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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
  • Help Ferdie Beat Cancer!

    My name is Andrea, and I am the proud Mom of an adorable rescue, Ferdie. Ferdie has battled his whole life, and is now battling malignant oral melanoma, but you wouldn’t guess it when you meet him. Every day he greets me at the door, tail wagging and tongue flopped out. I rescued Ferdie almost four years ago after he had been hit by a car, found homeless and put in a kill shelter. I may have rescued him first, but he rescued me just as much. His full story “Facebook Ferdie”, was published in Love, Animals & Miracles.

    How do I say how much I love this dog, how he warms my heart and has from the moment our eyes met. I promised him when he came into my care I would do anything I could to make his life better, take care of him and never abandon him. Please help me keep my promise and help me to raise the $5,000 for the treatments and testing.

    If Ferdie’s story touches your heart, I would be grateful for any donation that helps him fight this battle, if you are unable to donate financially, but would like to help, please share Ferdie’s story with your friends and family. Thank you!


    Click here to learn more about Ferdie and make donations for his treatment through GoFundMe.

  • Amelia’s Ark Angel Society

    Please support my friend Amelia Kinkade with her new charity, ARK ANGEL, which enables her to go into schools in rural Africa and educate children about wildlife conservation so that they don’t grow up to be poachers.

    Amelia Kinkade has written a book called Whispers from the Wild: Listening to Voices from the Animal Kingdom. In this book, she takes us all over the world, revealing the inner thoughts and feelings of a huge variety of animals, including dangerous ones. She shares the advice she has gleaned from working with such a diverse group of animals — words about tenderness, reconnection with nature, life after death, and the possibilities of magical awakenings inside the brains of an ever-evolving human race. Learn More

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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #168 – Breezes, Ripples and Seeds

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.

    We did not weave the web of life—we are merely a strand in it.
    Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves.

    ~ Chief Seattle

    It occurs to me that what we do has the same effect as a butterfly flapping its wings. Now, the small movement of butterfly wings may not seem not seem impressive to you, but it actually alters the world’s air currents and affects us all.

    It is not fair that we cannot go back to earlier times In the same way that dandelion seeds can move in the wind, when you plant your seeds in the earth, you are having an effect on what will grow. Even a small pebble thrown into a pond causes change. The ripples created by your actions will spread out and change the nature of all life.

    Soulution of the Day

    Please remember, you are the one who casts seeds,
    creates breezes, and makes waves,
    by your life, words, and actions.
    So think about what you do; it affects us all and creates
    a future for the world’s children.

    - Bernie

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  • The Fuel of Life

    Every morning I used to receive an e-mail statement by Eknath Easwaren. He was a wise teacher about life and meditation. I have much caregiving to do which really drains my energy and occupies my time. So when this came the other day it really hit home and I think is something we all can learn from. The following are his words of wisdom.

    “Without a tank full of gas, no car can drive very far. The mind, too, needs a full tank of vitality to draw on for patience, resilience, and creativity. Filling that tank every morning is one of the most practical purposes of meditation. The test of your meditation is: How long can you be patient with those around you? In the beginning, you should aim to make it at least to noon acting like the proverbial angel. Most of us, however, even if we start with a full tank, have little control over the thousand and one little pinpricks that drain vitality as we go along: worry, vacillation, irritation, daydreaming. By lunchtime the indicator may be hovering around empty. Then it is that you have to be acutely vigilant. The tank is nearly empty, but by sheer effort and deft defensive driving, and using the mantram, you manage to coast through to the end of the day without any serious accidents. The more effort you make, the more endurance you gain. The next day you may find the tank itself a little larger; you start the next day with a greater capacity for love and patience than before.”

    Besides recharging your own battery and filling your own tank, survival behavior leads you to ask for help from friends and family, say no to the things you do not want to do, and save your fuel. Many years ago I heard a song which says it all very well. I kept searching until I found the man who wrote it, Tom Hunter, and we connected. It is entitled Rock Me to Sleep. I will place the chorus at the end.

    All I can hear are the crickets
    and the whistle of some lonely freight.
    I’ve been working so hard to make everything right
    but for now it’ll just have to wait.

    I’ve never been too good at asking;
    I’m more apt to do it alone.
    And it’s strange how a lot of us think something’s wrong
    If we can’t do it all on our own.

    It’s funny how times when you’re hurting
    Makes what’s familiar seem strange,
    So when you need help,
    It’s the hardest to ask
    and it always takes so long to change.

