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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #122 – Getting to Know You

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.

    The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.

    ~ Thomas Carlyle, 1795-1881, Scottish Historian and Essayist

    Getting to know yourself better takes courage. It is far easier to hide behind a mask than to see yourself as you really are. There are many who think they are perfect and need not change, who think they’re the center of the universe, and they have a problem.

    If you wish to know yourself and change for the better, you need to accept your inadequacies, fears, weaknesses, mistakes, and more. If you need others present constantly to entertain and distract you, then you are afraid to be still and know yourself.

    So spend some time being totally alone and see how you feel. If you are comfortable, then I would say you are in the process of knowing yourself. Knowing yourself means being willing to be with yourself. Once you can do that, the frantic search for distraction and escape will stop ruling your life and you can choose to fill your life with the things that bring you joy.

    Soulution of the Day

    Even if it feels uncomfortable, go away with yourself
    and spend some time together getting to know yourself.
    You may find that you are great company.

    - Bernie

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    Let’s get down to some real lessons I have learned from the life experience of people in their nineties. When you ask ninety year olds for advice for other seniors, these are some of the answers I have heard: “Lie a lot, because if you tell them about all your troubles, they’ll put you in a nursing home.” “If you don’t want to fall, then watch where you are going.” “The only thing to fear is driving on the parkway at night.”

    In his seventies, my father-in-law fell and injured his spinal cord. He became quadriplegic, and lived to age ninety seven. When I asked him for his advice to seniors, he said, “Tell them to fall on something soft.” A few days later he said to me, “It doesn’t always work. They stood me up on my feet in therapy and I fell over on my wife—and broke her leg! So, tell them to just fall up. I laughed because it sounded like a joke, but I learned he was telling me much more.

    When it became too difficult to care for him in our home, he was admitted to a nursing home. He began to develop abdominal pain and vomiting after many months in the nursing home. I did not feel it was appropriate to put him through tests looking for a diagnosis because he looked like he had a short time left to live. A new nursing home was built near our home, and so I announced I was moving him there so we could be close by and spend more time with him. I was told, “You are not in charge of his care. If you move him, you are responsible for his medical bills.” My response was that he had very little time left, and if I had to pay for it, I could afford it.

    So we moved him. Within three days at the new place he was smiling, eating, and free of pain. Here, in this new, close-by place, he was not dying anymore—and I was responsible for his bills. Of course, I didn’t tell him about that—but I was really curious so I just asked him, “How come you’re not dying anymore?”

    His response was direct and honest: “I was literally dying to make them happy at the other nursing home. They were tired of taking care of me.” As a doctor, those words really hit home for me. But thankfully he lived for many more years, with me encouraging him to live to be one hundred and get on television! Then one night when my wife and I accompanied his wife to feed him dinner, he said to all of us, “No vitamins. No dinner.” His look told us he was tired and ready to leave his body. That night he died quietly after we left.  I felt he was teaching me about how to just fall up. Those words are on his head stone. I can tell you that dying can be a very different experience when it is not a failure, and doctors and family do not interfere with a person’s wishes when that person is tired of their body.

    My Dad really died laughing at the stories my Mom was telling us all at his bedside about their early dates. It turns out my father lost a coin toss, and had to take my mother out for their first date—the rest is history. I think we need to ask seniors who are willing to share their wisdom and experience to get more involved in the education of our children. I noticed how busy my mother was being a great grandmother to her own grandchildren, but also helping people beyond her own family with her wisdom and experience. For me, the words great and grand are meaningful and represent the experience of a lifetime built upon an unshakable foundation of love, acceptance, and compassion, deserving of the “graduate degree” title, Grandmother or Great-Grandmother, certifying that you are not just a mother any longer, but a grand one or a great-grand one.

    My mother in law, who also lived into her nineties, was my teacher, too. But, she would never discuss her age because, “My age is not a matter for discussion.” The family wouldn’t let me put her comment about her age on her headstone. When I asked her what I could pray for, for her, she responded from her wheelchair, “World peace.” I was expecting her to complain and whine about all her troubles, but she transcended her own needs, and taught me a great deal with her words and attitude about life.

    Now some questions for you to contemplate:

    • Would you like to live to be one hundred?
    • How would you describe the relationship in your marriage, or any relationship you are involved in, from family to your occupation?
    • What mottoes are you living or dying by?
    • What are your happiness habits?
    • What have your children taught you?


