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    Go on a journey of wonder and grace with NY Times bestselling author Bernie Siegel, MD and his grandson, Charlie Siegel. Open your heart as grandfather and grandson weave a conversation of love across the generations, sharing what it means to see beyond the challenges of life to the beauty in life’s lessons. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Sacred Stories Publishing, Barnes & Noble, or Amazon.
    Introducing Dr. Bernie Siegel's new book, No Endings, Only Beginnings. Bernie Siegel is the author of many books on the healing power of the body and the spirit, but this time he wants encourage readers not only to learn from his life and advice, but to create their own manuals for living as well. With the quotes that have filled the pages of his journals and the lessons he has gleaned from them over the years, this book serves as inspiration for readers to assemble their own book of collected wisdom--and their own understanding of the answers to life's big questions. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Barnes & NobleAmazon or Hay House.
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  • We Don’t Die

    I cannot deny events and facts, and since my wife died a little over two years ago, my experiences have been incredible. The first being a call from a former patient and mystic two days later saying she had a message from a lovely lady who was an opera singer, that Bobbie was fine and with family again—my wife’s mother was an opera singer.

    Next, I began finding pennies everywhere—and we call them pennies from Heaven as after my mother’s death I found them everywhere, and one of her grandchildren said, “They are pennies from Heaven.” Where did that kid get that idea?

    I know it is true because they appeared in strange places and also in places where I saw no pennies an hour before. And even in place pennies would not be lost like wooded areas around our house. The most significant were my finding a dime and a penny together because we were married on the eleventh day of July. They were on store checkout counters and in a bird bath is our yard.

    At night when in bed, I heard sounds like her voice, and even sat up one night and asked, “Do you need any help?” and then realized my wife was dead, and not talking to me in the bedroom. At night I also would hear a sound like you make when blowing out a candle and then feel a breeze on my face. I knew my wife was kissing me good night.

    Eight months after she died, I had a heart arrhythmia called fibrillation and went to the local emergency room. They called out to staff, “put him in room number nine.” My wife was born on 9/9. So I knew she was watching over me. When they had a hospital bed available the next day, it was in room 819. Eight has meaning by representing a new beginning, so again I knew I’d be okay. My hospital identification number on my wrist band is 8996633 and the case numbers also added up to nine for the last two years, and I have saved them for nonbelievers to see as evidence.

    This last Mother’s Day weekend was a 9 for Friday 10 for Saturday and 11 for Monday. On the ninth I found a dime and a penny in the clothes dryer when I went to take the dry clothes out, and there was nothing put in the dryer which had any chance of having coins in them. On Sunday I was making the bed after getting up and went around to the side my wife used to sleep on to tighten the sheets and blankets by pulling them back. When I lifted them to pull they felt like they were pulled out of my hands and thrown to the other side of the bed and what did I see? Yes, a dime and a penny on the bedsheet. You try and explain that one.  I put all the coins in a little plastic bag and keep them with my wife’s photo in the shirt pocket next to my heart.

    Last but not least, the most remarkable event. I wear three rings. One made by one of our children is my family ring, another made by a patient and friend my friendship ring and third my wedding ring. Two years ago some women, who were old friends, began to show interest in me after Bobbie’s death though their actions were not of interest to me.  When I go to sleep at night I put the rings and my watch in a drawer. Well one morning I look in the drawer and my friendship rings was missing. There was no sensible explanation for that. Yes, I looked on the floor and all around nothing discovered. I felt it was my wife’s way of saying, “stop this stuff with the female friends.” I made sure I did, but no ring appeared for several months. Then one morning while the bedroom carpet was being vacuumed, I was called to come to the bedroom—and there on the floor in plain view was the ring. Try and explain that one.

    Now back to the latest Mother’s Day weekend. On Monday I open the drawer and the friendship ring was missing again. I searched everywhere with a flashlight to see if I might have dropped it under the bad or in the closet accidently when I put it in the drawer. Nothing found. Two evenings later as I am getting ready for bed there on the carpet in front of the closet was the ring in plain view for anyone to see. There is no rational explanation for any of these events except that my wife’s spirit and consciousness are ever present and still participating in my lifer and our relationship. We had a love few people will ever experience, and I know she is still there, with and for me and our family.

