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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
  • Amelia’s Ark Angel Society

    Please support my friend Amelia Kinkade with her new charity, ARK ANGEL, which enables her to go into schools in rural Africa and educate children about wildlife conservation so that they don’t grow up to be poachers.

    Amelia Kinkade has written a book called Whispers from the Wild: Listening to Voices from the Animal Kingdom. In this book, she takes us all over the world, revealing the inner thoughts and feelings of a huge variety of animals, including dangerous ones. She shares the advice she has gleaned from working with such a diverse group of animals — words about tenderness, reconnection with nature, life after death, and the possibilities of magical awakenings inside the brains of an ever-evolving human race. Learn More

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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #44 – A To-do List for Good Health

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.


    If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.

    ~ Gail Sheehy

    “It’s killing me.” Yes, there are things that may kill us that we have no direct control over, but most of the time that expression relates to the things in our lives that we can act on and change: jobs, behaviors, attitudes, and more.

    My suggestion is to make a list of what is “killing you” and decide what you want to do about it now. If you have trouble thinking about what should be on the list, ask your body to give you a few hints. Put the list on the refrigerator and start working on eliminating everything from your list. When that is done, replace it with a new list of what you need to shop for to enhance your life.

    Soulution of the Day

    Check your list daily. Reevaluate situations that seem impossible.
    Then take action to make the needed changes to save your life.

    - Bernie

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  • Q & A with Bernie – June 12, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    How are you? I hope you are keeping well. I wanted to get in touch to tell you I have met someone really nice.  We have a budding romance which I am really happy about.

    I have recently been incorporating your morning mantra to start my day; I love it… I have no complaint whatsoever… what a great way to begin the day!

    I am feeling vulnerable just now as it feels like there has not been much “living” in my life for most of it. And I do not want to suffocate it now either, but am simply trying to accept that reality and let me be me and other people be who they are.

    My fear of rejection reminds me that I need to love myself more. I have more work to do there! Accepting “who we are” can be quite a task (to me anyway).

    Hope you don’t mind me sharing my thoughts!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    What you say is very true. I tell people to “let your heart make up your mind” and to “stop thinking and start feeling.”

    A quiet mind sees and finds the truth, like the ugly duckling on a still pond can see that he is a swan.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – June 5, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    My nephew has come through surgery fine – the tumor was located near the base of his spine so, after a 5 hour surgery, he was in recovery wiggling his toes.  By 7:00, he was eating dinner.  So he came home yesterday afternoon and finished his on-line course. He is making up the semester he missed for treatments after the brain tumor.

    He is in good spirits and feels well – he will start chemo pills this week and radiation in the middle of June.  I have discussed your attitude with him and he is all for it!!!  He can’t wait to get back to school in September—his younger brother will be with him.

    I am hoping, in the fall, that he is able to come to one of your group meetings so he can meet you. He is a fighter with a terrific attitude and is ready to kick butt again.

    Thank you so much for your help and support. You are an amazing person, very caring and giving!!!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Tell your nephew it is about healing his life and body— not about fighting a war or battle because that approach only empowers the enemy. Mother Teresa once said, “I will not attend an anti-war rally, but if you ever have a Peace rally, call me.”

    Also, for all future therapies, I suggest that he picture them happening now and everything going beautifully. This visualization will prepare his body for the actual treatment experience with excellent results and free of side effects.

    For help in using the powerful tool of visualization, he can find CDs on my website (www.berniesiegelmd.com).  This, along with using techniques in my book, The Art of Healing—Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-healing, as I mentioned in earlier correspondence, can provide strong support for his positive attitude.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Perfect

    PERFECT – A Poem by Bernie

    God didn’t ask my wife to be perfect
    I did
    so I ought to be perfect and set an example
    well there goes my plan

    I’d rather tell her how to be perfect
    but then she tells me about my imperfections
    well there goes my plan again

    I guess God was right
    His plan is easier
    just give them free will and life
    because perfection is not creation
    and don’t forget to keep your fingers crossed

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 22, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    Hi Bernie

    It’s been 4 years, just had lymph node removal in neck, praying it’s not a reoccurrence. Are you speaking in the New York City/Long Island areas in the future?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    No, I am doing less traveling and speaking.  I am focused on writing, and encourage you to take a look at recent titles you might want to read. Go to QUICK LINKS on my website at www.berniesiegelmd.com to find descriptions for all of my books.