    So Tonight, I’d like you to rock me to sleep
    I’d like you to sing me a song.
    I’m tired of doing things all by myself
    and I’m tired of being so strong.

    I mentioned my fatigue due to caregiving, and that I try every day to overcome the problems I create by my behavior and attitude. I know I am the problem and the one who chose to do what I am doing every day and tired of being so strong. The following is an interesting comment, but it is not fun to keep learning from your falls. The harder you fall, the higher you bounce. What makes me happy is a day with no appointments, scheduled events or anything which leads me to stumble and fall. A day where I can just flow with the events, I have found that time ceases to exist when I act out of love.

    I know when I focus on love and faith and let my troubles, feelings, and experiences become my teachers, it helps enormously. When I fill my tank with love, there are no problems to overcome or work to do. There are just opportunities to love the same people who make my life seem stressful due to all the things I have chosen to do for them. Again they are not the problem, I am. When I accept that, I then have the power to resolve the problems. The following quote by Thomas à Kempis explains it very well.

    “Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, attempts what is above its strength. It is therefore able to undertake all things, and it completes many things, and warrants them to take effect, where one who does not love would faint and lie down.”
    ~ Thomas à Kempis

    When you run out of love, you have an empty tank and an empty life.

    Peace, Love & Healing,
    Bernie Siegel, MD

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    Q & A with Bernie – October 10, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    Thank you again for your messages.

    I will start my chemotherapy on the 27 September because the infection in my breast is not over.

    I am tired when I see the nurse every morning for the dressing change.

    I would like to know why I had this infection—is it a message from my body?  I have not meditated very often since the beginning of my infection, but I went back to work.

    I started to read your book, The Art of Healing. I am going fast from tomorrow until the day after chemotherapy. As per your advice, I imagine myself with no side effects, but I am still scared of chemotherapy.

    Unfortunately, my friend who helps me with Chinese medicine is very busy.  I can’t meet him for at least a week.  Could you please help me with visualizing what I will experience when I get chemotherapy? Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You have to do what is right for you and not think about doing it so you will not die—we all die someday. Loving your life and body can do wonderful things and heal you.

    Seeing surgery as a gift from God can lead you through surgery with no pain or side effects—the choice is yours. See if you can get my book, The Art of Healing, with drawings and more.  It will help you, too.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    Hello Doc! It has been about a year and a half since I contacted you last, and a year and a half since my dad died of cancer. I have been singing your praises to all who will listen!

    I tend to trudge right through stressful times and am “way to busy” with work and kids to properly treat my stress. I am an extremely healthy eater so it was quite shocking when two weeks ago I got the flu. On a Monday night, I decided I had to fire a hygienist who had been with our practice for 18 years and was like family to me and my dad.  I didn’t sleep that night. On Tuesday, I went in to fire her, and Tuesday evening, I got the flu. It was as you call it, a wakeup call.

    I’ve gotten so busy that the things that make me happy (photography and gardening) have become burdens. I run my father’s dental practice now and feel that obligation to him, and the staff who loved him. I only work 3 days a week, but have a photography business on the side and the kids’ school involvement, etc., etc. I just want to know what I can do for myself, because I clearly internalize stress to the point where it suppressed my immune system. I don’t have time for yoga even though I feel great after I do it.

    I talk with a therapist every couple of months, although sometimes having to make that appointment is hard to fit into my schedule. I listen to your meditation CDs before bed, but only when I can’t sleep because my mind is going crazy. Trying not to be stressed is stressing me out! Tips?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Do I have any tips? Yes I do, and here they are: Stop thinking you are a victim.  Only you decide what you think and feel.

    Ask yourself, “If I had two weeks to live, what would I be thinking and doing?  Would it be what I’m thinking about all the time now?”

    Do what makes you happy and the world happy. Let your heart make up your mind.

    When your mind is quiet you will see the truth.  What you picture you create.  Remember that the still pond reflects the truth.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    I am an Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) student, and just listened to your lectures. Our son gets most of the attention because he drives us crazy. We love him. He won’t listen; he ignores things we tell him.

    I think he is still suffering from his birth – maybe he does not love himself. He seems to be stuck in a sort of trance. How could I help him “out”? Thanks.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Love your son verbally as well as with contact, and especially by giving him time. Also, have discipline as a part of your relationship.  It is there so he knows it is about keeping him safe.  Make sure to weave humor into your relationship, too.  It heals.

