Silver & Gold

Dear Everybody,

The following sentence touched me with its meaning and content. Speech is silver, Silence is gold; Speech is human, Silence is divine. I and many others agree with that statement. In order to create a quiet mind, which can be in touch with and communicate with the divine, silence is mandatory. In the midst of pain, grief and more it is hard for true silence to be present.

I just finished interviewing Jamie Turndorf, on one of my internet shows, about her book Love Never Dies. It is a book about her experience after the death of her husband and is summarized as how to reconnect and make peace with the deceased. From my life and mystical experiences I know that she and I agree and had many stories to share about our experiences communicating with those who are no longer physically present in our lives. She is a therapist who has created a form of grief therapy which combines conflict resolution techniques and after-death communication. Thus the bereaved can reconnect and resolve unfinished business with the deceased. I can recommend these techniques and beliefs to any of you who are looking for help resolving your loss. What we lose is the physical presence of our loved one but not the spiritual presence and the love we shared and still continue to share.

She speaks of one example where her dead husband took over the computerized images she was showing during a lecture being filmed and put in a picture they had taken of the Eiffel Tower, the site of their honeymoon, and it is all on film. It reminded me of the time a cancer patient I was counseling asked me to speak at her funeral in New York. I showed up at the funeral home, which had a very large auditorium. When I was called upon to speak I went up to the podium and started telling stories about the wonderful and inspiring person Sunny was. Even when in Hospice she was a joy to visit because of her spirit. After speaking for a considerable period of time, as story after story entered my mind, the sound system went dead for no apparent reason. I announced that Sunny turned it off as her way of telling me that enough was enough Bernie. It is time to stop telling stories and proceed with the funeral. Everyone there smiled in agreement.

I could fill many pages with mystical but true experiences and have written about many of them in previous columns. It is why the statement about silence being divine and golden touched me with its truth. When we are busy talking, feeling, doing and thinking the connection with the divine does not happen. Even when the divine is trying to communicate with us if our antenna or satellite dish is not functioning due to our inner turmoil we do not receive the message.

However, when you find yourself in the midst of stillness due to your feeling and not thinking the divine and deceased can then have their message come through to you verbally or through images you see before you or in a dream. Dreams and images are the way that we can receive knowledge and communicate without speech or other people. Though I have at times, when my mind was still, heard words spoken to me which I know came from the divine consciousness which was guiding me and helping me to heal and do what the divine teaches us. Today my mother in law asked for a visit while I was about to take our dog for a walk. I went to the cemetery for a walk. Her death occurred in February and my father-in-law’s in January. I think she wanted a hello and to be sure I remembered.

I can’t help but share some of my favorite quotes about the immortality of love. I do not think it is a coincidence, I find that creative people are in touch with the golden quality of silence and when in their creative silent zone hear and see the truth and share it with us through their work, words and images. I think in many ways this shows the wisdom of the divine and how the creative individual, whose mind is focused and silent, hears the truth.

From The Human Comedy by William Saroyan: The best part of a good man stays forever, For love is immortal and makes all things immortal. From The Bridge of San Luis Rey by Thornton Wilder: And we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten but the love will have been enough. All those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love. The only survival the only meaning.

I write this to simply connect with those of you who have an open mind and are willing to experience the truth about our life and nature. It is hard for me to restrain myself from typing an endless number of experiences I have had that speak to me of the truth of the fact that when our bodies die our true selves do not. It is like your car being wrecked and no longer having its physical presence to utilize but you, the driver, still exists and knows where he or she is going. The destination is never the issue. The problem is experiencing a silent and divine state of consciousness so the golden state of immortality is available to you. Be still and all will become known to you.

These were on my calendar today. “Silence isn’t always golden. Sometimes it is yellow.” So remember to speak up to defend yourself and not be a silent, submissive sufferer.

To honor and quote Martin Luther King Jr.: Everybody can be great because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and your verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.

Peace, Love & Healing,
Bernie Siegel, MD