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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #122 – Getting to Know You

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.

    ~ Thomas Carlyle, 1795-1881, Scottish Historian and Essayist

    Getting to know yourself better takes courage. It is far easier to hide behind a mask than to see yourself as you really are. There are many who think they are perfect and need not change, who think they’re the center of the universe, and they have a problem.

    If you wish to know yourself and change for the better, you need to accept your inadequacies, fears, weaknesses, mistakes, and more. If you need others present constantly to entertain and distract you, then you are afraid to be still and know yourself.

    So spend some time being totally alone and see how you feel. If you are comfortable, then I would say you are in the process of knowing yourself. Knowing yourself means being willing to be with yourself. Once you can do that, the frantic search for distraction and escape will stop ruling your life and you can choose to fill your life with the things that bring you joy.

    Soulution of the Day

    Even if it feels uncomfortable, go away with yourself
    and spend some time together getting to know yourself.
    You may find that you are great company.

    - Bernie

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  • Parade of Life

    Forget past mistakes.  Forget failures.  Forget everything except what you are going to do now—and do it.
    ~ William Duran

    Life is a parade.  Sometimes we march along and realize we have passed by what we were looking for.  What do we do? Stand there and drop out of the parade?  March on with regrets?  Feel bad about how we looked or that everything we wanted was on the wrong side of the street?  It’s now behind us!  Forget it and march on!

    Sometimes our parade isn’t so pretty, and the crowd isn’t interested in us.  If we drag everything we have passed by with us, we will destroy the present.  We have no future when we live in the past.

    We even talk about past lives.  Whether you believe in them or not, the same principle applies.  If you are living a past life, you are destroying your present one.  In therapy, people come to understand why they are acting the way they are, and how the past is affecting them.  They learn to let go, move on, and not sit in the same classroom year after year. They graduate and commence a new life.

    The past is over unless you rebirth it every day.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Your Holiday Immune Competency Personality Test

    With the Holiday Season in full swing, we can get overwhelmed with the changes in our diets, daily schedules, and emotions.  It should be a time to enjoy, but it can also be a time of stress, and often we don’t pay attention to the internal system that keeps us healthy—our Immune System.  Here is something I have shared with people on my website called The Immune Competent Personality Test, based on Dr. George Solomon’s research, and I encourage you to use it this Holiday Season.  It will help you all year ‘round, too, so put it in your New Year’s resolutions if you plan to make them.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Immune Competency Personality Test

    1. Do I have a sense of meaning in my work, daily, activities, family and relationships?
    2. Am I able to express anger appropriately in defense of myself?
    3. Am I able to ask friends and family for support when I am feeling lonely or troubled?
    4. Am I able to ask friends or family for favors when I need them?
    5. Am I able to say no to someone who asks for a favor if I can’t or don’t feel like doing it?
    6. Do I engage in health related behaviors based on my own self defined needs instead of someone else’s prescriptions or ideas?
    7. Do I have enough play in my life?
    8. Do I find myself depressed for long periods during which time I feel hopeless about ever changing the conditions that cause me to be depressed?
    9. Am I dutifully filling a prescribed role in my life to the detriment of my own needs?

    Answers: If you answer no to the first seven questions and yes to the last two you need attention.


    *Siegel’s three additions:

    1. I am taking you to dinner what do you want?
    2. What would you hold up before an audience to demonstrate the beauty and meaning of life?
    3. How would you introduce yourself to God?

    Answers:

    1. Your response should relate to your feelings not your thinking about what to eat
    2. Mirror
    3. You are a child of God
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    Changes

    It’s never too late to become the person you have always been.
    ~ John Kimbrough (1918-2006)

    When you want to change, you may start by buying new clothes, moving, redecorating, getting a new job, cleaning out your closets, and so on.  But that is not what will change you. Those activities only change aspects of your life.  To change yourself, you must start on the inside.

    I am talk about changing from the inside out. When the essential you is altered, the rest will follow.  An Alcoholics Anonymous slogan is “fake it till you make it.”  They are not talking about dressing differently or trying to fool people but about making the effort to be the person you want to be.

    By faking it and acting like the person you truly want to be, you begin the change, and will start to do the inner work.  When you become different inside, it will reflect on the outside, and all will know and recognize the new you.

