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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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    Please support my friend Amelia Kinkade with her new charity, ARK ANGEL, which enables her to go into schools in rural Africa and educate children about wildlife conservation so that they don’t grow up to be poachers.

    Amelia Kinkade has written a book called Whispers from the Wild: Listening to Voices from the Animal Kingdom. In this book, she takes us all over the world, revealing the inner thoughts and feelings of a huge variety of animals, including dangerous ones. She shares the advice she has gleaned from working with such a diverse group of animals — words about tenderness, reconnection with nature, life after death, and the possibilities of magical awakenings inside the brains of an ever-evolving human race. Learn More

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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #168 – Breezes, Ripples and Seeds

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    We did not weave the web of life—we are merely a strand in it.
    Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.

    ~ Chief Seattle

    It occurs to me that what we do has the same effect as a butterfly flapping its wings. Now, the small movement of butterfly wings may not seem not seem impressive to you, but it actually alters the world’s air currents and affects us all.

    It is not fair that we cannot go back to earlier times In the same way that dandelion seeds can move in the wind, when you plant your seeds in the earth, you are having an effect on what will grow. Even a small pebble thrown into a pond causes change. The ripples created by your actions will spread out and change the nature of all life.

    Soulution of the Day

    Please remember, you are the one who casts seeds,
    creates breezes, and makes waves,
    by your life, words, and actions.
    So think about what you do; it affects us all and creates
    a future for the world’s children.

    - Bernie

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  • Discovering Our Potential by Expanding Our Circle of Compassion

    Dear Everybody,

    Now to test your wisdom and sense of humor:

    #1 If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child?
    ~ Author Unknown

    #2 My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she stops to breathe.
    ~ Jimmy Durante

    #3 I have never hated a man enough to give his diamonds back.
    ~ Zsa Zsa Gabor

    This week I may be a bit out there but I can’t help but be fascinated by the mystical and spiritual experiences that people have. This comes from my personal experiences as an individual and physician and this sentence says it very well. Sir Arthur Eddington, the famous British astrophysicist put it this way,”Something unknown is doing we don’t know what.” And from evolutionary biologist J.B.S. Haldane, “The universe is not only queerer than we suppose, but queerer than we can suppose.”

    I have learned to accept what I experience even when I cannot explain it. I think it had a lot to do with how I was brought up and we need to help children grow up without being deprived of information. When they understand Einstein’s words, “A human being is part of the whole, called by us ‘Universe,’ and is a part of that whole limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

    When we do this not only are we more likely to save our planet from self destruction but we are also likely to discover our potential and abilities which we had no idea existed. As a physician I have seen the power of the mind to kill or cure based upon an individual’s beliefs. I know that dreams and drawings can provide us with information about the future. That meditation can accomplish amazing things, both physical and psychic. Psychic predictions, distant viewing, non-local consciousness are all examples of our potential and should be explored and considered with open minds.

    On a personal level I have had a near death experience and past life experience and hear voices speaking to me which have been very meaningful in my life. I don’t worry about what those reading this will think of me because I have had the experience and know they are true for me even if I can’t explain the why and wherefore of them. As science opens its mind and the minds of our children the future of exploration and experimentation will not be limited by past beliefs.

    Now in contrast to Einstein’s words and desires think of what you read in the newspaper headlines about the behavior of our species. I recently wrote to the New Haven Register to ask them if they might put one article on the front page which shares some good news and is not about murder, abuse, deception and thievery. We may be the family of man but the family members sure don’t get along with each other. And our consciousness affects the planet and all who reside here.

    When Carl Jung was in Africa during a drought he attempted to talk to the rainmaker but the man avoided Jung and went into a hut. A day later it began to rain and the rainmaker came out of his hut so Jung went over and asked him why he isolated himself. His response was that the drought was due to the unhealthy consciousness of the people and so he avoided them and meditated in isolation so their unhealthy consciousness would not affect him and it always started to rain in a day or two.

    Think of how we are treating each other today based upon our differences and the lack of compassion shown by the behavior of individuals towards their families and co-workers and by nations and what the ultimate affect is upon our lives and consciousness. We need to eliminate indifference, rejection and abuse and replace them with love and compassion if we hope to see our planet survive.

    Just as I see people make this change when they develop a life threatening illness I hope we find a way to change our behavior and become a family for the right reasons rather than because life on this planet is threatened for all of its inhabitants. Think of the potential humanity has if we all focused on healing each other and our common home. When you are in outer space and look at the planet earth you get a very different feeling about it than when you are annoyed by your neighbor’s behavior.

    Just imagine and I have to stop with that word: Imagine all the people living life in peace – Nothing to fight and die for – A brotherhood of man – You may think I’m a dreamer but I’m not the only one – Why don’t you come and join us and the world can live as one. Bless the Beatles for their message and words of wisdom.

    Now back to what I was about to imagine. Just think of all nations, and religions coming together and creating a universal plan for the health and healing of our planet by providing food and water and housing and preventive and therapeutic medical care for all its residents. It also occurs to me that if we had these things money and gold would lose their value and meaning because we all would have what we need. I am a dreamer and do hope it all happens for the right reasons and not because of a disaster and threat to all life on earth.

    Our Creator loves us and hoped we would become complete, as animals are, from the lessons we learned from life. So far we have not lived up to His expectations. We have to learn from water, a sign of God’s love, that we are capable of changing to meet the conditions necessary for survival or of being destructive with the same behavior. Water can change form and become solid, gas or liquid to meet the requirements of life. So I can cure a drought or destroy life with a tsunami.