    I am taking the time to write and share this so people realize that Life is a cycle, and I know from a past life experience that my wife and I were not together for the first time in this life. Bodies die but spirits and consciousness survive and recycle. So know that your loved ones are still there, watching over you and desiring that you still find happiness and meaning in your life, and not let sorrow take control and destroy your life.

    Peace and Love,
    Bernie

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    5 Easy Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Your Doctor

    This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.

    Hello, lovely you!

    My goodness we have been having some glorious weather, finally. Warm, breezy and NO HUMIDITY! I don’t know how much of it we’ll get this summer, but I will savor every second of it. As I sit near my new patio with the door open listening to the birds and smelling the scented sea air, sipping my tea with snoozing little Zuzu, my kitty by my side, I am ready to dive into today’s post.

    I received an email a few days ago from a reader asking my opinion on how she should handle the situation she was having with her doctor. She felt like she was just a number to her oncologist and that he didn’t’ really know her or even care about her as a human being. She had heard good things about him from other doctors and patients, but her own experience left much to be desired.

    Been there. Done that!

    When you’ve been diagnosed with cancer or another serious illness, it’s hard to interact with all of the doctors you come into contact with. You’ve been told they are good – experts even – but sometimes you may just not jive with their personality or feel that they really care all that much.

    Doctors are human beings. They have their good points and they have their bad points – some of them. I believe a good majority of doctors go into the profession with the goal of truly helping people. Then they get chewed up by a healthcare system that has been set up for profit – not health – and they get disillusioned and burned out – and they follow the protocols that have been set out for them. Namely, don’t treat an individual holistically or find the root cause of disease. Instead, cut parts out and off and prescribe as many pills as you can.

    But, as with any important relationship in your life, the relationship you have with your oncologist, primary care doctor, therapist etc. will need to be worked on. This is really important because studies have found that those patients who have good relationships with their doctors typically have better health outcomes.

    This makes sense, right? The better your relationship with your doctor, the more likely you are to actually show up to appointments, be open and honest with them and take their medical advice.

    If you just don’t like your doctor, I encourage you to find a new one you are comfortable with. If you like your doctor but feel like the relationship could use a little help, here are some things you can do to improve it:

    Prepare Yourself for Your Appointment

    Help your doctor help you by being prepared for each appointment. Beyond showing up on time, you need to make sure you bring a list of ALL your current medications, any health issues you’ve been having, and any questions and concerns. You may have.

    Organize and Prioritize

    Sadly, today’s doctors do typically have only a short amount of time to offer each patient. Most doctors don’t love being pressed for time any more than their patients. To help them and you, try and prioritize your issues and let your doctor know how many things you’d like to discuss. Ask how many items can you realistically get through. This openness and transparency will help you not feel anger or resentment toward your doctor who is trying to give you as much time as they can.

    Ask How They May Be Reached After Hours

    In case of a medical issue, it’s important that you be able to get in touch with your doctor. Each will have their own preference for how they should be reached after hours, so be sure to know their system in advance. One less thing to worry about.

    Use Electronic Health Records to Stay Informed

    Find out if your doctor’s office uses electronic health records (EHRs). Most should nowadays. Find out how you can access the portal. This will make it incredibly easy for you to review your records and educational material, so you can be as informed as possible. This will make speaking with your doctor far easier for BOTH of you.

    Don’t Complain – Share Your Concern

    Try and think of things from your doctor’s point of view. All day long he or she deals with patients who are in some kind of pain or distress, and a lot of their grumpiness gets dumped on the doctor. All day. Every day. So don’t go into your appointment with a complaint – rather try and go in with a concern you have.

    For instance, it’s natural to go in and complain that you are having trouble sleeping. But what’s more important is to share your main concerns about your lack of sleep: you have trouble at work or have issues taking care of your kids, etc. if you don’t share your concerns, you don’t give your doctor a chance to respond to them.