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    Cancer Self-Help – Healing Cancer Through Enlightenment

    Good morning lovely you!

    Can you believe it is September already?! While I will miss the flowers and plants of summer, I always welcome autumn when it comes. Like spring, autumn is such a symbolic season and I always find myself reflecting on my life and choices.

    This month I want us to talk about how enlightenment can bring about true healing and transformation in our lives. As the environmental light begins to wane a bit and the days get shorter, now is the perfect time to seek out the light.

    When asked what it means to be Enlightened, the Buddha said:

    “What has to be known, that I have known;
    What has to be abandoned, that I have abandoned;
    What has to be developed, that I have developed;
    Therefore, O brahmin, I am a Buddha.”

    These core Buddhist teachings- to fully know what should be known; to abandon what should be abandoned; and to develop what should be developed – remind me of the Alcoholics Anonymous prayer that goes:

    “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

    This prayer essentially asks God for enlightenment.

    Cancer Self-Help – Healing Through Enlightenment

    How does enlightenment lead to better health? Enlightenment removes the false beliefs and old emotional baggage that we have been carrying around. When we reach true understanding of ourselves, our purpose, our power and our divinity, we can finally let go of the darkness and make room for the light. So long stress, so long trying to please everyone else, so long toxic relationships and things that no longer work for me.

    Enlightenment is not only good for our soul, it’s downright necessary for our immune system!

    Now, on to some important questions.

    1. How do we KNOW and ACCEPT the things we cannot change?

    We have to surrender. When we are struck with a serious illness, it is a wake-up call of the highest magnitude.It lets us know that HOW we have been living has not suited us or enriched our lives. Since we did such a crappy job of living well, it’s now time to surrender to a higher power and let them take over.

    You can call this power God, the Universe, the one consciousness, your higher self. The name does not matter. What matters is that you become aware of this innate and profound intelligence within you and all around you.

    This will require you to be quiet. Be still. Listen. Feel. Recognize. Spend time in nature and wonder at life. Meditate. The deeper your desire to connect with the higher power, the easier it becomes to know this power intimately. Once this happens, you HAPPILY surrender your life. Just say, “I surrender everything over to you. I don’t know what to do because I am totally lost.”

    We know and accept the things we cannot change when our perception of ourselves and reality become clearer and we begin to “see” the invisible background of all life.

    2. What must we have the courage to ABANDON or CHANGE in our lives?

    Whatever’s not working!!!

    Along with that clearer perception I just mentioned comes an ability to smell BS and live truth. Some people are actually shocked at how HONEST they become when they face death and decide to become enlightened.

    Be warned, while you may feel freer at this new ability to just be real and raw and honest, some people in your life may not eagerly accept this new authentic version of you. That is fine. Realize some of the things you must abandon and let go of are old relationships that no longer support your well-being.

    3. How can we gain the WISDOM to develop as authentic people, living our purpose?

    Understanding leads to wisdom. In order to understand, there must be “light” or enlightenment. In order to experience wisdom, you’ve got to be willing to experience, master, and better yourself.

    When we stop trying to be something we’re not, we make space for understanding and wisdom to come into our experience. When we live each day, committed to our path, we invite invisible guidance into our lives. And when we begin to feel joy and hope instead of fear and grief, we can begin to heal.

    Let’s Make a Commitment

    I want all of us to make September a month of inviting enlightenment into our lives. Commit to your own growth this season. Make time for meditation. Don’t be afraid to be quiet and face the darkness. Because the light is just on the other side of it.

    Sending you much love and LIGHT.



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    Mind Matters – How to Lighten Up

    Dear Everybody,

    I feel I have been a little too serious lately, so I thought I would lighten up with this post. I’m going to share with you some of the things I do to lighten up my life and make the day a little easier to get through. First of all, I try to finish everything I started before I leave the house. For instance, this morning I finished the Kahlua, red and white wine, Prozac, Valium, and chocolate, and I felt so good going out the door.

    Next I have a list of over thirty things I do that are not normal behavior. When I make a phone call and they respond, “May I ask who is calling?” I answer, “Yes, you may.”     When asked to print your name, or print clearly, I print; YOUR NAME or CLEARLY. When asked to sign here, I sign, HERE. When asked to sign in, I sign, IN.