    As residents of this planet we need to defy the odds the way ice does, by becoming less dense than water, and protecting life rather than becoming cold and more dense as every other liquid does and destroying life. So forgive me for imitating water and being different this week. I am always impressed by all the things we can’t explain or understand but do experience. Life is a miraculous event and obviously not an accident or lucky series of events. So join in and become a co-creator.

    Now in closing let me see what I can ask of you. How about finishing or answering these:
    My luck is so bad that if I bought a cemetery,…………………. War does not determine who is right…………………You live longer when you realize that any time spent……………When Richard Feynman’s mother heard he was named the smartest man in the world she said, “If he is……

    Peace,
    Bernie Siegel, MD

    You see things and say ’Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say ‘Why not?’
    ~ George Bernard Shaw

    Within each of us lies the power of our consent to health and sickness, to riches and poverty, to freedom and slavery. It is we who control these, and not another.
    ~ Richard Bach

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    Q & A with Bernie – December 5, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I would like to get in touch with you about my nephew.  At the end of his first semester of college, he came home not feeling well. After a visit to a medical center and then to UMASS Medical Hospital in Worchester Mass, he was diagnosed with glioblastoma.  My brother had him

    Sent by ambulance to Mass General in Boston where a pediatric neurologist successfully removed the whole tumor, which was wrapped around his right optic nerve.  He received radiation and chemotherapy simultaneously, without side effects.

    My nephew has always had a very positive attitude during this whole illness and has done quite well. He is back at college and is making up the semester he missed. He has a great support system with his high school and college friends and with the whole family, but his positive attitude has remained strong. We have always known that you encourage positive attitudes and this reinforces that. You have had a powerful influence on many people and we thank you for all that you do.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Let me tell you about a medical student I knew whose story sounds like your nephew’s story. The young man I knew had eye symptoms and on evaluation, doctors discovered that he had a glioblastoma.

    He woke up blind after surgery, and they told him he “…would be blind until he died in about a year.” Well, his sight came back—and he got angry at all the books and doctors telling him when he would die. He changed his life, his diet, took the treatments, too, and the colitis he also had disappeared—and the tumor never came back.

    I think if he had become depressed instead of angry, he wouldn’t have survived.  Positive messages to our bodies that tell it we want to LIVE can greatly strengthen the all-important immune system.  Being positive, and surrounding yourself with positive people and situations as much as it is possible, is a powerful way to prevent getting sick, too.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I just wanted to say thank you for being here! I just found you today!  I had heard about you from listening to Louise Hay audio books.  I decided to look you up and found some wonderful audio books by you, and have been listening to your interviews on YouTube all day!  I have a friend who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, and I will tell her about your work.

    I am grateful for you saying that lack of love in childhood manifesting as disease in adulthood.  And you also said that those of us who had that experience need a coach to help us learn to re-parent ourselves.  I could do with one of those.

    Personally I have been on a healing journey my whole adult life.  I have had some success in overcoming IBS and Crohn’s disease that had me for 10 years—I am now free of it for 10 years.  I started a business making kefir, which is a wonderful natural healing yogurt for people with gut problems, though I know that it doesn’t heal the emotional problems that get us ill in the first place.  My on-going challenge is with relationships, specifically the lack of them, and the fear of being single forever.

    I thank you for writing the books, and I’m starting with Life, Hope and Healing.  What I want to get from it is peace with myself, love with everyone.  I feel that I am challenged every day, and whilst most times I just keep going and rise to the challenges, some days I just wish life would be easier! I got your daily mantra, which I intend to memorize, and I can see that practicing gratitude would be good, too.

    If you have any thoughts it would be wonderful to hear back! In any case, thank you and I love you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You must love your life and body.  Here is a story that might inspire you—when a medical student I knew developed a brain tumor, he started working on healing his life and body.  The results were dramatic—both the tumor and his ulcerative colitis disappeared in the process.

    So keep at it. Send the message of “I intend to live” to your immune system to strengthen it and it will respond.

    Response to Bernie’s Answer:

    Thank you so much for your reply. I have just done a drawing of me—my life. It’s not finished, and I hope it is not too skewed from having listened to your audios about doing the drawing and what colors mean.

    It’s not finished, but I wanted to ask if you would give me some pointers – such as how to tell people to do the drawing.  I want to be as honest as I can, without trying to make it look better or worse than things really are.

    Two weeks ago I had a fall in my garden, giving me a massive bruise and a swollen area on my right buttock – which is still there and still painful for walking, bending and lying on it.  Is that my life trying to give me a message about how I feel about myself – and deserving punishment/pain?  That I need to release a part of me that puts me down?

    Any thoughts, suggestions, ideas gratefully received.

    Bernie’s Answer to Questioner’s Response:

    I recommend using a full box of crayons so all colors are available to you.  Just draw a picture of yourself.  It can be at work, or of you going through anything you want information about (like undergoing treatment, etc.)

    Stop judging everything; sometimes you just have an accident and learn to be careful.  Think about what your pain feels like, write down the words that describe it, and then ask yourself if anything else in your life fits the words you choose and is “a pain in the butt,” too.  Eliminate those situations in your life that qualify as that kind of pain.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I am French and I am sorry of my English! I read your first book 20 years ago. Today my brother has a cancer, and it’s very difficult to introduce him to an optimistic and proactive attitude. I don’t know how help him.

    I know there is no absolute solution, and I write this message without knowing why. Maybe I’ll find a bottle with a message in the sea.  Thank you for your work.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    All you can do to help is to listen to your brother.  Don’t tell him what to do, but ask him how he is feeling and let him talk. When he hears himself, he may then wake up to what you are trying to help him to understand.

