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    Dr. Bernie Siegel broke new ground with his monumental book Love, Medicine and Miracles. Today Bernie continues to impart wisdom about the true nature of life and love in his entertaining and enlightening debut fiction novel Three Men, Six Lives. A grand adventure born of Bernie's experience of his current and past lives awaits you. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Sacred Stories Publishing, Barnes & Noble, or Amazon.
    Go on a journey of wonder and grace with NY Times bestselling author Bernie Siegel, MD and his grandson, Charlie Siegel. Open your heart as grandfather and grandson weave a conversation of love across the generations, sharing what it means to see beyond the challenges of life to the beauty in life’s lessons. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Sacred Stories Publishing, Barnes & Noble, or Amazon.
    Introducing Dr. Bernie Siegel's new book, No Endings, Only Beginnings. Bernie Siegel is the author of many books on the healing power of the body and the spirit, but this time he wants encourage readers not only to learn from his life and advice, but to create their own manuals for living as well. With the quotes that have filled the pages of his journals and the lessons he has gleaned from them over the years, this book serves as inspiration for readers to assemble their own book of collected wisdom--and their own understanding of the answers to life's big questions. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Barnes & NobleAmazon or Hay House.
    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new audio download, Daily Meditations for Optimal Health. Selected for Dr. Bernie Siegel’s Prescriptions for Living best-selling series, these recordings are a combination of guided imagery, auto-hypnosis and meditations that relieve stress, open the heart, and deeply heal your mind, body and spirit. Learn more.     Available now. Order your copy online today at:  Hay House.
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    This free phone support group will bring people together who are experiencing health challenges and create a community devoted to emotional, physical and spiritual wellness. With the help of Dr. Bernie Siegel’s sage wisdom, patients can find hope and healing as they embark on their path forward. By participating in this group, you may learn to embrace each and every challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.

    HOST: Dr. Bernie Siegel is a writer and retired pediatric and general surgeon who writes and teaches about mind-body medicine and the relationship between the patient and the healing process. He is internationally known for his best-selling book, “Love, Medicine and Miracles”. In 1978 he founded Exceptional Cancer Patients, a specific form of individual and group therapy utilizing patient’s drawings, dreams, images and feelings. ECaP helped to facilitate personal lifestyle changes and personal empowerment of the individual’s life. He has been a global pioneer in improving and humanizing medical education and medical care.

    CO HOST: Dr. Tobi Mansfield is a medical psychologist specializing in helping patients with chronic illness and is the author of “When God Talks Back: Madness or Mysticism?”. She is the director of the Miami Wellness Center in Miami, Florida and a member of the Royal Society of Medicine in London, England.

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  • Complaints

    A man is responsible for his choice of attention and must accept the consequences.
    ~ W.H. AUDEN

    Since we all spend time complaining, we must have much in common.  What is unique is how each person finds a solution to his or her problems.

    The answers are within us, and that is the last place many of us ever look.  It is so much easier to find a solution “out there” or to have things solved by someone else.  Then you can sit home safe and secure with the problems you are comfortable with.  Why go searching for answers?  Why feel anything or see the truth?

    Another thing we have in common with one another is the fear of change.  But change is inevitable, while growth is optional.  When we are willing to reach into the depths of our souls, we will find the answer.  The voice of the cosmos speaks in symbols and not rational language.  The symbols are hidden within each of us.  Your solutions lie where you fear to go, obscured by your shadow.

    Go within and you will never come up empty-handed.

    Peace,
    - Bernie

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    Communication

    If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head.
    If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.
    ~ Nelson Mandela

    You may wonder if people hear what we are saying when they are ill or unconscious and whether or not you should try to communicate with them.  I know people hear when they are under anesthesia, in a coma, or asleep.  Even infants hear while they are still in the uterus.  I can assure you that the senile and individuals with Alzheimer’s disease hear you, too.  Although they may not be able to communicate, they are still aware at some level of consciousness.

    Talk to them, and let them know of your love.  Care for them from your heart, because to do it out of guilt will be felt by them and also by you.  Caring for someone for unhealthy reasons will take its toll on both the caregiver and the person requiring care.

    There are other ways to communicate.  You can talk with your touch; embrace and massage them.  I often bring an infant, kitten, or puppy with me and place it in their arms.  Seeing them smile and react tells me they are very much alive, even if they have a dysfunctional body or mind.  Every connection has value and brings us closer to each other.

