Do You Know the Person You are Trying to Save?

“The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
~Anais Nin

Good morning, Lovely You!

I am sipping a delicious cup of steaming tea and my little Zuzu is napping next to me, and so I am ready to jump into our blog post.

As often happens when I tell my story of beating cancer over 30 years ago, I recently found myself really thinking back to those days so long ago. I was in my early 20s when I was hit with the news. I was so young, I didn’t really even know who I was at that point. I didn’t know whose life it was I was trying to save.

As we dig deeper into the topic of enlightenment, I wanted to spend some time discussing becoming enlightened in a very personal way, and that is discovering who EXACTLY it is you are.

The interesting thing about cancer is, on the one hand, it is the most terrifying ride you will ever be on. On the other hand, it is so completely freeing and liberating and helps you discover your purpose in this life.

And if we can get very real, I believe much of the time cancer develops in people who are not living the life they want to live – living a lie. That is why I chose the quote from Anais Nin. To spend your life living in a way that doesn’t suit you, doesn’t support your values, likes, dislikes, needs, wants, etc. is really asking to become ill in one way or another.

Cancer is a wake-up call of the HIGHEST magnitude. It is an alarm bell ringing signaling that we must CHANGE. And sometimes this change is to STOP and discover WHO IT IS that we really are. WHO is it that you are trying to save?

To save that other person’s life, the one who got you sick in the first place, seems a bit… well… unpractical. You’re just asking for a few healthy years and then the cancer comes back.

No, to really heal from cancer, you’ve got to uncover WHO you REALLY are.

How to Discover the REAL You

Most of us spend our lives living for other people. We grow up wanting to make our parents happy and wanting to be liked in school. When we get older, we spend our time and energy trying to be attractive to the opposite sex. We land a good job and do whatever it takes to move up the ladder and get along with our coworkers.

At some point, many of us wake up and don’t even know who it is looking back at us in the mirror.

And then cancer strikes.

And we find ourselves fighting for our lives.

Except for many of us, our lives don’t feel too good.

Our lives don’t fit too well.

Our lives made us sick in the first place.

It’s time for real enlightenment. It’s time to discover who you really are; whose life it is you are trying to save.

So how do you do that?

This isn’t an exercise into discovering your favorite color or holiday or whether you look better in solids or prints.

This is much deeper than that.

This is about blooming; about becoming the person you were born to become.

Here are some ways I have found can help you uncover the REAL you:

Who are You in Your Private Moments?

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  1. Cynthia Grob

    I could never understand why I read your early books. I was fine. No problems. In the past few days I have been diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic adenocarcinoma and now I know. Thank you for being part of my life. I look forward to moving ahead together.