    You can give him my books, but don’t tell him he must read them. Just leave them nearby as a helpful gift.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Harnessing the Power of Your Body’s Memory

    Dear Everybody,

    Now to test your wisdom:

    #1 Be careful about reading health books….. You may die of a misprint.
    ~ Mark Twain

    #2 By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad wife, you’ll become a philosopher.
    ~ Socrates

    #3  I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.
    ~ Groucho Marx

    From my perspective the factor which determines what transpires in your life is whether you felt loved by your parents. If you feel self worth you care for and about yourself and do not spend your life worrying about what other people think of you. I will also make you an offer; if you need a new father I am available. I have a CD degree. It means a Chosen Dad.

    Norman Vincent Peale was a friend of mine for many years and he and I had similar mothers who gave us mottoes to live by; not mottoes to die by. He was able to live his message, “Every person is born for a purpose. Everyone has a God given potential, in essence, built into them. And if we are to live life to its fullest, we must realize that potential.” The word potential shouldn’t scare you and relate to failing but to giving you hope and a chance to make a difference.

    His Mom said, “Norman if God slams one door further down the corridor another will be opened.” And I would add if all the doors are shut you can go through a window. My Mom’s message was that troubles were God’s redirections “And something good will come of this.”

    So imitate therapeutic parents and give your kids love and faith and hope.

    Why? Alice Miller says it well, “The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and though we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, our perception confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth.”

    Yes, we must face the truth and reparent and rebirth ourselves by abandoning our past and its wounds and use them as energy to move us forward.

    If you question the truth of the above believe me they speak the truth. I know from experience. Dreams can be about our bodies too and what is stored there emotionally and physically. Many decades ago Carl Jung interpreted a dream about the obstruction of the flow of milky fluid and correctly diagnosed a brain tumor obstructing the flow of cerebrospinal fluid. Medical students and doctors are not told about that.

    We also know from patients who have received organ transplants that they know about the lives of their donors when they awaken after surgery. If you want to read about some experiences Claire Sylvia, who I knew at Yale after her heart lung transplant, wrote A Change Of Heart. It describes her meeting her donor in a dream, who introduced himself, and learning his name allowed her to search the obituaries and contact his family who confirmed all she had felt from desiring beer and chicken McNuggets and more. Also The Heart’s Code by Paul Pearsall shares these stories. The heart and every organ has the ability to store memories.

    Why do I share this? So you will be careful about what you store within you. It is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. If you do not externalize your feelings they are stored within you and do damage to your body and life. When your body stores your anger, despair, fear, loneliness and more it is far more likely to develop an illness because of what these feelings do to your immune system and internal chemistry. Your body tries to protect you but when it is in a crisis mode and it is not helping you to heal and grow. On the other hand when you experience joy, happiness and laughter you are more likely to be healthy, recover faster from and resist illness.

    I learned this on a personal level too. When I was in pain, as a surgeon, because of all the things I couldn’t fix or cure I started making short notes during the day to write about in my journal that evening. What amazed me was that in the evening when I looked at my notes I couldn’t remember what they were about. If I wrote, boy in emergency room, I would sit there wondering what boy and what was it about. I realized all the pain was stored in me and I was not dealing with it. So I began to write a full paragraph explaining things in detail and then that evening I would recall the details and feelings and express them in my journal. I learned later that it is therapeutic to write down your feelings in a journal versus writing down events and schedules in a journal.

    Then one morning, after forgetting to hide my journal the night before, my wife found it and read it. And I never forget her saying to me, “There’s nothing funny in your journal.”

    “I know. There’s nothing funny about my life.”

    She then went on to tell me several jokes, which I had told her and the kids at the dinner table, about things that happened to me, or my patients, in the hospital. And she was right they never got into my journal. A simple example; One of my patients had a man come into her room dressed in a scrub suit and so she assumed he was a doctor and started to get undressed. After a while he said, “You don’t have to do that for me I’m here to mop the floor.” They became close friends. Wearing street clothes, on rounds, I walked into what I thought was my patient’s room and pulled the curtain back only to find a naked woman who started screaming because she had no idea who I was. I was in the wrong room so I apologized and left. The next day, when I came on the floor, all the women were in their doorways waving handkerchiefs, “Yoo Hoo, are you coming in today.” That stuff never got into my journal. My wife taught me to be aware of the good things which happened too. It is not easy to erase the painful memories. Decades later I can still recall them more easily than the joyful outcomes.

    Do not internalize your feelings to make things easier for, or to please, those around you. Express your appropriate anger and painful emotions, with your family, friends and therapists or in a journal but get them out, so they are not stored within you. And don’t forget to share your humor and joy too. Keep the kid in you alive.

    Now for your homework if you finish these quotes properly you will be smiling too:

    #1 If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why ……..?

    #2 My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she ……

    #3I have never hated a man enough to ……..

    Peace,
    Bernie Siegel, MD

    I finally figured out the only reason for being alive is to enjoy it.
    ~ Rita Mae Brown

    Learn as if you were to live forever, live as if you were to die tomorrow.
    ~ John Wooden

    Never lose a chance of saying a kind word.
    ~ William Makepeace Thackeray

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    Q & A with Bernie – November 28, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I’m an IIN student, and just finished watching your fantastic lecture! You made me feel so many feelings in this almost 1 hour lecture. I laughed, cried, felt thankful and energized to start to be who I am. I was watching it in my apt in Manhattan by myself and felt a physical need to applaud you.