    Even when you think someone is beyond communication, don’t give up.  There is always a way to share love.

    Peace,
    - Bernie

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    Introductions

    No man is an island, entire of itself;
    every man is a piece of the continent.

    ~ John Donne,
    Devotions Upon Emergent Occasions

    The other day I introduced my right hand to the rest of my body.  I thought they ought to know each other better.  Perhaps you’re thinking, “That’s crazy!  They already know each other.  They are all part of the same thing, made of the same thing, come from the same thing.  They don’t need an introduction.”

    Well, when I get to Heaven and they ask me if I want to be introduced to God, I’ll say, “That’s crazy!  We already know each other.  We are all part of the same thing, made of the same thing, come from the same thing.  We don’t need an introduction. Just tell Him his right hand is here.”

    We are all part of God’s world, so in truth we don’t need an introduction.

    Peace,
    - Bernie

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    Regretting Your Past Robs Your Future

    This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.

    Hi, lovely you!

    Can you believe it is February already?! I actually saw a couple of robins over the weekend! I don’t know if they are two robins that never decided to head south months ago or they are two robins that decided to come back early? Whichever the scenario, I am wondering if they regret their decision as it is COLD and SNOWY here in Massachusetts.

    Regret is a disease I think is even worse than cancer because it is invisible and even harder to beat. Many people are living with the disease of regret every day. It’s eating them alive and robbing them of joy and potential and they don’t even know it.

    Regret takes hold when we have a lack of self-compassion, which I believe most people have. It is far easier to forgive others for their misdeeds toward us than it is to forgive ourselves when we’ve done things we shouldn’t have or have not done things we should have.

    And when that regret creeps in, it completely takes over our life like an abusive partner. We may want to focus on things that are far more important in the RIGHT HERE and RIGHT NOW… we may even want to look forward to something coming up on the horizon, but our regret won’t let us.

    It instead enslaves us, keeping us stuck in the past, keeping those negative ruminating thoughts polluting our minds.

    Regret is torture, plain and simple. And the only one who can rescue you from this abuse is YOU!

    How Much Time are You Wasting?

    The thing with regret is, it steals our life out from under us. When you spend countless hours each day, week and year regretting something from your past, you are literally wasting that time on something that CANNOT be changed. It’s like feeding dollar bill after dollar bill into a vending machine that is empty of all food and beverage items. Yet there you stand, feeding your money into the machine and never having anything come out. You could go down the street and spend your money on an actual meal!

    If you have been spending your precious time on this earth regretting something(s), you are wasting your life, quite literally. And let me tell you, when you face your own mortality, you TRULY recognize how short and precious life is.

    How to STOP Regretting

    Here are some ways you can begin letting go of regret so you can begin to fully live. It’s never easy getting out of an abusive relationship. You have got to commit to the process and recognize that you and your precious life are worth it. I know this is easier said than done. I’ve been there many times in my life and it takes great courage to step out of yourself and recognize how special you are and that YOU deserve the best life. Stop worrying about what life will be like when you have moved on…you will be just fine, better than fine! Think GOOD thoughts and see yourself smiling and happy in your future life. Take baby steps. Taking it one moment at time will help you build the courage you need to see this difficult time through to the end. Never, ever give up.

    Ask a different question

    Many of us spend our time asking, “What if I had done this instead?” or “What if I hadn’t have said that?” It’s time to start asking a different question. “What if I stay stuck in my life, filled with this nagging regret? What will I miss out on?”

    Empower Yourself

    Right now, your regrets hold power over you. It’s time to turn the tables and get your power back. This means speaking up when those regrets start chattering in your head. Choose an empowering statement to shut those voices down. You might say something like, “That was then, this is now” or “I’m not the same person” or simply “NO! Be quiet!”

    Make Amends

    Sincere apologies are magical; they can make regrets completely vanish. Whether it’s to yourself or someone else, offer a sincere apology for whatever it was you said, didn’t say, did or didn’t do.

    Get a New Perspective

    You are human. And if you’re like most human beings on this planet, you do the best you can do. We all make mistakes. ALL of us. Mistakes aren’t crimes – they’re lessons.

