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    Introducing Bernie Siegel's new title, Love, Animals & Miracles: Inspiring True Stories Celebrating the Healing Bond . The stories in this new book offer funny and heart-touching, true-life experiences that convey loving connections, amazing rescues, and healing with (and by) animals — both wild and domestic. Learn more     Available now in bookstores everywhere. Order your copy online today at:  Wisdom of the Ages, Barnes & NobleAmazon or New World Library.
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    Please support my friend Amelia Kinkade with her new charity, ARK ANGEL, which enables her to go into schools in rural Africa and educate children about wildlife conservation so that they don’t grow up to be poachers.

    Amelia Kinkade has written a book called Whispers from the Wild: Listening to Voices from the Animal Kingdom. In this book, she takes us all over the world, revealing the inner thoughts and feelings of a huge variety of animals, including dangerous ones. She shares the advice she has gleaned from working with such a diverse group of animals — words about tenderness, reconnection with nature, life after death, and the possibilities of magical awakenings inside the brains of an ever-evolving human race. Learn More

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  • Today’s Prescription for the Soul – Prescription #87 – Accentuate the Positive

    I hope that my “365 Prescriptions for the Soul,” will be a welcome and healing addition to your day. The prescriptions I ask you to fill are designed for your total well-being. They come from hard-earned wisdom and experience with the difficulties of life. They are dispensed “as written” with love. At the end of each prescription is my “Soulution” to help you develop healthy self-love, self-esteem, and self-worth. Please take the prescription I have written for you here and fill it right away.

    Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you.
    Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you.

    ~ William Arthur Ward (1921-1994), American writer

    You may remember a line from an old song that says to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative. Have you made those words a part of your life? When you ae talking to someone you love, do you criticize her behavior? Or do you let her know what you wish she would do because you love and care for her?

    Our son, Keith, and his wife, Jane, pointed this out to me by the way they raise their son, Charlie. Keith showed me the difference between saying “Don’t do that” and “Please be careful and safe.” One is critical and the other says I love you.

    Praise is the other important element: Accentuate the positive, and the negative begins to fade away. We all grow through praise and bloom with love.

    Soulution of the Day

    Try to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative
    through loving words and actions. Notice the difference.

    - Bernie

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  • Embracing Change to Find the Gift in Adversity

    Dear Everybody,

    Here are the quotes, in finished form, with the name of the person who said them.

    Sometimes, when I look at my children, I say to myself, ‘Lillian, you should have remained a virgin.’
    Lillian Carter (mother of Jimmy Carter)

    I had a rose named after me and I was very flattered. But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalogue:  ‘No good in a bed, but fine against a wall.’
    ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

    Last week, I stated this woman was the ugliest woman I had ever seen. I have since been visited by her sister, and now wish to withdraw that statement.
    ~ Mark Twain

    Now to get serious. A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee….You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again. A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up; she was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

    Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

    In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ‘ Tell me what you see.’

    ‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied.

    Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

    ‘Which are you?’ she asked her daughter. ‘When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

    I could clarify the meaning further but I think you will all get the message and get to know yourselves better by answering the question for yourself.

    I am not sure who said it but I agree, “Life is like surgery without anesthesia.” How we respond to pain and loss is what it all boils down to. The boiling has its place in our lives to. When our pain and difficulties become a labor pain of self birth it hurts a lot less.

    When we don’t choose to change our lives and eliminate what is killing us then suicide becomes the easy way out and treatment of choice.

    Think about how you would answer the question; How are you? Would you answer; I am not happy or I am unhappy. If your answer is that you are unhappy then you have chosen to remain in that state of being. But if you said I am not happy there is hope for you because you have the potential to change yourself and your life and find happiness.

    I have written about a boy I knew who was abused by his parents and instead of killing them, because he didn’t want to be like them, chose to commit suicide. However, his angel delayed the A Train and so Toni called the suicide hot line, whose number was on the subway platform’s wall, and learned about love from the people who rescued him. We are all capable of change but we have to be willing to do the work and remake ourselves and our life.

    Here is a little poem I wrote many years ago. Entitled HAPPINESS. I mention our daughter because she lives with many problems including a child with genetic metabolic and developmental problems. And then once I get started going through my “poems” I can’t help but share others with you containing the lessons I have learned.

    I will not give my power away
    It is my happiness, mine
    I create it, not you
    I decide to be, not you
    You can come into my happiness
    But you cannot create it or destroy it
    You can only enlarge it
    Our daughter knows about happiness

    Why think it?
    Why bother with life?
    What’s the point?
    It is so easy to stop living
    Why take the easy way out?
    Take the challenge
    Take the pain
    Have surgery without anesthesia
    Then life seems easy

    The stone had chiseled on its face
    The years months and days he lived
    Were they precious, treasured, counted and remembered
    Or was his life a sentence to be lived out
    Stop and think
    The time we spend doesn’t change
    Are we living or dying
    Free or imprisoned
    Gift or burden
    Years, months, days
    Hours, seconds
    How will you spend your sentence?
    Until you create a precious stone

    Death what a great teacher you are
    Yet few of us elect to take your class
    And learn about life
    That is the essence of death’s teaching
    Death is not an elective
    We must all take the class
    The wise students audit the class in their early years
    And find enlightenment
    They are prepared when graduation day comes
    It is your commencement

    I work at it every day and accept my mortality so it becomes my therapist in the sense of reminding me I am here for a limited time and if so then why waste it being unhappy. I said I work at it. I didn’t say I never have a dark moment but again the darkness is like hunger forcing me to find nourishment for my life and soul. Many years ago when I was an angry man because of what life had dealt me Elizabeth Kubler-Ross listened to my anguish and then said, “Bernie, you have needs to.” I am forever hearing her repeat that and trying to get the message.