    I also sent a voice message to my mom who lives in Israel, and because of the time difference she was scared something happened since it is late there, so I just told her, “Mom I wanted to tell you I love you.” She said I should listen to people like you more—ha-ha :)

    Anyhow, I can talk forever. Just know you are an inspiration, and you touched my soul even though it wasn’t in person but through a laptop screen.

    Thank you!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Bless you. Your mom did a good job.

    I am the coach and you are the star performer.

    Peace, love, and healing,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I was recently diagnosed with cancer of the left kidney; had a nephrectomy and biopsy shows that chemotherapy would lower recurrence rate. I am really struggling with this as I previously was a healthy active 67 year old. I am fearful of the chemotherapy and of living a life filled with the constant fear of recurrence.

    I was wondering if you could recommend which of your books might be helpful.  I am in need of much help with my mind and spirit. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, what your mind believes about the chemo is what you will experience.  It can be the devil poisoning you or a gift from God.  Start visualizing what you desire and your body will believe what you picture when the time for treatment comes.  Or you can say “no” if that is what your heart tells you.

    It is not about not dying, but about what is right for you.  Any labor pains of giving birth to your new self are worth it.

    Read my books: Love, Medicine & Miracles, and then The Art of Healing, and finally Faith, Hope & Healing. This is about healing your life and loving it and your body—it is not about fighting a war with your disease.

    What words explain how you would describe having cancer? Eliminate from your life whatever else fits those words.

    Peace be with you,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie:

    I have just read your book, Love, Medicine & Miracles, and feel compelled to reach out and tell you how much your work and your philosophy of healing resonates with me.

    In January 2015, I was diagnosed with an inoperable Anaplastic Astrocytoma (Grade 3) at the age of 42. Even in the very beginning, in the midst of all the fear and confusion, I interpreted this “condition” as a wake-up call and an invitation to change my life. My course of healing has been largely self-directed and “alternative” in nature, supported by an amazing oncological team at MGH in Boston, where I live full-time.

    Anyway, a friend of my mother’s has worked with you and when I enthused about your work, she suggested I reach out and connect with you to share my joy and gratitude for this influential work that you have been focused on for so many years already. I truly believe that yours is the approach that encourages, empowers and calls out the best possible results for your patients. It is also clear to see how fulfilled you are by your life’s work. Please accept my deepest appreciation.

    I am including here a link to a ten-minute film that some friends made about my cancer journey last year: (http://www.arihauben.com/grace-gratitude/ ). I thought you would be particularly interested in the overlap between healing and the creative aspect of ourselves. For me, this manifested in the incredible opportunity to co-design and actuate a personal piece of art that reflects my beliefs and philosophy as I embrace and integrate all parts of myself in becoming whole.

    Thank you so much for your work, for your passion and purpose and time and energy. You have made a difference in so many lives, and I now offer your book as resource FIRST when people seek my advice as someone who (happily & healthily) “lives with” the condition of cancer. I wish you and yours a blessed holiday season, and I hope to come to one of your lectures/talks someday soon to see you in person—all my best.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    God bless you.  You make it all worthwhile. I always say that I am the coach and you are the star performer.  Look over my website (www.berniesiegelmd.com) for more things to learn and enjoy.

    Also, my book The Art of Healing has 60 drawings which may interest and teach you more, especially of you are into art work and creating things.

    For me, it is about loving your life and body, and the potential that creates.

    Hugs,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – November 21, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I’m a recent grad of IIN. You were one of the lectures that stood out the most in my mind.

    I have a new client who has lung cancer and has chosen to use food and nutrition to heal his body. While I know a lot about food, I was wondering if you have any books you might recommend to me for my client to read about healing or might there be a book or two that might help me on a metaphysical level.

    Thank you for all you do. Continue the greatest work. I respect you so much; blessings.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    My website lists my books, which I would recommend to you both.

    Seeing a naturopathic physician can help guide your client, and there are many diet therapies, but I don’t have a specific person to recommend. Scan the internet.

    There are many supplements which help, too, from vitamin D to various herbs.  Life Extension www.lef.org can be a resource.

    Peace, love, and healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    A friend of mine and asked me to email you my story to see if you had input. She said she was going to email you and tell you I would be writing.

    I’m 36 and work in Hospice.  I have binge eating disorder and bulimia. I’ve relapsed a lot!!  I live in Michigan and I’ve been out of state to treatment in the past. I’ve also gone to Chicago to see a specialist for RRT (rapid resolution therapy). And I can’t seem to get a hold on it.

    I started the behavior of binge eating disorder (BED) when I was about nine, and moved to binging and purging when I was in middle school. No treatment I get helps for very long.  It’s frustrating and I am wondering if I should just accept this eating disorder as part of my personality…just something I do.

    I was given up and then adopted at the age of five, so it is something I remember. My new family made it seem like I was never good enough.  I was molested /raped / photographed when I was in elementary school along with another girl and there was a huge trial in my 4th & 5th grades.

    And my family accused me of “allowing it to happen” as it was more than once, and he threatened that he would kill my family if I told.

    I was bullied and beat up the rest of school for “being a slut and a whore” because they knew about the trial.  Family and school mates acted like I was a germ and were afraid to touch me, and my mom would tell me I “make people feel weird” when I would get near them or hug them.

    I was so worried that I, myself, was poison as a kid. I was afraid to eat food or even swallow my own spit for fear I would poison myself and die.  My mom had to take me to the docs so she could have a chat with me about me “being poison” and not wanting to eat. I also would wash my hands and tops of my arms until I bled in order to not be dirty/poison.

    I eventually went on to make something of myself, and I love my hospice job and my patients. But I struggle with feeling not good enough.  I feel like I have to do twice as much, and work twice as hard as everyone else to prove my worth—and that one screw up is catastrophic.