    We have five kids, and one was like your son.  Have faith—our son now thanks us for what we did for him. Don’t reward him for being a problem to get your attention. Do you have other kids who he thinks you love more than him—and what was his birth issue? How old is he?  Get him doing things to let his feelings out—activities like sports, arts, or building things. Ask him to draw his home and family with box of crayons. I can then look at it and give you my thoughts.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Response from Questioner:

    Thank you so much for writing back to me so quickly.  I am attaching the picture my son was drawing of our family. First I asked him to draw a picture of us and our house. That’s the house with us looking out of the windows. Then I asked him if he could also draw us besides the house. From left to right, it’s my son, his sister, me, and in the back is my husband. My son commented: oops, there is no more space for daddy on the side.

    He turned 8 at the beginning of September. When he was born labor had to be induced because the placenta was used up already. That was 2 weeks before his actual due date. I tried to have a natural birth so that I could take care of his sister (17 months older). He was well positioned, we progressed a bit but then the heart rate was falling, so I had to have a C-section. He had the umbilical cord around his shoulder and neck. The doctor had to pull him out quite hard. I lost a lot of blood in that process, and it took the doctors about 1 ½ hours to close me. I don’t know exactly who looked after him during this time—it was not my husband. I think they had to check him and wait because of what was happening with me.

    Since the day he was born he’s been a very bad sleeper. The first year he woke up around 4am and didn’t fall asleep anymore. It got better the last two years. Now his sleep is ok, but sometimes I still have the impression he is scared of missing out on anything, that’s why he wakes up early. Sometimes I think he has low self-esteem, and he gets really frustrated if others don’t connect with him. Maybe that’s why he can’t stop chasing them, touching them, or doesn’t stop if they say so.

    He is doing a lot of activities already. He has a lot of energy, too. If he feels at ease he is very loving and caring. How did you handle your son? What were the boundaries you set? How can I help him to handle his emotions better? Many thanks in advance for answering my email.

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    Q & A with Bernie – October 3, 2016

    My Story Isn’t Over

    by Camille L.

    I saw a phrase written on a bracelet that really spoke to me. It said, “My Story Isn’t Over.”  I ordered the bracelet immediately, and I am wearing it now as I type.  I feel like this would be a great title to my second book, my first being about how I learned to control my Type 2 Diabetes.  The second one is intended to focus on moving to the country after six decades of being a country girl.  That alone is a grand transition, but the reason for the move is even more significant.

    You see, I learned later in life that both my mother and my mother’s mother both died at the age of 63.  Since finding this out shortly before that time period in my life, I knew I had to fill out and complete my To Do list.  And so I did.  I traveled to Europe and visited Switzerland, the country I had always dreamed about seeing.  When I returned, I still had some time before my 63rd birthday, and I got focused on the thought of moving away from the Bronx and living out my last year in the country.  I always loved communing with nature and had only done so by short trips up and down the East Coast, a brief tour of the West, and Sunday brunches at the NY Botanical Garden.

    When I received a picture of a home in the Finger Lakes with acres of woods, a pond, and a man-made waterfall, I jumped at the chance to buy it.  After all, this was my last year on Earth, so why not let it be a peaceful one.  First, I joined everything around me, volunteered many hours of my days with various groups, and participated in several kinds of workshops in my town and the neighboring towns as well.  I was running on the proverbial treadmill of filling in my last days with social activities and fun.  Remember, this was my last year.  Well nobody was more surprised than I to find that I made it to 64! What? This wasn’t supposed to happen! And so, I celebrated like a fool the entire year.  And once again, I made it to another birthday! 65! Wow! How can this be? Amazing!

    On the one hand, I realized that my fate was not inevitable; on the other hand, I decided to take hold of myself.  Since I thought I was dying, I managed to slip in a lot of carbs and sugars, and this is a huge no-no for a T2 diabetic.  So I dropped most of the organizations I had joined, added more walking through the woods with my dog, and once again started to count my carbs each day.  Now that I know my story isn’t over, I intend to make a difference by passing on the parts of me that I learned: Slow down, breathe, and enjoy the beautiful yet simple pleasures provided to us every day.

    Bernie’s Comment:

    Thank you for sharing your inspirational story with us.  My response is that when you choose life, you postpone death. I know patients who bought a house on the ocean, bought a dog, and put in a backyard wildlife habitat.  Then there were the stories from a landscaper who refused treatment and went home to make the world beautiful, a lawyer who had a 5% chance of living two years and found my book Love, Medicine & Miracles in a used bookstore that transformed his life and his cancer disappeared.  Others have told me that they left their troubles to God, saying that they chose to “Let go and let God.” None of them died in a few months, as predicted. Instead they experienced self-induced healing. When I called Colorado to ask why I wasn’t invited to the funeral of the patient who moved to Colorado to “…die in the mountains,” the person I thought was dead answered the phone and gave me this explanation, “It was so beautiful here I forgot to die.”