    I got the airlines to change their lavatory instructions—they used to say do not throw foreign objects in the toilet. I would come out of the lavatory and announce I may have damaged the plane. And that isn’t funny when you’re up in the air. “What did you do?” “I dropped something from Italy in the toilet and then saw the sign.” Now it says do not throw solid objects in the toilet. I also ask when the sign goes on, Return to Seat, “Do I have to go back to the lavatory?”

    I love to see wet paint and wet floor signs because when I do, I wet them. Does the sign No Sanitary Facilities mean they only have unsanitary facilities? The baby changing station doesn’t work either. Kids are still a problem after they come off. When asked; “Can you spell your name?” I answer “Sure, Y-O-U-R-N-A-M-E.” When the pet store has bags of Wild Bird Seed I ask them if they have any for tame birds.

    I send nothing on special occasions since nothing makes everyone happy and solves all of your problems. It pleases me to announce, “I am nobody,” when I walk into places with signs saying Nobody Allowed Here. One guard made me somebody and told me I had to leave. When a clerk says, “Yes dear, how can I help you?” and I am tenth in line, I walk up to the front of the line and announce to everyone that I am her boyfriend so when she said “dear” I thought she meant me.

    I am going to start a new support group for hypochondriacs called HA, or Hypochondriacs Anonymous. Our motto is, “Ask not what your disease can do for you.” Anyone interested let me know via my website www.berniesiegelmd.com.

    I like to order food at the bank’s drive up window. The new clerks panic when I ask if my order is ready. I also have a mailbox 20 feet in the air for air mail. There’s more, but I guess by now you get the idea.

    So let the child in you out tomorrow and you’ll meet other kids, too, and have a fun day. You also may save a lot of money if you have a big family because they stop eating out with you when the waitress asks, “Is everything alright?” and you start criticizing her for upsetting you during the meal when the news is so bad about the war, oil spill, and more, ending by telling her, “Next time just ask us about the meal.”

    The serious side of all this is that you need to be comfortable with yourself and not worry about what everyone else is thinking about you. I did a “Tootsie routine” years ago at a hospital staff dinner. I went out to the Men’s Room and, with my wife’s help, put on a wig and dress, and then came back and gave a lecture on how badly my sister was treated at the hospital. When I was done, I removed my wig and popped my balloon bosoms. I had to show up at the hospital the next day and was a bit concerned, but the reception was a positive one, and it helped me to feel safe and comfortable with being myself. I can also say that my parents and wife helped this happen by accepting and loving me no matter how nuts I sometimes get.

    A benefit our kids eventually realized was that when they misbehaved at school or screwed up at work, they weren’t criticized. They just heard people say, “Well, you know who his father is.” So give them the freedom to be different, too, and embarrass your children regularly.

    I will close with a comment from a reader who met my quadriplegic father-in-law while volunteering to read to nursing home residents. She learned that what people want to hear and talk about is what is the key and not what we think they should hear. She said, “I learned an important lesson about communication. Don’t try so hard, it will happen, and remember to take joy in the little things in life.” Yes! And here are a few pearls of wisdom from keen observers of the “human condition” in all of its wonder:

    “Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes.”
    ~ Oscar Wilde

    “Love at first sight is easy to understand. It’s when two people have been looking at each other for years when it becomes a miracle.”
    ~ Sam Levenson

    “The childhood shows the man, as morning shows the day.”
    ~ John Milton

    “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
    ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

    Bernie Siegel, MD

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    Cancer Self-help is Here

    Why do we procrastinate?

    We all do it.

    What stops us from being and doing the things we want and need to do?

    Endless excuse?. I can start this tomorrow. I’ll do it later today. I’ll get to it next week.

    Do you procrastinate because you are in fear? If so, then what is the fear? What are you afraid of?

    How Do We Stop Procrastinating?

    Acknowledging that you are procrastinating and starting with one small step in the right direction, you can move past your procrastination.

    How to tame the procrastination beast:

    1. Sit quietly and take in a big long deep breath and become centered.

    2. With intention, see in your mind’s eye the project or desire you want to accomplish.

    3. Take baby steps. Break all the parts of the project down into bite-size pieces. If it is your disorganized closet or cupboards that bug you every day because you need to clean them out? Take steps to do a bite-size piece every day. Break it all down into manageable tasks.

    4. Is your phone beeping, ringing, and honking at you. Turn it off. Your technology could be the primary issue that keeps you distracted from what you want to do. When you get rid of the interruptions, you will be astounded at how much you can accomplish.

    5. Reward yourself. What is a treat you will give yourself for accomplishing this task that you have put off for months? Make the reward something you will look forward to when you are done.