    Help Others

    You can do a lot of good with your regrets if you put them to good use and help others. Take the lessons you’ve learned and help others so they may avoid the same mistakes you have.

    Realize You Have Changed

    The very fact that you regret something you said and did or didn’t say or do shows that you are not the same person you were back then. This is cause for celebration, not scorn.

    Live in The Now

    Practice meditation, which will help you stay in the present moment. Meditate on your regrets and forgive yourself and others who have hurt you.

    Have a Fair and Balanced Trial

    When I was young and needed to make a decision, my dad would say, take a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle, put PRO’s on one side and CON’s on the other, and start writing. I can’t tell you how many times in my life I have done this exercise, and it always empowers me. Thank you to my dear dad for this simple but great advice.

    Make a list of things you’ve done in your life. On one side of a piece of paper, write down all of the things you regret. On the other side, write down all of the things you are proud of. This is NO TIME to be modest or humble. Be HONEST and write everything down. Now compare lists. Chances are your list of regrettable acts/words/deeds is a small percentage of that other list. Why are you focusing on the bad?

    Life is precious and it doesn’t last forever. I encourage you to end this abusive relationship you are having with yourself so you can live your BEST LIFE YET!!

    Prue’s Wednesday’s Wisdom: “Always remember how precious YOU are and reward yourself with good thoughts and kindness.”


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    One Family

    You must look into people, as well as at them.
    ~ G.K. Chesterton

    The other day I was on a hotel elevator when a couple walked in.  We rode together for a few floors, and then I heard the husband say, “I think you need to change.”

    She said, “I think my clothes are all right.”

    I said, “Maybe he’s not talking about your clothes.”

    They stared at me in disbelief until they realized I was acting the part of a child, and then they laughed and we became family.

    Wherever you are, wherever you go, you will meet your sisters and brothers.

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    Knowing Your Own Self-Worth

    This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.

    I wanted to talk to you today about how most people need other people’s approval, and how that robs us of an authentic life.

    When we’re toddlers, we are completely enamored with the world around us. We love everyone and everything. A 4 year-old sees another 4-year old as an instant friend, someone to love and play with. We have amazing dreams of what we are going to achieve in our lifetime. It’s a magical time.

    And then we get older, eventually puberty hits, and all of a sudden, we stop playing and loving and start comparing ourselves to everyone else. We start seeking the approval of everyone, our parents (well, not ALL of us!), teachers and most especially our peers.

    Sadly, most of us never really outgrow this need for other people’s approval. It becomes a grim habit and one that shapes our everyday lives and self-perception. And beyond that, it’s utterly exhausting, because no matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to be everything to everyone.

    The good news is, like other habits, seeking approval is one that can be broken. Real confidence is knowing your self-worth without anyone else’s approval being involved.

    Here are some tips to help you stop seeking other people’s approval in the new year:

    I think we all need to pay attention to these tips especially with this chaotic confusing world we live in today.

    Know Your Own Self-Worth

    I know, easier said than done, but this is really the first and most important step to no longer needing the approval of others. Self-worth is recognizing that you are valuable and worthy of love simply because you exist. People with low self-esteems tend to seek approval from others because that voice in their head is always telling them they’re not good enough.

    Start paying attention to this voice. When it speaks, respond by saying, “I am worthy of love, kindness and respect.” Say it each and every time and eventually, your subconscious will begin fully believing this.

    Learn to Accept Yourself For Who You Are

    Having a healthy self-worth doesn’t mean that you suddenly think you are perfect and better than others. It simply means that you accept yourself warts and all. When we accept who we are, truly and fully, the need for others to accept us diminishes. In other words, we tend to seek outside approval when our inside approval is dismally low.

    Practice Self-Love

    Think of all of the people in your life that you love and care about. How do you treat them? Do you speak kindly to them and about them? Do you do things for them you know they will appreciate? If they needed help, would you hesitate to offer it?

    You must start to treat yourself in the same manner. Start to speak kindly to yourself and about yourself. Show yourrself love through acts of kindness. Treat yourself well. Put your needs first more often (FAR more often). Practice self-care and self-compassion. When you can do these things on a regular basis, you realize you are enough and the need for others’ approval evaporates.

    Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

    Try to be the 4-year-old version of you once again and not compare yourself to others. Enjoy yourrself and enjoy others, but don’t make comparisons. We are all beautiful unique creatures. There can never and WILL never be another you!! You have been created by God for a unique purpose. Spend more of your time meditating on what this unique purpose is instead of what everyone else around you is doing.