    All relationships require work, and the one you have with your doctor is no different. Again, if he or she is just not jiving or listening to you, I urge you to look for someone you feel comfortable with and can fully trust. But, if you like your doctor but feel that things could be going better, please try the tips I’ve outlined. They have worked for me and countless others I’ve coached, and they can help you build better rapport with everyone on your healing team.

    Create a dream healing team. Make sure it full of people you love to visit and who enhance you on your wellness journey.

    Love always,
    Prue – https://www.prudencesinclair.com

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    Where Are You?

    “We are always on our guard against contagious diseases of the body, but we are exasperatingly careless when it comes to the even more dangerous collective diseases of the mind.”
    ~ Carl Jung

    Here is a simple test to see where you are in your life. Ask yourself what is your favorite animal and why is it your favorite animal? STOP! Before reading on and answering the question, let me tell you about two of my patients.  The first was a depressed, unhappy woman who I wanted to help realize she was worth something, but I wasn’t getting anywhere, so I asked her the above question. Her answer took me by surprise—she said, “I hate pets and killed my canary.” Boy did I have my work cut out for me.  I still believed in the question, though, so I asked a second patient, a young woman who told me she was at my workshop to decide whether to commit suicide or not. I stopped and asked her the favorite animal question.  Her answer was “an eagle” and then went on to describe this beautiful bird soaring through the sky. She looked at me and said, “I am not going to commit suicide.”

    Yes folks, which animal you pick is not the issue, but how you describe what you like about it is, because you are talking about yourself. I love chipmunks—they are cute and all over the place. And when you think about it, the animals know the way. They use all their senses and find their way to food or home. We are busy thinking about which is the right or shortest way, and losing our way because our inner wisdom is locked up in our treasure chest and cannot communicate with us. So be open to what your heart is telling you from within your treasure chest and become the creature you admire and love. Self-love is necessary in order for you to be able to love others too.

    Remember, a goat has no problem raising a tiger. The tiger, however, has to realize he is a tiger when he grows up, and he does that with a quiet mind by looking into the still pond. Then he gives up his vegetarian way of life and becomes himself, the tiger. And I may add, feel free to growl when it is appropriate to protect your life.

    Peace, Love & Healing,
    Bernie

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    How is YOUR Intuition During COVID-19?

    This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.

    Good morning, lovely you!

    It is hard for me not to feel out of sorts these days. Are you feeling that way? The world seems like it is getting crazier and crazier. Pandemics, riots, looting, fires… the world seems a bit lost right now.

    No matter what is going on in this outside world, it is not the ULTIMATE reality. This physical dimension is not the be-all-end-all reality. There is a place of love, joy and complete serenity and peace that not only exists – but is the one real true existence.

    During times like these, it is important to always remain connected to this stiller, quieter place. There is a phrase in Christianity, Buddhism and other religious and spiritual teachings that says, “Be in the world but not of the world.” I believe this refers to people who have chosen a monastic lifestyle, such as a nun or monk. These people have become one through prayer, spiritual practice, meditation or mystical contemplation. A monastic is ideally someone who takes the inner nun or monk seriously, and this inner world is simply the mystic in all of us. Eventually the outer and inner become one through prayer, spiritual practice, meditation, or mystical contemplation. All these practices are related to inner attention to the sacred.

    You and I are living in this conflicted world right now. Here we are. We’re good people trying to be kind, productive human beings and raise our families and help our communities. And yet all around us is fear, panic, anger, and violence. But we don’t have to be into any of that.

    We can connect with the higher realms, our higher being, our God to find the calm and peace we seek during these troubling times. And this is where our intuition can come in.

    What is Intuition?

    Living in such a fear-based culture makes it hard to keep a sense of control. Who should we listen to about what is going on? Our government leaders? The media? Mmmm, something tells me those agents don’t have our best interests in mind and certainly aren’t always (or ever) truthful.