    It doesn’t matter how much praise my clinical supervisors give me, or how much my patients love me, kudos from our medical director, or how many awards I get (which is a lot). It means NOTHING.  It is like I can feel the ‘unworthiness’ in my body.

    Our mutual friend and I were discussing that specifically, and she thought it was like cellular memory—and she asked if I’d be willing to write you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    It is all about your childhood.  You are worth loving.  I am happy to do that by becoming your CD = chosen dad.  When you give love you are beautiful, as your work should reveal to you.

    What you need to do is feel that self-worth by making your diet about not abusing yourself. Say “no” to your food problems; say “yes” to yourself—by denying the self-destructive behavior instead of saying “it’s okay because of what I have been through.”

    You are a child of God. Make your authentic and loving parents happy, too.  Draw a picture of yourself with crayons and e-mail it to me.  I will give you my thoughts on what I see when it arrives.

    Think of me as your CD, and let me help you build the strong sense of self-worth that you deserve.  Your life may improve in surprising ways when you realize the strength that comes from being in control of your life.  You are not a victim—you are a capable, creative soul.  Nourish that strong and wise soul with your love and attention.

    Peace, love, & healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    My wife is suffering from GBM grade IV cancer. Please guide us for her healing.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Start by reading my books, Love, Medicine & Miracles to begin with; also The Art of Healing: Uncovering your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing.

    Tell her to love her life and body, and to practice visualizing the cancer going away. She can use whatever image feels right for her.  It doesn’t have to be a battle.

    Help her visualize the treatment as a gift, which will help her avoid side effects.  Remind her that she has the potential for healing.  Have faith that it can happen.

    Send her healing energy many times a day. Encourage her to do all the things she loves to do, and for maintaining balance and positivity, to eliminate from her life all the things which are troubling her.

    Peace, love, & healing,
    Bernie

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    Learning from Opposites

    Dear Everybody,

    Now your homework: Complete these quotes.

    You are only as old as …the women you feel.
    - Author Unknown

    The secret of a good sermon is to have a good beginning and a good ending; and…to have the two as close together as possible.
    - George Burns

    Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people…only once a year.
    - Victor Borge

    On with the show: Two topics of interest to me are male / female issues and what we call disabilities. First a quickie on the male female thing. I love reading Joseph Campbell’s work and he pointed out that girls know when they become women because they menstruate and have a physical sign and symbol of the transformation while boys have to go through some experience or initiation, as many cultures do. They are often painful rituals which help them to make the transition from boy to man. Maybe that is part of the male problem. Feeling and knowing who we are and what we are capable of as men and to stop being boys who are controlled by the parental figures in our lives and who need to risk their lives to prove they are men.

    I was also reading a medical article which shows how differently male and female brains are structured and how they respond to different events and biological changes within the body because of it. For instance more men than women die of Alzheimer’s Disease and more women develop depression than men. Another interesting fact was that starving males drew their energy from protein and females from fat. When starved, females who have more body fat than males, can convert various fat resources and survive where the male dies when it runs out of protein. Yes, we are different for many reasons and not just relationships.

    So I think we all need to look at the psychological, as well as, the physical aspects of our life and nature. And remember that psyche and soma are two aspects of the unus mundus, as Jung said, or the one entity we are. So folks stop and figure out who you are and then enjoy living the life intended for you. Mind and body are two aspects of the same thing and so react to each other and can cause problems or help us to heal our lives and bodies when we are empowered and live our authentic lives.

    Now my next area of exploration is to look into the words disabled, retarded and different. I walked into the hospital room of a dying teenager I knew. Tony turned and pointed out that kids his age were playing in the street and said, “Why am I different?” I responded, “Because it makes you beautiful.” Those words came from God knows where. I was about to apologize for saying them to a dying child when Tony looked at me with a sparkle in his eyes and a beautiful smile. Yes, he made a difference in his high school and taught his family a great deal about life and they helped immortalize him with fund raising efforts, in his name, for other children with cystic fibrosis.

    I also recall a veterinarian, who the night before her mastectomy, couldn’t fall asleep picturing her body as deformed and never being normal again. She said, “Around four in the morning I suddenly thought of all the animals I operate on. I amputate legs, jaws and they wake up and lick their owner’s faces. They know they are here to love and be loved and teach us a few things.” She went on to say she had no trouble falling asleep at that moment. Yes, animals are complete and man is not. So learn to be thankful for what you can learn from your difficulties and the blessing that comes with it will become apparent. I didn’t say it was easy to do I am just sharing what I have learned from empowered survivors.

    Are we disabled or enabled? Many people I know with cerebral palsy, loss of limbs, blind and more write autobiographies entitled Strong At The Broken Places and The Bird With the Broken Wing. They are not handicapped. They are our teachers. Just think of Helen Keller, blind and deaf from age 4, and able to graduate from college with honors. She never saw her problems as punishment by God but more like God disciplining her so her curses could become a blessing.

    Who is retarded? Two boys with Down Syndrome taught me a lot. After operating on a boy I was making rounds, that evening, and when I entered his room he grabbed his blanket, pulled it up to his chin, and said, “If you want to see my operation you have to pay me.” I responded, “I’m your surgeon. I don’t have to pay.”  “Oh, okay” and he lowered the blanket. The next morning, on rounds, I noticed a pile of dollar bills on his bedside stand. The nurses and interns found it easier to pay then fight with him. He is the only patient I ever had who went home with more money than he came with. So who is retarded?