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie: (see last week’s Q&A of September 26, 2016 for initial question and Bernie’s answer)

    Hi Bernie! Here is the picture mum drew of herself and the outdoor scene. She said she hopes you don’t mind, but she combined them into one. It’s what was really on her heart, how she saw herself.

    We couldn’t figure out how to scan it to you, so I took a few pictures with my phone in different lighting (so you could see the colors). I told her you said to use crayons, but she also incorporated other mediums. I hope that’s OK!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Thank you for forwarding the drawings you asked you Mother to do for me. Like many women, she sees herself only in terms of her relationships, and does not value herself in the same way by developing a relationship with herself.

    She is a tree of life and her relationships comprise multiple branches, but her tree does not have an intact trunk with strong roots to sustain everyone AND herself.  The dark bundle at the bottom could be her disease. I cannot tell if it is black or dark blue. Is that a bird at top of tree which could represent her?

    Her tree of life is made up of many individual branches, and it all needs to come together to create a true and healthy tree of her life. Her tree of life should not reflect only living for others, but also living for herself, valuing her life as much as she does that of others.  When I hear women say, “I can’t die until all the kids are out of the house,” it indicates to me that those women don’t value themselves—they are only living the role of being “momma.”

    They need full, well-rounded, authentic lives. Send me any comments.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

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    Q & A with Bernie – September 26, 20116

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie,

    I wish to ask about the babies who are just months old yet they get cancer.  How can they have contributed to getting their diseases?  Why do they get cancer?  Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Many issues can be responsible for the tragedy of cancer in infants, including physical and genetic problems as well as environmental toxins and poisons that pervade our lives.

    Another issue is that the baby, still in utero, senses a lack of love during pregnancy and after birth, this lack of love is experienced by the baby through a lack of physical contact.

    We all die at some point, but there are things which affect our survival during life that are rooted in love.  I was a pediatric surgeon and always questioned why God was doing this to children.

    But the world is not perfect, so it has meaning when we act out of love.  It can mean how healthy we are, and when faced with illness, whether we can survive and thrive.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie,

    The doctor told us there’s nothing else they can do!!! My mama has been fighting for her life for over a year. Now, throughout chemotherapy & radiation, nausea & vomiting, unbearable pain, dietary supplements & diet, and alteration in numerous meds, she keeps smiling, laughing, and praising God.

    But now, since the doctor told her there’s no hope for her and put her on hospice, she’s lost hope and become depressed!! She is an animal-lover and artist just like you!! And I’d love to incorporate them in her treatment, but don’t know how!! But you do, it’s what you do!! It’s you’re calling to help others find peace, hope, and life in dark places. And WE NEED YOU!!

    My sister and I would pay anything to get you to help us—our whole life savings if it means getting my mom hopeful again and back on the road to recovery!! Please email or call me ASAP, TIME IS RUNNING OUT, and we need you fast!
    With all our love and respect, thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Tell her to bet her doctor she won’t die when he predicts, and see if he is willing to bet.

    Tell her to either have faith in God and realize what can happen, or give God hell and tell God what she wants him to do—whichever makes her feel better.

    Ask her what she would love to do with her life now—travel, visit someone, get a pet or whatever she would love to do right now. Keep up her relationships and ask her what, if she dies, are you going to do without her?

    Ask her doctor to put your Mom on Metformin 850 mg daily (need a prescription).  It blocks cancer cells from being nourished by sugar.  Add the herb curcumin to her supplements as well as Vitamin C and 500 units Vitamin D daily. Have her take two baby aspirins a day, too. All of these elements have anti-cancer effects.  Give them to her with hope, and believe miracles do happen.

    And, if she can travel, there are many cancer centers that will treat her.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Those seeking more information on customized cancer care and research programs can go to www.is-canceralliance.com or call the International Strategic Cancer Alliance at 610 628 3419 (email info@is-canceralliance.com).

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie,

    I have breast cancer with tumors on my spine, and now on the liver! I suffer from severe nausea and now, water in my stomach!