    It is through our intuition, our inner being that we can find real and honest answers. This powerful knowing is not only trustworthy but completely attuned to our individual journeys. Ask your intuition anything and you’ll get a clear and honest message. Our intuition puts Alexa to shame!

    Our intuition knows us, knows our deepest secrets and fears, knows what we want and need and how we get there. It is like our best friend or mentor who is always there and ready to guide us.

    And yet, most of us don’t have any real relationship with our intuition. But maybe you’ve had some experiences in your life where you couldn’t explain how you knew to do something, but you had a strong “sense” about something and that sense was totally correct.

    This is your intuition. It is that quiet inner voice – your inner genius that absolute knowing.

    What is it really? It’s anyone’s guess. Is it your subconscious mind? Is it an angel? Is it God him/her/itself speaking to you? We won’t know exactly while we are still in this human form.

    But you don’t have to know how a car works to drive to the store. You don’t have to know how your TV works to watch your favorite show. And you don’t have to know exactly what your intuition is or how it works to benefit from a relationship with it.

    5 Ways to Develop Your Intuition

    Who knows what the news outlets will tell us tomorrow? Who knows what kind of global and/or personal strife we may face in the coming days, weeks and months? If you don’t have a strong intuition that can guide you through these times, now is when you need to develop it.

    See you over here at the blog where we will discover 5 ways to develop your intuition. (Link Tom: https://www.prudencesinclair.com/how-is-your-intuition-during-covid-19/)

    Love you,
    Prue

    Good morning, lovely you!

    It is hard for me not to feel out of sorts these days. Are you feeling that way? The world seems like it is getting crazier and crazier. Pandemics, riots, looting, fires… the world seems a bit lost right now.

    No matter what is going on in this outside world, it is not the ULTIMATE reality. This physical dimension is not the be-all-end-all reality. There is a place of love, joy and complete serenity and peace that not only exists – but is the one real true existence.

    During times like these, it is important to always remain connected to this stiller, quieter place. There is a phrase in Christianity, Buddhism and other religious and spiritual teachings that says, “Be in the world but not of the world.” I believe this refers to people who have chosen a monastic lifestyle, such as a nun or monk. These people have become one through prayer, spiritual practice, meditation or mystical contemplation. A monastic is ideally someone who takes the inner nun or monk seriously, and this inner world is simply the mystic in all of us. Eventually the outer and inner become one through prayer, spiritual practice, meditation, or mystical contemplation. All these practices are related to inner attention to the sacred.

    You and I are living in this conflicted world right now. Here we are. We’re good people trying to be kind, productive human beings and raise our families and help our communities. And yet all around us is fear, panic, anger, and violence. But we don’t have to be into any of that.

    We can connect with the higher realms, our higher being, our God to find the calm and peace we seek during these troubling times. And this is where our intuition can come in.

    What is Intuition?

    Living in such a fear-based culture makes it hard to keep a sense of control. Who should we listen to about what is going on? Our government leaders? The media? Mmmm, something tells me those agents don’t have our best interests in mind and certainly aren’t always (or ever) truthful.

    It is through our intuition, our inner being that we can find real and honest answers. This powerful knowing is not only trustworthy but completely attuned to our individual journeys. Ask your intuition anything and you’ll get a clear and honest message. Our intuition puts Alexa to shame!

    Our intuition knows us, knows our deepest secrets and fears, knows what we want and need and how we get there. It is like our best friend or mentor who is always there and ready to guide us.

    And yet, most of us don’t have any real relationship with our intuition. But maybe you’ve had some experiences in your life where you couldn’t explain how you knew to do something, but you had a strong “sense” about something and that sense was totally correct.

    This is your intuition. It is that quiet inner voice – your inner genius that absolute knowing.

    What is it really? It’s anyone’s guess. Is it your subconscious mind? Is it an angel? Is it God him/her/itself speaking to you? We won’t know exactly while we are still in this human form.

    But you don’t have to know how a car works to drive to the store. You don’t have to know how your TV works to watch your favorite show. And you don’t have to know exactly what your intuition is or how it works to benefit from a relationship with it.

