and boswellia can help. Find a naturopathic physician who can guide you both further in alternative treatments for Lupus.

    Finally, ask her what words describe what it is like to have lupus and then see what else in her life fits the negative words she uses to describe having Lupus.  Any people and situations she can describe using those words need to be eliminated to help her to heal her life and body.


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    Q & A with Bernie – August 18, 2014

    Question for Bernie:

    I have MS and no allopathic medicine has been prescribed for me (to my joy). I keep my eyes and ears open to learn about complementary medicine and different schools of healing. However, whenever I hear of a modality that could help with my recovery, something stops from putting my heart and faith in it.

    Mentally/emotionally/spiritually I withdraw and prefer to stay put and use my illness as a shield to protect me from others’ and my own needs and expectations. Prior to my diagnosis I was an over-functioning daughter, wife, and working mother of two.

    I’m scared of letting my cape of invisibility down. Where can I find the courage?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Accept your mortality and stop wasting your lifetime.  You are the problem, so love yourself and change your thoughts and become the solution. It is very important to get over your hypnotic behavior due to your past

    Repeat a positive mantra every few hours, and it is also really critical that you add humor to your healing.  Many studies have shown that laughter gives the immune system a significant boost, so think of things that made you laugh out loud and keep looking for more humor in life.

    You don’t need an illness for attention and protection.  You have nothing to lose if you become authentic and work at achieving your potential.


    Question for Bernie:

    I’ll keep this brief (something I’m not known for, but here we go)…partly because it’s difficult to articulate how appreciative I am of the work you have done over the last decades. I am not living with an illness, but recently I did lose a job I valued very deeply (I’m an actress on TV in New Zealand and my much-loved character died, which added another layer of loss that people don’t understand because “acting isn’t real.”  Try telling my central nervous system that!

    I bought Love, Medicine and Miracles when I was toying with the idea of becoming a real doctor (my character was one) before I got the news I would no longer be required on the show; little did I know it would come in so handy a few months later.
    Having had a relatively stable middle-class upbringing, I felt guilty for feeling unhappy and depressed in recent years. Reading the chapter on Becoming Exceptional has made me realize that if I alter my perspective slightly, I can see that in some ways that I am a survivor of a kind of Good Girl syndrome and of depression, as well as job loss, and of a weird kind of “death.”

    Your work gives me something to visualize and reach for. I’m reading Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset, at the moment too, and many ideas are dove-tailing very nicely. Esther Hicks and Candace Pert are on my list, too.  In other words, I’m inspired to respond to recent changes in my circumstances with the kind of skills and attributes you and Al Siebert write about, and which a friend of mine must call on right now.  He is 34 and is being treated for colon cancer.

    I’m not even sure I want to be an actress anymore, and I’m letting my interest in the connection between the mind, the body, and the spirit take me into territory I would never have dreamed of going a decade ago. So thank you, from the bottom of the world. :-)
    Yours with best wishes and love!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, acting is what we all do and it takes its toll on our bodies if we play a tragedy, but it enhances life and health when we act in a comedy.

    Do rehearse and practice becoming the person you want to be.  Soon you will be that person, and unlike the acting you are used to, once you are that person, you will never have to get out of character.

    Let go completely of a need to pay attention to the reaction of your “audience” in real life.  Just like the audience in the theater, their reaction is not the issue.  Your approval of your genuine self is the only issue. Help your friend with all your newly discovered knowledge, and keep learning.


    Question for Bernie:

    I am a 53 year old female recently diagnosed with colon cancer.  The cancer metastasized to the liver.  Surgery was performed and a resection to remove the tumor was done.  However, when my surgeon was going to “wedge” some of the tumor cells out of the liver, there were too many.

    I am now going through chemo, with good results.  My CEA after my second treatment dropped from 129 to 14.9.  Sometimes I go through days of agitation and irritation.  I have many side effects from the chemo that are irritating as well.

    But the worst part for me is that I am a workaholic, and I love to cook.  I cannot work right now and it’s really getting to me.  I have NO desire to cook, and while I realize there are people far worse off than I am but I cannot shake my irritations.

    I am not afraid or scared of dying.  I just want my old life back.  I have a wonderful husband who has taken very good care of me; I do not have children, but have a great support group of family and friends.  But still I just feel gloomy at times.  I also have two great dogs, one of which is younger that I have been trying to work with outside each day to motivate myself.

    I think the issue/problem I have is that I do not have any motivation.  I am sad at times and feel frustrated.  Any words or ideas would greatly be welcomed.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    My first recommendation is to start reading my books for more coaching.  You will learn about letting go of the workaholic behavior for the time you need to heal.  When you feel guilt creeping into your thoughts, dispense with it right away.  Resting is an activity in and of itself, and it is critical for healing, so you ARE doing something.  And what you are doing by allowing your body to heal is sending it the message that you intend to LIVE.  Don’t fight the healing process.