    Begin now to visualize what you desire, and to love your body and your life.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    Question for Bernie: Below is a new Question and Answer with multiple parts beginning last year and leading up to the present.

    I would like to get in touch with Dr. Siegel to let him know about my nephew.  At the end of his first semester of college, he came home not feeling well. After a visit to a medical center he was diagnosed with glioblastoma.

    My brother arranged to send him by ambulance to a pediatric neurosurgeon who successfully removed the whole tumor, which was wrapped around his right optic nerve.  He received radiation and chemotherapy simultaneously, without side effects.

    My nephew has always had a very positive attitude during this whole illness and has done quite well.  He is back at college and is making up the semester he missed. He has a great support system with his high school and college friends, and with the whole family; his positive attitude has remained strong.

    We have always known Dr. Siegel has encouraged positive attitudes and this reinforces that. Dr. Siegel has had a powerful influence on many people and we thank him for all he does. If you could see that he receives this e-mail, I would be thankful.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Let me tell you about a medical student I knew whose story sounds like your nephew’s experience.  The student I knew had eye symptoms and they discovered a glioblastoma.  He woke up blind after surgery and they told him he would be blind until he died in about a year.

    Well, his sight came back and he got angry at all the books and doctors telling him when he would die. He took the prescribed medical treatments, but to prove them wrong about when he would die, he changed his life and his diet, too. The tumor disappeared and never came back, with the added bonus of his colitis disappearing as well.

    I think if he had become depressed instead of angry he wouldn’t have survived.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Response to Bernie’s Answer:

    Dear Bernie,

    I appreciate your prompt response and encouraging words.  We have always maintained positive attitudes and this just reinforces that it can make a difference.  My nephew had no side effects from the surgery or treatments and considers every day a gift, as do we.  Your attitude and encouragement to all has a great impact on people and you are a great inspiration.

    The doctors are very pleased with his progress and with his attitude, and keep in touch with him while he is at school.  They are very dedicated, caring doctors as are you – it all makes a difference.

    At the meeting about the treatments the oncologists asked if Matt had any question and he had one – would he be able to go back to college.  The answer was yes and Matt’s response was “Bring it on – I am going to kick this cancer’s butt.” And he has.

    We always remember your encouraging this positive attitude and will always be grateful to you for this.  You are an exceptional person.

    Thank you so much!!!

    Bernie’s Response:

    Sounds good; keep me in the loop.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Update:

    Dear Bernie,

    Just an update on my nephew – he was driving to the gym last Monday, suffered a seizure and had an accident.  Thankfully no one was injured as the cars were totaled.

    He was taken to an excellent medical center and evaluated.  After meeting with his doctors, he got the okay to go back to school.  He is maintaining a great attitude, and his roommates are his big cheerleaders and support.  So he is doing really well – the attitude is there and he is kicking butt with this cancer.

    You are an inspiration to many people and you have encouraged all of us to have the positive attitude.  Thank you very much for being interested and concerned.

    You are an awesome person!!!!!

    Bernie’s Response:

    I get to be the coach for talented performers like your nephew.  It is good news to know that your whole family is on the “Be Positive page” for getting the most out of the great gift of life.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Latest Update:

    Dear Bernie,

    My nephew finished the year at University and had a great year.  Yesterday he went in for a meeting about his MRI and found that he has a 1 inch tumor near his spine in his neck.  He is having surgery Thursday and will spend 3 weeks recovering.  Then it is followed by 6 weeks radiation (and possibly chemo) and he will then have a few weeks to relax before he goes back to school.

    We know this is a tough cancer to beat and he was upset after the meeting yesterday.  However, this morning he is ready to fight again and can’t wait to go back to school.

    We talk about you and how you encourage people to keep a great attitude and this has helped my nephew considerably.  So I thank you for all the positive thoughts from you.  You are an inspiration to all!!!!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I recommend that you get my book, The Art of Healing—Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-healing, to help your nephew appreciate how much the mind affects treatments, too.  Also, on my website (www.berniesiegelmd.com) go to QUICK LINKS at the top of the homepage and click on Articles by Bernie to find the one titled “Deceiving People into Health.”

    Tell your nephew to visualize in his mind just how he wants the treatments to be—good results, no side effects, etc., and to picture this several times a day to prepare his body for the same result he visualizes, all of which allows the body to accept and believe this outcome.