    5 Ways to Develop Your Intuition

    Who knows what the news outlets will tell us tomorrow?

    Good morning, lovely you!

    It is hard for me not to feel out of sorts these days. Are you feeling that way? The world seems like it is getting crazier and crazier. Pandemics, riots, looting, fires… the world seems a bit lost right now.

    No matter what is going on in this outside world, it is not the ULTIMATE reality. This physical dimension is not the be-all-end-all reality. There is a place of love, joy and complete serenity and peace that not only exists – but is the one real true existence.

    During times like these, it is important to always remain connected to this stiller, quieter place. There is a phrase in Christianity, Buddhism and other religious and spiritual teachings that says, “Be in the world but not of the world.” I believe this refers to people who have chosen a monastic lifestyle, such as a nun or monk. These people have become one through prayer, spiritual practice, meditation or mystical contemplation. A monastic is ideally someone who takes the inner nun or monk seriously, and this inner world is simply the mystic in all of us. Eventually the outer and inner become one through prayer, spiritual practice, meditation, or mystical contemplation. All these practices are related to inner attention to the sacred.

    You and I are living in this conflicted world right now. Here we are. We’re good people trying to be kind, productive human beings and raise our families and help our communities. And yet all around us is fear, panic, anger, and violence. But we don’t have to be into any of that.

    We can connect with the higher realms, our higher being, our God to find the calm and peace we seek during these troubling times. And this is where our intuition can come in.

    What is Intuition?

    Living in such a fear-based culture makes it hard to keep a sense of control. Who should we listen to about what is going on? Our government leaders? The media? Mmmm, something tells me those agents don’t have our best interests in mind and certainly aren’t always (or ever) truthful.

    It is through our intuition, our inner being that we can find real and honest answers. This powerful knowing is not only trustworthy but completely attuned to our individual journeys. Ask your intuition anything and you’ll get a clear and honest message. Our intuition puts Alexa to shame!

    Our intuition knows us, knows our deepest secrets and fears, knows what we want and need and how we get there. It is like our best friend or mentor who is always there and ready to guide us.

    And yet, most of us don’t have any real relationship with our intuition. But maybe you’ve had some experiences in your life where you couldn’t explain how you knew to do something, but you had a strong “sense” about something and that sense was totally correct.

    This is your intuition. It is that quiet inner voice – your inner genius that absolute knowing.

    What is it really? It’s anyone’s guess. Is it your subconscious mind? Is it an angel? Is it God him/her/itself speaking to you? We won’t know exactly while we are still in this human form.

    But you don’t have to know how a car works to drive to the store. You don’t have to know how your TV works to watch your favorite show. And you don’t have to know exactly what your intuition is or how it works to benefit from a relationship with it.

    5 Ways to Develop Your Intuition

    Who knows what the news outlets will tell us tomorrow? Who knows what kind of global and/or personal strife we may face in the coming days, weeks and months? If you don’t have a strong intuition that can guide you through these times, now is when you need to develop it.

    See you over here at the blog where we will discover 5 ways to develop your intuition. (Link Tom: https://www.prudencesinclair.com/how-is-your-intuition-during-covid-19/)

    Who knows what kind of global and/or personal strife we may face in the coming days, weeks and months? If you don’t have a strong intuition that can guide you through these times, now is when you need to develop it.

    See you over here at the blog where we will discover 5 ways to develop your intuition. (Link Tom: https://www.prudencesinclair.com/how-is-your-intuition-during-covid-19/)

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    Express Yourself – The Key to Healing

    There are many situations and circumstances in life which make us pessimistic. It might be easy to give up hope, particularly when others make discouraging comments. Let us always believe in the benevolence of our loving Creator. Let this belief be so strong that nothing anyone says can cause us to lose hope.

    It isn’t easy to be strong, but I can say that I have seen the benefits of faith in my work and life. I know of several people who have had their life threatening cancers disappear when they left their troubles to God and believed. Too often we feel guilty and that God is punishing us. It ain’t so. God tries to help you to find what you have lost and doesn’t inflict problems to make you more spiritual. One day I wasn’t in that place of faith, and my view of life led me to write the following poem.