    As I was about to share that some of that was about having five kids, a house and yard full of animals, my wife diagnosed with a serious illness and a busy surgical practice, all making demands on my time, one of our present cats started yelling at me because it is nine minutes before their feeding time. So you get the message. Life doesn’t change but Penny will have to wait until I finish this article. I am laughing now and just accepting that that’s life. I have quoted one of our sons before: “Life sucks and most people suck and if you wake up one day and the world is beautiful and everyone loves one another; you’re dead.” I love it and he told me that if I ever write another book to call it Holy Shit. I think that is a great title for life. So use the compost and come up with a delicious hot cup of coffee.

    Now your homework: Complete these quotes

    You are only as old as………….

    The secret of a good sermon is to have a good beginning and a good ending and…….

    Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people……..

    Bernie Siegel, MD

    If you are irritated by every rub how will you be polished.
    ~ Rumi

    How could death be the end of something that has no beginning?
    ~ Hydeh Aubon

    Your criticism is your opinion of one, which you are free to have.
    ~ Lucette Douglas

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    When Heaven Speaks, Listen!

    Dear Everybody,

    Now here are the correct endings to the following:

    After looking at the bill for my surgery……….I realized why surgeons wear masks.

    I believe there’s intelligent life in the universe except…….in certain parts of New Jersey.

    Women don’t have hot flashes they……..have power surges.

    I was listening to my favorite music, classic country western, when I heard this line; “The nearest thing to heaven is a child.” Personally I think every newborn creature brings us closer to Heaven. It is amazing that one cell is able to create an entire human being and that every cell in our body has intelligence, knows where it belongs and what it is to do. I admit there are a few people who have their head up their ass due to genetic defects but by and large things do work out for most of us.

    Life is truly mystical and I want to explore some of the things I have experienced in my lifetime. Remember I said experienced and not what I believe or don’t believe. But before I do this I would ask that all of you truly look upon every child as a divine gift and treat them accordingly and that includes yourself too. When I speak at high school graduations I love to hold up an infant and have the audience all sigh and then I pick up a high school student and everyone laughs. The point I make is that only a few years separate the two and so why be in awe of one and laugh at the other. The infants are always conscious of the reason they are being held up by a stranger and never have I had an infant cry when I have done this. Your assignment for tomorrow is: when you leave home see everyone as a divine child and watch the reaction you get to your thoughts and the look you give strangers. Consciousness is not local and they are getting the message.

    What have I experienced that makes me believe? I had a near death experience choking on a toy at age four. I left my body and was quite upset when I didn’t die. I never stopped to think, as blind people do, about how I could see when I wasn’t in my body. I guarantee you that when you die you will be perfect again. As an adult I went into a trance and had a past life experience when a friend asked me over the phone, because of how busy I was, “Why are you living this life?” It helped me to understand myself and my choices in life.

    People who receive organ transplants, particularly the heart, have memories of the lives of the donor of the organ and there are many books written about this. I had a patient, named Monica, who began to bring me messages from dead patients when she knew I was open to hearing this and willing to accept them. She would mention their name so I knew who she was talking about and could confirm the relevance of the message. When my parents died she brought me a message from them which fit my life experience perfectly.

    She often calls, out of a clear blue sky, with a message that was communicated to her. When my mother, well past ninety, started asking me why God was keeping her here the phone rang and Monica said, “Tell your mother God is teaching her patience.” From then on my Mom always wanted to know if Monica called.

    I hear voices speaking to me and sometimes speaking through me to say things I had no awareness of or intention of saying. Some of you are aware that after writing my book Buddy’s Candle a voice told me to go to the animal shelter. I did and when I walked in and the voice asked “What’s his name?” of a dog sitting by the door, the answer was, “His name is Buddy. He has been here less than fifteen minutes.” The day my father was going to die I heard a voice, while out jogging; ask me, “How did your parents meet?” I answered that I didn’t know and was told to ask my mother when I got to the hospital.

    When I got to the hospital the voice asked the question through me and my Mom told a story about sitting on the beach on vacation with girls she didn’t know, and whom she learned later had a terrible reputation. She said boys coming down the beach tossed coins and, “Your father lost and got me.” The stories which followed were even more disastrous, from falling into a lake when my Dad let go of the row boat as she was climbing in, to her new dress being drenched in the rain. Well it accomplished what the voice wanted. My Dad died laughing and looking wonderful.

    Another bit of mysticism was that my Dad had no way of knowing who was coming. He was in a coma. People do hear in coma, asleep and under anesthesia. When the last person who had said they were coming to the hospital arrived and was announced he took his last breath and died. So if you want to die laughing accomplish what we are all here to accomplish; love somebody and then give your family stories to talk about by embarrassing them regularly so they will be thankful and have material to share when you ask them to tell stories about your life that they remember.

    The reason children are thankful for an embarrassing parent is that when they do things that are a bit bizarre they do not get punished because, “You know who his father is?” So there is no point in trying to get them to behave in a normal manner.

    I have discussed animal communication as another example of mystical events and proof of the non-locality of consciousness. So remain open minded and cultivate a quiet mind so the still pond of your mind is not disturbed by turbulence and allows you to see life truly reflected and communicated to all your senses.

    One last bit of advice. If you want to evaluate whether you are growing and learning take the books that have been most helpful in educating you and reread then every year or two. Mark the places that you find helpful and wise each time you read the book and if the book doesn’t get better and more informative over the years it means you are not growing and changing and becoming more enlightened.

