Question for Bernie
Thank you very much for your response. The dark spot in my stomach is the new drug. I represented myself with a skeleton because I am very focused on this drug affecting my bone marrow. That is my pelvic bone not my fallopian tubes.
I see how this scary skeleton person looks like she does not have a good self-image or self-love, but I was focusing more on the drug and my feelings about it entering my body, not really on drawing a picture of myself and who I feel I am. That picture would be very different.
I hear what you are saying about not letting the Dr.’s words affect me. That is something I am trying to work on.
I just don’t know if I should take this drug or not.
Bernie’s Answer
If you decide to take it then change your image of it. All you are focused on now are the negative aspects of it and that focus has taken over your life.
Start picturing the drug in a positive way with many benefits to help you heal. See yourself having NO side effects and visualize this at least four times a day. A week from now, draw a new picture and let’s see what has happened to your perspective.
Peace,
Bernie
Question for Bernie
Can I interpret my own drawings? I’m 20 years old and it would be very helpful if I could just draw and understand my thoughts and feelings.
Bernie’s Answer
Yes, you can, but first get educated about what meanings your drawings may contain. Anatomically and psychologically art therapists who do not know anatomy miss many things being portrayed in a given drawing.
Look at what you draw the day after you finish each drawing so your consciousness allows you to see the truth portrayed.
I recommend that you also read the following books:
1. The Art of Healing: Uncovering Your Inner Wisdom and Potential for Self-Healing, which is my newest book, published in September of 2013.
2. Life Paints Its Own Span by Susan Bach
3. The Secret World of Drawings by Gregg Furth
Peace,
Bernie
Question for Bernie
My 22 year old grandson was recently operated on for Brain cancer (Northwestern-CHICAGO ) infection followed. He is so depressed – do you think your Healing Meditation CD will help him?
Bernie’s Answer
Yes my books and CD’s can help but he has to be willing to use them. Coaches can’t help those who don’t come to practice.
Men have a tougher time than women because they want to do things rather than have relationships as the important part of their lives.
Infection isn’t fun, but could help the body eliminate the cancer by stimulating the immune system.
Offer him things which will help and above all, listen to him and don’t preach.
Peace,
Bernie
Question for Bernie
Hello Bernie. My dad does not know that tomorrow his oncologist is going to tell him that no treatment is working and his bladder cancer has spread to his liver. I am in contact with his oncologist and he is open to what my sister and I suggest. Any tips on what he should and should not tell my dad?
Bernie’s Answer
The oncologist can tell him the traditional treatment is not working, and your Dad will have to look into alternative and integrative therapies. Ask the doctor not to tell him when he will die and take hope away. The doctor should not say anything that will make your Dad feel like he is a loser because the traditional treatment is not working.
The oncologist can tell him they are working on a new therapy which will be available in a month for some patients, and then work out something to give your Dad so that he can remain hopeful. Amazing things do happen.
Help your Dad find alternative therapies starting with seeing a naturopathic physician for therapies which are herbal. The medication called Metformin (used for diabetics) also interferes with glucose uptake by cancer cells and can be prescribed.
Finally, both you and your sister should read an article I wrote and posted on my website entitled Deceiving People into Health. Go to my website and at the top you will see Quick Links. Under that you click on “Articles by Bernie.” Once you get to the articles, just scroll until you find the one I am highly recommending that you and your sister read, Deceiving People into Health.
Peace,
Bernie
Question for Bernie
One more question for now. Is it important for him or anyone to understand what about their lives or personalities caused the cancer—as a way to get over the shock and anger about getting it in the first place? After reading your books and learning more about his life (from my Mom not him), it is crystal clear to me. He doesn’t understand though.
Bernie’s Answer
Do not give your opinion or ask your Dad what he thinks in his life caused the cancer. It creates guilt, which is something you want to help him NOT have on top of his condition.
It is about what makes you vulnerable at a certain time, like Monday morning more heart attacks, suicides, etc. Your feelings create your internal chemistry which can make you vulnerable or induce self-healing.
Peace,
Bernie
Question for Bernie
Hi, Bernie—I hope all is well with you and your lovely family.
My son left home last September. I had a Posterior vitreous detachment (PVD) in my right eye which led to a retinal tear.
I was so frightened by the symptoms, etc., and the possibility of further complications; it has left me with nervous illness with just about everything scaring me at the moment.
Any advice in a few words would be very helpful. I crave relaxation and serenity…it’s all the “what if’s.”
Peace and thank you.
Bernie’s Answer
Picture what you desire, not what you fear.
Develop a mantra of positive statements and repeat them throughout the day. You have the potential to push fear out of your life permanently. Keep reminding yourself that you can control your fear—it cannot control you unless you give in to feelings of weakness in the face of adversity, and just hand over the steering wheel to a person you can’t trust.
Resolve that this is YOUR life. It is okay to be scared by a diagnosis, so you want to find doctors who will allow you to be a full partner in your care. You have every right to have a detailed description of any procedure you undergo.
Look for a support group. There is nothing at all to prevent you from settling down where you want to be. A support group for each area of your concerns would be fine to do. There may be one that will help you get past the “empty nest” feelings, and your fear regarding a sense most of us shamelessly take for granted—our eyesight.
But you are taking care of yourself—you are reaching out and searching for acceptance. You need to interact often with people who have experiences similar to yours, and so because you’ve traveled some of the same roads, you can be confident that they really DO understand.
Last, but never least, is to put humor in your life every day. Let yourself relax enough to think about funny things in your early life, or your life right now, so that you get the incredible healing power of laughter.
Peace,
Bernie