    Trust Yourself

    We look for others to tell us what we should be, think, do, say, need, want etc.. when we don’t trust our own instinct or our own thoughts and feelings. What happened in your earlier life that made you stop trusting yourself and listening to everyone else’s opinion? Try and think of this past experience so you can undertstand why this happens, and then LET IT GO.

    Here is how to start trusting yourself: start asking “Is this true?” Let the truth be the only guiding force in your life. God is truth and God is beauty. When you have a thought, feeling, need, desire etc. ask yourself, “Is this true?” Remember that gut feeling we discussed the other week? What does your gut tell you? If it is truth, then trust it.

    When you stop seeking other people’s approval, your life can really BEGIN! You’ll have much more energy and mental bandwidth to invest into other things that really matter, like finding your joy and passion and making true connections with others. Life becomes far more beautiful when we become enough in our own eyes.

    You are so worthy of this powerful change!

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    Pray for Me

    If you do not know what to pray for, recite the alphabet and let God create the prayer.
    ~ ANONYMOUS

    If I asked you what I could pray for, for you, what would you answer?  Stop and think about your answer.  Most people ask for prayers relating to personal needs and desires:  health, wealth, peace of mind, a new job, and whatever poses a problem in their life at the moment.

    While visiting my ninety-five-hear-old mother-n-law, who was having a tough day at the nursing home, I asked her, “What can I pray for, for you?”  I was trying to let her vent her anger and needs. I was expecting her to say pray for a nurse to come, better food, someone to change my bed, or something similar.

    She paused for a moment and said, “World peace.”

    Needless to say, I shall never forget that moment and the respect I felt for her.  She had transcended herself and her needs.  How many of us will reach that point in our lives?

    What can I pray for, for you, today? Give some thought to what you are asking for. While personal prayers ease our life’s journey, prayers for the greater good of our fellow human beings enhance our lives in untold measures.

    Peace,
    - Bernie

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    Stop Judging Your Life and Start Observing Instead

    This is a post by Prudence Sinclair.


    I thought we would play a little game today. Are you game for a game?

    Great!

    Okay, take a look at this photo:

    What do you see?

    Some people might say they see a sad man, thinking about someone he has just lost.

    Others may say this man is in deep thought, planning his future.

    And still others might say this man is overwhelmed by the natural splendor around him.

    Which of these is the right perspective? Or are ANY of them the right perspective?

    Human beings have a habit of judging people and events. We judge things in all sorts of ways. We decide one thing is good while another is bad; believe that this is hard while that is easy, think that person is mean and this one is nice.

    Why do we do this?

    Most likely it stems from our ancestors needing to stay alive. For thousands of years, our ancestors had to quickly judge everything in their environment because at any second, something in their environment could literally harm or kill them.

    That tribe shares food. That tribe steals food.

    This berry is safe to eat. That berry is poisonous.

    This bunny is nice. That bear is deadly.

    We seem to be hardwired to judge things and put them into specific boxes in order to make sense of the world around us.

    But the thing is, we no longer live with 24/7 danger all around us. Yes, there are still those moments when we perceive there may be danger and we quickly judge walking down that alley is dangerous or getting into the Uber car with that driver is not safe.

    But for the most part, judging things no longer keeps us alive, it actually keeps us from living fully.

    Judging Kills Infinite Potential

    When you make a decision about something, when you judge it to be something case closed, well, you’ve closed the door to infinite potential because you are now blind to that potential. X is bad so it can’t be good.

    Here’s a for instance. A friend of mine met her now husband in a funny way. About three years ago she and a friend of hers went out to eat at my friend’s favorite restaurant. The only table that was available was back near the kitchen. That was BAD. My friend did NOT want that table and she was pissed she was going to have to settle for something less than what she believed was GOOD. It was either that or go somewhere else.

    Well, as I said, it was her favorite restaurant so they took the table, but all while looking through the menu, she stewed and was an absolute sourpuss according to her.

    Well, halfway through the dinner, a couple of men were seated at the table next to them. Long story short, one of the guys struck up a conversation with them, she had a wonderful night, she gave him her number, he called, they dated, they fell madly in love and are now happily married.