    Well I could go on and fill the entire newspaper but I will stop with your homework. Answer this: What benefits do love and amnesia share? And finish these: I once wanted to become an atheist but I gave up………..Let me tell you the one thing I have against Moses. He took us forty years into the desert………….

    P.S. After finishing this and stepping out with the dogs for an afternoon  walk near our house a voice said, “Go to the cornfield for your walk.” Well I did and I met two relatives I rarely see, a health care practitioner who has helped our family, the Amity Girls’ Cross Country Team whose members remembered me and the dogs because we visited their classes while they were in grade school and two ladies who were laughing because I was dressed in colors matching the dogs fur. So listen to the voice when it talks to you. There was consciousness and consciousness was with God and consciousness was God.

    Bernie Siegel, MD

    Manifest plainness, Embrace simplicity, Reduce selfishness, Have few desires
    ~ Lao Tzu

    I can resist anything except temptation.
    ~ Oscar Wilde

    Do not like, do not dislike: all will then be clear.
    ~ Seng-Ts’an

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    Q & A with Bernie – December 19, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    Hi Bernie,

    Do you have any suggestions for healing my hip? Do you think it’s possible to regenerate the cartilage with my mind and attitude?

    I am in otherwise amazing health. I even amaze myself. I’m 65 now and feel amazing, and have used visualization for 35 years. I am a healer and I’ve been making an effort with the hip, but it seems to be getting worse.


    Bernie’s Answer:

    The potential is always there—it is built into us. But there are also times where medical therapy is God’s way.

    Send more blood and nourishing nutrients to your hip joint; visualize the cartilage growing back like grass in the spring.

    Take vitamins and supplements, which can be of help, too.  Find a naturopath to guide you with what to take and in what dosage. Another resource is http://www.lifeextension.com/ where their customer service is usually very helpful.

    Peace, love, & healing,

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    Q & A with Bernie – December 12, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    Hi Bernie,

    When I was 12, I came with my mother to one of your workshops in El Paso, TX.  That was about 25 years ago.  After hearing you speak and after reading your books, I decided to become a physician and a medical oncologist.  I now work with Texas Oncologist in Austin, TX.  What I have learned from you has helped me to be a better physician and human being.  My patients have helped to teach me about compassion and the resilience of the human spirit.  I want you to know how much you positively influenced my life.  I thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Bless you. This is a gift to me.

    If you haven’t had the chance yet, please read my book The Art of Healing—Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing. The patients’ drawings open a whole new world of consciousness and can help to power their minds and bodies to positively affect treatment results and side effects and more.

    Peace, love, and healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    Hello Bernie,

    I have just read A Book of Miracles, and in it you mention visualizing your white blood cells destroying your disease. I’d like to buy the CD of yours for healing immunity, however would it help me? I have Lupus and asthma, so I think I need to visualize something different than the immune system destroying the disease, since my system is attacking me. Any ideas what I could visualize, and do you think your CD would be appropriate for me?

    Thank you very much. I was profoundly moved by your book.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    I don’t destroy disease, I eliminate it. Most of us are not killers, so healing through loving our lives and bodies is what we respond positively to.

    We do not empower the disease by fighting it, but instead create an environment where the disease cannot thrive, and so, is eliminated.

    Visualize loving your body and life—and say it out loud while awake. Tell your white cells to stop hurting you and your body. Tell them you will express your anger to those who do not respect you or treat you properly, so that your white cells will not attack you any longer, but instead they will once again protect you.

    Ask yourself what words describe your experience of illness and eliminate from your life anything which fits the negative words you come up with.

    Look over the titles of my CD’s on the website and pick what feels best for you to quiet your mind and heal your life and body.

    Let love into your life and have faith and things will change.

    Peace, love, and healing

    Question for Bernie:


    I am resolving from developmental and incidental trauma with attachment issues. I am self-healing. Somehow I am struggling a bit with coming into contact with my guide. Could you please advise me how to get I touch with him?

    Is there a simple step instruction I could follow or hypnosis? I have been advised to imagine that he exists, but somehow this is not enough for me to get in touch with that part of myself. I would appreciate any advice. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Meditate and quiet your mind.  Go on a walk and meet someone on the path where you are walking—ask his or her name and if they would be your guide.

    I have CDs with meditations which may help you do it:


    Peace, love, and healing,

    Continuing with questioner’s response to Bernie’s first answer:

    Question continued:

    Wow, you responded to me? This is very cool! Which one is it? You have few there. I live in the UK and I would prefer a download rather than needing to wait for the cd. Super thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer continued:

    I don’t know if what I said is on any of them—I can’t recall.

    Play some slow classical baroque music, close your eyes, and let it happen.

    Question continued:

    Thank you! It worked. I was trying to do it for the past 6 months and somehow I was not able to. But having someone tell me to “just do it” believing I can….made all the difference. This confirms my suspicion that trying to believe enough, just on my own, to heal can only get me so far, but having someone else believe that it is easy and simple to do and that I can do it makes it happen effortlessly.

    This is what I saw, my diary entry:

    “I have finally met my guide. I sent email to Dr. Bernie Siegel asking him for advice how to do that. He told me to play some classical baroque music, close my eyes and let it happen. Baroque music did not work on me, but this one did: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hth9brSEye0&t=51sser .”

    Thank you. I felt that you would help me move forward with this one. Even a little connection can go a very long way in helping people, and you are doing magnificent work—and I am forever grateful.

    Bernie’s Answer continued:
    Your guide is always with you. Listen for the voice and messages.