    BIBLE II THE OTHER VERSION

    The lord is my persecutor
    I have many needs
    He maketh me to lie down on beds of nails
    He leadeth me into the stormy sea
    He troubles my soul
    He misleadeth me into the paths of unrighteousness for no reason
    Yea when i walk through the valley of the shadow of death
    I have plenty to worry about and fear
    For thou art on vacation
    They rod and thy staff I keep tripping over
    Thou preparest a table with no utensils in the presence of mine enemies
    Thou messest up my hair
    My cup runneth over and spills a hot drink into my lap
    Surely misery and punishment will follow me all the days of my life
    And I shall dwell in the basement of the lord’s house forever.

    Now do you all feel better? Yes, I smile when I read it. This collection of poetry I am sharing dates back many years to a time when I felt what Jung said, “A secret unrest gnaws at the roots of our being.” Painting and writing “poetry” helped me to heal. I found that anything creative that made me lose track of time was very healing.

    I truly suggest to all of you that you start a poetry book, and don’t worry about rhyming or punctuation. The key is to express what is within you and that includes humor as well as pain. When it is expressed you can heal. When it is stored within you it creates physical and emotional problems trying to get your attention.  So, listen to your very best friend—your own body.

    Peace and healing,
    Bernie

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    Did YOU Discover Your Gifts during COVID-19 Lock Down?

    This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.

    Good morning, lovely you!

    I hope all of you were able to have a fantastic Memorial Day weekend. The world has been so crazy lately, we all deserved to spend some time having fun and celebrating. Of course, it’s also an important day to honor those men and women that have died in service to this country. America is an incredible country, and I dreamed of living here when I came with my parents to the East Coast when I was seven years old. I told my father that this is where I was going to live one day. He said, “How are you going to do that?” I answered, “I will find a way, Daddy.” There are no words to explain how thrilled I am to call America my home.

    The USA is an extraordinary place. It has always been a beacon of hope and a promise of a better life for people around the world. The famous plaque on the Statue of Liberty starts with, “Give me your tired, your poor…” With these words, it’s as if America promises to share her gifts with those in the world that need them the most. Her gifts of freedom, liberty, and the chance to work hard and make whatever kind of life you dream you can imagine. If the United States didn’t share her gifts with others. I wouldn’t be here, and so many others wouldn’t be here either.

    It’s not an easy road immigrating to the US legally. The amount of paperwork is astronomical, and the FBI does background checks going back five generations. There are many medical tests, including viruses like HIV/AIDS, you are required to do. You must be healthy when you arrive legally, so you are not a burden on the health care system. After many years and pages of documents and interviews, your temporary Green Card arrives in the mail!! I kissed mine! You are legal, but you don’t know anyone. You have to get a roof over your head without a credit rating and a job without letters of recommendation. Even though I spoke English, British English, it was difficult to understand the American business terminology and how you construct your sentences. I fell on hard times more than once and got back up, dusted myself off, and started again. I knew my dreams would come true here in America. I just had to keep believing in me. Every ounce of blood, sweat, and tears has been worth it. I arrived with one suitcase a few dollars in my pocket. I was a cancer survivor, a thriver, and I had a dream. I pinch myself some times to see if this is all real!

    America allows you to create your life on YOUR terms and reach your greatest potential.

    I did not have the opportunities growing up on a small island in the South Pacific that you have here in America. I would never have met the fantastic innovative people in hi-tech, the medical/scientific field, and the incredible New York Times Best Seller authors and spiritual advisers that have inspired me. These are the people who have helped change the world, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. I’m learning and growing daily and will continue my dream to inspire and help others find their inner gifts and destiny.

    The world needs ALL kinds of gifts, are you sharing yours?

    “But Prue, I’m just a person, not a country.” Every inventor, artist, doctor, teacher, explorer, is and was “just” a person. But by sharing their gifts, many have helped shaped this world we are living in.