    What changes would you like to make? Decide how you want to be, work on those changes,and act as if you are already there.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Upright

    Spiritual strength depends on spiritual posture.
    ~ Rabbi Laibl Wolf

    Why is man’s posture upright while most of the animal world’s posture is horizontal?  Why is our spine built to have us walk on two legs instead of four?  Maybe it is a sign of what our lives should be like.  Perhaps we should be reaching for a higher level living and not just living by instinct, as other animals do.

    Our spine also reminds us of the balance between those at the top and those at the bottom.  This is not about evaluating the importance of an individual life but understanding that we are all important, and that we all rely on each other.  The head cannot go anywhere unless the feet carry it.

    The key is to be aligned in an upright position and work to accomplish higher things with our lives. Become upright in your life, relationships, and work. If you need help, find a spiritual chiropractor.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – November 12, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    I am 12-weeks pregnant and found out this week my baby has a rare birth defect where its liver and maybe other organs are growing in a sac on top of its belly. I have made appointments with specialists, and now want to focus my energy on visualizations to help the organs move back into the body. I had some questions about this, and found your name in a CNN article from 2011 discussing visualizations and healing. Is there any way I could consult with you?

    I have been visualizing the image I saw at the sonogram and the organs then moving into the body and the sac (called an omphalocele) shrinking. I have been trying to visualize it in my actual body (uterus), where the baby is, but it’s actually easier to just picture it in front of my eyes, and I would like to know if it is any less effective if I picture it generally instead of localized.

    And also any other guidance would be greatly appreciated. I have another sonogram on Thursday and I am hoping to dedicate time to this before then, in the hopes of even helping things before then. I know nothing is guaranteed, but I’d like to try. Also, I am wondering if I should be using some kind of relaxation/hypnosis-like technique before the visualizations, and what those would be / if there are any scripts or videos that would help.

    Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    My website has a selection of CDs which can help. Browse through them and pick what feels right for you. The direct link is http://berniesiegelmd.com/products-page/audiobooks-cds/

    Visualize what you desire happening as happening in your body, and make the repairs and changes you desire—and then visualize a normal child being born.

    Do this visualization as often as you want, but at least every couple of hours each day.

    Keep in touch (and his name is Bernie…)

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Mistakes Can Be Good Teachers

    The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.
    ~ John Powell

    What is a mistake? For most of us, saying “I made a mistake” means either we did the wrong thing or we did something incorrectly.  But is doing something wrong the worst outcome?

    Mistakes can be our teachers.  They can redefine our goals and tasks and therefore turn out to be beneficial.  Often we focus on our mistakes and spend energy judging ourselves because of them.  Instead, be patient and await their lessons and teachings, which are not always immediately apparent.

    I have learned a lot from my mistakes and therefore no longer label them “mistakes.”  Sometimes the direction they have sent me in turned out better than the one I would have otherwise gone. So expect to make mistakes.  Say, “I am sorry” when they affect others, and then learn from them.

    Try to see your “mistakes” in a new light today.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – October 29, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    Hello Bernie,

    A long time ago, I contacted you because I did believe in the power of miracles. You blessed me with your words.

    I’m writing again because I just need some advice on how to deal with a husband, man and father that goes away from a son. How can he ever be happy away from his son—any explanation?

    Hope you are okay.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    He has a problem. You and your son need to be love warriors and keep telling him that you love him no matter what he says or does as long as it isn’t physically harmful to you, your son, or your husband himself.

    He needs to hear what he is saying, so just listen without anger, judgement, or interruption so he can hear his own words.  Don’t tell him what to do—just listen without judgement.  Make the sound of “hmm” and keep your focus on him—not on something else—so he knows you are listening to him.

    Love and listen—this will allow your husband to see the whole picture in his own words.  He will know that you support a plan for him to have more father-son time because you let him discover how important that was to him, in his own words.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Night Sky Therapy

    The heavens declare the glory of God.
    ~ Ben Zion

    Last night I walked out of the house with our little dog, Furphy, and looked up in to the night sky.  The cloudless canopy was filled with an endless display of stars and left me feeling grateful and in awe.