    Peace, love, and healing,

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    Discovering Our Potential by Expanding Our Circle of Compassion

    Dear Everybody,

    Now to test your wisdom and sense of humor:

    #1 If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child?
    ~ Author Unknown

    #2 My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she stops to breathe.
    ~ Jimmy Durante

    #3 I have never hated a man enough to give his diamonds back.
    ~ Zsa Zsa Gabor

    This week I may be a bit out there but I can’t help but be fascinated by the mystical and spiritual experiences that people have. This comes from my personal experiences as an individual and physician and this sentence says it very well. Sir Arthur Eddington, the famous British astrophysicist put it this way,”Something unknown is doing we don’t know what.” And from evolutionary biologist J.B.S. Haldane, “The universe is not only queerer than we suppose, but queerer than we can suppose.”

    I have learned to accept what I experience even when I cannot explain it. I think it had a lot to do with how I was brought up and we need to help children grow up without being deprived of information. When they understand Einstein’s words, “A human being is part of the whole, called by us ‘Universe,’ and is a part of that whole limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

    When we do this not only are we more likely to save our planet from self destruction but we are also likely to discover our potential and abilities which we had no idea existed. As a physician I have seen the power of the mind to kill or cure based upon an individual’s beliefs. I know that dreams and drawings can provide us with information about the future. That meditation can accomplish amazing things, both physical and psychic. Psychic predictions, distant viewing, non-local consciousness are all examples of our potential and should be explored and considered with open minds.

    On a personal level I have had a near death experience and past life experience and hear voices speaking to me which have been very meaningful in my life. I don’t worry about what those reading this will think of me because I have had the experience and know they are true for me even if I can’t explain the why and wherefore of them. As science opens its mind and the minds of our children the future of exploration and experimentation will not be limited by past beliefs.

    Now in contrast to Einstein’s words and desires think of what you read in the newspaper headlines about the behavior of our species. I recently wrote to the New Haven Register to ask them if they might put one article on the front page which shares some good news and is not about murder, abuse, deception and thievery. We may be the family of man but the family members sure don’t get along with each other. And our consciousness affects the planet and all who reside here.

    When Carl Jung was in Africa during a drought he attempted to talk to the rainmaker but the man avoided Jung and went into a hut. A day later it began to rain and the rainmaker came out of his hut so Jung went over and asked him why he isolated himself. His response was that the drought was due to the unhealthy consciousness of the people and so he avoided them and meditated in isolation so their unhealthy consciousness would not affect him and it always started to rain in a day or two.

    Think of how we are treating each other today based upon our differences and the lack of compassion shown by the behavior of individuals towards their families and co-workers and by nations and what the ultimate affect is upon our lives and consciousness. We need to eliminate indifference, rejection and abuse and replace them with love and compassion if we hope to see our planet survive.

    Just as I see people make this change when they develop a life threatening illness I hope we find a way to change our behavior and become a family for the right reasons rather than because life on this planet is threatened for all of its inhabitants. Think of the potential humanity has if we all focused on healing each other and our common home. When you are in outer space and look at the planet earth you get a very different feeling about it than when you are annoyed by your neighbor’s behavior.

    Just imagine and I have to stop with that word: Imagine all the people living life in peace – Nothing to fight and die for – A brotherhood of man – You may think I’m a dreamer but I’m not the only one – Why don’t you come and join us and the world can live as one. Bless the Beatles for their message and words of wisdom.

    Now back to what I was about to imagine. Just think of all nations, and religions coming together and creating a universal plan for the health and healing of our planet by providing food and water and housing and preventive and therapeutic medical care for all its residents. It also occurs to me that if we had these things money and gold would lose their value and meaning because we all would have what we need. I am a dreamer and do hope it all happens for the right reasons and not because of a disaster and threat to all life on earth.

    Our Creator loves us and hoped we would become complete, as animals are, from the lessons we learned from life. So far we have not lived up to His expectations. We have to learn from water, a sign of God’s love, that we are capable of changing to meet the conditions necessary for survival or of being destructive with the same behavior. Water can change form and become solid, gas or liquid to meet the requirements of life. So I can cure a drought or destroy life with a tsunami.

    As residents of this planet we need to defy the odds the way ice does, by becoming less dense than water, and protecting life rather than becoming cold and more dense as every other liquid does and destroying life. So forgive me for imitating water and being different this week. I am always impressed by all the things we can’t explain or understand but do experience. Life is a miraculous event and obviously not an accident or lucky series of events. So join in and become a co-creator.

    Now in closing let me see what I can ask of you. How about finishing or answering these:
    My luck is so bad that if I bought a cemetery,…………………. War does not determine who is right…………………You live longer when you realize that any time spent……………When Richard Feynman’s mother heard he was named the smartest man in the world she said, “If he is……

    Bernie Siegel, MD

    You see things and say ’Why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say ‘Why not?’
    ~ George Bernard Shaw

    Within each of us lies the power of our consent to health and sickness, to riches and poverty, to freedom and slavery. It is we who control these, and not another.
    ~ Richard Bach

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    Q & A with Bernie – December 5, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I would like to get in touch with you about my nephew.  At the end of his first semester of college, he came home not feeling well. After a visit to a medical center and then to UMASS Medical Hospital in Worchester Mass, he was diagnosed with glioblastoma.  My brother had him

    Sent by ambulance to Mass General in Boston where a pediatric neurologist successfully removed the whole tumor, which was wrapped around his right optic nerve.  He received radiation and chemotherapy simultaneously, without side effects.