    Another young man with Down Syndrome I knew told me he moved to a new town and people had varying reactions to him. John said, “If you cannot get your love flow going, cannot communicate and you are not aware who you are, I call that retarded. Some people are only a little bit retarded. Then I can help them, because they get curious about me. They get into communication with me and their love flow gets going. Then it works for them if they like. They get more aware.”

    Last but not least in my meditation the other day the message became clear to me. Helen Keller always said, “If you face the sunshine you do not see the shadows.” I was walking towards the sun, in my meditation, and feeling good about not seeing the shadows which exist in my life too. I felt bad for all the people walking towards me, with the sun at their back, seeing only shadows and darkness before them. Then I realized that I could be a mirror for them and reflect the light and love of our Creator and make their path through life a little easier and brighter. So my message to you all is to be a mirror of our Creator’s love for all those who are hurting. And since we are all wounded I am really saying you don’t have to look far to find someone. It is the next person you meet whom you can help by doing what they need, now. So go out and make a difference in someone’s life. And thank you to all who stop me while I am out shopping and say  how much my words have helped them.

    Sermon over and I feel better. Now to test your wisdom:

    #1 Be careful about reading health books…..
    #2 By all means marry if you get a good wife you’ll…..; if you get a bad wife you’ll…..
    #3  I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a……..

    Peace,
    Bernie Siegel, MD

    A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my desk, I have a work station.

    Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back.

    Money can’t solve every problem but it sure keeps you in touch with your children.

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    Q & A with Bernie – November 14, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    Hi,
    I am the bone marrow transplant survivor you traded letters with back in 1996.

    So my 91- year-old Mom went into acute kidney failure about a month ago; this was not due to diabetes or high blood pressure, but to some traumas.  When she left the Portland Maine hospital to come home to hospice, the doctors told us her numbers were in such decline she might not make it home. My brothers had seen her and said she looked like she was close to being in a coma.  She had said over and over “I just want to see my kids and then I don’t care what happens.” So what are the odds we were all headed to Maine for the wedding of one of Mom’s granddaughters?

    Well, that night at home, looking out on the Kennebec River, she started an incredible rebound. My brother, on watch duty, woke up to see her sitting on the side of the bed waiting to get to the commode. She came WAY back to us, and talked and joked with us – so many funny remarks we started writing them down. This went on for almost a week, which is what the doctors predicted. She showed incredible strength scrambling to the edge of the bed, etc., and then went into her final peaceful decline.

    One doctor said, “Yes, sometimes when terminal patients get surrounded by loved ones, they come back for a while.” You saw this so many times and wrote about it, and it was beyond words to experience it.  I continue to recommend you and your books, and especially guided imagery meditation, quite often.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, love heals and makes even the end of life a healing event—like a graduation commencement.

    My dad died laughing because of stories my mom told as we gathered around him.  A voice (my angel) spoke to me and asked “How did your parents meet?” I said I didn’t know, and the voice told me, “Ask your mom when you get to the hospital.”  I did, which got her telling stories that had my dad laughing. He died looking so very healthy that I thought he was going to change his mind!

    Bless you, and remember that your mom’s consciousness is still around, so look for signs.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    I’m 35 years old. It’s been almost 2 years since my first symptoms appeared. They were neurological in nature and appeared ALS-like. I have gone to a neurologist and got an all clear with MRI but was told to repeat EMG. It was like let’s wait and see.

    I said no thank you I’m going heal this holistically. I still am doing that today. I appear normal if you saw me walking down the street. I choose not to get a diagnosis because my mind is very impressionable.

    How can I get beyond the belief healing is for other people and not for me? It’s hard for me to expect healing. I just have negative images in my head. And I don’t trust my body. I feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. Thanks.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    One young woman with ALS said she didn’t want to die hating her body, so she sat naked in front of a mirror loving every inch of her body and cured herself of ALS.

    When you love your body and your life, amazing things can happen. It is our potential.

    You have nothing to lose, so believe and your body will get the message.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    I love your ideas, methods, etc. for healthy and happy living, but I’m having trouble when instead of healing, more health problems pop up.

    How is patience involved in all of the work toward moving forward? Cancer patients must get discouraged- how do they do it? Thank you thank you for all that you do!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    The key is that you believe in your potential. You must accept and choose your feelings and emotions.

    Self-induced healing is about finding harmony and order in your life so that your body gets the message. Read my books, and don’t fight a war. Heal your life and body with love, acceptance, and taking responsibility for making choices with your heart.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    How do we get past the fear, sadness, and helplessness this week has left many of us with?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Do something real for someone else, and live in the moment—not in your imagined and fearful future.

    There are spiritual flat tires which have many meaningful results.  Learn from your experience.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – November 7, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    Good afternoon Bernie,

    I am in Barcelona, and I don’t feel good. I feel that I am not a good teacher—that I don’t teach well. I don’t organize my classes very well, and in some classes I don’t control the classroom. Yesterday the pupils threw paper balls at each other and then they threw them at me. I didn’t want to punish them because I feel that their behavior is because I am not a good teacher. I have to educate them. Maybe I should act with more self-esteem, because I didn’t feel insulted; I know they only want to laugh and play, but I know I should set limits.

    Today, in the first hour, one of them asked me for forgiveness and said that he would never do it again.  Then I taught another group and they told me that the other pupils made a video about what happened in class. I felt so bad because, although I didn’t feel insulted, I know I shouldn’t allow this (disrespectful) behavior, and I thought about talking with the director, but didn’t.