    6. Can you do this task that you have been procrastinating about for months or years? Ask yourself, Can I do this? Do I want to do this? You have got to want it to do it, and only you can make that decision.

    Are you procrastinating about how to heal your life? If, so, starting tomorrow, August 1, we are creating our unique Action Plan – a strategy to begin improving your lifestyle. It is not easy to change your lifestyle to heal your life. Infact, it is easier to change your religion than to change your lifestyle.Download your Worksheet and Action Plan, and let’s get you on the right track.

    Let’s head up the cancer healing mountain together and stop procrastinating.

    Maybe you are tired of your daily action plan, perhaps you don’t have one and struggle to do the things you know will help you heal. Maybe you are bored with your normal healing process. If so, let’s change it and make it more rewarding. let’s change all of it and start again with great intention and a desire to get well and stay well.

    Get in touch with what you want and ask yourself what on earth is stopping you.

    Let’s start with baby steps – one baby step at a time. We will do this together over the next month. You can work at your own pace.

    Join me, and let’s take some baby steps together towards changing our lifestyle to heal our lives.

    I will be reminding you often over at Prue’s Place Daily and offering suggestions, solutions, and ideas to keep you on track. Please bring your questions, and we can chat in the comments section. Don’t wait any longer. Let’s throw procrastination out the window and start healing our lives.

    “On the mountains of truth you can never climb in vain: either you will reach a point higher up today, or you will be training your powers so that you will be able to climb higher tomorrow.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche

    Let’s take one baby step up the mountain together. I will be your Sherpa as we venture out on our healing path.

    Cancer Self-help is here:

    Download your Worksheet and Action Plan below and let’s head up the cancer healing mountain together.

    Module 2, Worksheet Session 1: https://www.dropbox.com/s/7wmea7da5buo91e/Module_2_Worksheet_-_Session_1.pdf_.pdf?dl=0

    Action Plan Example: https://www.dropbox.com/s/cqpplg8l1hgo87g/Action_Plan.xlsx?dl=0

    Action Plan.   :https://www.dropbox.com/s/9i15zk1tsbktm9p/Action_Plan.xlsx?dl=0

    We are healing our lives one day at a time.

    Sherpa Prue!


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    Olive Oil

    Following the course of least resistance makes for crooked rivers and crooked men.
    ~ Lanny Henninger

    Olive oil is a healthy fat and should be used to cook foods, poured over salads, and added to your recipes. In countries where olive oil is a standard part of the diet, the results are apparent in how heart healthy the people are. However, being heart healthy comes from more than just ingesting olive oil, but the oil is a good teacher.

    The oil is created by crushing the beautiful olives that are picked to make the oil. We are all under pressure most of the time owing to our lifestyles. Often we become bitter, restless, resentful, and more. However, the olive knows that the pressures of life make us what we are and can be used to create something better. Perhaps if we too understood this, we would suffer less the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune.”

    Do not be afraid of the pressure. Use it to guide you just as it birthed you, and use its energy to push you forward into a meaningful life.

    The easy way out will lead you to places you don’t want to go. Sometimes a little crushing and pressure are just what you need.


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    How to Find Meaning in Your Life

    Life is without meaning. You bring the meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.”
    ~ Joseph Campbell

    Good morning lovely you!

    As I type this and sip my cup of tea, golden morning light is pouring in through my office window, casting tree shadows on the far wall. Such simple pleasures bring abundant joy.

    Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and tell my younger self to not try so hard to figure out what life is all about; that life is about finding joy in all its forms. There is deep meaning in finding the joys of life.

    So many of us spend our life looking for the BIG meaning. The “What’s it all about?” meaning of life. This is a mystery that none of us will really understand while we’re here on this planet.

    This lack of meaning leaves so many people empty. And I believe this emptiness can and often does result in inner darkness and eventually the development of disease. As Joseph Campbell said, “… Being alive is the meaning.” But many people aren’t really alive. They have a pulse, they eat, drink, walk around, buy things, work hard… but they aren’t really ALIVE. Eventually their soul gets the message, “There is no life here, let’s get out.”

    Find the Meaning of YOUR Life

    As I said, none of us can be certain about what the meaning of ALL life is. But we can find the meaning in our own lives, so that we may truly LIVE while we’re alive.

    If you feel your life lacks meaning, here are some ways you can find some:

    Practice Gratitude

    When we can’t see meaning in our life, we are often overlooking the many, many things present that we should be grateful for.