    My nephew has always had a very positive attitude during this whole illness and has done quite well. He is back at college and is making up the semester he missed. He has a great support system with his high school and college friends and with the whole family, but his positive attitude has remained strong. We have always known that you encourage positive attitudes and this reinforces that. You have had a powerful influence on many people and we thank you for all that you do.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Let me tell you about a medical student I knew whose story sounds like your nephew’s story. The young man I knew had eye symptoms and on evaluation, doctors discovered that he had a glioblastoma.

    He woke up blind after surgery, and they told him he “…would be blind until he died in about a year.” Well, his sight came back—and he got angry at all the books and doctors telling him when he would die. He changed his life, his diet, took the treatments, too, and the colitis he also had disappeared—and the tumor never came back.

    I think if he had become depressed instead of angry, he wouldn’t have survived.  Positive messages to our bodies that tell it we want to LIVE can greatly strengthen the all-important immune system.  Being positive, and surrounding yourself with positive people and situations as much as it is possible, is a powerful way to prevent getting sick, too.


    Question for Bernie:

    I just wanted to say thank you for being here! I just found you today!  I had heard about you from listening to Louise Hay audio books.  I decided to look you up and found some wonderful audio books by you, and have been listening to your interviews on YouTube all day!  I have a friend who has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, and I will tell her about your work.

    I am grateful for you saying that lack of love in childhood manifesting as disease in adulthood.  And you also said that those of us who had that experience need a coach to help us learn to re-parent ourselves.  I could do with one of those.

    Personally I have been on a healing journey my whole adult life.  I have had some success in overcoming IBS and Crohn’s disease that had me for 10 years—I am now free of it for 10 years.  I started a business making kefir, which is a wonderful natural healing yogurt for people with gut problems, though I know that it doesn’t heal the emotional problems that get us ill in the first place.  My on-going challenge is with relationships, specifically the lack of them, and the fear of being single forever.

    I thank you for writing the books, and I’m starting with Life, Hope and Healing.  What I want to get from it is peace with myself, love with everyone.  I feel that I am challenged every day, and whilst most times I just keep going and rise to the challenges, some days I just wish life would be easier! I got your daily mantra, which I intend to memorize, and I can see that practicing gratitude would be good, too.

    If you have any thoughts it would be wonderful to hear back! In any case, thank you and I love you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    You must love your life and body.  Here is a story that might inspire you—when a medical student I knew developed a brain tumor, he started working on healing his life and body.  The results were dramatic—both the tumor and his ulcerative colitis disappeared in the process.

    So keep at it. Send the message of “I intend to live” to your immune system to strengthen it and it will respond.

    Response to Bernie’s Answer:

    Thank you so much for your reply. I have just done a drawing of me—my life. It’s not finished, and I hope it is not too skewed from having listened to your audios about doing the drawing and what colors mean.

    It’s not finished, but I wanted to ask if you would give me some pointers – such as how to tell people to do the drawing.  I want to be as honest as I can, without trying to make it look better or worse than things really are.

    Two weeks ago I had a fall in my garden, giving me a massive bruise and a swollen area on my right buttock – which is still there and still painful for walking, bending and lying on it.  Is that my life trying to give me a message about how I feel about myself – and deserving punishment/pain?  That I need to release a part of me that puts me down?

    Any thoughts, suggestions, ideas gratefully received.

    Bernie’s Answer to Questioner’s Response:

    I recommend using a full box of crayons so all colors are available to you.  Just draw a picture of yourself.  It can be at work, or of you going through anything you want information about (like undergoing treatment, etc.)

    Stop judging everything; sometimes you just have an accident and learn to be careful.  Think about what your pain feels like, write down the words that describe it, and then ask yourself if anything else in your life fits the words you choose and is “a pain in the butt,” too.  Eliminate those situations in your life that qualify as that kind of pain.


    Question for Bernie:

    I am French and I am sorry of my English! I read your first book 20 years ago. Today my brother has a cancer, and it’s very difficult to introduce him to an optimistic and proactive attitude. I don’t know how help him.

    I know there is no absolute solution, and I write this message without knowing why. Maybe I’ll find a bottle with a message in the sea.  Thank you for your work.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    All you can do to help is to listen to your brother.  Don’t tell him what to do, but ask him how he is feeling and let him talk. When he hears himself, he may then wake up to what you are trying to help him to understand.

    You can give him my books, but don’t tell him he must read them. Just leave them nearby as a helpful gift.


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    Harnessing the Power of Your Body’s Memory

    Dear Everybody,

    Now to test your wisdom:

    #1 Be careful about reading health books….. You may die of a misprint.
    ~ Mark Twain

    #2 By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad wife, you’ll become a philosopher.
    ~ Socrates

    #3  I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.
    ~ Groucho Marx

    From my perspective the factor which determines what transpires in your life is whether you felt loved by your parents. If you feel self worth you care for and about yourself and do not spend your life worrying about what other people think of you. I will also make you an offer; if you need a new father I am available. I have a CD degree. It means a Chosen Dad.

    Norman Vincent Peale was a friend of mine for many years and he and I had similar mothers who gave us mottoes to live by; not mottoes to die by. He was able to live his message, “Every person is born for a purpose. Everyone has a God given potential, in essence, built into them. And if we are to live life to its fullest, we must realize that potential.” The word potential shouldn’t scare you and relate to failing but to giving you hope and a chance to make a difference.

    His Mom said, “Norman if God slams one door further down the corridor another will be opened.” And I would add if all the doors are shut you can go through a window. My Mom’s message was that troubles were God’s redirections “And something good will come of this.”

    So imitate therapeutic parents and give your kids love and faith and hope.

    Why? Alice Miller says it well, “The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body and though we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, our perception confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday the body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth.”