    Two days ago my wonderful companion, Plug, of 4 years, got very sick with bacteria.  He has water in the stomach, severe nausea, and so many similar symptoms! I worry for him. Am I doing something to him? What do you advise?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Love yourself, your life, and your body—and Plug.  Yes, the animals sense what we are going through and do develop and share diseases with their loving owners. Love him, touch, and massage him often, and visualize you both as healthy, doing what you love to do.  Amazing things are possible.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

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    Dear Everyone,

    To start the healing process, here are the answers to my questions.

    1. When you get to Heaven, and are at the head of the admission line, how would you introduce yourself, and the person behind you to God? If you want to avoid being told to come back when you know who you are don’t get into role playing and say your profession or that you are a mother etc. Let them know you are a child of God and don’t need an introduction and let them know that the person behind you is also a child of God.

    It makes me stop and think that when you are out shopping with a friend and you say hello to someone and your friend asks you who they are, you should answer, “A child of God.” When you think that way you will respect others and enjoy their presence in a very meaningful way benefiting you and God’s other children. Hello Donald and Hillary.

    2. What can I pray for, for you? Again transcend your personal needs and think on another level which will reveal your love for all living things and not just self-love and selfishness. You can desire everyone to win the lottery with your prayers but for me the most meaningful answer, which I rarely hear is, “World Peace!”

    3. If you could be God for a day why would you want the opportunity? Again most people tell me about all the things they would fix but maybe God didn’t make a perfect world for a reason. So the answer I truly learned from is that the reason for being God for a day is to understand why. And I have often shared that a perfect world is not creation it is a meaningless, magic trick.

    The other day I read an article by Rabbi Lazer Gurkow on the internet which got me thinking. So here is my next question. If you were told you had just a few months to live, who would you spend your time with and what would you tell them?

    So many of us come up with all the mushy stuff that really is about all their emotions and not the message and meaning of our lives. I am not saying to deny your feelings I am saying to really get in touch with what your heart feels are the most important feelings we are here to live and express and not just a lot of words saying you love your family. I feel we need to live the sermon so they understand what life is all about and what we are here to do. Like being God with skin on.

    The following was in the article by Rabbi Gurkow. This happened many years ago in Russia but is still going on today in many countries.  Rabbi Gurkow, who lived and taught Judaism, was being taken away from his home to be imprisoned by the NKVD Russian Police. God gave the Rabbi the right words to use in talking to his family. Rabbi Gurkow’s message impressed the family deeply and they never forgot the words spoken by him. “Devote your lives to what they are taking me away for.”  Succinct and profound. I can’t help but think of so many spiritual teachers, with this same age-old message, who have been my teachers. My list would fill the page so I will not start typing them in. You and the world know who I am talking about.

    Peace, Love & Healing ,

    Our cancer support group meets the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month. They will be afternoon sessions starting in September at Coachman’s Square, 21 Bradley Road, Woodbridge. If interested contact Lucille Ranciato lranciato2@yahoo.com 203 288 2839; or bugsyssiegel@sbcglobal.net

    I am going to have my weekly column on my web site www.berniesiegelmd.com from now on. You can sign on to our mailing list and have it sent to you or read it on the site. My books and CDs can be ordered through my website or directly via www.wisdomoftheages.biz.   Put code 36 in comment box for discount.

    Uplift for the week:

    Marriage is a wonderful institution…….But who wants to live in an institution?
    ~ Groucho Marx

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    Q & A with Bernie – September 12, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I’m going through a toothache with swollen gums. A tooth extraction is scheduled for Wednesday. I’ve taken the assigned medicines, but the swelling is still painful.

    I understand that there may be a spiritual angle to it. I was reading your book, A Book of Miracles, and in the section where you talk about creating miracles, given my situation, how can I create one, or at least know that All Will Be Well?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Your body believes what your mind visualizes.

    Love your body and teeth. See it healing and all going well at the dentist visit, with no pain. Visualize healing rapidly.

    Your immune system responds to your feelings.  A very simple and effective way to strengthen it is to laugh for no particular reason every few hours.  If you need help, think about something that made your laugh out loud at any time in your life, and remind yourself of that three or four times each day.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    Wanted to share the results of my latest CT scan with you….the tumor is the same size but the 3 lymph nodes that were impacted no longer are.  The doctor said he’d now say it is Stage 2 rather than Stage 3. Good news!

    A sign that what I’m doing is working….sure hope so!!  Now, to shrink the tumor!

    I hope you are well!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Believe in your potential.

    You can melt the tumor like a block of ice with God’s light, or you can turn off the blood to it and starve it to death.

