This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.
Good morning, lovely you!
I have just returned from my walk. It was amazing to see so many trees with their colorful leaves. And we finally had some sun this morning so all of the red and yellow and orange leaves were lit up like jewels against a bright blue sky. Just breathtaking!
As I walked, with many leaves crunching beneath my feet, it dawned on me that we tend to see fall as a death of sorts. After all, the trees shed their leaves, and we won’t see them again until spring!
But this morning, it dawned on me that autumn can and should be thought of as a time of letting go of things that no longer serve us. Shedding unnecessary “stuff” so that we can ready ourselves for a renewal of life.
So many of us carry around baggage that does nothing but weight us down. I encourage you to take a look within to see what you may be able to discard this fall season.
When loved ones first come into our lives, whether in a friendly way or romantic way, we tend to feel a rush of excitement and perhaps don’t pay attention to the red flags that may present themselves to us. Eventually we can find ourselves in a toxic relationship where we give more than we get; where this other person makes us question our own worth.
Toxic relationships demean us, devalue us, and can make us sick. Look around. Are you in any toxic relationships that need to end?
Life doesn’t always turn out the way we plan. And that’s because God often has even bigger and better plans for us.
For example, let’s say you were really hoping to land what you thought was a dream job with an amazing company. You went through three rounds of interviews and it looked like you had the job in the bag. But in the end, the company decided to go with someone else.
Now you have two choices: hold onto your feeling of disappointment and sulk and stew in your own pity. But this will stop you from seeing what other plans may be in store for you. Maybe you didn’t get the job because it was going to take you to another city, and your future wife or husband lives in your current city.
God has a plan for each and every one of us. But, as we cannot begin to fathom the mind of God, we may see opportunity as disappointment. Don’t. Let them go and instead look around at what is in front of you.
Resentment is poison. It kills us slowly from the inside out. Do you really think the person you resent is being hurt by your feelings? Nope. They go about living their life while you stew and fester.
People are going to harm us in this life. People we never imagined would “do us wrong” will sometimes do us wrong. It doesn’t feel good. And you should absolutely allow yourself some time and space to grieve when you have been harmed or hurt in some way.
But then you need to put it behind you and move on. Resentment only hurts YOU. It stops you from living your life. It ages you and makes you sick. It sends negativity out in front of you so when you meet new people who may add joy and value to your life, they avoid you because they get such a negative vibe.
Grand Ideas That Aren’t What You Really Want
From the time we’re young we are programmed to like what other people like and want what other people want. What success means to someone else… it’s supposed to mean the same thing to us. And so, we commit our lives and our energy to achieve grand things that aren’t really what we want.
Grand ideas often come from the head and ego. It’s time to connect with your heart and spirit. When you close your eyes and envision your perfect life, is it filled with yachts and lavish homes? For some maybe. For most of us, we just want to have enough so that we don’t struggle. What we really want is real connections with others, real love. That’s what life is about. Love.
Let those grand ideas go, the ones that aren’t really from your heart but from someone else’s mind and focus on what really matters to YOU.
And last but certainly not least, it’s time to let go of self-hatred. Make this season about self-care and self-compassion. You won’t BELIEVE how your life can change for the better when you stop hating yourself and start loving yourself. God loves you and it breaks his heart that you don’t love yourself. Since God is WAY smarter than we are, if he finds us to be infinitely lovable and loves us unconditionally, than why question that?
This autumn, I really encourage you to take stock of your life and let go of those things that are hurting you. Then, after you take some time to regroup and heal, you will be ready for a glorious new life to emerge!