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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #122 – Getting to Know You

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.

    ~ Thomas Carlyle, 1795-1881, Scottish Historian and Essayist

    Getting to know yourself better takes courage. It is far easier to hide behind a mask than to see yourself as you really are. There are many who think they are perfect and need not change, who think they’re the center of the universe, and they have a problem.

    If you wish to know yourself and change for the better, you need to accept your inadequacies, fears, weaknesses, mistakes, and more. If you need others present constantly to entertain and distract you, then you are afraid to be still and know yourself.

    So spend some time being totally alone and see how you feel. If you are comfortable, then I would say you are in the process of knowing yourself. Knowing yourself means being willing to be with yourself. Once you can do that, the frantic search for distraction and escape will stop ruling your life and you can choose to fill your life with the things that bring you joy.

    Soulution of the Day

    Even if it feels uncomfortable, go away with yourself
    and spend some time together getting to know yourself.
    You may find that you are great company.

    - Bernie

  • From the Heart

    Below is a quote I would like to share from Kristine Carlson, author of From Heartbreak to Wholeness: The Hero's Journey to Joy. I will share a new quote from her website each week.

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  • Harvest

    “To exist is to change; to change is to mature; to mature is to create oneself endlessly.”
    ~ Henri Bergson, French Philosopher (1859-1941)

    We plant a seed.  It grows through the summer until harvest time arrives, and then we cut down what has grown.  The roots remain, and the next spring the plant sprouts again.  So it is with life. Death cuts us all down at some point.  For some, the growing season is longer and we create ourselves many times over, but inevitably harvest time comes for all of us.

    However, if we have established healthy roots firmly in the earth, we are immortal.  I see this when our family gets together and four generations seat themselves in the same room.  It is an incredible feeling to realize that everyone in the room is connected to my parents through their children and their children’s children.  The roots have spread deep and wide over the earth and will forever sprout as long as life exists on this planet.

    Your roots do not have to be related to the act of giving birth to a child, but to the active process of helping others to grow and thrive throughout the seasons of their life.  You can be the farmer who provides the field and the sustenance so that others are able to put down their roots in your field of dreams.

    Prepare your crop well so that at harvest time it will be ready to be cut down and you will know the roots are strong and will continue to grow.

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    Sell It

    “Herman Grimhoffer was stuck in an elevator for four hours.  Upon his release he had sold the elevator operator a new Cadillac.”
    ~ Matty Simmons

    When I first began to speak about my experience with cancer patients, I encountered anger and opposition from the medical profession.  When I was interviewed on all the well-known talk shows, I was constantly being challenged for my beliefs.  Trying to sell my ideas made me an object of everyone’s anger.  My beliefs did not fit the establishment’s beliefs.

    I learned to tell stories so that my ideas would not confront others’ belief systems too intensely.  I also learned to listen to others’ anecdotes and stories as they told about their ideas and experiences.  I learned to ask and not tell.  I found the best way to sell my ideas was to let another person share his or her experience of my techniques and how they worked for that person.

    When I told other doctors how to help patients, I encountered a lot of disagreement.  But when I asked them if they wanted to help patients, the answer was always yes.  It is much easier to sell new ideas when you are both in agreement on the basic premise.

    I am not trying to sell material things, but I am trying to sell humanistic medical care.  I still have my moments when I forget to share my ideas in a non-confrontational way.  I still have some work to do in getting all medical professionals to stop dealing with patients and start caring for them.

    If your goals are admirable and beneficial, then learn how to sell them to others and become a traveling salesperson.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    God’s Lifelines

    “To mark a friend’s remains these stones arise; I never knew but one, and here he lies.”
    ~ Lord Byron

    The above quote is inscribed on a monument erected to Lord Byron’s dog, Boatswain.  The epitaph describes the one whose remains lie nearby.  He possessed “Beauty without vanity, strength without insolence, courage without ferocity, and all the virtues of man without his vices.”

    I am a lover of animals and children; we always had a house full of both.  Adults, I have problems with sometimes.  I try to remember they were children once, too. A book of poetry I am reading basically says the same thing.  A poem about a cat finishes with, “For the name of the kitten was love.”  I wish as humans we could have such unconditional love between us as we do with our pets.