    You can use those visualizations or come up with other images that work for you. Have faith, and love your body and life.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie (Follow-up from questioner post-surgery)

    My surgery went very well. I have followed all your precious advice and I really felt very good after.  I haven’t had any pains and the nurses were very surprised because they took out some lymph nodes, and I had some edema in my breast.

    Then I met the surgeon and she explained the treatment to me. She said that I can follow a clinical trial in order to check if I need chemotherapy or not, which was really a good idea for me. But a week after I met the oncologist, she said that they have decided that I should get chemotherapy even if I don’t need it. She doesn’t want to take any risk.

    So I was very anxious about getting this treatment even if I don’t need it. Then a week after my talk with the oncologist, I got an infection in my breast. So I should wait 10 days before chemo starts. I am so afraid of the chemotherapy. The oncologist is one of the best in Europe, but I don’t know if I can trust her.

    I don’t know how to meditate to prepare my body to cope with all this poison. I am afraid to be sicker than I was before my cancer. I am not sure whether to be ready or to refuse the treatment.

    Please help! Thank you!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You can either say no to chemo or in the next 10 days, every few hours picture yourself going to get chemo and having no side effects and feeling well. Visualize that you are hungry and have no hair loss or any other side effects.

    Your body will believe what you picture in your mind, and your body will do well. If you fear it and see it in a negative way, you will have all the side effects and problems just thinking about it.

    You decide if you are trying not to die by doing everything doctor tells you, or you are living as a person who does what is right for you.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

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    Q & A with Bernie – September 5, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    My sister is dying of pancreatic cancer (Stage 4, not able to do chemo due to not feeling strong enough). I haven’t been particularly close to her, but we’re generally on good terms. Other than letting her know I’m here for her, what can I do?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    It depends on her attitude and physical health, but tell her to let God know what she wants. She can tell God to cure her or make any changes she desires.

    Ask her to draw an outdoor scene for you with all the colors available in a box of crayons, and also to draw a picture of herself. You can scan the drawings and send them to me to see where she is—meaning, is she ready to die or not.

    Some of my books and CDs can help.  Browse through the titles and descriptions on my website.

    Whatever can make her happy is the key to the moment and her future.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    I have been diagnosed with progressive Langerhans cell histiocytosis (LCH) in my lungs and am waiting for test results to see if I have DI and kidney damage. I am doing a lung function test to see if my lung function has gotten worse, stayed the same, or improved.  Unless it has improved, my doctor wants me to do 2-CdA chemo, which is classed as savage chemo.

    I am unsure about doing this as it doesn’t have very good results. It was suggested to me by a friend who read your book. Could you possibly suggest which book or audio book I should use? I am on Cannabis and 3D Turmeric and am embarking on starting juicing to help. Any suggestions would be gratefully received.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, I recommend that you start with Love, Medicine & Miracles, and then the Art Of Healing.   There are many others that you should browse through on my website to find those that appeal to you. (www.berniesiegelmd.com).

    Listen to my CD entitled Getting Ready which will help you prepare for therapy.  It is your choice, but your body experiences what your mind believes.

    Complementary therapies are very useful, and I recommend www.lef,org as a resource.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Those seeking more information on customized cancer care and research programs can go to www.is-canceralliance.com or call international strategic cancer alliance at 610 628 3419 or email info@is-canceralliance.com.

    Question for Bernie:

    I am an Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN) student, and I just wanted to pass on my thanks for the amazing talk you gave. I’ve since listened to it five times and shared it with friends and family. I cried and laughed and found peace in my heart.

    Your joy, compassion, and wisdom are tangible. I told my husband that you are a rare breed, reminding me of my grandfather who many say the same about. They don’t make people like you these days.

    May God always bless you and your family.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You see in others what is within you.  I am only the coach. You are the gold medal winner.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

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    Q & A with Bernie – August 29, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    Hello Bernie,

    I am reading Love, Medicine & Miracles for the first time. I am struck by how necessary your words are in the realm of medical practices today, and how far medicine has skewed from the path of a true doctor/patient relationship toward true healing.

    As a mother of a child recovered from autism, I have often had to justify and defend against the prognosis of “no hope, no cure, so don’t bother.” When you mentioned the 2 out of 10 patients who are exceptional, just know we see that same dynamic play out in the parents of children with autism. There are those who, like me, chose to not accept the prognosis and instead did research, implemented dietary changes, and challenged the status quo.