    It’s important to stop looking for the BIG, obvious things and be open to all of the joy your life currently holds. Do you have a sense of sight? Can you see your loved ones faces? Can you hear the rain outside and your neighbor’s wind chimes? Can you taste your cup of morning coffee or your mom’s pot roast?

    Do you have friends and family who care about you? Can you drive a car and get around by yourself? Do you have some money in the bank, even if just a little? Do you have a nice place to live? Do you have any four-legged babies in your life who worship the ground you walk on?

    If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, I’ve got news for you. You are living a pretty good life with plenty to be grateful for.

    When you take time to truly feel grateful for all your life holds, you find meaning in the gifts you have already received. Give thanks, much thanks, for these gifts.

    Lose Your Baggage

    Are you so busy being involved in unnecessary drama in your life that you are completely overlooking the meaning that is there? Are you involved in toxic relationships? Addiction? A poor working environment? Gossip? Jealousy?

    Most of us are easily swept up into negativity and spend all of our time giving things with no meaning all of our attention. Try and clean your mental and emotional house. Get rid of as much negative, toxic baggage as you can to make room for the good.

    Stop and Smell the Roses

    We live in a society that worships “busy.” We’re all so busy getting ahead, getting that promotion, earning more, advancing our career and on and on. Or if we’re not busy on these big advancements, we’re busy on all of the little chores and tasks that need to be accomplished like laundry and grocery shopping and cleaning. Of course these things need to be done. But it’s important that you take the time to be still and enjoy your life. Enjoy your loved ones. Enjoy your hobbies. Enjoy nature. Otherwise the meaning of your life is to busy yourself with things that, in the end, don’t really matter. You can’t take your laundry with you when you die (thank God) and you can’t take the fancy car or big promotion. So STOP. Enjoy what you have.

    Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

    Your cousin has a boat and you don’t. Your coworker has a better parking spot. Your friends are thinner, one is prettier. Your boss has more money. Your neighbor has nicer kids.

    We spend so much time comparing our lives to other people’s lives. The worst part is, we think we actually KNOW what other people’s lives are truly like. How many Facebook friends do you have with timelines that show fabulous photos of vacations and their home redesigns? Are they really happy? Do they have any flaws? Do they live with regrets and disappointments?

    You can’t know another person’s truth. We all want to make the world believe we are fantastic when we aren’t. It’s a defense mechanism. Like how animals don’t want to appear weak to other animals. We do the same thing.

    Stop comparing your life to others’ and start focusing on yourself and all that you do have.

    Meaning is like the air you breathe. It is there, though you often can’t see it. But when you start to pay attention, you notice how branches are bobbing up and down and blades of grass are swaying, and you see what was once invisible to you.

    Pay attention to your life. I promise you there is great meaning in it.

    Sending love and light…


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    Q & A with Bernie – August 19, 2019

    Question for Bernie:

    I was wondering if we could talk on FaceTime tomorrow. I have a 4 hour infusion, and I am truly and deeply struggling sometimes, not always, but when my days are bad they are heart wrenching—almost suicidal, but I don’t have the guts.

    I am eating lean, trying to be helpful, positive, kind, but the pain and despair and old bad behaviors come up. I want to isolate and then cut everyone off. I love life. I swim almost two miles a day in the ocean. I bike about 20 and walk between 5 and ten miles a day. I meditate, do restorative yoga, and struggle with shame and guilt when I do a life review. I am overwhelmed with self-loathing at times. My father molested me—nothing too intrusive, but it was traumatizing because our relationship became sick and twisted, and that is how I started behaving. Even to this day I catch myself reverting to painful self-sabotage, self-loathing, and a profound sense of shame.

    Anyway, other than that, which is very deep as I work through my cancer journey trying to make things right, I need help and guidance. Wisdom and loving kindness most of all, and my life is all UCSF. My mother said she loves me, but she is 80 and doesn’t have the ability to do much for me. My brothers don’t help and I ran away from all my friends so… What do you think? Is there hope for me? I have a 3×3 cm tumor in my neck, one under my left arm, and one in my left breast. All the tumors are on the left side, in lymph nodes of my body. No tumors are on the right side in lymph nodes, odd isn’t it? Some people tell me the left is the feminine side according to the Chinese.

    Warmest, kindest regards.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Start by reading my books like Love, Medicine & Miracles to help you become a survivor.  Disconnect from the past.

    Heal your life, and love your body.