    Who knows or cares how it all got there.  The fact is we are here and a part of the awesomeness of the universe. I felt uplifted and at peace after a few moments of gazing upward at the night sky.

    I think we could all save a fortune in therapists if we just went out every evening and looked up at the night sky.  And just think what it would be like if people in the psychiatric wards and those in prison cells viewed the night sky every evening.  I think they would be changed and healed by the exposure to the unexplainable beauty.

    The next time you need therapy, try gazing at the night sky.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Try the Chemotherapy of Love

    Love is the medicine for the sickness of the world; a prescription often given, too rarely taken.
    ~ Dr. Karl Menninger

    We are awesome creations, intricately designed and interacting in incredible ways so that our organism can survive.  Yet we are constantly putting chemicals into our bodies to alter how we feel or to treat some condition we are not happy about.  But what is the greatest therapy available?  What is the most potent chemotherapeutic treatment ever devised?  The answer is love.

    It is the vital ingredient in the treatment of every malady and changes us in ways that no other external treatments can. It enhances our growth and development, lifts our spirits, and turns our fears of rejection into positive motivation.  We literally do not grow and will even die if no one loves or touches us.  Lack of love leads to self-destruction, addictions, and illnesses in every species tested.  Life-sustaining measures may be taken, but without love, the most important ingredient is missing.

    Dose yourselves with love regularly and serve others from your supply. Dispense it with impunity because you cannot overdose, it will never run out, and there are no adverse side effects.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – October 8, 2018

    Here is a three-part question and answer.

    Part One

    Question for Bernie:

    I don’t even know where to begin. There’s so much to say. I guess I will start by asking if you still take patients. I would love to meet you and have you help me transform my life and my body. I am going through a health issue and would love your help. Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I am not seeing patients any longer, but tell me where you are and what issues you are struggling with now.

    Part Two

    Response to Bernie:

    Thank you so much for responding to me. I am so happy for that.

    I am a woman in my mid-twenties. I would say [that] right now is the most emotional and most eye opening time in my life.

    The past seven years of my life, I put myself through a rough time. I was in a relationship that I felt made me lose myself mentally and spiritually. I got pregnant while in that relationship, which made me realize I had someone more important in my life now and that my health was important now too. My son changed everything, and I am so thankful God sent him to me when he did. He is now a toddler.

    I was so proud of myself for finally leaving the relationship, and because I had finally got a place of my own. Life was amazing. One day I started talking to my ex (my son’s dad) more than I should have, and we ended up doing something I knew we shouldn’t have. Long story short, I now have a chronic disease and I feel God has punished me.

    I feel he has left me and hates me. I know God had been trying to keep me away from this guy multiple times in the past and I wouldn’t listen. It took me having a kid to open my eyes and see that the relationship needed to end, and yet after all was said and done, I returned to him and made the biggest mistake that caused me to put my health is danger.

    I try hard to accept it and let it go, but I am having a very hard time doing that. I am now going through a lot of depression and anxiety and fear for my health. It kills me even more that my son sees me this way. I am praying for a healing miracle, but it all seems so far away and impossible for me.

    I know you are big on people’s past and upbringing, so I guess my big thing is that I didn’t have a father growing up. I mean he was there to pay bills, but he was constantly at the bar getting drunk instead of spending time with us. He was also abusive to our mother and didn’t care if we saw it. My mom and dad had five kids just like you and your wife. I have three sisters and one brother. I am glad none of us turned out to be alcoholics like our dad.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    There is always hope

    It is the faith that allows what you hope for a miracle to happen.

    Part Three

    Response to Bernie:

    I understand that, but what else can I do to heal my body? What actions should I take? Is there anything else you can say to me to help me? How do you normally counsel people who don’t live in your state? I need your help, please!!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Love your life and love your body and it will get the message.

    Put up photos around your home of yourself as a child and love that kid every time you pass one. You can heal the wound of your father’s neglect in this way, and begin to build some self-respect that you can safely rely upon when it comes to decisions in your life.

    Let your heart and not your head make up your mind.

    Go to my web site www.berniesiegelmd.com and look up the Immune Competent Personality Test—or just use this link http://berniesiegelmd.com/resources/organizations-websites/immune-competent-personality-test/ to go directly to the page on my website.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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