    If he does some drawings of the treatments, himself receiving the treatments, and more, I could review them for him.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Look, See

    Dear All,

    One of my core beliefs is that we must first search for and find our authentic selves before we can really thoroughly evaluate choices that come our way throughout life.  Here is a poem I wrote about knowing ourselves.

    Peace,
    Bernie


    LOOK, SEE
    by Bernie Siegel, MD

    We can’t know each other until we know ourselves.
    Who are we?

    Does the mirror tell the truth?
    No, it does not see inside me.

    Only I know how beautiful my inner garden is,
    I bloom and blossom unseen by anyone but the divine—how sad.

    Raise the blinds,
    let the neighbors see the real me.

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 8, 2017

    Question for Bernie

    Hi Bernie,

    My daughter is coming here for a visit. I have not seen her in a year.

    She wants to go to Gloucester for 4 days. Because of my serious health condition, I do not want to go, and that would make her very angry. She is an addict just like her sister, which is not to her benefit.

    How do I handle that, going to Gloucester? I have been having a difficult time with illness. Thanks for your guidance.

    Bernie’s Answer

    Tell your daughter “no.”  Survivor behavior emphasizes being comfortable saying “no” when you do not want to do something.

    It is about your life—about what makes you happy.  It is not about just doing what makes your daughter happy.  Survivors know that loving and taking care of themselves—body and spirit—starts with getting completely comfortable with simply saying “no” when the situation calls for your honest response.

    Peace,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie (second question from same person)

    I hope to see you on Tuesday. It is really rough when one does not have any family support.

    I am losing the use of my legs.

    Spiritually, I have learned a great deal about life. As you know the world is falling apart.

    God is all about Love, and learning about life through the eyes, and the wisdom, of God.

    Bernie’s Answer

    You’ll be a gift to the world in your next life because of your experience and wisdom. Bodies are simply our tools, and like all mechanical things, they do wear out—but spirit never does.

    Love,
    Bernie

    Question for Bernie (third question from same person)

    Yes, you are right on the mark of truth. The body is a vessel to get one around.

    I am alive because I am full of the Holy Spirit to help me finish my mission here upon earth.

    And the body is breaking down.

    People today do not like death, dying, being disabled. Boy, do they avoid me.

    Thanks and love for your guidance.

    Bernie’s Answer

    They are afraid to face reality and deny their chance of dying or being disabled.

    To further obscure reality, these people do not use the word “die” but instead use euphemisms like “pass away” or “go to a better place.” Denial prolongs the intensity of grief.  The truth is dignified when people feel safe to fully express the grief of loss.

    Peace & Love,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – May 1, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    I was wondering if you can help me with another dream interpretation because it is important.

    I met a guy from the UK online and we met twice in person. He is from the UK and it was going well until he started having fears of not having enough money or time to visit me and make this work.

    Last night when I went to bed, I had this weird dream in which he said to me that he is bored with my lifestyle. Then, in the dream, there was a 5-year old little boy he brought along as his son. That kid said to me that he liked Macedonia and playing with little kids in the kindergarten.

    Then I said that he should tell his dad that and talk to the teachers. Then he started behaving as an adult and a bit like his dad, saying that he is not so crazy as to let adults discover his feelings.

    Then he went away and I woke up.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    His inner child is causing both of you a problem.

    Encourage him to talk to you about feelings, and just listen as he talks so that he can hear himself.  When he hears his own words, he will learn who he is and what to do.  You must resist telling him what to do—you can help him the best by just quietly and attentively listening.  When people hear themselves talk through problems, often great clarity and understanding emerge.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Q & A with Bernie – April 24, 2017

    Question for Bernie:

    My fiancé (who is an M.D.) is diagnosed with cancer. I know the chemo regime he is on is too strong, but I cannot get the Dr. to adjust the course of treatment.

    I also became extremely sick from the secondary chemo exposure.

    John has now moved out into a facility to give us both some space and time to heal and create new choices.

    Would it be possible for John to have an appointment with you to discuss options?

    Bernie’s Answer:

    We have a support group which meets twice a month from 1:30 to 3:30pm in Woodbridge.

    You could attend a meeting along with your fiancé.

    Read my books, starting with Love, Medicine & Miracles and The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing.

    Explore my website (www.berniesiegelmd.com) for information on books and about groups to contact for support.