    The Bible tells us to learn from the animals, but when will the day come that we become better students?

    Remember: Dog is God spelled backward, and lifeline is three-fourths feline.  Get the message?

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie,

    I just returned from New York after my mastectomy.  They took 14 lymph nodes out; 3 were affected. The pathology came back OK a couple weeks later.

    My host in New York had your book Love, Medicine & Miracles delivered for me when I came back from hospital.

    I worked on your suggestion, and my friends waiting during surgery mentioned that when the surgeon came out to speak to them after surgery, he said surgery went well and “……there was very little blood loss.”

    Your advice stayed in my mind and conscience and my body listened.

    I am now refusing chemo and radiation and heal naturally. I have made nutritional changes and am trying to detox my body.

    How can I help program my body rid itself of any remaining cancer cells?

    Your last suggestion about imagining blood rushing away from surgery area worked so well.

    Thank you so much. Many regards.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Thanks for sending your drawing to me.  You look a bit ragged, but are all there and the light is a nice healing sign.  Surgeons don’t look whole and have no arms to work with, so make sure you develop a human relationship with them and others at the hospital.

    And get help from your family, too. None of them are in your drawing waiting for you.

    Also, add some color to the picture to bring it to life.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 21, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    Hi Dr. Siegel,

    One of my employees has had 3 miscarriages…the last one was twins at 23weeks (one week shy of being able to save them). She is now 22 weeks and started cramping so is at the doctor.

    What would your advice be to her mentally … as she is soooo in her head with worry?

    Thanks as always.

    Bernie’s Answer

    I stopped a miscarriage in one of my patients taking the following steps: What I did first was get all the negative people out of her room. Be sure you do that, too.

    And then I had her meditate and communicate with her uterus. I guided her through visualizing getting her uterus to relax and not contract, and to feel a sense of serene, inner peace. Her labor stopped and a miscarriage was averted.  She went on to have a healthy baby who she named after me.

    So, as I say above, begin by eliminating all the negative people from the room; gently put hands on her tummy and guide her in visualizing labor slowing and then stopping. Help her visualize sending energy and healing to the fetus, safe within a calm uterus.  Help her visualize getting strong and carrying her baby to term, then celebrating the birth of a beautiful child (who she can name after me per tradition mentioned above).

    Tell your employee that eliminating as much of any negative energy swirling around her as possible will boost her immune system and overall health in support of a healthy pregnancy. This can mean at least temporarily banning certain friends and family members who think they are helping but, because they don’t realize how harmful their own extremely negative views are to her overall well being, will keep right on “trying to help” and introducing unnecessary stress into her life.

    Fear is destructive, but love and laughter heal.  She should surround herself with other adults who are truly happy in their lives and do not pollute the space with negative energy.  This is your employee’s personal experience—it is her experience and is like no other’s—perhaps you could help her by explaining that to some of the people who she might be afraid to ask to stay away, but should.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 14, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    Dear Bernie – I first heard about you on Erin Lay’s Cancer telesummit.  I have multiple myeloma. Diagnosed in October of 2013 as a result of what I thought was a sports injury. It turned out that the cancer had eaten away my L3 vertebrae. I had a fusion and then started chemo.  Had a stem cell transplant in 2014; After that went into remission for about a year and then through several more chemo cocktails. Currently on an immunotherapy regimen which has been working great but now my markers seem to be going back up.

    I am an attorney, a shareholder in a woman-owned law firm. Luckily I have been able to dial back work. I participated in the woman of the year fund raiser for LLS in 2017 and am the current Rocky Mountain Region WOY as Team Mary Jo raised over $239,000 and broke the existing record by $50,000.

    I am a Christian. I also am a skier, mountain biker, windsurfer and grandmother. We have two lovely grandchildren.  I have three stepchildren and a wonderful loving supportive husband.  I also do yoga and am trying to meditate more.

    I feel fortunate that I am able to live my life to the fullest but am worried because the treatments do not last long and at some point I will run out of options. My doctors at University of Colorado are fantastic. They also embrace the spiritual side which is comforting.

    Are there any ECAP teams in Colorado?  I didn’t see any on the website.  I also go to Boston to see Dr. Richardson at the Dana Farber Cancer Institute.  If possible I would love to come and see you at the same time.