    Yes, we must face the truth and reparent and rebirth ourselves by abandoning our past and its wounds and use them as energy to move us forward.

    If you question the truth of the above believe me they speak the truth. I know from experience. Dreams can be about our bodies too and what is stored there emotionally and physically. Many decades ago Carl Jung interpreted a dream about the obstruction of the flow of milky fluid and correctly diagnosed a brain tumor obstructing the flow of cerebrospinal fluid. Medical students and doctors are not told about that.

    We also know from patients who have received organ transplants that they know about the lives of their donors when they awaken after surgery. If you want to read about some experiences Claire Sylvia, who I knew at Yale after her heart lung transplant, wrote A Change Of Heart. It describes her meeting her donor in a dream, who introduced himself, and learning his name allowed her to search the obituaries and contact his family who confirmed all she had felt from desiring beer and chicken McNuggets and more. Also The Heart’s Code by Paul Pearsall shares these stories. The heart and every organ has the ability to store memories.

    Why do I share this? So you will be careful about what you store within you. It is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. If you do not externalize your feelings they are stored within you and do damage to your body and life. When your body stores your anger, despair, fear, loneliness and more it is far more likely to develop an illness because of what these feelings do to your immune system and internal chemistry. Your body tries to protect you but when it is in a crisis mode and it is not helping you to heal and grow. On the other hand when you experience joy, happiness and laughter you are more likely to be healthy, recover faster from and resist illness.

    I learned this on a personal level too. When I was in pain, as a surgeon, because of all the things I couldn’t fix or cure I started making short notes during the day to write about in my journal that evening. What amazed me was that in the evening when I looked at my notes I couldn’t remember what they were about. If I wrote, boy in emergency room, I would sit there wondering what boy and what was it about. I realized all the pain was stored in me and I was not dealing with it. So I began to write a full paragraph explaining things in detail and then that evening I would recall the details and feelings and express them in my journal. I learned later that it is therapeutic to write down your feelings in a journal versus writing down events and schedules in a journal.

    Then one morning, after forgetting to hide my journal the night before, my wife found it and read it. And I never forget her saying to me, “There’s nothing funny in your journal.”

    “I know. There’s nothing funny about my life.”

    She then went on to tell me several jokes, which I had told her and the kids at the dinner table, about things that happened to me, or my patients, in the hospital. And she was right they never got into my journal. A simple example; One of my patients had a man come into her room dressed in a scrub suit and so she assumed he was a doctor and started to get undressed. After a while he said, “You don’t have to do that for me I’m here to mop the floor.” They became close friends. Wearing street clothes, on rounds, I walked into what I thought was my patient’s room and pulled the curtain back only to find a naked woman who started screaming because she had no idea who I was. I was in the wrong room so I apologized and left. The next day, when I came on the floor, all the women were in their doorways waving handkerchiefs, “Yoo Hoo, are you coming in today.” That stuff never got into my journal. My wife taught me to be aware of the good things which happened too. It is not easy to erase the painful memories. Decades later I can still recall them more easily than the joyful outcomes.

    Do not internalize your feelings to make things easier for, or to please, those around you. Express your appropriate anger and painful emotions, with your family, friends and therapists or in a journal but get them out, so they are not stored within you. And don’t forget to share your humor and joy too. Keep the kid in you alive.

    Now for your homework if you finish these quotes properly you will be smiling too:

    #1 If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why ……..?

    #2 My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she ……

    #3I have never hated a man enough to ……..

    Bernie Siegel, MD

    I finally figured out the only reason for being alive is to enjoy it.
    ~ Rita Mae Brown

    Learn as if you were to live forever, live as if you were to die tomorrow.
    ~ John Wooden

    Never lose a chance of saying a kind word.
    ~ William Makepeace Thackeray

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    Q & A with Bernie – November 28, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I’m an IIN student, and just finished watching your fantastic lecture! You made me feel so many feelings in this almost 1 hour lecture. I laughed, cried, felt thankful and energized to start to be who I am. I was watching it in my apt in Manhattan by myself and felt a physical need to applaud you.

    I also sent a voice message to my mom who lives in Israel, and because of the time difference she was scared something happened since it is late there, so I just told her, “Mom I wanted to tell you I love you.” She said I should listen to people like you more—ha-ha :)

    Anyhow, I can talk forever. Just know you are an inspiration, and you touched my soul even though it wasn’t in person but through a laptop screen.

    Thank you!

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Bless you. Your mom did a good job.

    I am the coach and you are the star performer.

    Peace, love, and healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    I was recently diagnosed with cancer of the left kidney; had a nephrectomy and biopsy shows that chemotherapy would lower recurrence rate. I am really struggling with this as I previously was a healthy active 67 year old. I am fearful of the chemotherapy and of living a life filled with the constant fear of recurrence.

    I was wondering if you could recommend which of your books might be helpful.  I am in need of much help with my mind and spirit. Thank you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Yes, what your mind believes about the chemo is what you will experience.  It can be the devil poisoning you or a gift from God.  Start visualizing what you desire and your body will believe what you picture when the time for treatment comes.  Or you can say “no” if that is what your heart tells you.

    It is not about not dying, but about what is right for you.  Any labor pains of giving birth to your new self are worth it.

    Read my books: Love, Medicine & Miracles, and then The Art of Healing, and finally Faith, Hope & Healing. This is about healing your life and loving it and your body—it is not about fighting a war with your disease.

    What words explain how you would describe having cancer? Eliminate from your life whatever else fits those words.

    Peace be with you,

    Question for Bernie:

    I have just read your book, Love, Medicine & Miracles, and feel compelled to reach out and tell you how much your work and your philosophy of healing resonates with me.