    Also, I don’t like my bedroom. It is dark and I like the natural light. I made a mistake choosing this apartment, and I miss Valencia and my family.  People (my friends, my family, and my mates) have said to me that I am lucky to have this job, and I think, why don’t I feel that way? Am I a coward who runs away when I see that things are not easy? I have doubts.

    I don’t know who to say all of this to; my mum says to me that I have to work, and I know that, but maybe this work is not for me.  How do I know if this work is for me?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    The problem is how you were brought up and how you think. Only you can decide what you think and feel, and then you can change things yourself.

    Start becoming the person you want to be by acting as if you already are that person.  Stop whining and follow your heart and feelings. This is your life.

    Love yourself! Put pictures of yourself as a child in your home and classroom—and love that child. Tell your students you love them, too.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    I was recently diagnosed with Adult T Cell Lymphoma/Leukemia. I need help with everything from how to eat, what supplements to take, what holistic options I should consider.

    I just completed by 5th Chemo session, but I know that there is more I can do to supplement my healing. Can you guide me to where I should start looking?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Read my books. Start with love, medicine & miracles and then the art of healing, as well as any others that you choose. Also, my CD entitled Getting Ready can help you visualize treatments without side effects.

    REMEMBER:  Your mind controls what your body experiences and believes.

    A good resource for supplements is Life Extension at www.lef.org

    I also recommend that you see a naturopathic physician and stay away from sugar.

    Fast for three days before chemo, and then on the day of chemo, and on the next day, cut calories to 1/3 of normal.  This enables cancer cells to take in more chemo. The fasting can help reduce side effects.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

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    Creating Positive Change with Intention, Desire and Determination

    Dear Everybody,

    As usual my first words are the answers to last week’s sentences which you were to finish: I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work that way. So I stole a bike and asked God for forgiveness. Light travels faster than sound. That’s why some people appear bright until you hear them speak. Evening news is where they begin with ‘Good evening’, and then proceed to tell you why it isn’t.

    Last week there was a column by State Senator Gayle Slossberg. My comments are not meant to criticize her but about how she and society view their problems. The title of her column was, Things worth fighting for. She discusses how we survive the challenges life presents us with by remembering what we are fighting for; good paying jobs, an education for our kids in a safe environment, money in the bank and to grow old with dignity in our own home. She says she works hard and makes tough choices to achieve these goals and fighting to limit state spending.

    What am I concerned about? That her focus is on fighting. The fact is that when you fight you empower your enemy and focus your energy on the wrong thing. Why, when Mother Teresa was invited to an anti-war rally did she refuse? When the disappointed people were turning to leave she said, “I will not attend an anti-war rally but if you ever have a peace rally call me.” Those words have helped me a great deal because when we fight wars against disease and society’s problems look where it gets us. We need to resolve our problems and heal our lives and eliminate their difficulties. It is also not just about having material things. I know we all have basic needs but I also know miserable millionaires and their children one of whom said to me, “My father ruined my life. He gave me a million dollars for my birthday. So I have to be a success.”

    We need to care for and about each other so people will always have their dignity and create a society where this is available to everyone. We are a rich country but we do not have the best health record for children or longevity and more. It is time to stop waging wars and start healing our lives and the wounds of our society and country. I find politics very frustrating because of the effort and time involved in accomplishing things which are good for people and I think that is what Senator Slossberg is saying but I don’t think fighting is the solution. Congresswoman Rosa De Lauro, in response to my comment about politics said, “Bernie it’s about the potential. It has taken me five or six years to get some laws passed but they are now doing people some good.”

    She is talking about what is needed to create change. We need desire, intention and determination so good things do eventually get accomplished in all our lives. It is not just about politics and economics it is about our consciousness and life. Quantum physicists understand this better than politicians. To quote one, “Desire and intention alter the physical world causing things to occur which would not normally occur if they were not desired.” I like to add the word determination to the desire and intention and whether it is in politics or your desire to overcome an illness those things are necessary. You don’t give up on the good things and bringing them into your lives.

    I am also not saying that there is not appropriate anger or righteous indignation. When we are not respected we need to speak up and be heard so that we are treated properly, whether as a patient in the hospital, or a U.S. citizen. I love this quote from Winston Churchill, “You have enemies. Good. That means you stood up for something, sometime in your life.” I think Senator Slossberg is planning to do that but I think we all need to focus on standing up for something and not waging a war. Think about what Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. accomplished without finding things to fight over or waging a war. Ahimsa, or non-harm and non-violence, is what the world needs now and they lived it. The tragic ending to their lives shows that Churchill spoke the truth.

    I received bumper stickers from organizations which read, “God Bless America” and “God Bless Our Soldiers” My reaction was to write over them and change them to God Bless Everyone. I think that blessings, love and kindness are what we all need if we are to eliminate the problems of life be they personal or planetary. Kill with kindness, torment with tenderness and you will drive everyone nuts. When we find happiness we will be successful and wars will cease.

    How we see our problems is a part of the issue. Rather than for homework let me ask you now; when facing a difficult time in your life, how would you respond to the question; how are you? Would you say, “I am not happy” or “I am unhappy?”

    If you think about it choosing the latter answer just leaves you in an unpleasant emotional state while the latter gives you an opportunity to find happiness by making changes in your life. That is what we all need to do and I think when families, businesses and politicians seek change for the benefit of their family members, employees and constituents the world will become a better place for us all.

    I may also add that just as physical pain is necessary to protect us from harm so too is emotional pain necessary to direct us to seek nourishment through the compassion and love of and for our fellow man. I don’t want to be distracted or numbed by society and politics so I do not notice their pain and mine. I want it treated and cared for personally and for the family of man. So next time you feel hungry and go get something to eat think about the emotional and physical hunger that is being felt around the world as well as next door and know that you can make a difference because what the world needs now is love sweet love that’s the only thing there’s just too little of. We have enough wars. So stop fighting and start loving today. As St Francis of Assisi’s prayer begins, “Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace. Where there is hatred let me sow love.”