    I would appreciate any advice you could give me.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    One problem is being a lawyer—as one said, “While learning to think, I almost forgot how to feel.”  So pay attention to your heart and not just your head when choices come up.

    Read my books starting with these two—Love, Medicine & Miracles and The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-healing.

    Also, having true faith in God as your ally can do amazing things; you have to believe and your body will respond.

    ECAP is no longer an entity so I am not sure about where groups may still exist.

    Ask around about any existing groups in the Colorado.  Look for groups that discourage complaining and encourage sharing inspirational experiences.

    Next time you are in Boston let me know.  We run groups here on the second and fourth Tuesday afternoons every month.

    As you read The Art of Healing, you can also do some drawings and email them to me for comments to help you make decisions.  Picture in your mind what you desire to happen and believe that it will happen, and your body will respond. I keep it up because I know what can happen.

    Create harmony in your life through transformation and rebirth.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 7, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    Good Morning Dr. Siegel,

    I am in my 70s and am a wife, mother and grandmother, and I have just had my first chemo treatment for Stage 1 lymphoma.  I have heard you speak (years ago) and I just wanted to ask you, what is the most positive way I can undergo this treatment?

    I am very fortunate to have a caring support system including my husband, family, and the prayer community at the Lourdes Shrine in Litchfield, where I have been a volunteer for many years.

    I have been doing some “imaging” on my own, but what can I do to maximize the healing and minimize the effects of chemo? Any ideas you can give me will be appreciated!

    Thank you for your contribution to our world……

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Read my books, The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-healing, as well as Love, Medicine & Miracles.

    Several times each day, picture getting therapy and feeling well (hungry, not fatigued, etc.), with no side effects and until chemo is finished. Your body believes what you visualize.

    Go to my website and browse through my CDs, selecting any that you feel would help guide you on your healing journey.

    You will do well, I know.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 30, 2018

    Question for Bernie:

    Sorry to bother you. I’m just upset because I can’t stop licking my mouth, and now my lips are all red and chapped.  I’m out of Vaseline, and I’ve been running around since 2 o’clock this afternoon finally eating something.

    I think I looked in the mirror and saw what my Future is going to be. I went to the cancer group today and when my cousin told me to not tell my dad I have cancer, it made me realize that that is what I have.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Read my book, Love, Medicine & Miracles, and act like a survivor. Your brain is your problem, not the cancer.

    Tell your father whatever you want to, and ask him to tell you how to live to be 96. You are wasting your life’s time. When people start doing what makes them feel good with the time they have left, they don’t die when everyone expected them to.

    Grow up, be reborn. This is a tough time, but pay attention to your heart’s desires and what you want to do. Stop being a submissive sufferer worrying about everybody else.

    Where the cancer is located within your body is telling you to give birth to a new life and a new self. Life has labor pains, and they are worthwhile when you create a new self.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Effort

    “It’s the constant and determined effort that breaks down resistance, sweeps away all obstacles.”
    ~ Claude M. Bristol (1891-1951)

    Why do you extend yourself and put extra effort into certain tasks? Is it the desire for personal gain or reward that keeps you working overtime?  What motivates you to really perform work of the highest quality and put in the effort needed to achieve your desired results?

    I hope the answers to those questions are not related only to extrinsic and material things, but to an effort to do what is right as well.  We are all here to work for what is right.  Through our efforts we can create a better world.  When we start doing the right things for the right reasons, we will create the right world.

    What are you willing to put out the effort for? Do as the marines say in their training motto and “Choose the difficult right over the easy wrong.”

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Attitude

    I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it.  And so it is with you.
    ~ Charles Swindoll

    Studies show that optimists live longer, healthier lives than pessimists, even with the pessimist’s view of life is more accurate.  We could go on with endless quotes of famous people talking about all the things they worried about that never happened.

    My friend, Dr. Karl Menninger said, “Attitudes are more important than facts.”  That is why what we tell ourselves is extremely significant and helps to shape our destiny.  If our self-talk gives us hope and a positive outlook, we will live very different lives than if we await trouble and think that bad things always follow the good.

    You know the old saying “What you see is what you get.”  Your attitude determines what you see, so always look on the bright side.  The choice is yours.

    Remember to see through the eyes of an optimist today and observe what direction your life takes.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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