    There are thousands of kids recovering from autism, and yet the general public is still unaware this is happening. I wrote a book to describe what it takes to be the parent who chooses to hold on to hope instead of despair. It’s called Victory over Autism. I plan to write a blog on the lessons in your book that are more relevant today than ever before. Just wanted you to know how it parlays to this generation of children, and the effort to heal them too.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Absolutely—and the preferred term is self-induced healing rather than spontaneous remission.

    Medicine, as it is practiced in the U.S., treats the result and not the cause. And the progress of change is very slow.

    Keep telling your story. Stories affect people. I could put your book on my website, too.

    Peace, Love, & Healing

    Questioner’s Response to Bernie’s First Answer:

    Absolutely feel free to include my book on your website. It is available in bookstores, Amazon and online.  My website is www.maryromaniec.com. Chapter 9 discusses the myriad of ways families have chosen to overcome the impact of autism, in the child and in the rest of the family members.  I write about how they go through grief, adopt certain characteristics and mantras, overcome guilt, and become resilient.

    I have quite a few friends who have similar stories as mine and have also gone on to write books.  One friend, Kathleen DiChiara, shares her story in her book entitled The Hidden Connection, which is about how she was given a grim prognosis for herself and her entire family, as they battled 21 severe disorders and syndromes.  Instead of accepting the predisposed outcome, she got educated on the idea of using food as medicine.  Today her family is entirely healed, and she became the main subject of a documentary called Secret Ingredients.

    Another friend started a large autism organization geared to helping other families find their answers (similar to eCaP).  That group’s name is Talk about Curing Autism (www.tacanow.org) and is now in 31 states. It has served over 50,000 families.

    Not to bog down your email further, but I just thought you would like to know that we are using your words from 30 years ago in a whole new paradigm.  We are the next generation of those changing the understanding of medicine, and healing!  Thanks again, Bernie.

    Bernie’s Response to Questioner’s Comment:

    I always say that parenting is the number one health issue. Growing up with love makes all the difference. My contribution to the growing library of parenting books is Love, Magic & Mudpies. You might enjoy reading it.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

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    Q & A with Bernie – August 22, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I heard a tape of yours years ago, I think from an interview by Tony Robbins.  You said everyone gets sick eventually, so why wait until that happens, do it now. I’m 57 and healthy, yet I don’t really know what I want to do, any suggestions on who to speak with to find out a path to take?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I said everyone dies, so don’t try not to die.  Instead, try to enjoy life by letting your heart make up your mind.

    Stop thinking and doing, and start feeling and caring.  Find your “chocolate ice cream.”

    If you can love and take care of one, get a pet and do something real for another loving, living being.  Find an organization you support and be a volunteer.

    Focus on giving and you will enjoy the best of life.

    Peace, Love, & Healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    I have had vitiligo since the age of 10 and practically all my life (I’m 31 now). I’ve been trying to find a way to heal my skin. I have changed my diet and am learning about integrative nutrition because I do believe that food is healing. However, I think for me particularly, my condition is not very much related to my food since I cannot see any difference regarding my vitiligo.

    I would love to have your input regarding this, and if you could help advise me, it would be really great—sending you much love, and my best.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I have very little experience with vitiligo. Ask yourself what negative words express (or describe) how you feel living with vitiligo.  Then, think about what else in your life fits those words, too, and then eliminate those situations, people, or other stressors from your life.

    Look in the mirror many times each day.  As you do, tell your body that you love it.  Your body will respond to your loving care and attention.

    Use healthy supplements with diet to be sure your body is not lacking anything. Highest Quality Vitamins And Supplements – Life Extension is a good resource.

    Read the article below and remember—when you give love, you are beautiful!

    Mind & Heart Matters – “I Hate You”

    by Bernie Siegel, MD

    Dear Everybody,

    Many years ago, while still practicing surgery, I was paged to the ER where I met and examined a young woman who everyone thought had appendicitis. However, I did not and so observed her rather than rush her to the OR, which everyone wanted me to do. Lo and behold, she recovered and was diagnosed as having a ruptured ovarian cyst. A year or so after that event, her younger sister, right before the Christmas Holidays, stumbled and fell into their fireplace. She put her hands and arms out to stop the fall and suffered severe burns on her hands, forearms, and neck. Because of my experience with her older sister, the family called me to come to the ER to see her.

    I admitted her to the hospital and every day visited her to care for her burn wounds. She was also a musician, and having her hands and fingers affected was a real blow to her life. There was no way I could stop all the pain she experienced when I was cleansing and debriding her wounds. I tried my best to distract her with my crazy childlike behavior, but nothing worked. She began yelling at me every day, “I hate you! I hate you!” I would leave her room thinking that this is not what I had hoped to experience as a physician. I wanted to help people and fix things—not be the object of hatred. Her mother told me that she observed me saying to her daughter, “maybe someday you will love me.” I do not remember saying that, but I know from my behavior, it sounds like something I would do.