    Now, if she had been pigheaded and decided to leave the restaurant because that table was BAD and not GOOD, she may have never met her husband. That BAD table turned out to be the GREATEST table she could have ever sat at!!

    God Works in Mysterious Ways

    Life is a love affair with the divine creator. Together you both create your life. It is the most intimate collaboration you can imagine, and “He” uses all sorts of colors and textures to co-create your life with you. When you make a rash judgement about a person or event in your life, you are, most likely, missing the ENTIRE point of God’s message or gift to you.

    Our minds and imaginations are puny compared to God’s and we can’t possibly comprehend the moves “He” makes on our behalf.

    When you “decide” that it’s miserable out because the sky is gray and it’s cold, you miss the gorgeous bright red cardinal that just landed in the tree in front of you.

    When you decide that your neighbor is a grumpy old guy, you miss the opportunity to learn from him and hear his incredible stories.

    When you decide that the bumper-to-bumper traffic is annoying, you miss the 8-year-old in the car next to you making hilarious faces at everyone. You can stew, or you can have a good laugh. It’s up to you.

    We’ve all formed opinions and beliefs based on our past experiences or based on what other people believe. For instance, most people think a gray day and 27 degrees is miserable. But does this actually make the day miserable? There is so much beauty to enjoy. So much wonder all around. Why is it miserable?

    “Because it’s cold!” you might say.

    “Well, what’s wrong with being cold sometimes?”

    “I don’t like being cold.”

    But when you are cold, you get to experience that awesome feeling of stepping inside and getting warm, no?

    So is a gray winter day bad? No. It’s just a gray, winter day. And one filled with potential, if you would simply observe the day instead of judging it.

    When we observe instead of judge, we invite God into our lives. Observing opens doors while judging closes them.

    Observing says to God, “Okay, show me what you got.”

    On that invitation, God smiles and lets loose!!

    Life is More Fun When…

    We stop pretending we know everything and start wondering more.

    I encourage you to catch yourself in those moments when you’ve DECIDED that something isn’t good or right or fun or nice. Stop in these moments and ask yourself what makes you think what you think. You’ll find it’s not a fact but just a belief or an opinion you have formed for some reason or other.

    Try to stop judging and start observing the world, people and events around you and let infinite possibilities into your life.

    It’s a gray cold day today but I’m going to rug up and get out and walk and see what makes me smile!!

    Prue

    https:/www.prudencesinclair.com

    I thought we would play a little game today. Are you game for a game?

    Great!

    Okay, take a look at this photo:

    Stop Judging Your Life and Start Observing Instead

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    Q & A with Bernie – January 25, 2021

    Question for Bernie:
    Hi Bernie,

    Hope you’re doing well. I’ve been enjoying all of your people on zoom and phone calls, and so appreciate everyone’s support. I hope you’ll be on again soon so you can enlighten us!

    I have a question. What are your feelings on functional medicine? I’m looking into everything I can to be rid of this cancer after my chemo is done, and I feel one of the biggest things is food and nutrition—whole foods especially. But I need guidance as to how much of what to eat and what to avoid. I know sugar is a big one to avoid, but does that mean I can never have cake again?

    So do you have anyone who comes to mind who I could contact to guide me with this?

    I appreciate your help. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Exercise your mind over matter, and yes avoid all sugar—but you will die as we all do either way, so if you want a bite of cake, have it free of guilt.

    Just read my books starting with Love, Medicine & Miracles. Also get meditation tapes to program your body. Love your life so your body works to keep you alive.

    I have been doing this for so long I don’t know where to send you.  Keep a journal, be aware of your feelings, and follow your heart. Let your heart make up your mind.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Support

    The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
    ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

    Your life is whirling around you, and you feel dizzy and ready to fall.  Now is the time to look for support.  Find some firm ground to stand on, and then reach out and ask others to stand beside you to help maintain your balance.

    When you were a child and whirled around a post you kept a firm grip on it so that no matter how fast you were going or how many times you circled, you had support and did not fall.  Remember that in your life; get a firm grip and then start whirling.

    Your support post can be many different things or people.  Once it is in place, you will be ready for whatever may throw you off balance.  So be sure it’s anchored well and that you are firmly supported by the people in your life.

    Get a grip and enjoy the merry-go-round of  life.

    Peace,
    - Bernie

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