    In January 2015, I was diagnosed with an inoperable Anaplastic Astrocytoma (Grade 3) at the age of 42. Even in the very beginning, in the midst of all the fear and confusion, I interpreted this “condition” as a wake-up call and an invitation to change my life. My course of healing has been largely self-directed and “alternative” in nature, supported by an amazing oncological team at MGH in Boston, where I live full-time.

    Anyway, a friend of my mother’s has worked with you and when I enthused about your work, she suggested I reach out and connect with you to share my joy and gratitude for this influential work that you have been focused on for so many years already. I truly believe that yours is the approach that encourages, empowers and calls out the best possible results for your patients. It is also clear to see how fulfilled you are by your life’s work. Please accept my deepest appreciation.

    I am including here a link to a ten-minute film that some friends made about my cancer journey last year: (http://www.arihauben.com/grace-gratitude/ ). I thought you would be particularly interested in the overlap between healing and the creative aspect of ourselves. For me, this manifested in the incredible opportunity to co-design and actuate a personal piece of art that reflects my beliefs and philosophy as I embrace and integrate all parts of myself in becoming whole.

    Thank you so much for your work, for your passion and purpose and time and energy. You have made a difference in so many lives, and I now offer your book as resource FIRST when people seek my advice as someone who (happily & healthily) “lives with” the condition of cancer. I wish you and yours a blessed holiday season, and I hope to come to one of your lectures/talks someday soon to see you in person—all my best.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    God bless you.  You make it all worthwhile. I always say that I am the coach and you are the star performer.  Look over my website (www.berniesiegelmd.com) for more things to learn and enjoy.

    Also, my book The Art of Healing has 60 drawings which may interest and teach you more, especially of you are into art work and creating things.

    For me, it is about loving your life and body, and the potential that creates.


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    Q & A with Bernie – November 21, 2016

    Question for Bernie:

    I’m a recent grad of IIN. You were one of the lectures that stood out the most in my mind.

    I have a new client who has lung cancer and has chosen to use food and nutrition to heal his body. While I know a lot about food, I was wondering if you have any books you might recommend to me for my client to read about healing or might there be a book or two that might help me on a metaphysical level.

    Thank you for all you do. Continue the greatest work. I respect you so much; blessings.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    My website lists my books, which I would recommend to you both.

    Seeing a naturopathic physician can help guide your client, and there are many diet therapies, but I don’t have a specific person to recommend. Scan the internet.

    There are many supplements which help, too, from vitamin D to various herbs.  Life Extension www.lef.org can be a resource.

    Peace, love, and healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    A friend of mine and asked me to email you my story to see if you had input. She said she was going to email you and tell you I would be writing.

    I’m 36 and work in Hospice.  I have binge eating disorder and bulimia. I’ve relapsed a lot!!  I live in Michigan and I’ve been out of state to treatment in the past. I’ve also gone to Chicago to see a specialist for RRT (rapid resolution therapy). And I can’t seem to get a hold on it.

    I started the behavior of binge eating disorder (BED) when I was about nine, and moved to binging and purging when I was in middle school. No treatment I get helps for very long.  It’s frustrating and I am wondering if I should just accept this eating disorder as part of my personality…just something I do.

    I was given up and then adopted at the age of five, so it is something I remember. My new family made it seem like I was never good enough.  I was molested /raped / photographed when I was in elementary school along with another girl and there was a huge trial in my 4th & 5th grades.

    And my family accused me of “allowing it to happen” as it was more than once, and he threatened that he would kill my family if I told.

    I was bullied and beat up the rest of school for “being a slut and a whore” because they knew about the trial.  Family and school mates acted like I was a germ and were afraid to touch me, and my mom would tell me I “make people feel weird” when I would get near them or hug them.

    I was so worried that I, myself, was poison as a kid. I was afraid to eat food or even swallow my own spit for fear I would poison myself and die.  My mom had to take me to the docs so she could have a chat with me about me “being poison” and not wanting to eat. I also would wash my hands and tops of my arms until I bled in order to not be dirty/poison.

    I eventually went on to make something of myself, and I love my hospice job and my patients. But I struggle with feeling not good enough.  I feel like I have to do twice as much, and work twice as hard as everyone else to prove my worth—and that one screw up is catastrophic.

    It doesn’t matter how much praise my clinical supervisors give me, or how much my patients love me, kudos from our medical director, or how many awards I get (which is a lot). It means NOTHING.  It is like I can feel the ‘unworthiness’ in my body.

    Our mutual friend and I were discussing that specifically, and she thought it was like cellular memory—and she asked if I’d be willing to write you.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    It is all about your childhood.  You are worth loving.  I am happy to do that by becoming your CD = chosen dad.  When you give love you are beautiful, as your work should reveal to you.

    What you need to do is feel that self-worth by making your diet about not abusing yourself. Say “no” to your food problems; say “yes” to yourself—by denying the self-destructive behavior instead of saying “it’s okay because of what I have been through.”

    You are a child of God. Make your authentic and loving parents happy, too.  Draw a picture of yourself with crayons and e-mail it to me.  I will give you my thoughts on what I see when it arrives.

    Think of me as your CD, and let me help you build the strong sense of self-worth that you deserve.  Your life may improve in surprising ways when you realize the strength that comes from being in control of your life.  You are not a victim—you are a capable, creative soul.  Nourish that strong and wise soul with your love and attention.

    Peace, love, & healing,

    Question for Bernie:

    My wife is suffering from GBM grade IV cancer. Please guide us for her healing.