    Forgive the sermon but I try to live the message. Now to lighten things up. These are parts of quotes from well known persons whose names I will reveal next week. How would you finish them?

    “Sometimes, when I look at my children, I say to myself………..”

    “I had a rose named after me and I was very flattered. But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalogue: ……”

    “Last week, I stated this woman was the ugliest woman I had ever seen. I have since been visited by her sister……….”

    Peace,
    Bernie Siegel, MD

    Reward and punishment are the consequences of our thoughts, speech and actions; they are cause and effect.
    - Kabbalah

    We are all sheep, the same color inside, no matter what color our wool.
    - Dr. Bernie Siegel

    What the world needs is some do-give-a-damn pills.
    - Dr. William Menninger

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    Q & A with Bernie – October 24, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    We asked mom to draw a picture of herself and outdoor scene, but she has had a radical decline in the past couple weeks. She was experiencing extreme pain all over due to tumor growth in all parts of her body.

    She has since been put on hospice and my dad (her HCP) was giving her morphine 0.5 every 2 hours, and wondering why she wasn’t able to walk anymore. My sister and brother since talked him into lowering her meds to Ultram for pain, but she is having anxiety as well and a burning feeling in her esophageal area between her breasts.  Hospice has her on Ativan 0.5mg x 2 tabs, every four hours and she’s snowed!! We tried to gently explain to him that it may be too much for her, but he is insistent that hospice said it would help w the GERD. Me and my brother and sister feel there is something terribly wrong and that we should be doing something more.

    It’s hard to talk to my dad, he’s very stubborn and set in his ways and very “physically & knowledge” oriented. He has a hard time grasping onto any other conventional or holistic treatments, such as meditation, herbal and supplemental meds, as well as drawing interpretation, etc.

    We want to just steal her away and put her in the car and bring her to you or holistic cancer clinic, but know it’s not a possible. We are trying to keep things light and positive and play her guided meditations. The curcumin we’re giving seems to upset her stomach. The Ativan has seemed to help stop her nausea and vomiting, but like I said, it’s kickin’ her ass. :-)

    We feel like we’re at a road block and don’t know what to do next, and you are the only person that comes to mind to reach out to for any kind of help or ideas or positive input. Reaching out w expectancy and with hope…

    Bernie’s Answer:

    There is a time to die, also. Just ask her what she would like to do.

    Share your love, and talk about your lives together.  Tell her that if she needs to go it is okay, and that her love will always be with you.

    Listen to her and keep her comfortable.

    Ask your dad how they met, and to talk about those years in her presence.  It will help her to hear the stories.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    I listened to some of your videos and they spoke to me. I have an aggressive sort of stomach cancer according to laparoscopy; there are already cancer cells in the surrounding area. Three days ago I started chemo, and I feel it is hitting me very hard.

    I have avoided medicaments for the last 20 years (and doctors) and have fared well so far with Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), homeopathy, and patience. Maybe that’s why my body is reacting so strongly. I was strong in the beginning, embracing the tumor, meditating and doing taiji every day.  My wife and I had decided to move away from our current lives, move to some place in nature and try to find a peaceful and more true and meaningful life (we are both artists).

    Then the examinations started with the laparoscopy and now the chemo. As much as I wished I could see it as helpful, I feel that every time I see the doctors, I am much worse off. My mind tries to reason, but my body winces. At the moment I feel incapable of doing anything but barely exist.

    I am 58 years of age, married to a wonderful wife; I have a beautiful daughter and many friends who love me. I am torn between a wish to survive with my inner strength and dignity and the help of friends, and what the doctors and other people—who also love tell me—urge me to do. When I regain a little strength, I can easily see and embrace my future, whatever it is. But when I am low, nauseous and in tears, I see no future.  I am afraid to continue chemo, but I am not alone and would very much appreciate a word with you. Would it be possible to talk to you in person?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Read my book, The Art of Healing—Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing.  You will find sixty drawings and more to guide you. Also on my website,   www.berniesiegelmd.com , read the Immune Competent Personality and change your life as you mentioned.  Love your life and body.  This is really important for unleashing your healing power.

    First, with a box of crayons draw yourself receiving chemo. Scan your drawing and email it to me.  Also, draw an outdoor scene from your imagination, and then we can talk.

    Your intuitive wisdom knows the right thing to do. Your mind may know, but fear can create a problem accessing your intuitive wisdom, so it is important to relax and visualize it as you want it to be. I have CD entitled Getting Ready that can help you.  Some see the devil giving them poison while others visualize chemo as a gift from God. Guess who has side effects. Remember above all that it is your life and your choice.

    Get into supplements which have anticancer effects and cut out all sugar and sweets. Curcumin, aspirin, vitamin D, and the prescription medication Metformin all have anticancer effects.

    Naturopathic physicians can often be more helpful than oncologists.

    A resource for supplements is www.lef.org. They can be called, too, on their toll-free number which is:  1-800-678-8989

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie:

    How do I rid myself of fear? It is paralyzing and keeping me from healing. I feel so hopeless. I love your books, but don’t have the confidence in myself to make my miracle.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You decide what you see and think—only you.

    Jesus said, “It is done unto you as you believe.”  So, visualize what you desire; your body believes what your mind conceives.

    Laugh several times a day for no reason. Fear and laughter cannot coexist.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,
    Bernie

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