This is the 6th blog post in our “Spiritual Lessons to Create the Life You Love” series!
Hello, lovely you.
During my cancer journey 30+ years ago, I remember waking up one morning and feeling… decent. Not great, but my body didn’t feel like it was dragging me down. I made herbal tea and stood near the counter longer than usual that morning, like if I moved too fast I might lose whatever this was.
I started thinking maybe things were shifting. Maybe all the effort was finally paying off and my body was healing. I let myself lean into this safe, warm feeling.
A few days later, I could barely get out of bed. My body felt heavy again, like something had quietly reset overnight. I kept trying to figure out what I did differently, what I missed, and what this meant.
Around the same time, I had a set of labs come back that didn’t look great. I went in expecting something that matched how hard I’d been trying to take care of myself. The numbers moved, but not in the direction I thought they would.
I sat in my car afterward with my hands on the steering wheel, not starting the engine. I just kept looking at the paper like if I stared at it long enough, it might say something else.
That’s when the doubt started to get louder and the fear began creeping back in.
After that I stopped trusting the good days and started questioning them instead. When I felt okay, part of me waited for the proverbial “other shoe” to drop. And when it did, it hit harder because I had let myself believe in my healing and full recovery in the first place.
This emotional flip-flopping and uncertainty wore me down. At some point, I realized I was spending more energy trying to interpret my experience than actually living it. I didn’t just want to feel better, I wanted certainty. I wanted something I could hold onto that wouldn’t shift.
I never got that.
What I got instead was a slow understanding that I couldn’t attach my sense of stability to how things seemed to be going. It wasn’t working. It made every slight dip feel like a total collapse.
So I started adjusting how I moved through my days and I began to lean into faith. Faith matters because the most important changes in life rarely show immediate results. Faith keeps us steady in the in-between, when we’re doing everything we can and still don’t have proof that it’s working yet.
But this shift doesn’t happen all at once. It starts in small, everyday moments, and in how you respond when things don’t go the way you hoped.
Here’s where you can begin.
Focus on the Destination, Not the Route
It helps to have a goal, but the path you take to get there doesn’t have to be rigid. Think of it like a road trip: you know your destination, but there will be construction, detours, and unexpected side roads that turn out to be the most memorable parts of the journey. Life works the same way.
When something goes off course, don’t panic or try to force the road to be straight. You don’t need to see the whole journey at once. You just need to keep moving and stay present enough to notice what the path shows you.
Build Trust Without Proof
It’s easy to trust when things are working. It’s harder when you can’t tell if they are.
If you keep waiting for clear evidence before you let yourself believe things are moving in the right direction, you’re going to stay stuck in that in-between space longer than you need to.
Shift what you’re measuring. Instead of asking if everything is working out, ask if you’re showing up. Ask if you’re handling what’s in front of you and if you’re staying present instead of spiraling. That’s where trust actually builds. Not in the outcome, but in your ability to be in rough, uncertain seas without falling apart.
Stop Trying to Make it Make Sense
We all want a clean line from Point A to Point B. We want progress that looks the way we expected it to. But most of the time, we don’t get that.
Prepare for things to feel inconsistent. You’ll have days that don’t match and moments that seem like setbacks for no clear reason. But if you keep trying to force it into a pattern, you’ll end up frustrated and confused.
Let it be uneven. It doesn’t mean nothing is happening, it just means it’s not happening in a way you can neatly explain yet.
Stay With Yourself Through the Dips
The hard days are where most people lose themselves. That’s when you start questioning everything: your decisions, your direction, your ability to handle what’s in front of you. Stay with yourself in these moments. Let the discomfort be there without immediately trying to change it. You don’t need to solve all problems at that moment. You just need to not abandon yourself while you’re in it.
The Power of Trusting the Journey
When you practice faith, stay present, and allow the path to unfold without forcing it, you open yourself to more than just the end result. You start to see what’s possible along the way – the unexpected moments, the small victories, and the growth that comes from facing uncertainty. That perspective doesn’t just help you reach your goals; it lets you create a life that feels meaningful, alive, and truly your own.
– Prue
This is a guest post by Prudence Sinclair.
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