Q & A with Bernie – January 21, 2013

Question for Bernie:

Dear Bernie,

With all due admiration and respect, I ask for your input.

To make a long story short, I am 56 years old with stage 4 inflammatory breast cancer which has metastasized to the brain.  Two nights ago I was the subject of an “intervention” by my brother ( age 59) and sister (age 55) who not too delicately informed me, among other things, that I am irrational, not capable of making good decisions about my health care, perhaps depressed and that I WILL die because I have made the decision to discontinue conventional treatment.  After 9 months of weekly chemo, I decided to pursue alternative healing modalities, following the onset of metastasis, after only 3 months of clear scans. I have decided to “live” NOW, rather than living a life of chemotherapy and other treatments, which I do not consider living or healing.

I understand that their actions are because they “love” me, and that they are full of fear of losing me.  I don’t believe I will be able to have them see the light I live and shine as I go about “living”…

It is my life and my decision, is it not?

My brother took it so far as to indicate that my decision had the potential to contribute to his having a heart attack, even though he is carrying 100 extra pounds which surely did play a role.

Is there a way to create peace and harmony so that they can be a part of my life and my living, and my decision,  rather than creating undo stress which is counterproductive to my healing-and theirs as well?

There are other special people in my life who support,  understand and appreciate my decision on a daily basis.  Even my doctor supports my decision.

What is it with biological family?

Love, love love you for all the wisdom you have spread,

With much Peace, Light and Love,
Ellen

Bernie’s Answer:

Your brother and sister have their issues and are projecting them onto you.  It is your choice how to live – to focus, not on avoiding death, but rather on living.  That is when self induced healing can occur.  (Ask them to try several months of chemotherapy and see if their opinion changes.)

optimal_healthVisualization can help program your body for healing and change.  For example, if you see a treatment as a labor pain associated with self-birth, you will have far fewer side effects from that treatment.  However, if your treatment feels like poison, you will react to it as poison.  You can draw pictures of your treatment options to better understand your feelings about them and support your healing visualizations.

Tell your brother and sister to read my books and visit to my web site.  Remind them that their job is to love you.  They should focus not on battling your enemy, but on healing you and your life.  They should also get the book The Energy Cure by William Bengston and do the exercises it recommends with you.

If I can help, let me know.

Peace,
Bernie

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3 Responses to Q & A with Bernie – January 21, 2013

  1. sister says:

    what can you offer for an old lady who desperately wants to lose weight and must lose weight in order to live a few more years and live in a healthy state as much as possible ? I have tried everything. If I could afford a good hypnotist I would use one but alas, my finances don’t allow for that. So I turn to you as my last hope. I don’t believe God would have put the thought in me to contact you if it was not His will. I thank you in advance for anything you can offer. I know there are miracles happening every day & I want to be one !

  2. sister says:

    January 22, 2013 at 6:02 am

    what can you offer for an old lady who desperately wants to lose weight and must lose weight in order to live a few more years and live in a healthy state as much as possible ? I have tried everything. If I could afford a good hypnotist I would use one but alas, my finances don’t allow for that. So I turn to you as my last hope. I don’t believe God would have put the thought in me to contact you if it was not His will. I thank you in advance for anything you can offer. I know there are miracles happening every day & I want to be one !
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  3. Branwyn says:

    Bernie…may I?
    Thank you…
    I read your first book 20 years ago and remember thinking it was a very powerful piece. I purchased several copies which I gave to friends. Over the years, through breakups, makeups, marriage, children, I’d forgotten how powerful those words were. Now I’m 50 and entering the crone stage of my life and I feel compelled to focus on the things that really matter. I find myself talking to my young children about these things (I had my first at 37). I can’t describe my feeling when yesterday I asked my youngest son what the most powerful force in this world is and his response, given in his 8 year old voice, was…love. Not superman, ironman, or super mario, but LOVE. They ARE listening! I recently picked your book up again…dug it out of a box (sorry, space constraints) and reread it. I was inspired to do so by the news of my brother’s recent diagnosis of stage 4 colon cancer. I began to read with his healing in mind but upon finishing the book today, realize that it has been my life that has been saved. I recognized myself in your descriptions of people who weren’t sure they wanted to live. They had lost their passion for life. I couldn’t understand why raising my children and being a helpmate to my husband just weren’t enough to inspire me. I realize now that I have to ACCEPT that this just is the fact for me and I’m not a horrible person for feeling this way. It’s my responsibility to find the things that bring me joy and self love. I owe it to my children to love myself…as strange as that may sound to some. Children really do learn best from example. Then and only then can I be for my children the positive force in their lives that reinforces the ultimate truth that LOVE is the most powerful force in the universe. They will see it every time they look into my eyes…

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