    Learn how to live in the moment from your dogs.  Ask WWLD = what would Lassie do?  Lassie and your two dogs know how to enjoy each moment of the day, so copy their optimistic behavior—you will see it if you really look.

    Do what you love to do and what makes you happy—your body will respond.  Stress and the overproduction of cortisol by your immune system will drop away.  Stop judging yourself and love your life and body just as it is each day.  Don’t think about your body as “the enemy” just because of your illness.  Put pictures of yourself around the house and love who you see.  If you are inspired to cook, do it.  If you aren’t, don’t feel bad about it—you will either go back to it once you are fully healed, or you might find you want to do other things.

    Embrace change when it comes your way.  Resisting large and small changes in our lives keeps us from embracing the beauty of life, and life is all about change.  Our job is to choose to welcome all changes as lessons in our life’s journey—gifts of knowledge that can lead us to true happiness.

    Humor is hugely important to good health and definitely to healing, so think about things that made you laugh out loud—or would make you laugh out loud.  Let yourself really enjoy laughing four times every day.

    Motivation is not the problem you are having.  If you begin right now to act like the person you want to be, you will soon be that person.


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    Q & A with Bernie – August 11, 2014

    Question for Bernie

    Your book, Love, Medicine, & Miracles was recommended by my holistic doctor when I learned I tested positive for cancer.  It was the scariest book that I have ever read.  Sometimes I would read it with just one eye open.

    I am going to reference this book in a homemade video which is an interview of me talking about my journey.  I hope to post the interview on the internet. Why?  Because I think it is a must read book.  It set me up to succeed even though it was so scary to read and parts of it still are scary.

    Thank you for taking the time to write this book.  I learned so much and believe it helped me beyond my journey of cancer; allowing me to realize the strengths that I bring to my job.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Thank you my dear.  My recommendation for you: don’t fear change—instead change fear.

    Always remember that you have the potential.  Also, don’t fear failure.  Others put that into you years ago.  We really never fail if we have the courage to try something because we always learn from it, whatever the outcome.


    Question for Bernie

    I wanted to write to let you know that I have only just discovered your work via an interview you recently did with Dr. Larry Dossey. I am a non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma survivor of seven years. Having lost my mother to the same cancer during the middle of my chemo treatment made this was a very difficult time in my life, as you can imagine.

    However, I chose to follow my mother’s courageous outlook on life (and death) and remain positive about my circumstances and future. I had a young family and a devoted husband, as well as a grieving widowed father, to live for and who needed me.

    I started meditating which opened my mind, heart, and spirit to another dimension and to a higher purpose. One night, after a particularly tiring day of hospital visits and treatment, I awoke to hear tiny fluttering noises in my ears and a sense that I was being lifted, very gently, off the bed. To this day, I still don’t fully know what really happened to me that night, but my heart tells me that I met with some beautiful little angels who were letting me know that they were there lifting the weight that I was carrying through my cancer experience.

    Listening to your interviews on Mind Health Matters has been a wonderful discovery, and I will now start reading your books. Thank you, Bernie,  for your life’s work and love; what an inspiring and superb human being you are!

    Bernie’s Answer

    You have inspiration within you and you have acted upon it.  Your positive perspective is inspirational.

    I see myself as the fortunate coach who gets to help you access all of the potential you have.

    Bless you,

    Question for Bernie

    It was over 10 years ago that I attended your lecture in Naples Florida. Afterwards I came up to talk with you about my brother who had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 15 years previously.  You thanked me for sharing, and I recall you saying, “I need to hear stories like this.” So, I am once again sharing his story.

    At the time of my brother’s diagnosis, I was reading Love, Medicine, and Miracles. My brother has never been a “take charge” kind of person but we incorporated your concepts into his recovery.  I was amazed at his assertiveness. He received chemo for 2 ½ years and then called me one day and said, “I can’t do this anymore.”  I said, “Then stop.”

    So here we are over 25 years later with my brother back in the hospital. The diagnosis is a recurrence of his cancer. He weighs just 84 pounds.  The doctors are planning to give him “two shots a day.” I am not in agreement with this treatment, but it is not my decision. His quality of life the past two years has been less than ideal.

    The doctors told my brother that he is one in twenty million people to survive for over 25 years with his initial diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. I am sure the information we gleaned from your book was instrumental in his survival, and I want to thank you for giving us the tools we needed.

    My brother credits me with his recovery, but I know that God gave me you.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Bless you.  You and your brother gave me the privilege of being the coach with motivated team members willing to show up for practice.

    It is hard at this time in know the outcome, but help him to love his life and body so his body knows he still chooses life.

    When making therapy decisions, drawings can help to know what is right.  They show intuitive wisdom and not just thinking.  I recommend my latest book, The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing.  I could look at any drawings your brother—just send them to me via email.


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