    Eliminate what is killing you from your life.

    Visualize treatments you choose as curing you without side effects. Have faith and trust and watch your mind accomplish amazing things.

    Go to my website (www.berniesiegelmd.com) to find CDs and other things to help you.  If you want to email me drawings of yourself and treatments, we can do that and my interpretations can help guide you.

    Read my book The Art of Healing, which is about how dreams and images speak to us too about our body.


    Question for Bernie:

    How are you?

    I’ve not emailed you for a while. Actually, the last time I was a bit embarrassed as I said I wanted to interview you – and I think you might have thought I was from some media format – but I’m not – and I felt a bit awkward… and have been quiet for a while.

    Just recently I have been listening to your audio – healing relationships.

    I wanted to say thank you for making it.  It is really powerful, and I hear different things  – or new things – each time.

    I have messaged you in the past for several years – I’m not sure I’m making any self-progress really??

    My dad has cancer and has been living in my house all year since his diagnosis in February.

    He is currently having chemo, since July, at an amazing hospital – The Royal Marsden.  They hope to cure him.

    He already had a level of cure as in Feb he was told his stage 4 esophageal tumor was untreatable as the surgeon perforated his esophagus during the diagnosis.  Through love, care and strong self-will, and lots of alternative remedies, he healed the hole in just 4 months. Then the hospital decided he could have treatment—quite a turn-around from giving him the contact for the hospice and telling him to put his affairs in order.

    He was doing great, but chemo is taking its toll and I am worried because he is very skinny.  If he is too weak, he might give up the fight to live.  It keeps me awake at night, and my dad says he doesn’t sleep either!

    I tried to get my dad to listen to your audio books,  as I found them inspirational.

    I hope you are keeping well. Thank you for your wise words.

    Kind regards.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Try and get across the Love, Medicine & Miracles book message.

    Try and get him to love his life and body.

    Help him identify and eliminate from his life what is an emotional cancer and hard to swallow

    so that his body gets an “I want to live” message.


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    Meditation Can Heal Cancer

    Good morning lovely you!

    It is a glorious morning here in Massachusetts with dappled sunlight, sweet birdsong, steaming tea and purring kitty. And so, I am ready to talk about something I get asked often. And that is, what type of meditation do I recommend for people who are trying to heal from disease.

    I will give you the same answer that I have given every person who has ever asked me this question: There is no one right way to meditate. Meditation is an incredibly powerful tool to connect your mind and body. But it is also a very personal journey, and so I can’t tell you that one practice is right and others are wrong.

    What I can do is share some of the forms of meditation I have practiced over the years to give you an idea of how you can begin your own practice. But first, if you are new to the concept of meditation and how it can help your body heal, let’s talk a little about the mind/body connection.

    The Miracle of Self-Healing

    Do you believe that meditation can heal cancer?

    Our bodies are wondrous machines that have been designed to keep us healthy. Without us even having to think about it, our bodies kill germs, fight infections, fix damaged DNA, eliminate toxins and yes, even cancel out cancer cells. This is how we were designed, to BE WELL.

    So why is it that some of us seem to override this natural defense mechanism against disease and become very ill?

    I spoke in an earlier blog post about our body’s two natural states: Fight or Flight” and “rest and digest.” Our bodies, it turns out, can only heal when we are in the “rest and digest” mode. But too many of us live in an almost constant state of “fight or flight” mode because of chronic stress in our life. It’s enough that many of us deal with financial hardships and toxic relationships, then we are told we have a disease and that’s even MORE stress that we have to cope with.

    How on Earth can we get ourselves into the much-needed “rest and digest” mode with all of this stress so that we can begin to truly heal?

    Meditation Can Heal Cancer:

    At this point in time, hundreds of scientific studieshave proven that meditation is incredibly effective at quieting down and deactivating the stressed parts of our brain to allow our bodies to begin the self-healing process.

    Meditation also helps us become more connected to ourselves, so we have awareness of what is going on in our body, heart, mind and spirit. This connection is necessary to live the healthiest and happiest life that we possibly can.

    Now that you understand how meditation can help you begin to help your body naturally heal itself, let’s look at some forms of meditation to help you get started on your journey.

    5  Types of Meditation to Get You Started

    To remind you, none of these is better or worse than the others. Think of meditation like a place of worship: A synagogue is no better than a mosque, which is no better than a church or a small shed on someone’s property. Where you choose to worship a higher power is up to you.