    Bernie’s Answer:

    Start by reading my books, Love, Medicine & Miracles to begin with; also The Art of Healing: Uncovering your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing.

    Tell her to love her life and body, and to practice visualizing the cancer going away. She can use whatever image feels right for her.  It doesn’t have to be a battle.

    Help her visualize the treatment as a gift, which will help her avoid side effects.  Remind her that she has the potential for healing.  Have faith that it can happen.

    Send her healing energy many times a day. Encourage her to do all the things she loves to do, and for maintaining balance and positivity, to eliminate from her life all the things which are troubling her.

    Peace, love, & healing,

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    Learning from Opposites

    Dear Everybody,

    Now your homework: Complete these quotes.

    You are only as old as …the women you feel.
    - Author Unknown

    The secret of a good sermon is to have a good beginning and a good ending; and…to have the two as close together as possible.
    - George Burns

    Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people…only once a year.
    - Victor Borge

    On with the show: Two topics of interest to me are male / female issues and what we call disabilities. First a quickie on the male female thing. I love reading Joseph Campbell’s work and he pointed out that girls know when they become women because they menstruate and have a physical sign and symbol of the transformation while boys have to go through some experience or initiation, as many cultures do. They are often painful rituals which help them to make the transition from boy to man. Maybe that is part of the male problem. Feeling and knowing who we are and what we are capable of as men and to stop being boys who are controlled by the parental figures in our lives and who need to risk their lives to prove they are men.

    I was also reading a medical article which shows how differently male and female brains are structured and how they respond to different events and biological changes within the body because of it. For instance more men than women die of Alzheimer’s Disease and more women develop depression than men. Another interesting fact was that starving males drew their energy from protein and females from fat. When starved, females who have more body fat than males, can convert various fat resources and survive where the male dies when it runs out of protein. Yes, we are different for many reasons and not just relationships.

    So I think we all need to look at the psychological, as well as, the physical aspects of our life and nature. And remember that psyche and soma are two aspects of the unus mundus, as Jung said, or the one entity we are. So folks stop and figure out who you are and then enjoy living the life intended for you. Mind and body are two aspects of the same thing and so react to each other and can cause problems or help us to heal our lives and bodies when we are empowered and live our authentic lives.

    Now my next area of exploration is to look into the words disabled, retarded and different. I walked into the hospital room of a dying teenager I knew. Tony turned and pointed out that kids his age were playing in the street and said, “Why am I different?” I responded, “Because it makes you beautiful.” Those words came from God knows where. I was about to apologize for saying them to a dying child when Tony looked at me with a sparkle in his eyes and a beautiful smile. Yes, he made a difference in his high school and taught his family a great deal about life and they helped immortalize him with fund raising efforts, in his name, for other children with cystic fibrosis.

    I also recall a veterinarian, who the night before her mastectomy, couldn’t fall asleep picturing her body as deformed and never being normal again. She said, “Around four in the morning I suddenly thought of all the animals I operate on. I amputate legs, jaws and they wake up and lick their owner’s faces. They know they are here to love and be loved and teach us a few things.” She went on to say she had no trouble falling asleep at that moment. Yes, animals are complete and man is not. So learn to be thankful for what you can learn from your difficulties and the blessing that comes with it will become apparent. I didn’t say it was easy to do I am just sharing what I have learned from empowered survivors.

    Are we disabled or enabled? Many people I know with cerebral palsy, loss of limbs, blind and more write autobiographies entitled Strong At The Broken Places and The Bird With the Broken Wing. They are not handicapped. They are our teachers. Just think of Helen Keller, blind and deaf from age 4, and able to graduate from college with honors. She never saw her problems as punishment by God but more like God disciplining her so her curses could become a blessing.

    Who is retarded? Two boys with Down Syndrome taught me a lot. After operating on a boy I was making rounds, that evening, and when I entered his room he grabbed his blanket, pulled it up to his chin, and said, “If you want to see my operation you have to pay me.” I responded, “I’m your surgeon. I don’t have to pay.”  “Oh, okay” and he lowered the blanket. The next morning, on rounds, I noticed a pile of dollar bills on his bedside stand. The nurses and interns found it easier to pay then fight with him. He is the only patient I ever had who went home with more money than he came with. So who is retarded?

    Another young man with Down Syndrome I knew told me he moved to a new town and people had varying reactions to him. John said, “If you cannot get your love flow going, cannot communicate and you are not aware who you are, I call that retarded. Some people are only a little bit retarded. Then I can help them, because they get curious about me. They get into communication with me and their love flow gets going. Then it works for them if they like. They get more aware.”

    Last but not least in my meditation the other day the message became clear to me. Helen Keller always said, “If you face the sunshine you do not see the shadows.” I was walking towards the sun, in my meditation, and feeling good about not seeing the shadows which exist in my life too. I felt bad for all the people walking towards me, with the sun at their back, seeing only shadows and darkness before them. Then I realized that I could be a mirror for them and reflect the light and love of our Creator and make their path through life a little easier and brighter. So my message to you all is to be a mirror of our Creator’s love for all those who are hurting. And since we are all wounded I am really saying you don’t have to look far to find someone. It is the next person you meet whom you can help by doing what they need, now. So go out and make a difference in someone’s life. And thank you to all who stop me while I am out shopping and say  how much my words have helped them.

    Sermon over and I feel better. Now to test your wisdom:

    #1 Be careful about reading health books…..
    #2 By all means marry if you get a good wife you’ll…..; if you get a bad wife you’ll…..
    #3  I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a……..

    Bernie Siegel, MD

    A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my desk, I have a work station.

    Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back.

    Money can’t solve every problem but it sure keeps you in touch with your children.

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