Q & A with Bernie – May 8, 2017

Question for Bernie

Hi Bernie,

My daughter is coming here for a visit. I have not seen her in a year.

She wants to go to Gloucester for 4 days. Because of my serious health condition, I do not want to go, and that would make her very angry. She is an addict just like her sister, which is not to her benefit.

How do I handle that, going to Gloucester? I have been having a difficult time with illness. Thanks for your guidance.

Bernie’s Answer

Tell your daughter “no.”  Survivor behavior emphasizes being comfortable saying “no” when you do not want to do something.

It is about your life—about what makes you happy.  It is not about just doing what makes your daughter happy.  Survivors know that loving and taking care of themselves—body and spirit—starts with getting completely comfortable with simply saying “no” when the situation calls for your honest response.


Question for Bernie (second question from same person)

I hope to see you on Tuesday. It is really rough when one does not have any family support.

I am losing the use of my legs.

Spiritually, I have learned a great deal about life. As you know the world is falling apart.

God is all about Love, and learning about life through the eyes, and the wisdom, of God.

Bernie’s Answer

You’ll be a gift to the world in your next life because of your experience and wisdom. Bodies are simply our tools, and like all mechanical things, they do wear out—but spirit never does.


Question for Bernie (third question from same person)

Yes, you are right on the mark of truth. The body is a vessel to get one around.

I am alive because I am full of the Holy Spirit to help me finish my mission here upon earth.

And the body is breaking down.

People today do not like death, dying, being disabled. Boy, do they avoid me.

Thanks and love for your guidance.

Bernie’s Answer

They are afraid to face reality and deny their chance of dying or being disabled.

To further obscure reality, these people do not use the word “die” but instead use euphemisms like “pass away” or “go to a better place.” Denial prolongs the intensity of grief.  The truth is dignified when people feel safe to fully express the grief of loss.

Peace & Love,