    By the same token, how you choose to meditate and put yourself into a relaxed state where you become connected to your higher self isn’t important. What’s important is that you practice meditation to become connected.

    Here are some forms of meditation you may want to experiment with to see what feels best:

    Transcendental Meditation (TM)

    When people speak of meditation, many are referring to TM, which is part of Hindu tradition. TM usually uses a personal mantra to help you quiet the chatter in the brain so you can reach a state of enlightenment. If you want to try TM, I recommend you find a guided CD or video, or take part in a local TM workshop in your area.

    Heart Rhythm Meditation (HRM)

    HRM concentrates primarily on the heart and emphasizes breath work. With HRM you may also focus on the idea that you are a part of all things and all things are a part of you. People who practice HRM have reported they are able to handle stress better and feel physically calmer.

    Guided Visualization

    I am a big fan of visualization exercises. This form of meditation is inspired from the words of Buddha, “The mind is everything. What you think you become.” This form of meditation is a little different because you generally have one goal. For me, it was to visualize myself well. I used to visualize that the white blood cells in my body were white knights on horses galloping around my bloodstream killing off cancer. And I’m here today to share that with you.

    I’m not the only one who has used visualization to heal from something major. After being paralyzed in a biking accident, author and noted speaker Joe Dispenza visualized himself well. Doctors told him he’d never walk again without surgery, but he said no to the risky surgery, visualized himself walking and he is fully recovered today.

    Qi Gong

    Qi Gong is one of the oldest forms of meditation that comes to us from ancient Chinese medicine. Using focused breathing with slow, purposeful movements, the practitioner circulates healing energy around the body. This can be a very powerful technique, but new practitioners should seek help from a local master or online course.


    This is a favorite practice of meditation that comes from the Buddhist tradition. The Buddhist term sati translates to ‘mindfulness’ and breathes life into the practice. To practice one acknowledges reality by letting any thoughts come into mind, but does not judge the thoughts, instead, lets them leave as quickly as they arrived.

    You should sit quietly with back straight and eyes closed and focus on your breathing. When a thought comes in, become aware of it but let it go, returning your attention to your breath. Research has found that a regimen of mindfulness can reduce anxiety, depression, and perceived distress.

    It’s important that you try different techniques to see which one works for you. Like any form of exercise, you need to find something you enjoy so you’ll actually do it on a daily basis.

    Meditation is one of the key ways I healed from cancer 30 years ago. I DEEPLY encourage you to try. Don’t worry if you find it hard in the beginning. EVERYONE DOES. It is called practice because that’s what you do with meditation, practice every day.

    Sending you light, love and a peaceful meditative journey…


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    The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being.  His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.
    ~ Pearl S. Buck

    Life is about relationships.  If living life alone weren’t boring, we wouldn’t be here. Think about this; you are the Creator sitting around all alone on a lovely day, and another one, and another one, into infinity.  One day you get up and think, “This is boring day after day.”  So you create other living things to relate to and differentiate yourself from.  Now you know who you are.

    How you relate with others determines a great deal about the quality of your life. Studies show that people with strong spiritual connections and relationships to other living things, from plants to people, live longer, healthier lives.  A recent study of elderly people showed that those who gave to others in their later years lived longer.

    So give yourself a long, healthy life by giving to others and developing healing relationships.  Yes, you will experience loss too, but the loss is offset by the gain.  You will be sustained by the remaining relationships and carry the memories of the others with you forever, just as the Creator does, who no longer has time to be bored or lonely.

    Relate to your life.  Relate to other people.  Relate to all living things.


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    Holistic Healing: Healing ALL Aspects of Your Life

    Good morning lovely you!

    Well, as you may have guessed, I am sitting here with a nice cup of tea and a snoozing kitty. I am ready to talk to you more about healing.

    When we discuss the topic of healing from cancer, so much focus is given to the physical side of healing, for obvious reasons. But, having been through this journey myself, I’m here to tell you that true health and healing cannot focus solely on the physical body, it MUST incorporate the four pillars of life: Mind, emotions, spirit, and body.

    Think of it this way:

    Your overall health is like a stool. Your physical body represents the seat of that stool. But whether or not your physical body can support the weight of your life on Earth is really dependent on how sturdy the three legs (mind, emotions, spirit) are underneath.

    You simply cannot be entirely healthy if any one of your four aspects is unhealthy. I don’t care how many green juices you drink a week or whether you religiously use a natural sunscreen. If you don’t treat and heal every aspect of your life, you can never fully recover from a health crisis.