    “Okay, but I don’t have any special gifts. I’m just sort of… normal.” Everyone has a gift. EVERYONE. And I think life is about exploring your purpose and sharing your gifts to offer a positive impact in as many people’s lives as you can.

    Maybe you are reading this, and you have an idea of what your gift(s) is(are), but you think they aren’t as valuable or worthy of attention as someone else’s. Isn’t a daisy as valuable and worthy of attention as a mountain? Isn’t a hummingbird as impressive as an eagle? And doesn’t a child’s handmade card move others as much as a work of art housed in the Guggenheim? All gifts are precious and valuable. And if you don’t yet know what your gift(s) is/are, then it’s time you found out! Because your gifts are a channel in which the divine creator touches your life and the lives of everyone you touch!!!

    How to Discover the Gifts Inside of You

    Whether it’s through painting, writing, playing music, dancing, teaching, cooking, or any number of things, your unique gifts add color, texture, flavor, and emotion to everyone around you. If you are unsure about the fantastic gifts lying dormant within you, here are five ways to discover what they are.

    LEARN MORE over here at my bloghttps://www.prudencesinclair.com/did-you-discover-your-gifts-during-covid-19-lock-down/

    Love you,
    Prue

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    On Being a Respant

    I agree with Mark Twain who said that when you keep anger stored within you, it will eat away at you and destroy you. We know from studies that people who internalize their anger and try to please everyone are far more likely to develop cancer and other illnesses than those who express their feelings and do not internalize them to please others. He who seeks to save his life will lose it. When your life becomes what others desire and impose upon you, you are losing your life, but when you are willing to lose your life by eliminating not your life but the life which is killing you then you save your life. So eliminate what is killing you and not yourself. I try to teach this to teenagers so they don’t self-destruct but instead construct a new life they can be proud of and enjoy. And don’t wait for a life threatening illness to wake you up.

    What I want people to become is not the submissive sufferer who never complains and tries to please everyone but a Respant, which I define as a responsible participantsomeone who speaks up and expresses themselves and takes responsibility for their life and actions. If you constantly store your emotions within you, your body will break down and get your attention. If you find healthy ways to express yourself than your body will also stay healthy. Anger and aggression can be expressed in healthy ways besides through the mouth. Exercise, sports, physical labor (think about hammering away all day to build something versus beating up the person you are angry at) all of these can let you come home and feel at peace within.

    And when you cannot resolve whatever led to your anger with the other person don’t seek revenge which will just add guilt to your emotional issues. Let it go. In the past I discussed my anger when our hotel room was entered with a key and robbed. It took me a while to realize my continued anger at the robber, and I knew who it was, was now robbing me of my life’s time because of how much of the day I focused on the evil S.O.B. who did it. When I was able to visualize it all in a positive way—and even be compassionate towards the robber imagining his difficult life—and let go, and I was free again. The love warrior derives many benefits from the use of his weapon. So remember to love even those who do not treat you with respect while you tell them what you are upset about and don’t like about how they treated you. It will affect how they think and feel far more than you yelling at them and telling them you are right and they are wrong.

    In conclusion, if you want to find a good doctor ask them if they are criticized by patients, family and nurses. The best doctors answer yes. They are learning from their mistakes and so people talk to them and share their feelings and experience. Those who don’t learn from their mistakes create anger and end the communication because people realize there is no point in talking to someone who just blames you or something else and never takes responsibility for their actions. Just remember, how you feel is up to you and not someone else. Concentration camp prisoner Jack Schwarz said, “Ich liebe dich”, which means “I love you”, to a German guard who was choosing where to send prisoners and it saved his life.

    Peace, love and healing,
    Bernie
    Bernie

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    Love and Luaghter Hold Our Lives Together

    “This proud picture of human grandeur is unfortunately an illusion only and is counterbalanced by the reality which is very different. In this reality, man is the slave and victim of the machines that have conquered space and time for him.”
    ~ Carl Jung

    Yes, we keep reading about how all these devices are now the rage and what are they doing to our lives when we are more involved with devices than we are with other human beings. I think we should have national holidays where we are only allowed to talk to people or communicate via handwritten letters to them.