    When your fiancé changes his image of chemo, his body’s reaction will also change—is it the Devil giving you poison or a lifesaving gift from God?  Get a new box of crayons or colored pencils, and then guided by my book on the “art of healing” as mentioned above, see how drawing our perceptions of treatment can help focus our minds on healing.

    Peace,
    Bernie

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    Magic Openings

    TODAY MY LIFE UNFOLDS
    As this paper unfolds so does my life
    I will have faith and not judge events
    Our creator often unfolds things in ways I do not understand
    I will learn from the new set of directions

    TODAY I WILL BE A LOVER
    I will look in the mirror and love who I see
    I will act as if I am the person I want to become
    I will see all living things through the eyes of love
    I will judge no one

    TODAY I WILL FORGIVE
    I will forgive myself
    I will forgive all those in my life I need to forgive
    I am free of the past
    I receive the benefits of forgiveness

    TODAY I AM NOT AFRAID OF THE DARK
    I do not need to see where I am going
    I do need to feel my way
    I accept that all new life begins in the dark
    I will labor to grow and find the light
    I have the wisdom of a seed within me

    TODAY I WILL USE MY LIFE TIME WISELY
    I will say no to what is not creative
    I will say yes to my way of loving the world
    I will accept that today is the best day of my life time
    I will be a co-creator today and have no sense of time
    I will rest when I am tired

    TODAY I WILL MAKE MY OWN WEATHER
    I will dispel the clouds of fear and bring sunshine into
    my life
    I am cleansed and softened by the showers
    I will light the moon and stars and make my darkness bright
    I will marvel in the miracle of the weather and seasons of my life

    TODAY I AM THE MASTER GARDENER
    I will turn death and loss into compost with which to fertilize my life and soul
    I will enjoy the diversity of my garden
    I will see the beauty in all living and growing things
    I will let a child know s/he is loved today

    Today I am not I was
    Today I am not I will be
    Today I AM

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    A Healthy Life and a Healthy Body

    Studies reveal that women diagnosed with the same cancers as men live longer and that married men live longer than single men with the same cancers; smoke as much and have fewer cases of lung cancer than single men. It is not female hormones, or sleeping with them, that is protecting these men and women. It is their connections and relationships. Years ago I was criticized for asking people what happened in the year or two before they became sick. I was told I was blaming people and creating guilt. Recent studies show that loneliness affects the genes which control our immune response. So people who feel lonely are more likely to develop autoimmune diseases, viral illnesses and cancer. I may add that a sense of humor laughter improves survival statistics.

    I bring this up because I want women to keep their power and not live a role related to doing things for other people. I’ll make this marriage works if it kills me can kill you. Being the good girl to please parents and spouses while internalizing all your feelings is self destructive. It turns on the cancer genes. I have seen an audience of southern women become hostile to my wife and me after our presentation. I couldn’t understand what we had done wrong. A friend said, “You didn’t do anything wrong. They are jealous of your relationship. Your wife can interrupt and correct you and shares the stage. They have gone from politeness to submissiveness.”

    Please ladies let your heart guide you through life so what you do is out of love. Then you benefit from your activities as does the recipient of your love. When you can’t die until all the kids are married and out of the house what happens when they do all move out. I have watched a woman with nine kids die, twenty years after being diagnosed with cancer, when the kids all left home.

    One woman did a drawing for me entitled will the real me please stand up. It shows a mommy and a professional and you don’t need to be a therapist to know which one makes her happy. So do what makes you happy and keep your power. Don’t wait to develop cancer to obtain permission. If something is threatening your health eliminate it from your life be it a marriage, job or anything else. If it does not threaten your health then give love a chance to heal the relationship. You have a choice when your health is not at risk to change your life or your attitude. You can be born again free of your disease. Life is a labor pain related to your birthing your unique self.

    Relationships, with family or your doctor, are a struggle according to my wife and an ordeal according to Joseph Campbell. They are both talking about creating a relationship so that 1+1=3. It is not about what each individual wants but about a third entity, the relationship they create. So be sure your spouse, partner, family and doctor are willing to create a relationship you can all live with. A sure sign of future successful relationships is that the persons involved are criticized by the people they work with, the people they work for and their family. These are people who are willing to learn, accept criticism and apologize rather than make excuses or blame others. The tourists are then trained by the natives who understand the experience they are living with that the other party has never been exposed to.

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