    Every Part of You is Connected to the Other Parts

    The creator created beautiful self-healing machines when he/she created human beings. We are in a continual state of healing. Our bodies are able to heal while we sleep, drive a car, and make our lunch.

    But, as I’ve mentioned on this blog many times, we become dis-eased when we deal with chronic stress and trauma. When we get in this state, we get stuck in that fight or flight mode instead of our rest and digest mode – the mode required for our bodies to actually heal from illness and disease.

    When this happens, the healing process needs some conscious attention on our part. We need to take a break from life and fix ourselves, much like a woodworker would take a broken stool into his shop and secure the legs and seat. But until those legs are tightly in place, that seat has nothing to cling to.

    With this in mind, let’s dive a little deeper into the 4 aspects of our life and talk about some ways we can begin to heal in each one with holistic healing.


    When I speak of a spiritual life, I am not talking about religion. Our spirit transcends any religion that humanity can come up with. A spiritual life is a connection to our inner self and our inner knowing of a profoundly bigger creator than ourselves.

    There are so many things in life that get in the way of this connection. A desire for physical things, greed, money, sex, being career driven or hung up on shallow things. We are spiritual beings having a human experience, and yet our humanness often makes it hard to remember our true selves.

    Meditation is one of the absolute best ways to connect with your spirit. Meditation has been shown to decrease our risk of death by stroke and heart attack. People who practice meditation have found that it can change their lives in profound ways.

    Try to commit to a meditation practice. You don’t have to be perfect, just promise to give your spirit 20 minutes every day.


    What’s the quickest way to develop a chronic or deadly disease? Stuff your emotions down. Even the CDC has recognized the power emotions play in the development of disease for God’s sake!

    You won’t like what I have to say, most likely, but I’m going to say it any way. There is no easy way to deal with troubling emotions. Not dealing with emotions is how you get into trouble. To get out of that trouble, you have GOT TO FACE YOUR DARKNESS. Facing your darkness won’t kill you, but not facing it absolutely can.

    To begin healing emotionally, first realize that your emotions exist. Next, feel them. Let them wash over you and feel whatever comes. Cry if you need. Scream. Hit something. Throw something. Make sure to never harm yourself or others in the process, but let that darkness out however you need.

    Do this once and you will prove to yourself that feeling darkness can’t kill you AND you’ll also find out how much better you feel when you deal with it. It’s a bit like not wanting to really clean your house but doing it anyway and then LOVING how clean your house is.

    You may also want to check out the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Thought Field Therapy (TFT). These techniques are an amazing way to release suppressed emotions that are negatively impacting your life choices and health.

    Holistic Healing: Healing ALL Aspects of your Life


    What is the mind? It’s not the brain – the brain is a soft and squishy machine, the mind is something other. For the purpose of this discussion, I’ll define the mind as that part of ourselves that thinks, rationalizes and makes decisions.

    Our minds can become corrupt like a computer can become infected with malware. Our minds become infected with negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. These impact our emotions (and you know what happens then!) and they also cause us to make unhealthy choices in our lives. Choices like choosing to be in a toxic relationship, eating the wrong foods, smoking too much (or at all).

    It’s time to install new programming. To do this begin to pay attention to the thoughts you have each day. Don’t judge them, just become aware of them. When you recognize a thought that doesn’t serve you (I don’t have any energy), STOP and immediately replace that thought (I am finding more energy each day).

    Do this over and over. You are forming new mental habits. And that’s what most thoughts are. They aren’t new, they are habits our minds get into. Create new mental habits to make a positive change in your life.


    If you heal the other three aspects of your life your health will radically change. To put your health over the edge – a good edge – then you need to clean up your diet and eat anti-inflammatory foods, get plenty of rest, drink clean water and exercise. You know what to do, but are you doing it?

    Chances are you aren’t physically taking care of yourself. When your spirit, mind and heart are broken, who cares if you don’t take care of your body?

    Do you see how that works?

    When your mind, emotions and spirit are healthy and strong, your body’s health naturally follows suit. You naturally, without even having to think about it, make healthy choices because you have become a whole and self-loving, self-caring and self-compassionate person.

    If you are struggling with a disease, particularly cancer, please understand it is more than a physical (body) disease, it is a disease of your ENTIRE SELF, and so you must heal your ENTIRE SELF.

    Sending light and love…


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