    After she left the hospital I continued to see her in my office. One summer day when the temperature was in the nineties, Madeline showed up in my office wearing a turtle neck sweater with long sleeves. I asked her what she was doing wearing a sweater on a day like this. She said she felt ugly and scarred and was trying to hide her scars and ugliness from everyone. I tried to get the point across to her that she was not ugly, and that her scars were not what she and her life were now about. She didn’t agree with what I said. She told me that she was looking for a job the following summer and wondered if I could help her find something or knew of something she could apply for. An idea immediately came to my mind. I knew a local nursing home that needed some aides, so I called them to tell them Madeline’s story—and ask them to hire her even though she had no training. They agreed.

    The reason I hoped this would happen is that I knew their aides had to wear a specific uniform to identify them and it would reveal Madeline’s scars due to their short sleeves and open neck. I did not tell Madeline about that—just that I had found her a job. She was so happy to have a job that she didn’t ask me any questions. She had matured, and didn’t hate me anymore.

    A month later, in came Madeline for her routine follow up visit. After going over things, I asked her how her summer job was going. She said, “No one even noticed or asked about my scars.” I said, “Madeline when you are giving love you are beautiful.” The experience and my words did change her feelings about herself, and her life improved from that time on. With time, Madeline did not need more surgical care, so our relationship ended for several years until the evening I received this phone call from Madeline.

    “Doctor Siegel, my father died a year ago and I am getting married this summer. I was wondering if you would be my father at my wedding.”

    “Yes, Madeline. I would be honored to be your father.”

    Wow what a gift that was for my heart and how her request healed our past and said I love you to me. That summer I walked down the aisle with Madeline and after the ceremony we danced together to a song she selected by Kenny Rogers. The lyrics say it all: “Through the years you never let me down. You turned my life around.” Yes, I felt one of the most meaningful moments in my life.

    And Madeline became a nurse to continue loving and caring for the world. So go out and make a difference for yourself and others by being a love warrior.

    Peace, Love & Healing,

    Response to Bernie’s Answer:

    Thanks Bernie. I’m so grateful for you getting back to me.

    I actually see myself as being unique and different from other people, although sometimes it makes me feel limited, for instance, I cannot wear clothes that I would love to wear because I don’t want my skin to be exposed or for people to stare.

    Thanks again.

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    Q & A with Bernie – August 15, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    In 1988, I was diagnosed and treated for lung cancer.  I joined a support group and learned of you.  We were encouraged to get your book, Love, Medicine and Miracles. I did and we went to see you at Loyola University I think it was.

    I carried your book with me to my chemo treatments and live by your book.  I have given one to each person I have met who has cancer. Now my son has esophageal cancer and I have ordered one for him.

    God Bless you, Dr. Siegel. You gave me so much encouragement, and I pray that it helps my son as well.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I can be the coach, but the other part of the equation is that people have to show up for practice.

    Men think too much, and they can lose the desire to live when they can’t work or do something.

    Get him into relationships of some kind with living things—these can be pets or plants—but something to be responsible for and to care for.

    Also, have him read another of my books—The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing. It will help him to connect mind-body interaction, and there are 60 drawings by people to help explain it all.

    Remind him of his potential, and to visualize what he desires.

    Peace, love, and healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    I have a very close friend struggling with deep depression. He had an aneurysm in May and almost died. He has given up on life.

    I’m trying to help him. He’s such a great person and deserves so much better. Funny, he’s always had a lot of anger. Now there’s nothing but hopelessness.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Ask him what he would want to do if he had 15 minutes to live. Best answer would be to buy a quart of chocolate ice cream and eat it, instead of calling people to say goodbye.

    So, ask him, “What is your chocolate ice cream?” I have so many stories about people who were ready to die but didn’t.

    What people chose to do varied depending on what they defined as their version of chocolate ice cream, but in each case, seemed to result in giving that person a second chance at life. One person moved to Colorado in order to “die in the mountains,” but started to recover.  Another bought a house on the ocean to sit and meditate until the “end,” but also began to see his health improve. Others bought a dog and/or made sure to build a lot of laughter into their lives.

    The common denominator was eliminating enough stress to recharge their bodies, minds, and souls with renewed interest in living life to the fullest.

    Peace, love, and healing,

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