    I don’t deny the benefits of devices, and how they may help us educate students, improve our homes, our health and more. But we must remember to focus on the people and not the mechanical devices lest they make us into robots, too.

    As humans, it is love and laughter that we require to build and hold our lives together. For me love makes up the bricks which we build with. Ask yourself what you are capable of loving and you will know what your life is about.

    But what holds that life and the bricks together? We need mortar, and the mortar of life is humor. For me this represents childlike humor that isn’t offensive and doesn’t hurt or upset anyone. Humor of this type heals lives. It is very hard, if not impossible, to not relate to someone who loves you and gets you laughing. Love and laughter break down the walls which separate us, instead building walls which protect us as we become family.

    I will add if you want to define your life, answer these questions: Who can I love? Who can I hate? What is evil? Who is the enemy? Then compare your answers to those of Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Buddha, and Jesus.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Footsteps

    Hi Everybody,

    In the words of Eknath Easwaran, spiritual teacher and author ~

    “My grandmother, my spiritual teacher, used to tell me that the pain we associate with the great change called death arises from our innumerable selfish attachments. One day she illustrated this in a simple way by asking me to sit in a chair and hold tight to the arms. Then she tried to pull me out of the chair. She tugged and pulled at me, and I held on tight. It was painful. She was a strong person, and even though I held on with all my strength, she pulled me out. Then she told me to sit down again, but this time not to hold on anywhere, just to get up and come to her when she called. With ease I got out of the chair and went to her. This, she told me, is how to overcome the fear and pain of death. When we hold onto things – houses, cars, books, guitars, and our antique silver teapot – we get attached and tied down.”

    I think this relates to life as well as death. When we fear change and letting go we die a little every day. Think of changing jobs, moving, divorce, disabilities, loss and more. Survivors can let and have faith in themselves and not fear change. Learn from those you admire because of their attitude towards life. I am working on my gratitude every morning and instead of getting angry at our children when they need my help I am learning to become grateful for the fact that I am able to help them.

    It is not enough just to put your foot forward and touch it lightly to the ground; you must put your weight on it completely. When we do take that step – by bearing patiently with those around us, or by changing some unhealthy habit – we can be sure that he will run toward us. But we must take the first step.

    I recalled an experience I had in a local cemetery. I was out jogging and ran through this area repeatedly. One day, after a snow storm, I had to struggle to run through the deep snow, but the next day I could use my previous footsteps and it was easier. Then it all froze, due to a temperature change, and I realized I could break my ankle if I didn’t step directly into the previous footprints. So I changed my direction and began a new path to run on. I learned that there are times we can follow the steps others have taken, and times in our life when we need to create our own path. I wrote the following poem about my new-found wisdom.

    FOOTSTEPS

    I trudged through the snow finding my way

    deciding where I will go on this day

    the snow is deep

    the path a struggle

    and then I see

    someone has walked this path before

    I follow his footsteps

    the walk is easier

    I realize god doesn’t have to carry me

    there are many gods who precede me

    and create one set of footprints where many may go

    Peace and Love,
    Bernie

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    Measure Me

    Nobody has ever measured,
    even poets, how much the heart can hold.

    ~ Zelda Fitzgerald

    How do we take the measure of a person and know how big he or she really is? Is it from the tips of the toes to the top of the head? Or is it the waistline or head size? I d o not think any of these simple measurements takes the true measure of a person into consideration.

    I say, measure me by the size of my heart.  Take your tape measure and go around my heart, and include all the things my heart is touched by, and you will know how large I truly am.

    The actions you take that spring from your heart have a far greater effect than those that come only from the mind or body.  Open your heart and allow it to guide you in your actions.

    One can become famous for physical accomplishments, but only the accomplishments of the heart truly fulfill.  When one heart touches another, we have hearts beating in unison with no fear of rejection.  A heart filled with love is eternal and not measurable by our hand.

    Give of your heart without measure.

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