If you really want to understand me, please hear what I am not saying,
what I may never be able to say.
If we all would really listen to each other, we could save on therapy by seeing one another as the beautiful creations we are.
A while back, my wife and I were due to go to a wedding. Bobbie refused to go, saying, “I have nothing to wear. Nothing fits right anymore.”
I replied, “Okay, dear, let’s go shopping and I’ll buy you a new dress.” I must have said that a million times with no response. One day, tired of trying to motivate her to shop, I responded differently. She said, “I have nothing to wear. I am not going to the wedding.”
I responded, “You are so beautiful it makes no difference what you wear. No one notices your clothing. They only see your beauty.” My wife went to the wedding wearing a dress she had in the closet. I saved a lot of money, but more importantly, she felt good about herself.
Listen to what someone isn’t saying today and then respond to what they really mean.